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Angry or Mad at God? Here’s What To Do

Are You Mad At God?

I’ve got to believe at some point in your life, you’ve raised your fist and shouted out in anger at God. Most of us have done it.

Maybe your parent died, or you had a friend get seriously sick, or even killed. Maybe you have cancer, or some kind of handicap. These and other serious issues enter our lives, making it easy to target God for our pain.

Someone described anger this way: Anger is a human emotional response to situations that are either out of our control or out of our ability to understand, or both.

How to Handle Being Angry at God

What does Jesus say about anger?

Jesus talks about anger several times in the New Testament of the Bible. Let’s look at a few of them:

  • Anger and the Heart
    • In the book of Matthew, Jesus warns against harboring anger and hatred in one’s heart, suggesting that letting it fester can have a pretty destructive effect. You can find that in Matthew 5:21-22 (NIV): “But I tell you that anyone who is angry with a brother or sister will be subject to judgment.”
  • Reconciliation and Forgiveness
    • In the same passage Matthew, Jesus encourages us to resolve conflicts and reconcile with others quickly. He suggests that it’s better to “leave your gift at the altar,” meaning you should pause what you’re doing and make sure things are set right between you and the person you’re in conflict with instead of letting it grow in your heart. (Matthew 5:23-24)
  • Turn the Other Cheek
    • In Matthew 5:38-39, Jesus teaches the principle of turning the other cheek when someone wrongs you. He encourages his followers not to respond to aggression with aggression, but rather to respond with love and patience. It’s important to note that “turning the other cheek” is not meant to allow someone who has hurt you to get away with it and do it again. But if you’re in a situation where you can extend grace and relieve yourself from the anger you feel, consider forgiveness.
  • Forgiveness
    • In the Lord’s Prayer (Matthew 6:9-13), Jesus instructs his disciples to ask for forgiveness from God as they also forgive those who trespass against them. You can check out our resources on forgiveness if you want to know more. Forgiveness is a powerful act and a complicated subject, so it’s important to explore further if you are angry with someone or if you’d like to seek forgiveness from someone else.
  • Be Peacemakers
    • In the Sermon on the Mount, Jesus blesses the peacemakers, stating that they will be called children of God (Matthew 5:9). To Jesus, fostering peace and resolving conflicts should be a priority.
  • Admonishing a Brother
    • In Matthew 18:15-17, Jesus talks about how to address conflict within a community. He suggests first going to the person privately if they’ve done something to hurt you against you, or if you’ve wronged them. Give them a chance to settle things with you personally. If someone is unwilling to take accountability for their wrong, it might be useful to involve others in seeking reconciliation–asking a friend to talk to someone on your behalf, for example, or going to HR if your boss or coworker isn’t willing to make something right at work.

Jesus teaches the importance of managing anger, addressing it promptly, and striving for reconciliation and forgiveness. He always advocates for a mindset of love, patience, and humility when dealing with conflict. While anger is a natural human emotion, the way it is handled and processed plays a crucial role in maintaining healthy relationships and spiritual well-being. So it’s absolutely 100% okay to be angry… even Jesus felt angry sometimes! Check out Matthew 21 and Mark 11 for proof. Just be intentional about how you act when you’re angry.

What are some of the reasons why we get mad at God?

Have you ever wondered why we get so angry at God? That’s what I want to talk about, because I can assure you that while God allows us to cry out to Him, He doesn’t want us stuck in rage towards Him.

The main reason we get so upset with God is that we think He owes us something. This usually happens in two ways:

1. We don’t get something we want.

Have you ever really wanted a relationship with that perfect girl or guy? Or you really wanted that job you knew for certain would be perfect for you? When these things didn’t work out, you no doubt found yourself hurt and disappointed. Our first impulse is almost always to blame God.

Daphne wrote: When we get mad at God it is really like a 2-year-old throwing a fit because Mommy or Daddy won’t let them stick their finger in the light socket. The 2-year-old can only see what he/she wants, the parent sees the bigger picture, and the danger. When we are mad at God we show our immaturity, ignorance, and our shortsightedness.

2.  We get something we DON’T expect.

When something bad happens to someone we love, or to us, or someone gets really sick, or even dies we wonder why these things have to happen. We think of God as a big genie in the sky who should only give us good things and prevent the bad.

I received a comment from someone who said: Some people wonder why their lives end up being a certain way, and they blame God for it, because if God really cared for them, then He wouldn’t let them suffer.

We think, “If God is so loving, why am I in so much pain? Is He punishing me for no reason by allowing horrible things to happen to me, or the people I love, or even the world?”

3. We think God owes us something.

Both of these situations can make a person feel like God doesn’t care about us. After all the prayers we’ve prayed, God still didn’t heal your brother’s cancer, or get you the job you wanted.

Joe wrote: I have to admit that I am angry at God. The more I have prayed for help and guidance, the more I get nothing. He is ignoring me. It’s His right to do with me what He will, but I am frustrated because I have done what I think I am supposed to do and yet no response, no help.

We get angry when we think God owes us something. When in fact, God owes us nothing.

A couple of other reasons:

  • We get angry with God when we don’t know all the facts. It’s so easy to think we know everything, but we can only see a very small part of the picture.
  • We get angry at God when we see others claim to know Him, and then act like hypocrites. It’s easy to blame God for the faults of others.

These are just a few reasons why people get angry with God. Of course, there are many more.

 How to Get Over Being Mad at God – Know What You Can Expect From Him.

If we think God is going to be our genie in a bottle, and make everything good in our lives, we’re going to be mad at God when something bad happens. Having faith in God is not insurance against hardships.

In the Bible, Jesus says- “I have told you these things, so that in me you may have peace. In this world, you will have trouble. But take heart! I have overcome the world.” (John 16:33)

So what can we expect from God?

  • His Peace – If we trust in Him and believe in Him we will have peace even in the hard times. Do you want to know how to find this peace? Begin Your Journey To Peace with this great resource from Peace With God. 
  • God Wins in the End – This world is full of sin, hate and death and that comes from the enemy, Satan, not from God. However, for all those who believe in Jesus, there is glorious, eternal life in heaven.
  • His Comfort – He promises to be near those who are hurting. “The Lord is close to the brokenhearted and saves those who are crushed in spirit.” (Psalm 34:18)
  • His love – He promises His love for us. “God is love, and whoever abides in love abides in God, and God abides in him.” (1 John 4:16) He loves your heart and is with you in the midst of whatever your circumstances.
  • Life with greater meaning and significance – If we got everything we thought we wanted, we’d be spoiled and selfish. God is a wise father who knows what we need to become the best men and women we can be.

What can you do when you are mad at God?

1. Tell him how you feel.

The best thing you can do is tell God what you’re angry about. He wants to hear from you about what you’re thinking and feeling. Tell God honestly where you are at. God knows what’s going on inside of you, but He wants to you be able to come to Him with honesty and openness.

2. Place the blame for evil on Satan, not on God.

God is good and Holy and perfect and loving. He is the opposite of evil. You may be mad at God because he didn’t prevent the bad from happening to you, but he is not to blame for the bad thing, Satan is.  Jesus says in the Bible “The thief’s purpose is to steal, kill and destroy. My purpose is to give life in all its fullness.” (John 10:10)

3. Pray for courage, strength and peace to make it through the day.

Betsy wrote: I find it easiest to leave everything in God’s hands and pray that he will care for me and do what’s BEST for me, not what I want, but what is best. It’s very hard, and I have trouble with that at times, but that is my overall goal.

4. Trust that God will use a hardship for something beyond what you can see.

So can God use everything we go through for a greater purpose? I believe He can. Ask God for understanding to see the bigger picture. Over time, you may see more clearly how God used your trial for good.

Jill wrote honestly: I feel like I have a daily tug of war with God. I know everything happens for a reason, but when you’re lonely, broke, bored, and feel helpless, it is really hard to say, okay God, I know you’re doing this for a reason.
Betsy echoed Jill’s thoughts: After many trials, I learned that it is best to accept what God has done and believe that it is for my good, whether I like it or not.

Believing He does have a reason for everything we go through helps us to trust that something bigger is going on here, even more than we can probably understand. But I’m not God, He is. And I’m just going to trust that He knows what’s going on with me.

5. Get involved in other people’s lives.

A lot of our anger and frustration in life comes from thinking about ourselves too much – we think about the way things are and how different they are from how we wish they’d be.

Yevgenia wrote: One of the best things I have learned while going through this is God won’t put you through something unless he knows you will be able to overcome it. Another way I have used these things in a positive way is by using my experiences to help others who are going through similar things in their lives.

The best way to find joy and peace from the hardships of life is to get involved in other people’s lives. Take an interest in other people and their circumstances. Share in their joy and their pain.

6. Decide to have a relationship with God.

The Bible says the only way to know God is by knowing His son, Jesus. Jesus was basically God with skin-on and gave us a way to know who He is, His love, and how to be in a relationship with Him.

Lucas wrote: Sometimes only God will know why He has allowed a trial and sometimes He will reveal its purpose to us. Sometimes it’s because He is preparing us for a greater thing. Sometimes it is to show us how little we truly love Him, and to allow us to change. Trials give us an opportunity to build our faith in a way nothing else can.

How have you dealt with your own personal anger toward God? I’d love to hear from you. Please let me know how you got over being upset with God.

It’s hard to have faith when life is hard, but God understands your pain. For more help read this blog: Life is Hard, God Understands

For more on reconciling the goodness of God and bad things in the world read these blogs from organizations we partner with:

  1. Great blog, very helpful, love the look and feel of it, but we’ll see what others think too.

    • Dave, Thank you for taking the time to give us your feedback on Dawson’s blogs. We hope that they will benefit people that come to our site with issues that are on in their lives.

  2. I have given up on god. Give thanks in all things right? I thank you god for all the promises that never happened. I thank you for leaving my family and I financially depleted. I thank you for I don’t know what. But hey thanks!

    • I think we have the same problem, the two people above us, John and Josiah as well as you and me. its ok to have that as long as you confess to God all the time. I had that too. but when i read your comments something in my head tells me that the story after Israel came out the Egypt and wanted to go in to the Canaan. only 2 people which is Joshua and Caleb had believed God that they will win against all those giants in that land. So my message from that story is we all will win our struggles. maybe not now all the next few weeks or months. but if we believed in God as well and DO NOT GIVE UP, WE WILL WIN!!. so please Justin, do not give up. I will pray and cheer for you

  3. I have given up on God to. Time and time again I pray. Am a good person. I pray and believe in God. Yet he never delivers. Thanks for ignoring me again. Thanks for ignoring me. Pray to God and find silence. It’s deafening!!

