I talk a lot about how people seem to be in such a hurry to rush into a dating relationship. I always emphasize how important it is to develop a strong friendship as a foundation before heading into romance. Say you’ve done this, what’s next?
Lucy asked our first ‘best guy friend’ question:
Does my best guy friend like me as more than just a friend? And how do I know if he is falling in love with me?
Maybe you are wondering, “Is this really love?“
Friendship and dating are very important. In the end, best friends make great marriages. That being said, since you didn’t say what your feelings are for this guy, I’m guessing you don’t have romantic feelings for him. So for him, this is unquestionably a very delicate situation.
If he is actually falling in love with you, he’s probably scared and nervous about you finding out, since he doesn’t know how you’ll respond.
He doesn’t want to do anything to jeopardize the friendship you already have. That’s a good thing. Friendships are priceless and need protecting and nurturing so they will grow.
1. When you talk with your friend about other people who you are dating, or are interested in, is he supportive and encouraging, or does he become quiet and distant?
2. Does he want to spend time only with you, or is he okay doing things with you and others?
In the end, you will need to communicate with each other and define what your relationship really is.
Even though it may hurt him, if you don’t have the same feelings for him that he has for you, knowing the truth is always better than not.
However you feel about him, I’m sure what you tell him will be filled with love and respect. After all, a good close friend of the opposite sex is priceless.
Rebecca brings us our next question about moving from friendship to dating:
How can you tell if the friendship should go to the next level?
The decision to take a friendship to the next level, from friendship to a dating relationship, has to be mutual. Both sides have to agree that they want to go deeper with the other person.
These Things Have to Be Talked Out.
Unless they are talked out, there can be confusion and hurt feelings. So whoever brings up the subject has put themselves in somewhat of a vulnerable position. Yet, good friendships can endure these trying times.
The Best Thing I Can Tell You is to Be Patient.
Let the relationship grow, and when you feel like you’re ready, I’d encourage you to find a time when the two of you are alone, and try bringing up the topic. With a friendship based on honesty and trust, you will be able to face the challenge of being vulnerable.
Try saying something like, “You’re a great friend, and I don’t ever want that to change. And honestly, I’ve always wondered if this friendship would ever turn into something deeper. But I’m not sure how we would know. Do you have any ideas?” Asking him for his opinion is a great way to show you value what he thinks and feels, and you’ll find out if you’re on track.
Let’s assume for a moment that your guy friend agrees with you about taking the relationship to the next level. What then should you do? I would encourage you to sit down together and make a list of the things you have been doing that have made your friendship so strong. Commit to keep doing them, and your relationship will automatically grow. But be extremely careful about becoming very affectionate and sexual with each other. I have seen so many potentially great relationships ruined by the misuse of sex. As someone once said, if you settle for cheap sex, you will never discover priceless love.
Life is short. So be open and honest with your feelings, but be prepared for them not to be reciprocated. But with him knowing how you feel, you very well might open the door for him to start seeing you in a different, more romantic light.
Still wondering if the feelings are mutual? Read this blog to find out if it’s really love.
fedrica says:
hi,i wud really want to knw wat my bff thnks of me.i thnk am in love wth him,we r comfortable wth each other we kiss passionately,caress deeplybt prob is he has a girlfriend en i dnt knw how to define our relationship
Sabrina says:
Hello
I’m not surehow to say this but I think that my B.F is in love whit me. but I’m not sure that my best friend is in love whit me. we talk a lot by the whatsapp and give us emoji like hugs and kisses and I’m not sure what to do. on this Saturday he invited me to go out so I’m nervous this is my first time going out with a guy. and I’m not sure what to do? the truth I feel something but I’m not sure if is friendship or love now I’m very confused
I need help please help me
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james says:
Mine is kinda wierd ok so my bestfriend liked me and i didnt know but i had a little bit of feelings for her now i really like her she stoped liking me cause she said it was hopeless and now she has a boyfriend pls help pls
Aanya says:
hi! i know its kinda weird but i think i like my best friend and he also does the same. so to be sure about it i searched the internet and came to know about many signs that show if a guy likes you and he matched almost 90% of them. And i feel like he has very protective attitude towards me and our friends always say that we make up a good couple and we both love each other but we are not realising it. so i wanted know your opinion on it. pls i need help , pls help ! and ya another thing he seems very caring , he is jst always asking if i am ok or not .