    • Hi John, I’m sure every time you pray you ask God to keep you safe so he’s not ignoring you. If God was ignoring you, you will not be alive. I’ve have time where I pray and nothing happens but I know he has the answers because I’m still alive which means he listen to my prayers. Quite often we doubt the word of God and we don’t have enough faith. I was meditating one time and I read something that says “What do you want me to do for you” I said to the Lord, “Lord I thought you’ll never ask” I told him everything I wanted him to do which was to get accepted to the University I applied for. I pray everyday and ask him the same thing. and yesterday I get an email that says “sorry but we are unable to offer you admission at the moment” You could just imagine how angry I am and wanting to give up. I cried myself to sleep yesterday asking God why did he ignore my prayer when that’s all I ask him for. Then this morning I saw this page and everybody is mad at God. I’m in the same boat too but then I realize why focus on what he’s not doing for me when he saved my life before and I’m alive because I have a purpose and although we’re all struggling right and asking ourselves why isn’t God helping us? he listens and he will help us his timing is always right. Please don’t give up on God, ask him to speak to your heart, don’t focus on the negative.

  4. I’m tempted to turn my back on God. So sick of having such sinful desires creep up time and time again without understanding why, trying to confess, get involved, constantly read His word, ask for prayers, pray inconsistently . . . . and always end up back where I was feeling impossible to live life as He wants me to live it and mad at Him for having such high standards without showing me the way and want to just turn aside to other things.

  5. To Josiah, John and Justin: Don’t give up on God please. I have that moments that all you told about. But when I read your comment, something inside me remind me about the story of Joshua and Caleb that believed that they could conquer the Canaan giants although the rest of the spies waver. God does promises us that we can win the battles in our life. we can only do our part and believe. it will turn out alright! don’t worry, just believe and doing your thing,don’t give up. i still have my problems just like you all do, but i feel i have more strength to endure all those. when i have any worries coming to me, i just say a quick prayer and tell God any of my worries before that worry starts eating my life. I will pray for 3 of you and please do not give up!!

  6. It’s quite easy to be angry. But it’s easy to say trust God. I’ve never felt this lost before. I trust in God’s timing and his plan for me. Yet, I’ve been asking for his help and guidance for a long while now and nothing has changed. I read the bible as much as I can but I feel like there’s such a lack of life in my own life. I don’t want to die but I don’t enjoy living either! I’ve asked for God’s help both while content and angry and anything I do just feels numb. I love the promise of tomorrow but nothing exciting is happening in my life and I really don’t know what to do anymore. I’m sick, tired and bored of waiting! Sometimes I think how easy it would be if I wasn’t alive anymore.
    It was great though to read ‘what to do when you’re mad at God both part 1 and 2. Thanks:

  7. I am so angry right now. My daughter who is 29 years old was suppose to have only her top teeth pulled and leave 7 teeth on the bottom. They pulled all the teeth. Her teeth were destroyed by medication when she fell and broke her leg. Now it will be a struggle to find dentures that fit right. The oral surgeon did not look at the referral and asked her when she was given laughing gas. The last 6 months have been major crisis after another major crisis. I have friends that pray but right now I am just very angry and tired.

  8. Seven months ago my, then 19yr old son Tyler suffered a TBI (Traumatic Brain Injury) in a single car accident. I spent almost every day and night with him during the six months he was in the hospital. We just got him home two weeks ago. At first the docs said that he wouldn’t make it but he pulled through. He was considered to be in a persistent vegetative state but was upgraded to being minimally conscious. Both my wife and I care for him but I am the primary care giver for him since my wife has to work. I thought I had overcome most of my grief and had come to some understanding of all this until we got him home. It blindsided me. It was like starting the whole thing over again. I’ve spoken to my pastor about this but my anger with God is growing and I don’t know how to deal with it.
    It’s more than a full time job to care for him. He’s had C-Dif since we left the hospital and dealing with the constant diarrhea is extremely stressful for both of us. We’re trying a new medication today. Nothing so far has worked. When I was cleaning him this morning I had to ask myself “why” does God continue to make him suffer. It’s all I can stand. I am more than little angry at God and I’ve all but given up on prayer. Before the accident I asked God every day to watch over my children and keep them safe. I just can’t accept that this has a deeper meaning or that it happened for the best. I keep telling Tyler that we’ll see each other again but at this rate I don’t think I’ll be joining him in heaven.
    don w

    • I’m so sorry to hear that, I’d be angry and hurt too, anyone would, I can’t understand, I’m in the same boat on this subject, its a hard place, I’m so sorry your going through this, and Tyler, 🙁 things got a little better? maybe it’ll keep getting a little better, don’t feel bad to let it out sometimes.. sometimes it feels good to just be honest, cry, scream,…and hope things will change for the better,

      • Thanks Rach. Tyler is slowly getting better. He does respond to some commands like hand squeezes or eye blinks. I don’t break down as often as I used to. Sometimes I think that if I do, I may not come back. I’m still dealing with the anger part.

      • This really helped me to know that its ok to be mad. I thought at first well I cant be that’s not right I should be with the program and take it, but I cant TAKE IT. first I’d tell God how I feel then get scared and say sorry, i didn’t mean it. But I did mean it. I shouldn’t be scared. so this really helped to know that. But I shouldn’t be scared that God is going to get me after I say how I feel or I’m not going to get saved.

    • Hi, I just found this site first thing when I googled (mad at God). I have been going through some ( I thought) hard times . I have 3 children and a husband that have been worried about me I have been crying myself to sleep for the last week and depressed for 3 months . Thanks to you and your son my eyes have been opened . What a tough job you have .You are so inspiring ! You have so much faith and love . Even if your mad at God you still believe in him. Thanks for saving my life.

  9. Battling depression/panic disorder and generalized anxiety, dad left us, mom battled cancer twice last time was serious, no car, barely any food, can’t feel love, or joy, or peace… just feel dead, even when I try to be positive and feel ‘more energy’ or having an okay day I don’t feel it really, its like I’m a ghost or something, my social life is almost at zero, only forced communication is active in my life, like at work, I feel super confused and angry with God, its like he just was like ‘hands off’ and cut off all communication with me, he doesn’t really seem to care if I want to kill myself, if I can’t stand him, or if I try to pray/serve him, or if I’m ignoring him harboring anger and hurt.. Its like he just has uncaring cold side to him that just cuts you off for no reason..”cause he can” or something like that makes it good, or fair. I don’t understand his definition of ‘good’ or ‘fair’ last time I checked it was universally known as loving and caring, letting people know you’re there for them, at least, at least letting someone know ‘hey I’m still here’ or ‘hey things will change’ ‘ill help you’ I can’t stand the thought of just praising him and doing a happy dance around the church while inside feeling utterly worthless, forgotten and angry with him…and dead inside.. some people can do it, I tried for a while, then it just makes you feel stupid after a while ..like your all the way down below him trying so hard, but its all nothing and he doesn’t care, or at least doesn’t let you know other wise through any means…sight, smell, touch, heart felt moment, or anything.. I’m just stuck here with you all right now,

    • Hey Rach,
      I’m sorry to read about all you’ve gone and are going through. The only thing I can say is that God cares. I honestly don’t know how he shows it but He really does care.

    • I relate. Very well said.

    • I feel the same way but dint give up

  10. Honestly, I am angry with God because my health has decline , recently I lost so many love ones including my Dad, my grandmothers and other relatives that I very close to and been in a horrible string of relationships in my personal life. All my life I was raised and brought up in the church. Even though I was going through so much before this all happen I still put my faith and trust in God even when it seems when nothing pull through and things didn’t change for the better. I took some time get some spiritual counseling from church, they could only do so much but deep down inside I feel that if God is so powerful, high and mighty, why does HE sits up there and tragically takes away the people you love, doesn’t heal you from illnesses when you pray for healing and sends you people that don’t deserve your love and precious time? Then what do we do we blame the Devil instead of God ? He is the Creator of all things why not blame Him?

  11. Hey Parttimelover, I understand your frustration with GOD, and wanting to give up but please don’t! Don’t always focus on what God is not doing for you a the moment, focus on what he already has done for you. I’m 22 years old and I had cancer when I was a little girl I almost died! But God didn’t allow it. I have so many things going on in my life right now, all I asked God was to help me go to school. I was denied admission twice and as much as I want to be angry with God, I know he has the answer. He will not abandon us. My dad who lost his father, mother and his sister should be angry with God but he praises him everyday. Please don’t let the devil turn you against God, the devil wants you to give up but please don’t. God is very powerful and he wants you to be strong don’t focus on the negative. You’re still alive for a reason and you have a story to tell, don’t question God it’s okay to be angry but continue to pray and ask him to speak to your heart. “When something bad happens to you, thank God not because you’re suffering but because you know he has the answer. When things look hopeless praise him because he will bring hope to your circumstances!” More so please read Psalm 22 (verses 1-6 and 22-31). I will keep you in my prayers and don’t Give up!

    • What if I gave up.and now.want to come back

  12. I feel the anger building up toward God. I have been raised in church, and “know” all the right answers. But it isn’t helping now. They say use scripture, did that every time and it only worked a few times. Praying feels like talking to a wall. I have confessed my sin so many times, but still seem to keep doing it. Most of the anger I feel is due to bad things in churches. We had to leave one due to blatant sin from the Pastor which no one wanted to correct. The next was also due to the Pastor not following the church bylaws and again no one else wanting to correct it. We also finally escaped one where the Pastor placed himself as God and pretty much decided if you were saved or not. Now I am fearful of getting close to people at different churches. I don’t trust God enough after this and a few other things not to get seriously hurt again. And it scares me to be mad at God because I know I shouldn’t be.

    • Hey,reading your comment made me realize that God is not going to stop us from sinning. Of course he doesn’t want us to do it but you have to be willing to ask him to help you not sin anymore. I’ve confessed my sins so many times as well and I also seem to keep doing it but I realize that’s because I choose to keep doing it. If you don’t want to stop, God is not going to force you stop sinning. You’re saying the scripture only worked a few times maybe it’s because your faith is not as strong as it was before, you might think praying is like talking to a wall because things in your life seems to be the same but know that every time you pray God listens and he answers when you least expect it or when he knows the time is right. It takes longer because he’s always testing us, always seeing if our faith is strong enough so please don’t give up. It’s ok to be mad but you need to tell him then ask him to speak to your heart. I’m sure you’re an amazing person don’t let the devil keep you far away from God. You can also read Psalm 22 (verses 1-6 and 22-31). I will also keep you in my prayers. God bless you!

  13. I was a believer and had close communion with God. A year ago, I got mugged and attacked by a gang on my birthday for my mobile phone. I believed in God so much that when they punched me and kicked me, I said…. I’m a child of Jesus. Do not attack me anymore in Jesus name. The situation got worse and was attacked more. After the attack, I was scared to go out in the streets in the evenings and was mentally extra cautious and over protective. Doctors say that I have post traumatic stress disorder. I went to the Lord and asked why?… No answer from Him. I’m not angry with God anymore…. But my trust in His protective hands is not there anymore however hard I try. I lost my trust and cannot believe Him like before . What should I do ?

    • our days are becoming worse
      be carefull when you use jesus name
      to the wrong person at the wrong time you could end up even in a worse position
      i think its wise to have mates with you these days and be careful what route you take
      i am glad you can still coraspond with words
      you have every right to feel the way you do
      what you should do is what you are doing BEING MORE CAUTIOUS
      with time you will get your confidence
      back in yourslef and also in our loving Father with only time you will
      understand
      Keep your gard up K

    • Hello Kirubakaran,
      I came on here to get answers for what I am going through myself and I ran across your questions and message. It actually gave me an answer for my situation. What I can say about your situation is plan. God didn’t do the harm nor did the devil, but the guys who attacked you and did what they did to you. We forget that we all make decisions and those decisions are right or wrong. One thing, you should be grateful because God was present because you are alive to tell the story. They could have beat you to death or they could have hit you wrong and you could have accidently died, but you are still alive. God got and is getting his glory out of the situation because you are alive, you don’t know what happened to the guys who attacked you and how your saying Jesus during the attack did something to someone in the bunch. I know they will never forget it or maybe just one. You don’t know who saw and heard the attack and how during the attack you said Jesus’ name. We always think about ourselves and think about pay back, but realize that God allows certain things for a reason because will affect those who have done you wrong. Not by hurting them, but changing them some times. Also without this situation you wouldn’t have wanted to know more about God and you don’t know that the same thing may happen to those who attacked you.

      • If a cop saw something bad happening, and he could stop it but didn’t we’d fire him, and probably put him in jail for dereliction of duty God is many times more powerful, able to see evil, etc., etc., so when He doesn’t help, that makes his non-involvement much worse. I don’t expect God to help me find my car keys when I can’t, but I DO expect him to help me when I have been canned by CH Robinson MSP for NOT, I repeat, NOT lying to clients.

    • Hi
      I would tell you to
      1-talk with God , express how you feel
      2- remember that we may face hardships that we may never understand but God is always there (abuse, harm, confusion , ,depression, death)
      3-write down a list of things your grateful for from God or your grateful that’s he’s done in people around you
      4-go back to God and when you feel genuinely comfortable to confess , repent ask for forgiveness ask for Gods love protection and lay it all out and profess how your future will be God willing. ( being fruitful, having prosperity , wealth , protection ,you won’t be in the wrong place at the right time etc youl soon forget about the down when God will uplift you higher than your enemies!
      5- don’t feed into your Feelings or fears
      things will happen and its so upsetting to hear things that people have been trough but it’s where you shine through.
      Its easier said then done- I’ve been in situations which have spiraled my world (abuse) and no one has understood me but God he loves me unconditionally even when I know it’s by grace, because I don’t deserve it. But he will win. Period. Nothing less
      I see it as in a few years time or when your on your death bed do you want something to hold you bad from meeting your maker? imagine God saying well done I’m proud of you , come see your glories and riches in heaven
      remembering it’s not wise to waste your life on earth because of silly people . These people may even sleep at night peacefully and you want to let it loose your trust of protection in God ?
      its time you run to God and ask him for the opposite of how you feel , although I may be upset , who’s really going to help God.
      This is something I do when I’m down : I ask God to provide the things I lack in or have hurt me and I need healing , and he does . Seek and you shall find . He said he will carry my burden and he will.
      it’s all about breaking and controlling how your mind thinks along with your feelings . We learn feelings and pain and these things interfere we how sometimes we may feel towards God , I see it as although the world may end up doing cruel things , who God has created me to be will never be diminished.
      You create your life as upsetting as it can be sometimes , we can only pray that know God will work in the people who attached you lifes also and that they get saved.
      The devil wants this . For you to lost trust please don’t .
      ( what if because of what they done to you one of them repeated and gave his life to Christ?)
      I’d say run back to God . He don’t need us we need him , I want you to shine I want you to overcome this and come back with your testimony. Stay blessed

    • You were spared is how I see it. God protected you from Death. You live to overcome this and tell people your testimony on how you still have faith in God. You are a survivor. (oh I would avoid dangerous alleys, I would also pray for discerning people and areas and pray prior to stepping foot anywhere.)

    • You are alive aren’t you? God saved you.

    • Jesus was right there with you. He kept you alive. I don’t understand why you had to go through this, and I will pray for you to get your trust back. Use this as a stepping stone to get stronger and maybe help others who go through similar situations. I’m sorry you had to go through this trams. I pray this helps you some

  14. You should turn to Gods Word to find your strength. God loves you even though you went through this. You cannot lose trust in Him over it because God never said that we would not ever be persecuted or attacked by others. We live in a fallen world & Jesus’ disciples all experienced persecution, beatings and were treated wrongfully. Even Jesus Himself was beaten and crucified so don’t feel like God wasn’t there for you. Actually God can sympathize with what you went through more than anyone because He went through pain at the hands of others Himself.

    • Hi Canasia,
      Thanks for your reply.Even before you posted this,I did try what you advised.I can only find Satan mocking and laughing his ass off whenever I come across a verse where God says about His protective hands.For example, I recently read Pslams 23 and after I read ‘Yea thou I walk through the valley of the shadow of death, I shall fear no evil’ , immediately I can hear Satan say … “Oh yeah… God was not with you in that alleyway where you were beaten up.What makes you think He is going to be with you in the valley of the shadow of death?”.For this, I have no reply.
      You said that Jesus and His disciples were persecuted themselves.But that was for a cause.It happened when they were trying to preach the truth.In my case, I was just walking on the street to the grocery store and was attacked.Why then does the Bible carry verses saying that God will protect His people eg: Pslams 91. If God allows persecution to His disciples, then why did He protect Daniel in the lions den and Shadrach,Mesach and Abednego in the furnace of fire? Does this not seem unjust for a justful God to protect some and give up some for persecution?
      When I ask about this to believers, the answers I get are … It is His will and we should not question Him and so on.Well… It makes me think that God is so unpredictable for me to trust on Him always.His word says that He will not put me to shame.But Jesus did put me to shame even after using Jesus name on that night in the streets.He could have protected me just like He protected Daniel and his friends.
      I am honestly trying to redeem my faith.But incidents like this hinder me and make me question.I still believe in Him… but deep inside I have a voice saying that I am deceiving myself.I dont know what to do.Kindly keep me in your prayers.Thanks.
      With tears,
      Kiruba

      • Hi Kiruba,
        I am very very sorry that this happened to you. And please don’t let anyone EVER tell you it was God’s will or that you are not allowed to ask why.
        Furthermore, I can totally understand where you are coming from. Just to give you an idea: When I was 13 years old I was stabbed with a knife in my neck which left me paralyzed from the neck down.Some other horrible things also happened during this attack. I had to learn how to walk and write from scratch. It’s 16 years later and I’m still experiencing physical and emotional pain.
        So…When it comes to God people will tell me the following, thinking that they are helping:
        -It was His will.
        -It’s all part of His great plan.
        -Get over yourself. Everyday worse things happens to others.
        -Don’t worry…God is control.
        These statements made me so furious at God. But lately I’ve realized those statements are not true but other peoples’ picture of God. I’m still working through a lot of anger and questions.

      • KirUba , Ibelieve you have been given an opportunity to be just like Christ. Those people who attacked you are evil and Satan owns them. Pray Father forgive them, they no not what they do. Pray for those who despite fully use you. These are the words of God Almighty. He has given you h ortunity to pray and intercede for people who are going t hell. You must trust God to give you the words to pray for them. And you will by God’s grace be acting to bring them to God. If they had not beat you up, ll the people here would not know these people neede praer. As we pray for you, we will pray for them. As you pray for them, God will strengthen your faith because you are willing to obey Him And pray for and forgive These people who dint deserve goodness just like we dont, but while we were yet sinners Christ died for us. God bless you! We must pray for our friend in Christ and for the salvation of those in evil.

  15. I don’t understand. I grew up in church. I believe in grace. I was taught to speak to my problems because God is bigger. I pray and read the bible. God let me and my family down big time recently. I look like a fool in front of them. Nothing comes out the way I would like it. Everything is oppositional. Then I see flat out mean people, people who don’t believe in God, get everything they want. They live happy fulfilling lives especially after they’ve wronged me or one of my loved ones. How are we to trust God if He isn’t there for us, even with the little things? He controls everything, doesn’t He? So He chooses for us to suffer? It’s like I’m a big joke to Him. I have given up reading the bible and praying. That way, I don’t have to have hope. The devil wins.

    • I’m in the position… I’m believing more in law of attraction and that we powerfully create good and bad

      • So, is there a solution? Is there an opportunity?

    • I am in the same position. I have prayed this prayer to him more than once. “The devil wins”, “I don’t think that I can trust you”, “I have no hope even I believe in you”, “Why must they(unbelievers) live flawless lives while I must suffer everyday”, “Do you even care that I am expressing my heart to you?”, “I don’t even know why I am coming to you. I know that you will not change anything.” I have prayed for death many times as well. I wish that I could help you in some way. But all I can do is speak from my current situation. For some reason, he has still kept me here. It makes me angry, but he has not given up on me like I am close to giving up on him. Drawing closer to him during times and troubles is easier said than done. Especially when we have been going through hard times for a long while. I guess what I am currently learning from both of our feelings is that being mad and turning away has less of a chance in changing anything. Try expressing to him how you are feeling and reading the bible. I read and express to him what is in my heart even when I am angry. I do not know how many times I have been through this cycle, but as I am sitting here writing this with anger in my heart right now. I am tired of the same thing happening over and over. I know that the devil knows where to attack you to shake your faith. While I have fallen many times, I always find myself going back to God. Most of the times not immediately. All I can tell you is do not give up. Yes, I feel that the devil has won and I am at my lowest. I have been for years. But for some reason, I am still here, and even though I have little faith, I still have faith. So maybe he hasn’t won. Just remember that Satan seeks to devour you and he know exactly where to bite. But it is in our weakness that HE (God) is strong. I will be praying that both you and me will overcome our situation, no matter how long it takes. I know from experience that this is easier said than done, but try not to give up. Turn back and try to trust him. I realize now that he is my only hope that things will EVER get better…

      • Hm

      • God has just let me down and disappointed me in a major way. I was telling everybody & firmly believing I was going to win a lawsuit, where I was actually the injured party. But, I didn’t win anything. In fact I’m 40k in debt to the lawyer, and have to file bankruptcy. I have worked for the last 30 years for nothing. How can I not be mad at God? I was completely depending on Him. Completely Depending on Him and He let me down.

      • I’m in exactly the same position as you – I’m trying to carry on praying but it’s so tiring, and it’s like if I’m ever going to get back to God I have to admit that it’s all my fault, which i genuinely don’t believe it is.

  16. Kiruba,
    There is God and there is satan. I don’t believe God sent this attack. The devil did. When we are tested, we need to run to God and stay close. The devil would love to steal your faith. When he lies to you as he has been doing, remind him of the truth. Your God loves you. Your God is with you. Your God has great plans for you. Stay in the word and keep your faith in God. God never promised that we would not have trials. In fact, he said would have trials. He will always be near us though and help us through our trials. I am so sorry that this happened to you. You will be in my prayers. God loves you tremendously and can heal your hurt.