Lauren says:
The same thing happened with me. I first confessed to my guy friend two months ago. At that time he had a girlfriend, so he felt really bad when he found out. I found out a week or two ago that I still had feelings for him and I told him. He was broken up with his girlfriend for two months at this point. I noticed the same signs that you did and my friends said the same thing.I found out last night that he loved me. Hope this helps. Good luck! 🙂
PeopleNeedLove says:
Just say something to him or have a friend talk to him for you. Maybe your friend can tell him that you like him and maybe he should ask you out. I hope this helped
Katie says:
Mine is pretty horrible. I have a boyfriend whom ive been with for 2 years and I’ve sta having feelings for my best guy friend even though he just got a girlfriend to. And one of my longest lasting close friends just admitted he loves me
melissa says:
hi there.
i donno if im correct or not but i think my guy best friend is falling for me but im not too sure if he is or not.
he basicly knows everything about me, he was the only one who told me straight up about my ex (who dumped me on the 26th of september this year- 2014) was cheating on me and when i did get dumped me lent me his shoulder to cry on and he even wiped away the tears from my face, kissed me on my forehead and cheek and tried to passionately kiss me on the night that i got dumped.
last month i invited him around to mine to catch up and watch movies and pig out on pizzas and he came around and spent time with me and then on another day i used the excuse of my other mates wanted to know if i was the better kisser out of me and my ex (they knew my ex and we had all made fun of my ex for hilarious things) and so my best mate kieron, he came around and he and i we kissed passionately (each time it lasted around a minute each then when he left we both stood up and he kissed me again before going to his car and going home.
hes invited me to things such as a class of 09 5 yr reunion (my supposedly class that i was suppose to graduate but i graduated in 2010) and also to hangout with him on the weekend but tonight (3/12/14) his mate asked me to hang out with his friend only and its not a date… im just confused atm and just wondering if he has fallen for me because he and i have been close for years and my family adore him and his vice versa.
sorry for the long length of my message and hopefully be able to hear back from you.
kimya says:
My best friend and i are next-door neighbours and have been since we were born. We have grown up together and we say i love you to each other whenever we speak. He’s usually more loving towards me than i am to him, in new years i texted him to say “thank you for everything you did in 2014 you’re one of the most important people in my life” and he answered by saying that i was the most important person in his. I didn’t think of it much. He’s a very emotional person so it’s not strange for him to say that and he’s very touchy-feely with his other female
friends too, however he says he can only act as himself with me. The more I think about the possibility of him liking me I realize that i may have more-than-friends feelings for him. GAAAAHH. Maybe I’m reading this wrong though? I think the whole “boy next-door†thing may be rising my expectations and the idea of it seems better than the actual thing? Please help
@nisha says:
Hello !! Anisha here…. I n my best friend hv been studying in the same school since nursery class n then we became bestbof friends in the 8th class n its been 5 n half years that we r best friends !! Even wen we go out most of the ppl get confused by the bonding between us !! I think i hv fallen for him… & I dnt know if he loves me but all i know is he has recebtly had a brkup with his firat ever girlfriend and now he is not ready for any second relationship cuz he thinks this is all crap !! Also we hv had a brief discussion how it wuld be if both of us get into a relationship and it was quite awkward for both and we took the topic lightly !! I dont know what to do …. sometimes i feel let the time and destiny decide !! He also once confessed to me that he will want a wife like me !! What should i do ??
Callie says:
I have strong feelings for my guy best friend. We have nick names for each other and he has given me a stuffed animal and we cuddle. I honestly can’t tell if he likes me because he talks about his one ex. We talk all the time and I get really happy when he wakes up and sends me goodmorning beautiful. He makes me so happy to talk to. Please help me
Angel says:
I have a complicated relationship me and this guy best friend of me have been friends first and when I told him my callings he had to tell me he didn’t feel the same that time he thought I would leave and our friendship would end he cried in front of me and we both cried then we argued and I left and hours later I came back like lets talk it out n start fresh from there we did and he started changing he cared more about me we always text from good morning to goodnight to all night and we hang out every week through a job and college we both busy all the time esp me . But we make it work we try , and he has another girl best friend she likes him I know it and he doesn’t like her I can tell . But I got jealous we argue we ignore eachother then we go back to eachother talking it out and saying sorry cause we can’t stay mad or upset but I’ve never tried this hard for any guy sometimes my patience is like on the roof top I give up but I don’t we chill talk hang out he’s sweet helps me gives me advice we went on a study date we do have a strong attraction . I just don’t know if he’s my friends with benefits or my actually guy best friend
yayaegr says:
I do excatly all those things with my best guy friend! But he is bisexual and he has a girlfriend right now. At school he talks to almost every girl because theyre all drooling over him and im there a jealous friend but i just dont tell him. What can i do ?
ronni says:
So , my guy best friend .. We’ve been best friends got almost 3 years now . when we became friends I liked him then but he had a gf. After that I never saw him as more than a friend until January. We always have fun and he always tries to keep me entertained, he won an animal at the fair for me, every time I see him he stares at me , like while I’m watching a movie or playing his game. he kisses me and says things like I love you bae, I like you , you so cute and it’s repeatedly and he acknowledges that i don’t say i l love you back. I know he’s not trying to get sex from me , he knows he’s not going to. He’s even danced with me and we laugh seeing him is always just amazing. He does and said all this sweet stuff but then he won’t finish a text conversation with me or he never texts me first and I’m confused . that’s really the main thing that confuses me , there is no way someone is into you, but won’t talk to you consistently. I know this is complicated, but Is he into me?
Jonathan says:
He probably is shy or doesn’t want to seem too dominant and doesn’t want to hurt u in any way either so that’s why he doesn’t finish the conversation as he wants u to end the conversation first, maybe he feels he might be bothering u and he doesn’t want to seem desperate or anything that’s probably why he wants u to text him first, but he is into u and he probably likes u alot
Jone Pretorius says:
Ok so i have this friend and she has a cousin ,he found my number and we started talking and you know getting along then out of the blue i told him that i like someone else and i did not realize i like him so much so from that day he has been weird but now i wanna go out with him ,and alot of his friends say he liked me and now he doesnt … i dont wanna push it but i just wanna know if he likes me ??plz help and can i let him know i like him without saying it directly
Jone Pretorius says:
Ok so my one friend has a cousin that got my number and we get along but then one day we were talking and i told him ,(not knowing then that i liked him that much ),told him that i like this other guy and since then he has been very weird and now we dont talk at all i think i hurt his feelings so how do i tell him that i like him without saying it directly
Unhappy girl.plz help
Ishita Das says:
We have been friends for over 3 years and we connect at an emotional level…. He keeps saying that he likes me or is attracted to me… He talks about our future together and says that even though he has a gf now no need to worry cuz he’ll come back to me…. He acts like my boyfriend.. Won’t let other guys get too close to me but won’t propose himself… He always finds flaws in my boyfriends and cuts them off….. I fell for him and now he’s again patched up with his gf and it’s killing me….. I need help…. All the signs are there that he likes me or am I reading too much into things… Pls help… I can’t take it anymore and the fact that I have to talk to him everyday is real agony for me…. Pls help me understand wat to do
liza says:
i am suffering the same problem n i really am disturb i want him by myside as a frnd bt he is totally ignoring me n when i dnt talk to him he texts me or anythng to get attention its really hurting he is my only frnd in uni i cant imagine my uni wdout him we use to spend alot of time toghtr hst us n some how may be he is attracted to me one of my another close frnd told me to behave the same way like he is doing ignore him n he will be back on track again is that so wt u guys think???/ will it work my frnd is also a guy who suggested me to ignore him n he is very confident abt it that he will be back on track again not the way we use to bt like he is with other fellows
JoAl says:
I am deeply in love with my best friend but she is happily engaged.
I began ignoring her for months on end at times. It’s not out of dislike or being a bad friend.