    • Kiruba,
      I was just reading your story and it broke my heart. Dear child, I can see why your trust in God is not the same. But his love for you remains. It’s going to take time. I want to remind you that Satan came to steal and destroy. We’re in the middle of a war and we will be wounded. Persecuted, but not abandoned; struck down, but not destroyed. And don’t fear those who can kill the body, rather, fear him who can destroy both soul and body. and as for Satan, let him laugh all he wants, but remember that God cannot be mocked.
      I bless you with healing. I bless you with strength. I bless you with peace. And Father, I ask that you embrace your child Kiruba in these hard times. Let him feel your love in his moment of trial and doubt. Kiruba, my Jesus loves you.

    • Kiruba,
      I was just reading your story and it broke my heart. Dear child, I can see why your trust in God is not the same. But his love for you remains. It’s going to take time. I want to remind you that Satan came to steal and destroy. We’re in the middle of a war and we will be wounded. Persecuted, but not abandoned; struck down, but not destroyed. And don’t fear those who can kill the body, rather, fear him who can destroy both soul and body. As for Satan, let him laugh all he wants, but remember that God cannot be mocked.
      I bless you with healing. I bless you with strength. I bless you with peace. And Father, I ask that you embrace your child Kiruba in these hard times. Let him feel your love in his moment of trial and doubt. Kiruba, my Jesus loves you.

      • Hi i would like for you to pray for me as i have so.e prayer warriors but i smoke ciggarettes and will be learning and reading the word more printed on the bible i will need prayer to chan habits and love more i also would lime to hear Jesus more near because sometimes i lack but sometimes i dont and it gets hard to be a christian sometimes but i know i can overcome the world and attend church more often i also pray for kiruba and that Jesus protects him and love him and teach em good things i also would like prayer because i had some nightmares like something was destroying me in my dream it happened a few times and one time wide awake i dont know what it is but i would love a prayer warrior to pray and that people stop looking in for hustling and drugs in my home as i left that old life behind i want to be complete and not have a mental problem and that my family and Jesus be blessed if thats possible.

        • Eric, Thank you for reaching out and asking for prayer. We have another site called ThePrayerZone that is a place you can post your prayer request to and several prayer champions will pray for you. Go to http://www.theprayerzone.com to access it. We have faith in you! You can overcome this!

  17. In my journey of grief, and through meeting other grieving parents, I have noticed that those parents who said they are atheists have not struggled with anger as much as I have.
    Could anger be another way of expressing faith?

  18. Praying for all of us. I am in quite a tough situation mentally.. have been for quite some time suffering from PTSD among other life disappoinments…it honestly just feels better to know there are other humans out there with the same thoughts. I have always thought it’s okay to be angry at God….but just don’t stay there. I always felt like God has told me throughout life ” just keep moving ” whether that’s dance, running, jumping, punching a punching bag, DO SOMETHING …went on a run today & felt better but I know this is a season of a bit of anger at God, more at myself for letting certain things in my life but then I get mad at God that He allows me to be mad at myself 😉 …any way it can become quite a run around – This verse made me feel better tonight. Phil. 1:6 being confident of this, that he who began a good work in you will carry it on to completion until the day of Christ Jesus. – aka God didn’t bring you this far to leave you!
    Love & blessings, Angela

  19. I have lost my trust in Him…. I recently reunited with my birth family after almost 50 years and discovered that I have a sister and brother that I didn’t know I had… I started to develop a relationship with her and I was overjoyed at the time thinking this is awesome well turns out that now she has now abandoned me after all the time and effort I invested in her trying to be the best big brother to her… You cannot know the pain of having blood reject you after all these years… I am angry at God for allowing this to happen… All this was a tease of what could have been so awesome… Why would he ask me to walk through this knowing that I have to walk the rest of my days with the knowledge of my sister rejected me think about if this happened to you… So much for the joyus Christian life I will always have this bitter taste in my life I will have to carry around

  20. Does anyone proof-read these things?
    Where is #2 of “What we can do to about our anger toward God”?

  21. Thanks so much for letting us know! Looks like the item was there, but the number was missing. It is fixed now.

  22. I am surrounded by women who were suppose to be unable to get pregnant but are having babies and getting pregnant. They are unmarried, unhealthy, not in church, and not serving God but it seems that God is blessing them with the very thing I want with the deepest parts of my soul. I serve Him. I praise Him and witness. I didn’t know it until today, but I’m angry at God. I don’t want to be! I want to love Him and serve Him and believe that He has all of the answers and that He works everything out for my good even when I don’t like it. But I still want a son. I’ve even prayed for God to rake the desire away! There are millions of women that don’t even want children and abort them but they get pregnant! I want children and seem to be barren. I know God is real! I know him personally! I love Him so much, but I’m angry and I feel horrible for it!

    • wow l always wanted a child
      but i never found a partner
      i could not adopt i felt the child would need a mother
      I do indeed feel for you
      Gods loves your honest heart
      he also loves them women you speak of who dont have something special you have
      Imagin if you could share your Love of God with them
      I dont expect you to or if its possible
      COUNT THE BLESSINGS YOU HAVE
      and keep trust that ABBA will look after you and pray for them
      God loves us all
      GOD BLESS YOU

    • I feel the same way, trying to have faith is hard. thanks for sharing

  23. Thanks for being so honest and real. God understands our anger and our longings. We have a partner site where you can submit prayer requests – http://www.theprayerzone.com/ I will be praying that God will fill your home with the pitter-patter of little feet. Don’t give up!

  24. wow. This is exactly how I feel. I have never seen anyone express this as clearly as I feel.

  25. Hi. I am sorry to hear of your situation. I know it must be so hard for you. There s nothing in human reasoning that can explain why you went through such a situation. I do understand how you must feel so let down. I don’t know if I can help you but I pray that God will give me words to encourage. I know you feel that God did not protect you but are you sure? You came out with your life. They could have killed you. In the bible it says there will be much trouble in this life. God does not promise to keep us from all trouble. He did keep you alive so you still have a chance to have a great life but for sure it will not be great apart from Him. I know this may not offer much comfort but think about it. Here is the other thing. God trusted you. He trusted you that you have the strength to make it through this and come out victorious. You see my dear. Life is not only about us. There are many people out there who do not know Jesus and they will go to hell without Him. There will be many of them and also other Christians who may go through what you went through. However, they may not have the strength to make it through. God can be able to use you to help heal them who would not make it without you. Who can minister to them but you who understands. God can heal you totally as if this incident never happened and He can use you to help others heal. Please realize this life is not just about us. Think on these things and they may help you to have a very different perspective. Ask God to help you and ask Him how you can be able to help others. Trust Him that if something bad happened to you that He will turn it around for good. I hope this helps. I know you can overcome.

  26. i am sorry for what you are going through. life is really tough sometimes and people and even christians don’t have all the answers like some act like they do. i’m a christian. i have been very disillusioned lately. i still believe in God. I can’t figure him out or why he allows things. I send you good thoughts, prayers, and love. (((hug)))

  27. i am sorry. i don’t have any answers but i send you a hug.

  28. I too am very angry with God. It seems I have lost all hope. I have no family, I’m getting divorced, attorney fees are straining my financial situation, my car keeps breaking down, my grandma died, and it just seems I cannot catch a break. It’s one thing after another. I’m seeking counseling and she says I’m coping well. But it’s so painful I’m in so much pain. I’m so angry that God would allow this to happen to me. I’ve always been a very productive person, have a great job, own a home, I have a nice car, a couple of nice friends, a well-trained and behaved dog (he is what makes me happy these days), but I’ve gained 20 pounds and starting to experience migranes. I’ve been through so much since November coming out of a abusive situation and I just feel unsupported unloved all alone where is God in all this? I pray I read my Bible and then my car will break down or some other thing will happen that just is negative. I told God I hated him for allowing these things to happen to me. He is the one that allows things to happen. Just like Job, the devil went to God and asked permission to do things. God set boundaries, bit allowed the devil to take away Jobs loved ones, and belongings. And so I pray oh my God why are you allowing all this to happen to me. I’m struggling I don’t know what to do and now my car broke down again yesterday it’s insane. I don’t want to handle all of this. What is the purpose? It hurts so bad.

    • I am so sorry you are going through so much all at once. I am thankful you have a counselor and that you are getting out of an abusive situation. You sound very brave. If you just need to vent and want to chat or need encouragement, we are availabe 24/7 for you. We are here for you and we care. https://www.thehopeline.com/gethelp/

  29. I have always believed in the Lord and now that my son has died at the young age of 29 who was a good father .hard worker .and a heart of gold.

  30. Patty- My heart aches for you and the loss of your son. I have sent you a private email.

  31. I have perused thru the majority of these and the common 2 factors are #1 people are blaming God for other people’s action(including their own)
    And #2 most people are faithless amd angry over a single sorrowful event.
    Well, I must say I have had a life FULLof beat downs. Broken home, abuse, rape, teen pregnancy, sold drugs just to eat, kicked out at age 18, single mom, worked full time while attending college, dad in prison, siater murdered someone, other sister is a junky and had 2 kids taken by CPS, my cousin killed himself, I almost died giving birth, my child had a brain injury, my sons dad died suddenly, Im in debt up to my damn ears, I was arrested for a DUI and I wasnt even drunk… My court date is next month…. I wont say oh count ur blessings… I will say thay God is STILL on the throne and He gave me free will as he does to each of us. He is not some mean kid on an ant hill lightin us up one by one. And if you are gonna lose your faith in God over one lil thing… Youre easy and the evil will keep coming for you! Be strong… God is like THE SIDE KICK. He is not the cause…. He will be our cure. Someday we will get to kist collapse in fronta him and say Lord thats it! Im done! Take all of this! Until then keep fighting!

    • Can someone help me the devil got me to be mad at He and give up i just want the Lord back and his spirit and I can not stand this he got me to blame God and think He was against me over nonsense things and I just want him back. He got me to harden heart against God and I thought voice was God and I need him back in my life. I hate that I blamed God when he tried to restore me but I let my emotions and thoughts get best of me . I need him back in my heart I listened to voice of deception and hate this everyday. Marsha. I want God to understand that I am.sorry and just want him back and could he please let me repent and return

      • Marsha, We are sorry you are struggling with these feelings about God. Thank you for reaching out for help. We would love to offer you an email mentor that can help you with your struggles and help you find your way back to him. You would be matched up with a woman that you can email back and for with for as long as you like about this or anything. All you have to do is go to https://www.thehopeline.com/emailmentors to sign up. Also, if you would like prayer we have a prayer site that someone will pray with you at https://www.theprayerzone.com/

  32. Alright, let’s try it again. My previous comment was strong.
    When you have no money, no friends, and no quality resume to leverage, HOW does one justify trusting the LORD to provide their needs? Cmon guys. Be real here. I’m tired of other Christians trying to justify the LORD is good without proper context or evidence outside of scripture. Let’s be real here for once, please?