It’s painful, that’s all. I want her happy and she is. Unfortunately, I don’t know. I feel like a piece of crap.
Recently visited her town and tried to avoid her. She reached out for me and my heart sank. I saw her last night. She’s such a beautiful person. I’m glad she’s happy. I love her so much.
I think I just need to be alone. I don’t know how I got on this site. She’s happy and I’m being selfish.
JoAl says:
I hope my own reasoning shed some light on your situation, Lisa.
Sometimes the juice isn’t worth the squeeze. I couldn’t imagine if E resented me for expressing myself.
She has already built boundaries as well from the moment we met. I know better and maybe your friend does too.
Cut him some slack. Unrequited love with someone truly special (best friend) can feel like dying sometimes. Avoidance can just help ease the pain and get him time to realize where he really sits and to act appropriately for friendship or to cut ties and not jeopardize her relationship that’s been built on for so many years. It’s unfair but ____ it right? LoL
amy says:
So my besrfriend me he loved me..about a week ago. And he broke up with his girlfriend bc he thimks there might be a chance of is.. idk what to do? I thhink i really do love him too
Liam moose xerox says:
I’m really confused with my situation with my best friend. She has a boyfriend but she is extremely huggy, affectionate, likes to grab my hand and my leg and just overall tochy. She tells me everything about her, she always comes to me for advice, she always gets excited when she sees me around and comes running to hang out with me but the thing is she isn’t like this with her boyfriend or anyone else. Only me she’s like this to. Does she like me or is she just my affectionate best mate?
kayle says:
Most likely she does like u because I’m the same way with one of my best guy friend that I secretly have a crush on lol
If u guys r really close and comfortable about talking to her about that kind of stuff but don’t want to make it to obvious maybe u could text her and start up a game of 20 questions and half way through the game u could ask if she only likes her boyfriend or if she has ever thought about dating another guy other than him and just kinda work up from there
Hope this helps
alisha sarkar says:
Hi..i need ur help..i love my friend when i was class 11…He reject me becoz he love someone else..who broke his heart….
He said me That he will never love me he will treat me as just a friend ..I agreed..Days Goes on..Nw I have completed graduation..bt i still love him….problem is somehow again he realize that i started fallen love with him..he started avoiding me….not repying my answer..wat will i do…I tried to stay away from him but i couldnt…As u know heart never listen to u…what will i do….will i give him sometime ???or little space ..??PLZZZ help me……
Mandeep Kaur says:
Hi..
So we have been best friend since last 2 years. I was being in relationship but i was not happy with him. After a while both me and my best friend confessed that we love each other. I made my best friend go away from me so that i could protect him as my boyfriend was a horrible person. I planned on catching my best friend later but its been 9 month since then. I tried again and again to get him back at last he agreed to talk to me but only once a week for whole day,i know he still loves me he said that his other friends wont let him talk to me anymore because they all are afraid that i will hurt him again. He also told me to not tell anyone that we talk to each other or his friends would let him talk to me again. But the truth is i love him and want him back to me.i dont know what to do. Sometimes he says that he want to go away from me coz im forcinh him to talk to me. Sometimes he make me feels that he needs me and says that he miss me a lot. I’m very confused about all of this. Plzz help me.
Hass says:
My best friend guy lives back in my home country. He used to call me almost everyday until recently he started talking to me twice a day everyday. He keeps saying I’m cute and that he loves me. He says things like if I’m lonely that he would come to me and give me a hug or cuddle me. Today he even asked me to give him a kiss through the call and he gave me few too. But in the middle of the conversation he talked about some other girls and also mentioned that I’m his best friend. I’m confused. I feel like I’m falling for him too but I don’t know if he really does like me. Help me please.
Amy says:
I met my best guy friend about a year ago and ever since we’ve actually been really close, all of my friends and his friends shipped us (said that we looked like a couple). I didn’t have feelings for him at first, but I developed feelings for him, and now I am very into him. My best guy friend, on the other hand, didn’t really deny not being my boyfriend when my friend commented on how he wanted to spend more time with his “girlfriend” (a.k.a. me). He doesn’t really deny anything regarding him liking me, but I’m not sure if he likes me because he seems closer with my friend than me… What should I do?
whatshappaning says:
okay so my best guy friend (we met at a snowboard team) said I look good in regular clothes. Also on the chair lifts sometimes our arms touch and he does not move them away. Also 4 of my snowboard friends shipped us and 1 of them said it looks like we both like each other. He also called me his best friend. Also to his mom and dad he said I was a trustworthy person. Though he said all that we have not had a real romantic holding hands saying I love you or kissing moment. But I once caught him staring at me and on does he like me quizzes I usually get a yes he does result. were both in6 grade too. WHATS HAPPENING PLZZZZZ HELP PLZZZZ
Kamyla says:
Ok so me and my guy friend have known each other for at least 6 years now and not in till now I have felt feelings for him and my other friend told him this and he asked me out because he felt the same way so I said yes but now it is a little awkward but when he flirts with me I don’t know how to respond. What should I do?Plz help!
ChiLovesFoodMonster says:
I wanted an advice so here it goes.. I have three guy best friends. The first one is a jock and he can neither resist me nor get angry at me.. While the second one is very sweet. He treats me like a princess and often told me he would pick me over his crushes (once, he told me he would rather marry me than his other girls). And the last one is the guy I like so much I could imagine myself married to him. My third guy best friend (the one I like) always try to get my attention in different annoying ways our teachers, class mates and school mates think is in fact, very sweet and cute. I confessed to him three days ago but he laughed at me and sang “I don’t care” but held my hand anyway. Two days ago, my first guy best friend confessed to me and I panicked for a bit and ended up leaving without a word. And yesterday, my second guy best friend confessed to me and kept sending me signals that he wanted to date me. Everyone roots for me and my crush but I don’t want to hurt the other two’s feelings even though I know my crush wouldn’t like me ever (i’m not sure tho). What do I do? My friendship with them is my treasure. </3
8262 says:
My best friend is dating my really close guy friend and I kinda like him but I wouldn’t want to take him from her and I’m not sure if he likes me but we text and oovoo every night and talk about everything and I don’t know what to do 😫
hensa says:
im 18 year old guy i was impressed by my friends character unknowingly im in love with him but i m 1year elder than him ifeel bad about can i make him my life partner
Jonathan says:
I have been crushing on my best friend ever since i met her, and recently ,she said she started liking me so we started sending each other cute and sweet texts then when we met in real life at school then we realised we can’t see each other as a couple and we can’t adapt to being a couple as we have been best friends for so long so I’m trying to find ways to help to continue our relationship, can someone pls help me 🙁
confusedme says:
Hi, I have been friends with a guy for a few years…. we ended up in bed together recently twice which was great as i really trust him… he’s not my type on looks but he genuinely cares for me as i do him but I’m not sure if he wants anything more or if it’s just a best friends with benefits thing. He has recently broken up with someone who seems to have really messed with his head. The other day he made a random comment about having kids and what would i do if i got pregnant and told me he was desperate for a family…. Im 32 and hes 44. I’m abit confused.
dontworryxx says:
so basically my bestfriend and me are really close and I love him he’s always putting his arm around me and hugging me and stuff recently he told me he was thinking about me the other day and he doesn’t know why and then he said to our 2 other bestfriends who are dating if me and him should date while he was hugging me i was kinda surprised and in fear i said lol stop joking around even though he might of been serious our friendship wasn’t really effected by that but i made a mistake and don’t know if he does really like me like that and I’m just so confused plus he recently just broke up with both of our close friend so yeah i need help someone pls help
Katie says:
Can I ask a question please need advice
Katie says:
Can I ask a question please need some honesty
Tawnalicious says:
Ill try to help you.
ella says:
i think i like my best friend but im not sure if feels they same. once i caught him looking at me but as soon as i looked at him he looked away. we have been best friends for for like ten years. he also told me that i should wear my hair out more. i always see him even though we dont go to school together anymore. does he like me or am i reading the signals wrong
Paige says:
I like this guy, who happens to be my friend too, but I just found out he’s dating my friend, she didn’t know I liked him, but since I found out they’re dating, I realised that I really like him! What do I do? Should I tell him or maybe just leave them alone??