  33. I dont know whether God is testing me or torturing me.I know he loved me so much and I dont want to see a single tear in his eyes. But I feel the pain everywhere in my body,soul and mind.No one to comfort me.Dont know if he comes,questions or what? or all my strife for him enters in vain. Numb I am. Let God’s name be praised.

  34. i have always been very angry with God for a very long time. i could not understand why after giving my life to him and serving him wholly why he could let me fail in my studies. in high school i think i was very tall and looked older. This was a very big source of ridicule and i struggled very much with it. I knew the only thing that could have saved me in this desperate situation was me getting very good grades. i prayed to God a lot telling him how i wanted to get the best grades ever. i believed that was supposed to be obvious and above all i was working very hard in my studies. in all this desperation to be the best my life started a downtrend. i started experiencing very weird feelings about my health, at times i could imagine myself feeling pain in my body and i could just imagine that i might be suffering from a very bad disease. sometime i thought i had cancer other times i though i was having hypertension , i could also think that i might be suffering from HIV/AIDS or even STIs. I don,t know why such frightening thoughts could come into my mind. Eventually I became so stressed about it leading to depression and trauma and i developed a severe case of stomach ulcers. I struggled even with my self-esteem. My life became very pathetic and at last i never got good grades and after that life turned very hard for me for i could not get admission to a good college to do my favorite course. I have hard many thoughts trying to look for an answer as to why i went through such a painful past even when i had given my life to Christ, I became very angry towards God until a point reached and i started doubting His existence . I saw it foolish to just believe in a God who never kept his promise. This hatred has been in my life for such a long time until recently when i tried to re-evaluate what really happened and how true it was that God in all his might allowed me to face such problems and failure. After much thought i came to understand my anger had come as a result of God not being there for me when i needed him most which eventually made me to perform very poorly. I have also come to know that however much i wanted to perform well in my studies it was not about God but I very much wanted to prove to people no matter how small they viewed me i was a winner.In short my performance in school was tangled around poor self esteem and a lot of pain towards my oppressors many of whom were few classes ahead of me and when i failed i felt that God was totally responsible for it. Today my anger is almost over as i have come to realize God was not a part of my failure.

  35. Well he did not promise that we would NOT experience downfalls. In fact he said that we would experience MANY of them but “Take heart. I have overcome the world” so I would like to pass that on to you. Please don’t lose faith but Take heart and continue to trust him even though things are looking rough. You also mentioned about working. Also remember that only what you do for him will last. Everything else will not matter when you leave this earth. Right now I suffer in silence but I have come to the realization that he did too. And is it not our goal to e just like him. It’s ok to briefly be irritated towards him, it’s a normal human reaction/emotion. But if you are suffering for him and your faith doesn’t waiver while you are experiencing downfalls because you still trust in him, he will honor that. What joy awaits the ones that are suffering for him like he did for you, and they still continue to trust him. That is the only thing keeping me going. Seeing his face, his smile. The savior of the world recognizing me as someone who chose to follow him wholeheartedly even though I am at my lowest point. Instead of telling him how big your situation is, tell your situation how big your God is. Keeping our eyes/focus on him is the name of the game. Be encouraged and take heart. God bless you.

  36. Yeah right, “God won’t put us through a trial unless he feels you will overcome it” ….this is a rich statement, to say the least. Is that to say the ones who never go through a trial and breeze through life can’t handle it? Also why don’t you tell that to all the heroes families, who have come home from war and committed suicide after crying out to God for help, tell that to the chronically ill in pain who have done the same, the ones crying out to God for help due to depression, the ones who have laid everything before God and he still stays silent. Does that mean they go to hell or heaven after giving up? This is the worst statement a Christian can say, it is completely false in reality and also what scripture says. It’s a typical “feel better” statement to help someone through a struggle. But ultimately full of crap.

  37. i know how you feel im going through the same pain , dont you dare give up on god , dont let the devil in , it the devil telling you it god fault , its the devil that wants you to suffer not god . go on you tube and watch videos on the ego , the higherself and shadowmen and spirtual attachments . they will help you but dont give up on god please , i haven’tand never will . what is going on your head is coming from your ego which is the devil telling you this go to your heart center (your higherself). try healing , meadtaton and turn that neagtive thought into a postive one . i wish you well .

  38. I never asked God for anything I only would pray if it was for a family members health. Last Friday I prayed to and to Jesus to please not take my sisters life I’ve never asked before and I never will again they let me down I’m so angry at God I’ve been a Catholic my whole life she was only 35 years old I think I’ve lost my faith don’t know if I’ll ever get it back

    • Timothy, I am so sorry about the loss of your sister. I can’t even begin to imagine the grief and loneliness of life without her. If you want to talk about it we are here for you 24/7. Just click the “chat now” button or go to this link https://www.thehopeline.com/gethelp

  39. I’ve tried my darn hardest just to do what He wants most of the time. I’ve been “humbled” by Him ever since he got me kicked out of my first university and now I’m just trying to live. I received a promise of redemption from Him that someday He’d lift me up again but with me being changed. That got through two years of this miserable life in this new awful university that doesn’t have any professors who teach at all and everything is like a self-study in a college course I personally hate that I’ve never had experience with before. Everything that I was once good at (proficiency in writing and language, skill in other subjects) have been stripped away from. But I try my best not to complain and to focus on the things that I can somewhat control. I don’t pray as much on the things that would happen tomorrow because He already told me that tomorrow has its own worries and that all I have to do is to give my all each day for Him and that would be enough. Now I’m here in the brink of exhaustion at my 3rd year in college striving in self-study but to no avail working for a future I don’t want any part of, praying for strength that doesn’t come, fighting wars on two fronts with sin and the daily struggle of living with no one actually acknowledging the fight I’m putting up just because they don’t see the spiritual side of the war and with no choice but to just accept the fact that God has made me a jester in His court. All my life I’ve been asking for His leading in some way and if being a fool is what He wants me to be, I don’t know anymore

  40. I don’t really know why, but im just angry at God. I’m so scared that one day he’s going to call me to do something that i won’t want to do. People say to lay down Every​ thing, even your hopes and dreams. I don’t want to give up my dreams. I’m selfish and prideful and I hate it. I love God and I don’t want to ever be with out him, but I’m so frustrated. People always tell you to follow your dreams and pursue them, but what’s the point of saying that if you’re just supposed to do what God wants. Why does life always have to be about God? I’m sorry I just vented. I just want to be able to have the courage to trust him. I don’t think I can fully let him in until I get rid of this mindset. I feel conflicted and confused.

  41. Im very angry too…..I survived a brutal rape by my commanding officer during a Army Reserve Drill in 85 I was also a Senior in High School. I was raped 12 days after my 18th birthday. My PTSD shows it ugly head whenever it feels like it seems. I KNOW God did not want to join the Army. Lol i know that sounds crazy but my Earthy Father also said NO WAY.I forged his signature while he was out of town working and convinced my mother to sign. She had no idea. But my father did he was 82nd A. B. but our relationship was strained and all I got was a No. So I did it anyway. And there you have it. Maybe Im mad at myself more idk. I believed if I gave it my all worked very hard I could have my career dreams before I graduated. Ive been shattered and just hanging on since then. Im now 50yrs old. 3 grandsons. My daughter is a child of God she is 30 for that I am greatful. I still ask God why didnt you stop me ??? Im the first 17yr old female to join during H.S. And I failed…..I hear of the 500,000 rape victims in our Military and I become enraged @ God!!! Just thought I would share. Was surprised there are others that understand my anger. Thanks!

  42. why should i have a relationship with god when he created me short and bald and life filled with people that treat me poorly, and i am supposed to thank him for this experiance?

    • Mike, it sounds like you are struggling with your self-worth and that you have experienced some very hurtful relationships. I know plenty of women who think bald guys are handsome and who don’t care about height. Before talking about God you might want to take a look at our free eBook about self-worth – you can click this link for the download page – http://info.thehopeline.com/selfworth-ebook Here are some of the things offered in this 30 page magazine-style eBook:
      -Signs to identify self-worth issues
      -What to do when you hate something about yourself
      -10 Ways to build a healthy self-respect and how to maintain it

  43. It’s shameful to see a bunch of Christians, most of whom have never experienced a speck of pain, attempt to council a victim of rigorous abuse and persecution. For all individuals who are beaten, born with genetic defects, turned down by society because of the way they were born, or suffering from severe hunger and starvation.. For many of these individuals this blog is an absolute joke. A bunch of non active Christians eating popcorn and trying to give insightful advice to people who’ve been less fortunate by default. Rather than passing platitudes and cliche explanations pertaining to suffering, why don’t you try living it to see how strong you actually are. This blog is absolutely pathetic.
    Once you have suffered, you begin to see that the world has abandoned you. And if there truly is a God, then he’s not concerned with activity on Earth. He must only be concerned with the afterlife.

    • Mike, I am sorry that your perception of TheHopeLine® and the people who serve here is totally incorrect. The people who work for TheHopeLine® and write blogs and answer chats work here BECAUSE of the suffering they themselves have been through. Our HopeCoaches have their own stories and personal experiences of rape, child sexual abuse, terminal illness, suicide attempts, sex trafficking(yes, one of our HopeCoaches is a survivor of having been sex-trafficked as a child), homelessness, and so much more. We are here to give hope to those who are hurting, to walk beside anyone who is trying to overcome their circumstances or find a way out. And, yes, faith is important to us and we will gladly answer questions about how we overcame suffering and are stronger now because of it. Have you read this blog by Lama Leah? https://www.thehopeline.com/the-beauty-in-pain and here she is on youtube – https://youtu.be/MFctQMO2WLI
      Mike, I am sad that you feel the world is against you and has let you down. I took the time to respond to you because I want you to know you are not alone. I don’t know what you have suffered in this life but I am reaching across the miles to you.

  44. I lost my boyfriend of two years in a fishing accident. I found my child’s father dead 9 months later. Im cursed. Where is God? I can’t find my strength for myself or my son.

    • I am so sorry you have been through two incredibly tragic losses. I am thankful you and your son have each other. Do you have supportive friends and family? We are here for you 24/7. Chatting with a HopeCoach is free and confidential – https://www.thehopeline.com/gethelp I am going to commit to praying for you. I pray God will comfort you and provide tangible evidence of His compassion and love for you and your son

  45. I have been witnessing my 56-year-old husband struggle with excruciating back pain for over six years with no relief and no options from the countless doctors he has seen. We have prayed and prayed, along with many friends and family, and truly believed that God would heal him. I believe that God is able to heal all sickness and disease. But I am struggling to understand why He would allow a man who has faithfully served him for decades to suffer every day. In addition to the pain, my husband is now dealing with anxiety and depression, most likely as a result of his chronic pain. I’m feeling ineffective in trying to be a support and encouragement to my husband after so long and I’m feeling frustrated and angry with God.