Lena says:
I don’t think it would be fair to tell him that you like him, from both your friend’s and the guy’s perspective. They’re in a relationship together, respect that. It might be ok to tell your friend you like him, though, just so she knows and so she doesn’t go on and on talking about how nice he is or anything since you like him, too and that might be uncomfortable for you. But I don’t think you should tell him you like him while he’s in a relationship, that’ll just create drama or disappointment.
partygirlyui03 says:
my friend is so loyal to our friendship,but im falling for him he has a girlfriend though and it makes me jealous i keep denying my feelings for him.and so many people said that we meant together but he denies it.we also have the same b-day month mine is on sept,03 his is on sept06 and theres something im feeling we have a lot in common he makes me lough we already hold hands.but still im afraid to tell him how i feel what he doesnt feel the same feeling i feel for him and might lose our friendship.i just wish that i could get it all out of my chest.
Madilyn says:
I’m feeling the same way they are right there but out of reach but if we try hard enough we can get a little grip and maybe be able to grab on.
Jhess says:
I honestly think my best friend (I don’t even know if he still is) are having major argument at the moment and I just want to let him know how I really feel but right now is hair so stressful thinking about this whole thing.
JokersGirl says:
Hi! My guy best friend always tells me that he doesn’t want to lose his best friend that is why he doesn’t want to take me as his girlfriend. He’s afraid that we might break up if we become boyfriend-and-girlfriend. But he admitted that taking me as his girlfriend has crossed his mind many times. Why is he like this?
Sophiaa says:
Alright I’ve got this awkward situation. So I’ve got s boyfriend for almost 3 years and a guy best friend from school, knew him longer than my boyfriend and know him well. He bought a puppy from me and we walk the dogs everyday. I hang out with his mates sometimes. But few days ago, he said he doesn’t want to make things awkward between us but I really like you.
It’s quiete a shame because I did see him as a friend only. I don’t know what to do, help..
Audrey says:
Mine is kinda complicated but ive been dating this guy for about 2 months and me and his best friend are really close, we talk on the phone for at least 3 or 4 hours a night. I think he might have feelings for me just because of the way he acts but he is also dating my best friend. I don’t know. I think i should just leave it and let his feelings go away, if he even has them. What do you all think?
Ally C. says:
Hey so I told my Bestfriend about talking to this boy and when I did he messaged the guy and got a little protective. I guess you could say we’re friends with benefits. But do you think he has actual feelings for me?
Madilyn says:
I liked a boy and idk if he liked me back but I became his second best friend (over his best “guy” friend) and I don’t know if he likes me back but he always does weird stuff that he didn’t do before and I am confused if he likes me he tried dating and talked to me about love/breakups/dating and then I moved from that school. I want to contact him but I’m afraid that he won’t feel the same but I’m young and in middle school maybe we can be more than friends in the future.
Anlena Robachuand says:
So I have a guy bestfriend. But I like him more than just a friend we have dated for 4 years. And were still bestfriends today he has a girlfriend though.I like him alot what should I do?
confused says:
My best friend (male) likes me, and I used to like him. He’s a kind person and we share interests. Yet today I found out the guy I like is dating. I’m not sure how to feel about this. Meanwhile, my other guy friend is convincing him to ask me out. I’m losing interest in my crush. What do I do?
Sad Girl says:
Look if your friend is hetero and you’r too it is really difficult to be just friends. My story is really sad. We were friend for 2 years. In the first year I was in love with him but I thought that he was not. Then in 2. year I gave up loving him we were just friends. But 3 days later I found out that he was in love with me since that he saw me. But now I haven’t got that feeling for him. “I’m sorry belive in me I love you but not in that way” (sorry for all grammer faults my english in not good enough)
Michael says:
My bff ask whether a girl and a boy can be bff without falking in love with each other before we being bff officially. And i said yes. And thats not my answer after 6 months. Should i wait how long before confess to her?
Arriana Gross says:
Should I tell my best friend I love him if he has a girlfriend?