    • I’m 41 and have had chronic back pain after a hunting accident 6 years ago. Your description of your husband sounds like me! It has been very difficult to believe in a Good God. My anger has affected my wife & kids to the point where she was thinking about separation. She tried to carry my weight but couldn’t. Instead I am facing the depression, anxiety & anger. I’ve seen a lot of therapists which has helped immensely. I know God is with me & like you believe in healing. I don’t have an answer when every procedure has been ineffective. Almost died post back surgery from MRSA infection. God rescued me from death – I know that. I wish He would rescue me from pain. I know that answer can’t come from my wife and she is wisely pushing me to God. She can’t fix the pain. My love for her has dramatically increased for her as she can only give “the comfort she has received” not more. God bless you and your husband. He is with you in your pain.

  46. Last year, I found out that my dad had been lying to me about my mom being schizophrenic for my entire life. I was 19. At the same time, my best friend was dating my brother and cheated on him and I tried to tell him but he wouldn’t believe me. Now I’m not friends with either of them. A guy who liked me and I liked him told me he didn’t want to be my boyfriend so we stopped talking for about 6 months. He came back and kissed me and so I thought it meant he was ready to date but then he said no. So I’m just kind of feeling like my life is one big joke. I feel really lonely and the only sort of close friends I have left live hours away cause they’re off at college. I don’t know how to find the purpose in life, I don’t know how to stop feeling lonely. I feel that i’ve asked God a million times what I’m supposed to do but… nothing. I just feel a crushing loneliness.

  47. So I know in my situation the devil is definitely against me on this one. There’s a part of me where I do believe in a higher power and I do believe in God and I had a relationship with God however over the years the more things have happened the more whatever you want to call it struggle and bs along with hearing people claim that believing in God is something human beings do to seek security and give themselves meaning in life and it’s a made-up idea and that we just do it because we’re insecure and want something or to believe that there is something out there that can help us when we are powerless. That idea has resonated with me in such a bad way they are days where I’m completely all four and all about God and feel like I can’t deny that there is a higher power but I also can’t help but feel like maybe it is possible that as human beings made this idea up because really what can we say or expect that shows 100% God exists. We’re not allowed to expect anything from him we’re not allowed to ask for anything from him he doesn’t say anything back and blah blah blah blah blah blah blah blah blah blah blah blah blah. I’m not here to argue about whether or not God is real, I’m just here to Simply State and reply that I hate that I heard somebody explain that because I kind of liked believing in something even if it was fake. And if God is real, why can’t God be a little more helpful or present in A lot of times. I don’t care if there are reasons why, I think it’s bs regardless. And I’m angry if God does exist that the almighty can’t even find a better way to go about this so that people in my position can have a little more faith or help on our end to believe what’s right or real. Like why would you not want to encourage your children? I don’t get it! So since he doesn’t does that mean God doesn’t exist? Or is it that he really doesn’t give a crap as much as we like to think? I mean I argue all of these points back and forth in my head pretty frequently and I get to this stubborn point where I don’t care anymore. Like I don’t care that I don’t understand or why I don’t understand the point is I don’t understand so why can’t God help me figure this the out. In the more I wish he would show me more the more I’m told I’m not supposed to seek that type of reassurance for whatever reason and there’s always a hundred million reasons why I’m not supposed to ask for that. But then at the same time I’m told that if I don’t believe that I’m going to go to hell and be struck down where I stand pretty much. I think that’s bs and I feel like it’s bullying me into some mind crap. My faith is so broken these days to the point that I don’t even care about the reasonings as to why or why not I’m sick and tired of being sick and tired and looking for some type of meaning. Like you don’t have to make me struggle or go through hell and back just to teach me a lesson geez and this would be a lot easier if you would help me in the first place. And mr. Almighty has the power to do so so why doesn’t he? Has anybody else struggle with this? I need some help here and some clarification. Not trying to offend anybody or Mock anybody I’m just being honest about what I have been feeling lately. It’s very confusing! I also don’t understand why we are told when we teach our children that we have to leave by example but yet God has never role modeled directly to me as a person exactly what I’m supposed to do he’s always giving me exactly what I’m supposed to do he’s always given me a great area to live in when I’m told that my soul is either black or white does that make sense what I’m trying to say to anybody? We’re supposed to love our children like he loves us for example but yet God gets to live by a different set of rules and that’s so frustrating to me. Somebody please help me!!

  48. I lost my mother in August. I’ve always struggled in my relationship with God. But since he took my mother I just can’t seem to not be angry with him. I see cancer survivors out there doing drugs and smoking cigarettes. But my mother who never touched any of that had to wither away in constant pain. It just doesn’t make sense. He took my best friend and broke my heart. I don’t know how to get back to him when I’m so angry and hurt. Please pray for me

  49. I don’t know how I found myself on this blog. But, after reading many of the posts…. I am thinking that perhaps there is a reason. I have loved the Lord since I was around six, came from a very poor background, was abused by my father, and severely by my first husband, even by church members, have been raped and run down by a car, have lost a fortune once. Have been many times unjustly punished and harmed. I’m almost 60 now and I’ve suffered a lot. And I’ve learned a little too. Looking back, I must say that I have learned a little… how to love much better, and how to love those who despise and use me through every single thing by choosing to throw down vain and evil thoughts of revenge and take up and hope and even hide in His words. Perhaps it’s because I am an American and live in this once great, free country, I did not understand the scriptures about counting it all for loss, or what it truly means to suffer for Christ. I did not understand the significance or importance of His life giving powerful word. Jesus is revealed in his word and that is truly where we must turn, in everything. What kind of Christians can we be if we only love those who love us or if we never suffer what all others suffer? God spared my life….many times. Often I didn’t know why and I felt alone and terribly betrayed. But, then I remembered, this life is so very short and temporary in the light of eternal life with Him. So, I welcome all He must teach me to be an effective witness, comfort and help to others here in the same boat and in order to fit me for a life with Him in heaven. Two huge purposes which aside from anything else He reveals to you personally, are shared by all believers.

  50. I am a believer, and been walking with the Lord for almost 6 years. My life hasn’t changed that much since. I got a new job back in August and I just knew that I was going to be able to save money, pay off debt and get a car. None of that happen. Rent went up. For about 6 years I have been praying to the Lord to give me a job to get my own car. I know it sounds small, but its not to me. This job was huge let down. I feel forgotten and not worthy of making enough money to pay off stuff, save and get a car. I have prayed and cried out to God plenty of times. Nothing has changed. As a result, I am depressed. I’m trying to have faith but it is hard. I’ve gotten to the point where I don’t pray or read the word.

    • Tay, It is normal to feel the way you feel during this challenging time. It is so hard to understand the “why is this happening to me” during these times. You are worthy, valued and loved by our Lord and Savior. Perhaps it would help to have someone that you can continue to talk about this. How about signing up for one of our email mentors? You would email back and forth with them for as long as you like. They will listen, guide you and help you through this. To sign up for an email mentor go to https://www.thehopeline.com/emailmentors

  51. I feel so lost, so abandoned. I am a single mom of three daughters. I fell behind on my rent and am being evicted from my home. I had it all planned out how to fix it, how to make it right. Every time I think I’ve found a solution a door slams in my face. I have prayed for peace. I have prayed for protection and guidance. I have prayed for understanding from others. I’m laying in bed for the last night I am still praying again for a miracle. I don’t feel like I have been heard. Tomorrow me and my children have no where to go. I have failed them. I will keep praying and trying to have faith but I am angry. I am so angry.

    • I hope you and your daughters are safe??? Big hugs

  52. This is so unhelpful. It made me even angrier at God.

  53. Then… I guess all my trials show me how little faith I have in God, how little I believe in the existence of a good perfect Father who intends the best for us, and how much I’ve been relying on myself to get through deep dark scary places. How’s that been working out for me? Not very well, but I hold onto my beliefs, values, and skills like a kid too afraid to jump into the safe arms of a loving Father. I’m sorry for being so weak.

  54. I think God does owe us. I didn’t ask to be born on this crappy planet – the least God can do is protect us from heartache and pain while we are here. I personally don’t want to learn any more “lessons” !

  55. i wrote my song AMEN by KJTOMA explaining how I foolishly hated God for what he has done to my disgusting selfishness. I AM SORRY GOD! Please forgive me … in the name of Jesus, OUR SAVIOR! Amen.

  56. God doesn’t seem that good of a person. He’s not interacting with us at all. I can’t understand why people ask me to have a relationship with God when he doesn’t even care to respond.

  57. Right now I am angry, the reason I am angry is not what happened in my life but it is because I have prayed, cried, confessed, fasted and trusted but no answer yet

    • Vuyo, It is hard to understand now why you have not received and answer from God yet, but know He is with you. God is using the hardships you are going through for something beyond what you can see. He does have a purpose for you. Have faith, be patient and continue to rely on Him. Pray that He removes your anger and uses this energy in a more constructive way. Perhaps you can help others that are going through similar things you are going through. How about signing up for an email mentor too? It would be someone that you can email back and for with for as long as you like. They would help you to understand why you are feeling this anger and also help you with what you are struggling with. To sign up go to: https://www.thehopeline.com/emailmentors/

  58. I am so angry right now at the leadership of our country. Every day I see so call “religious people” demean their brothers and sisters in Christ. For years, women are told to dress conservatively and bare the shame if they are harassed or raped, while men can get drunk and do what they want. Why do Christians support these people and vote them into office? I thought Christians were God’s messengeta on earth. Now people like me are leaving the church in droves because we are starting to equate God to someone who supports those who mistreat others. I feel betrayed and am seriously considering renouncing my alligence to Christianity because I cannot reconcile the evil that I see when women are molested and children are locked up, whilst the so called Evangelical Republicans vote for these people while saying it is God’s will. Please, I beg you. Will things be made right, or have I been wasting my time following a version of God that does’t actually exist?

  59. This article was very eye-opening and refreshing for me. I appreciate whoever took the time to study such a difficult topic and shed some light on the truth. Thank you 🙂

  60. 8years I have prayed for a permanent job. I get one that lasts for a while then am on my own. 10months now indoors depending on handouts. I don’t have enough money to pay rent and debts. 8years praying for a spouse and am still single. Am tired of being told something great is coming soon. I have heard this fo too long and am tired. Getting fees since primary school to college was tough. I haf to go for my results years later. Why should I suffer all my life. Why should my family suffer? Why has God forsaken us??? 😢 😢 😢

  61. I have done all of these things and everday I get kicked down again. I talk and pray to God constantly all day everyday. If I didnt have faith and trust Him, I would have stopped communicating with Him aling time ago. I pray again today, that He shows some compassion. Ive already been kicked. I dont know how many more times He will crush me before this happens, but I try to be patient. It’s so painful!