Dee says:
Maybe you should first ask him about his relationship with the girl he is dating…if he is crazy over her then I wouldn’t suggest telling him but if he seems to not show much interest in her then I’d tell him how you feel
Shazz says:
So hey, my best friend who is my ex boyfriend , me and him love each other er alot , but its complicated coz i have breaked some of promise i made like not texting to guys and not give my number for anyone else other than him , we met online on fb but we loved since day one, but after i broked the promises he started to change 😕 , i am a self harmer , i cut myself whenever i get sad or when ever he doesn’t believe me, i always did get sad thinking that i would loose him , i never wanted to end up being a buddy of his , when he and i was in a relationship he dint talk to any girls coz i said him not to i never like it coz i get jealous and i hate it if someone starts loving him… If something happens it happens for both of together like the percentage of charge its both of have the same percentage evertime , and we always say i love you together as if we have planned it befour , we met on 05 feb 2017, we have been dating for 3 months and 23 until yesterday i thought of breaking up coz he started thinking me in a wrong way ,, some guy , idk how he got my number but he was like calling me and then he was like when asked him who he is and why is calling me ,he was like i am gonna come to place , i blocked him ,, i said it to my bf and he said oh is that how you talk to guys , i dint even know who boy was neither i dint say anything i juz only asked who he was ,,, after that my bf told me i am a prostitute after saying that even he cried alot he regretted saying that word to me ,i cried like hell coz i never loved anyone else other than my bf , guys came after me but i never , coz i only could see my bf, i only love him more than anyone else in these world, promise , i never had an unwanted talk with other guys , unless me bf tease eachother like idiots , but he got everything that i have done in a wrong way tbh i am not a outgoing person with buddies and stuff, i only go out with my family other than that i wont go, but that word he said to me killed me i juz wanted to die , i said this one of my friend over a text msg saying that i want my bf back ,he said yea your bf is texting me ryt now, then my friend said that my bf said that i have only loved him for time pass , i was hurt alot,, i cried cried so much and then my friend talked to him and my bf gave me text, i was so happy like wow but he was like i have to go now and then started to cry aagain , we got together again but he has changed again after that guy texted me in a bad way, so i broked up with my bf, and then i juz still couldn’t leave him neither he could , so then we planned of becoming best friends we got so close omg i was so happy and then at nyt he asked some of my pics coz he cant stay looking at me i gave him some of my pics and he was omg i want you ,i love you and gave me kisses ,and then asked for more he was really happy after he saw me, then i said i cant send no more he got hurt and said cried like hell and said i dont anything of yours and went offline ,, after that i put up a normal msg saying i am so sorry ,honestly i regret saying i cant give him, after that he came online again after arguing alot,, both of our battery was 15% and then i was like sorry and asked for his voice msges he gave me , i asked for a kiss to say i love you and stuff he said everything ,, and i went offline saying him to be safe and stuff….so i am juz asking can you all help me plz tbh we love eachother alot i love been his friend but i want to marry him , juz tell me i dunno what to do…….. It would be a great help if you could help me in this
Ash says:
Basically, I came out to my friends as bi and a couple of days ago one of my friends came out to me as bi. We are both female. She said that she has a crush and both one of my other friends and I think her crush is me. I like her but I’m not sure I would ever make a move. How do I tell if she likes me or not?
AJG says:
My best guy friend said to me that he was thinking bout me during the summer and that im cute and fun, that I make him laught for nothing, and when people are annoying me he protects me and says: “can you have a daughter like that?” I dont really know if he likes me more than just a friend because he encourages me dating, and actually I think I may love him
Dee says:
If he encourages you to date other people then that might mean he just sees you as a friend…but if he hints for you to date him and he says you’re cute and stuff like that then maybe he does like you
Very stupid girl says:
I really need help. I’m super unexperienced in love and all those things. And I have a best friend who I saw a lot in school (now less, and never outside school). When I think back, I remember he gave me some, like, sweet looks, like he was trying to ‘connect’ with me more if that makes sense. But I’m so stupid that at the moment itself I didn’t notice and was busy with talking or something else.
But I actually really like him. But the last times I saw him, he didn’t give a look anymore and that just when I was ready to respond to it… I think he has given up or something. How can I get his attention back? I can’t flirt lol, I’m so awkward.