    • Thank you for reaching out to talk about this. You sound like you have an amazing faith in God and we commend you on trying daily to have faith and trust in Him. We have a great resource that can help you with what is going on in your like and the struggle of constantly getting kicked down again. We think an email mentor would help you with this. It is someone that you can email back and forth with for as long as you like about your daily struggles and your walk with God. An email mentor will listen, support, encourage you and help you along the path to victory. Sign up for an email mentor here: https://www.thehopeline.com/emailmentors/

  62. I trust God and believe he heals and cares. He healed me of Breast cancer last year. And I give him all the praise. But after chemo I had 2 months of peace and then my Mom was as diagnosed with dementia. She is a Christian but she has always been negative and I am have quoted scripture and prayed with her. I am angry fir allowing my Mom to have dementia. She cannot drive nor live by herself ever again. And I had to put her in an Assistec Living because I cannot stop work and have enough money to pay our bills. I love her and want her to be okay. But she is a woman that no one can ever please . Hey cup is never full. Today at the assisted living she was mean to me and unfortunately it caused me to react badly. She is so mean that I don’t know if I want to go back. But I am an only child with no husband and no children of my own. I try my best to do things she likes and make things good for her. But her bet negativity is only reserved for me . She does not behave like that to others. I tried to speak to my Pastor and he was too busy. So I am angry that God will not direct me as to what I can do better to keep my anxiety level down and stay happy. I really wish someone could help me understand what to do. But I know I am not going to continue to visit just to have her be mean and unthankful fir everything.

  63. I have been praying to God for a wife since I was divorced 10 years ago, I asked God for reconciliation with my wife and I was specific she came to me to tell me she was seeing another guy whom she moved into her house. I continued to pray,fast and seek God and it seems I have been taunted with all kinds of things. Feeling in my spirit that the time of fruition was upon me only to be shattered once again. This goes on and on and it never seems to quit. I have prayed to be released from her but nothing. I’m just exhausted from this over the last few years……. exhausted

    • Me to Juan i have been praying to God for a wife as well its so lonely in this world and you see alot of men who dont love god and use women that have many different women.I feel line as gods son who has been celibate for i years god should love me enough to give me a wife i still love god I just dont know why he hasent answered my prayer for a wife…i feel like if he loved me a you enough he would answer i know he loves us but it hurts that he doesent answer are prayers for a wife

  64. I only reached your page, because at some point in my life. Possibly my lowest, and I still haven’t fully recovered due to an ongoing inner battle. I have come to be very angry towards God. All fear for him has gone out the window. Yet, I find myself talking to him everyday. Questioning why he created Satan? If he knows the big picture so much, why did he not eliminate the root of evil before it emanated into a heavenly war. Eventually, we humans seem to be the tool between God and his enemy for the purpose of spiritual warfare. A war we are born into, that we have no choice, but to be a part of.
    Sure, God owes us nothing. But what’s the point of creating us, then leave us fighting blindly in the dark. Why does his love involve an endless suffering of emotional rejection, constant bad experiences, just too many series of negative events. Nothing to draw positivity from?
    Even focusing on other people does not help, because your heart feels sorry for them, especially when they open up to you about series of childhood sexual abuse by family members who are highly respected in their own church. Really, too much negative reality happening about. Nothing positive to draw good from. Eventually making the Bible and daily devotionals feel more like bedtime story and fairytale, or just a feel good morning motivation, that gets drowned out by mean and rude people. I have not even discussed this with my Bible quoting mother or pastor Father, because I know their traditional Biblical view will shut me up with condemnation and accusation of Blasphemy and my own guilt of “I don’t know how far I’ve insulted the Holy Spirit”
    I really want to fear and love God, as I believe in the saving Grace of Jesus by dying on the cross. But my reasons above have hardened my heart

  65. Yes I’m mad at god and there nothing wrong with that, if god is all knowing then he knows why I’m upset.
    Telling me that he loves me isn’t a answer. It’s a Belief..
    God has let me down in so many ways. I grow up without a father he died when I was kid, been left at the alter
    weeks before marriage, brother committed suicide , was set on fire at work spent two weeks in
    a intensive care unit. I have many more battle wounds. But I’m still here in have scars inside an out
    Yes I’m mad at god. I still believe in common respect for all living creature, I’m feel I’m not here to judge anyone and truly
    get upset when I see someone wronged women, child, an animal. I don’t like that we eat living things even plants,
    all of Gods gifts have meaning. Am I not good enough for love from people or god. Why do I have to be the one with heartache
    and pain.

  66. My anger twords God has blossomed to the point in my 44 years of hell on Earth that I have renounced him. As well as the Catholic Church and the many reprobate renegade churches that have defected. I finally renounced God and the majority of churches today. God is a fairy tale told by perverts in the Catholic Church. There is no God!

    • I love you brother. The living god has not given up on you yet. This is only a test. What we suffer here in this world is just a testament for those who are also suffering. I will pray he bring peace in your life.

  67. Mental illness feels like god’s hate Your thoughts?

  68. Hi There
    Thanks for sharing… it’s an amazing post.

  69. M really angry at God for allowing bad things to happen in my life.I am a single mother of two girls aged 10 years and the other one is two weeks old.They both don’t have fathers as we speak.What hurt me the most is the recent breakup to the father of my newborn child as he doesnt wanna be part of my child’s life.M all alone and this pain doesn’t seem to get better.I have been unlucky with love since my adolescents years as I was always rejected and hurt.M independent and can take care of the child financially on my own bt y do I always go through this all the time?I do pray to God bt no results.m so confused and depressed with my life .

  70. I’ve written in a couple of times in the past past month, god doesn’t love us all.
    My story is like no other, two weeks ago I was at work and I had a finger ripped from
    my body and 8 years ago I was set on fire at work and I had a brother commit suicide 14 years
    ago. I was the one who told my Mother that she lost son. I lost my father at a very young age as well
    This is not made up for pity this has been my life .
    I thought the deal with god is I loved him and he loved me, so far I’ve loved him and only gotten trauma.
    I know you’ll want to tell me god loves me anyways. With love like that at this point I don’t need that kind of love.
    Who would ask to live in hell. I might pray for death but I’m not suicidal, I’ve had enough I would love to ask god for
    fair play but I wouldn’t wish this kind of life on anyone. The thing is I don’t pity myself , I do feel wronged.
    I talk to god daily and I pray that he can at lease take care of everyone in my family, why I was chosen to have a miserable
    life is beside me, but I have no control of this. THIS MESSAGE IS TO GOD WHY

  71. God is our heavenly father, when we find ourselves in a situation with no way out. i don’t even know if there are words to describe it. i don’t understand it. i don’t understand where is mine Dad in all of these. i do think in times when we find ourselves in situation such as those, God is only one we want to talk to. i can’t hear from Him now. i want to feel His presence so badly it is a very dark and confusing place to be.
    but i don’t need to hear from the author or anyone else, i need to hear from mine Heavenly Father.
    feel free to censor this comment, it is a very cowardly and nasty thing to do, which appears to me is practiced by many Christian bloggers.

  72. Praying for answers for you Tommy!! I am personally struggling as a lifelong Christian and member of the church with my relationship with God at the moment. God has closed several doors while I stayed quiet and strong in faith for the longest time. For years I have smiled when I didn’t want to and been there for others and have been still and waited for God. In the midst of the waiting I try to lead a life he would want me to, leaning on him while pursuing what I believe his plan for me is. I’m still waiting and trying not to be bitter and angry. I know God is in charge and it’s all about His timing. There really isn’t anything else I can do except wait. I try not to sit in anger, bitterness, and sadness because it only stirs up more anger, bitterness, and sadness so I just keep moving forward and try to stay busy. I would hate to miss the “yes” God has planned for me while wallowing in sorrow. I really hope the hardships and waiting are over soon, but if they’re not, I guess it’s all a part of his plan and I have no doubt He knows me better than I know myself and what I actually need to be the best version of myself, for me and for others.

  73. I’m so tired of waiting and trusting Him to work on this situation and make the stress to end, completely. I’m scared that this situation which is slowly breaking and killing me will leave me so broken that I won’t be able to pick up the pieces.

  74. When I read other people’s stories, I get even more worried. If God can let other people go through far much worse than I’m complaining about, where then does my hope for a better future lie. One thing about this trial phase that I don’t understand is why we have to go through it alone, without the presence of God, lonely and in pain. We as Christians are promised peace and solace but I feel so alone and angry. I hope for better days.

    • See now, seems like you got a lot to be grateful for when you hear others right?
      Guess what, when we read yours too, we think the same. So that’s where hope comes from, from gratitude. Because when we step into someone else’s shoes we realize it can be better, because we have better. We have the power to help, let us help.
      Worried about what? You trust the God that takes you? Then let Him take you.
      You are most definitely not alone. Choose the right ones. Sometimes God’s comfort comes in the shape of a hug from a dear and honest loved one. Sometimes it comes in the shape of goosebumps that the Spirit fills you up with so you know that the Holy Ghost is there with you.
      In whichever way it comes from, take it. Don’t be disgruntled about trying to figure out why you’re alone, that way you miss who’s with you. Embrace where you are, who’s with you and what you have.
      During trials, you will have at your disposal the right tools. Because God doesn’t set you up for failure. He sets you up to succeed. Faith has a lot to do with knowing we will win through the bad times.
      You will win. Take the win. Let yourself win. The right tool is right there with you. Don’t look sideways, or backwards. Look to your front. It is standing right there. Use it, love it (if it’s a person).
      Let go and let God. Don’t focus on trying to feel His presence, detach from worry and float. Actually feel Him. If you hold on to the idea, you won’t be able to see it. Let go of your expectations. His ways are mysterious, so embrace that. Let Him show you His face.
      Love from a sister,
      ❤️

  75. God gave us a life, he didn’t give us a good life. Some of us are pretty some are ugly some are rich and most are poor.
    Life unfair. Please explain why I’m supposed thank GOD for all my hardships. So far in 50 years the only things I’ve seen are a lost finger, being set on fire, a brother death, no father, and a bad mother, I’ve felt so many different types of pain. I’m not mad at god I don’t hate. I’m just disappointed. The life I wanted will never be, that’s not ok but these where the cards I was dealt. I’ve tried to make somethings out of nothing, on top of my hardships. I don’t blame GOD or satan on these things. If GOD wanted me to have a good great life than I would have a good great life. I’m just disappointed, I’m in pain right now psychology and mentally, where are you GOD. My whole life can’t be about suffering that would be unfair…

    • So you’re gonna settle for the cards you were dealt, rather than change the whole set?
      Listen we don’t get to choose how we get there, we just do.
      The thing with God is that where you grew up in you saw some things and now you know not to repeat. You know what not to do in order to fail.
      You wanna succeed? Talk to people who have. Not who has failed. Don’t let a generational curse, curse you.
      Don’t settle for it is what it is. Change it. Right now these just seem like words, but you want change? Change too. Get out of the comfort zone. If you came on this website and bothered to leave this comment, than perhaps you’re not as unaware and ungrateful.
      You don’t blame God? You blame life for the cards on the table? Guess what you have all that it takes to cause a change.
      You want different? Or you’re comfortable in where you are? See, try something else. And try again. You WILL get it. Respect timing. Walk what you talk. Bark and bite.
      Try it.
      From a sister with love.❤️

      • Yes I had success already I am a master electrician, but I’ve been set on fire I have skin grafts on my hands and arm and had a finger amputated in December. My Brother committed suicide 15 years ago was left at the alter 16 years ago. My father died when I was a kid and I had a unstable mother. and I still became a master electrician on my own. My complaint is life shouldn’t be thIs hard for some, there are a lot of people that truly have it worse than me… I have a strong will when I’ve failed I’ve only got back up and learned..
        Thank you for your response.