Shivu says:
Hello
I need some suggestns
We know each other from last 2years through chats and recently we meet 2 times. Frst time he was with his frnds and 2nd time we both.
Between our this 2 meet we have our daily converstan at that time he told i m his best friend and seeing my one pic he told he may had kissd me if i was infront of him, our phone calls had became common after our 1st meet and now he told he want me more than best friend for life time.
Does he loves me or he is just flirting?
Paris says:
I think my best friend is still in love with me. We already discussed that I don’t have feelings for him but I feel he’s still trying too hard to convince me that’s he’s the one for me. It’s extremely annoying. He’s very nice and sweet but he’s always doing what boyfriends usually do. Whenever I talk about who I’m with or an ex, his answers are very emotional as if he’s trying to say “I LOVE YOU!” or something. He’s my best friend and I love him but not like that. What can I do to get him to back off?
James Sanders says:
Keep reminding him you do not see him in the same light and he will eventually come to understand and will move on with his efforts with itherbwomwn. And, hopefully be there as a friend. Which is what you want.
Cas says:
Me and my guy friend are like really close and me (being a trans gay dude and him not being gay) both say we love eachother but like….in a friendly way. And I had said that when we say that it hurts my heart, and he agreed. What does this mean.. help plz im much confusion.
emms says:
I agree that that is a confusing situation. If you haven’t already, feel free to ask him what he meant when he said that. There is nothing wrong with that, even if it was a few months ago. if you are really close then he most likely will not have a problem with you asking him. He will probably see it as a good opportunity to further your friendship and to express himself.
You owe it to yourself to find out what he meant, no matter what. Don’t let anything (passively or actively) bully you into not knowing! even if he pushes it off, ask him why it is bothering him. Be communicative! that’s how relationship (of any kind) thrive and succeed. Best of luck I’ll keep you guys in my prayers (:
Emily says:
I’m dating my bestfriend now I know he’s in love with me but I do not feel the same way. I don’t know how to tell him without him literally dying of a heartbreak since he has never gone through one before. Not telling him is killing me and I hate it because the longer I make it go on the more he will be hurt. I don’t want to hurt him at all. I just don’t know what to do.
nobonita malik says:
Dear Emily,
I really appreciate that you care about your best friend and as well as his feelings. I would suggest that you need to discuss with him as early as possible about your feelings without hurting him. The longer time you take things will go worse. I am pretty sure if you discuss with him lovingly he will definitely understand your feelings and thoughts about this relationship. Best of luck.
lia mary says:
My best guy friend made me fall for in love with him by the way he started acting with me,he’s the kind of boy who’s shy and reserved but very kind and close to me, suddenly he started acting very weird with me and i was so confused because he’s never like that: saying I love you and hugging me longer than usually playing with my hand, trying to make me laugh he sometimes put his head on my shoulder last week end we were at the movies with our friends and they was no place next to them so we watched alone in the other column that is opposite to where our friends where sitting but nothing happened .all those things made me fall for him and i truly love him from all my heart and I’m so happy when he’s around but i don’t want to get false hope is he in love with me or this is normal to happen between friends? and why did he suddenly change his attitude around me
Lori says:
My guy friend of 25 years has confessed how hes really felt about me all this time and it blowing my mind. Hes very attractive. But I never really noticed how attractive intil he told me. We grew up in the same city but I moved away 10 years ago. Its great timing because he confessed his feelings only a few months after I decided to maybe move home. Anyway. I adore him. He’s beautiful inside and out. Im just nervous about ruining the friendship if he changes his mind. Guys do that a lot.
lgbt community says:
Thank you very much for my best friend falling for me, it’s difficult for me to get such kind of information most of the time always… I really hope I can work on your tips and it works for me too, I am happy to come across your article.
Queen says:
My besti and i are good frnds but he is dating and he told me he’s not dat d girl is just his crush.what does it mean?
Daniella says:
I met this guy few years ago on chat.and later on we Became best friends and do see eachother weekly but i fell in love
Daniella says:
With him and m always jealous whenever he talks to ladies but he is very caring nd he doesnt show it i’m just confused