      • Generational curses are Old Testament, this side of the cross you are not under the curse of the law sister.

  76. I feel for anyone going thur trials and heart ache. My daughter and my son in law want a child. They have been married almost 17 years and it has not happened. I have been praying to God for a long time and so has my daughter and son in law. My daughter is very angry and hurt. I think she is angry with God. Please pray for them. We do not understand. I know Gods ways are not our ways. They both know Jesus died for their sins. Thank you.

  77. I am livid with God because it feels He has been ignoring my cries for help for at least the past 13 years and has let me suffer nonstop, day and night, in anguish, heartbreak, depression, PTSD, severe separation anxiety and suicide thoughts becaise of all the unanswered prayers being in such pain. Where is He?!?! Faith
    ..I’m supposed to have faith amd keep going while I’m dying inside, hardly making it. It feels like God is expecting more from me than I can give. I feel like I actually hate Him for letting me suffer so much.Maybe He doesn’t owe us anything, but He borne us all for a purpose, and He is the Originator of marriage, love, relationships, etc. He created us to love and be fruitful. None ofbusvasled to be here, get we are and without choice are forced to suffer. Who wants to wake up in pain everyday? Then pray to a God who doesn’t seem to care much less listen! I’m so fed up, I wish He’d take my life back because this is too much and too long of suffering.

    • Maybe it’s you not respecting your time. God respects our healing process, even when He has something for us, because He will only prepare us for battles (both of joy or trials), when we’re ready.
      Perhaps it’s not so much about Him not answering your prayer, but you not respecting your limitations and working on stretching your emotional depth and loving/trusting ability.
      Having faith means getting out of our comfort zone when He tells us to. Sometimes things are already happening for you, but you miss them because you’re not paying attention, you’re pointing at another direction.
      Faith is leaping in the dark. The world has so many lights and noises, most of the time, you let other lights distract you from the your OWN PERSONAL light and guide.
      It helps to close your eyes and cover your ears to men and our ways, to focus on God and His plan. Let go of any control you’re trying to keep, but also watch for faith without action is dead. Listen to His voice, follow His light. Forget man, our ways and how we teach you to cope. Figure out your way to cope. Follow your light. Let yourself be guided by your guide.
      Believe openly, hard and truthfully. Let your faith crush your fear. Faith has no room for doubt. Believe. Truly believe that it has already worked out. Get up and out of that comfort zone. Sometimes we pray for change, but we’re afraid to change. When’s the last time you tried something for the first time? Try that.
      You want different? Do different. Be different. Try new things, new ways. Don’t get stuck on one solution that isn’t penning out. When one plan doesn’t work, don’t change the goal, but do enrich the plan. Strategize, make goals and fulfill small ones every day. Take a step that leads you towards, not backwards. Repeating patterns gets you where you was, not where you wanna go.
      Know that you will have to walk back to where you started, so that you can retrace your steps and change them to break the patterns. Move in a different way to the same destination.
      Be good to yourself, be kind to your pain, have compassion, be understanding and forgiving. It works out because it’s always in motion. Don’t stop, don’t stagnate. KEEP GOING. Stand your course strongly. Stand for something and stick to it. Don’t give up ‘cause it seems hard. Believe it, when it falls into place you’ll be glad you decided to walk the walk, rather than talk and not actually carry plans through. It may be scary and seem hard, but it’ll be the greatest thing you’ve ever done. Once you stop settling, you’ll realize that always being ready to go is the best way to live.
      The spirit is free, be it.
      Love,
      From a sister❤️

  78. I’m frustrated at this time in my life. I’m frustrated with how far apart I got away from God lately. It seems that I can’t reach a breakthrough. I’ve been in a dry season for a long time. I’m jealous and envious of a dear friend and how her love for God has grown. God has blessed me with whatever I have asked for and yet I still complain and curse him. I miss praying and reading the word. I need confidence and confirmation about my situation and circumstances in my life. I miss Gods voice a lot.

    • Rlove, Your desire to recommit to your relationship with God is a blessing to hear. God loves you dearly and He knows your heart. He knows your pain and he hears your cry to renew your relationship and come full circle back to Him. We have an email mentor that would love to help you on your journey back to God. To sign up for one of our email mentors go to https://www.thehopeline.com/emailmentors/. You will be matched up with a mentor and you will be able to email back and forth with them for as long as you like about anything.

    • You know, sometimes we have it all out here but are dried up inside. Thieves come to steal, if there’s nothing, they go away.
      Pray for forgiveness, because you’ve been coveting what’s not yours. Remember that every relationship with God is unique; just like every parent has an intimate relationship with all their children.
      Also forgive yourself and allow yourself to enjoy and be grateful for what you have. Make this a happy time for you. Don’t feel like it’s happening for others or that it’s onlg good for them; make it good for you.
      It all starts with a choice, and God gave you the freedom to choose. Choose Him, choose to change and leave the past behind. Choose to be better.
      Let God work on you (within) so that later on He works with you.
      Sometimes He gives you the things you ask for, to show you what you really need and want. Because you think you know something, but it’s something else. He knows our heart better than us. Accept that.
      Be grateful, be forgiving and ask for forgiveness, and love freely. Everything will fall into place when you let go and let Him. He’s the only one that can put back what He breaks apart. Maybe you needed the dry and messy feelings to rebuild your faith, replenish your vitality and renew your whole self.
      Be patient, let go and let God.
      Love from a sister❤️

  79. I got angry at God because I felt like I should have peace once I got saved but I don’t think I did it right I’ve been struggling with doubt ever since. I here about how other people have been changed by him and I grow angry and bitter waiting for change to come. I feel like I’ve driven him away and now feel so empty inside like I’ve made to biggest mistake of my life. I just want to run to Jesus’s feet and beg for mercy but I don’t know how. People keep telling me what to do but I keep thinking, “I’ve tried that already and it didn’t work.” I wish I was never even born.

    • Stanley, You are not alone in what you are experiencing. We are proud of you for asking Jesus into your life. The Lord has not abandoned you. He will never abandon you. Once a person is saved, Satan tries to pull you away from God through our earthly struggles. The enemy will steal, kill and destroy to take you away from God. Satan is thrilled that you are growing angry and bitter at the Lord. Through the love and grace of Jesus, He forgives you and loves you beyond measure. Pour yourself in to the word. Sign up for a bible study, surround yourself with other believers. Fight Satan, by trying to overcome the anger and bitterness in your heart. You can have everlasting peace with Jesus in your heart, however, it will take some work and time to overcome. How about signing up for an email mentor to guide you through your journey with the Lord. It would be a man that you can email back and forth with for as long as you like and they will even do a bible study with you. To sign up go to: https://www.thehopeline.com/emailmentors/

    • Sometimes it’s the rushing that makes you despair even more. You know Jesus is already there. He knocked the first time not to tell you to hurry to Him, but to let you know He is there. Find your own rhythm. Try not to worry about how others did it, find your own way through it. Make your own room for forgiveness. He’s already there and has already forgiven you. He’s probably sitting with you, as you cry, comforting you. Let it all out. It’s okay. Let it all out. And when you’re done, ask Him to take your hand and help you get up. When you do, start from there. Every journey is different, because intimacy is as well. Kneel and cry. Don’t talk if you don’t know what to say yet; when the time to speak comes, trust and believe the Spirit will speak for you. For now be real, be raw. It’s okay. It’s your journey, relax your steps into it. Cry to Him, when you’re ready to go on, you will. Worry not about people’s time. Focus on finding your rhythm to get to Him. And remember that before God starts to work with you, He needs to work on you. And that only happens if you allow it. You’ve probably already allowed it, you’re just not quite ready for the next step. It’ll come. Have faith and be patient. You’ll know when you’re truly ready, not when people tell you what to do; but when the Spirit speaks and does for you.
      I hope you can finally see Him sitting right next to you holding you in His loving arms. God bless you, love!
      With love from your sister❤️

  80. Hello neighbors,
    I hope that whoever is reading this message feels the comfort of the Lord.
    Yes, frustration gets the best of us. We are not as patient as He is, but we work on that. Let us work on that.
    Everything we ask for and manifest, will come to pass. We just have to attentive to see it. Otherwise we miss it.
    Your blessing is here. Let go of what no longer serves you, and accept what is new and better for you.
    They say good things pass quickly. Remember that the best is yet to come. Be prepared, be faithful, be trustful and trust the Lord.
    During hardships, He is your shoulder. He will be there and He will provide. During joyful moments, enjoy and be grateful. He is also there and He will protect your blessings.
    What He has blessed, let no one curse. And He has blessed YOU.
    With love from a sister,
    ❤️

  81. I believe in God, in Jesus but I’m honestly mad or disappointed at them, right now. I have played by the rules; I have tried my best to live and do as He commands. No, I’m not perfect but I remember His words when I feel like “not being good”. I put my other cheek, I forgive as many times as Jesus would have to, I always ask, what would Jesus do? And try to do as He did. But I feel that my prayers are unheard. I feel there’s no sense in talking to Him if He’s not willing to listen. I know He’s no genie. I know it’s His will, not ours.., but where is the peace of His presence in our lives, in our families? What I ask of Him is so small, compared to his magnificence. I feel I need a timeout but I still fear to offend Him.

    • Carla, We commend you for being a faithful servant to the Lord, even when you feel like not being good. That takes a lot of strength and He knows the struggle you are going through. The Lord will never abandon you, even if he seems distant at times. During your darkest moments, continue to hold on to the HOPE that Jesus is walking with you and nothing can separate you from His love. God is in control This is the same God who created the entire universe. He knows what he is doing. And He loves you and is holding you in the palm of His hand. We have to trust that He is doing what is best for us and that He will take care of us. We encourage you to continue talking about what you’re going through. How about signing up for an email mentor. It would be a woman that you can email back and for with for as long as like about anything. To sign up for an email mentor go to: https://www.thehopeline.com/emailmentors/ Also, would you like to be part of a community that is praying LIVE for you on Facebook? You can find out more here: https://www.thehopeline.com/theprayershow/

  82. I too am mad @ God and yet I KNOW Him, I don’t just believe because I was raised that way, I have been physically touched (& I mean in a visceral way) I have seen His miracle with my husband’s cancer. After my husband passed away ALL of my prayers and conversations with God were centered on my 3 children. My oldest son & his wife (in their 50’s) are now full time parents to 4(age 2 to 11) grandchildren, they need His strength, guidance, and health to finish this journey. My daughter who suffers from competing health issues, pancreatic blockage, resulting in 50% removal, eventual burn out & now Type 1 diabetic plus hemochromatosis and has been giving when she had nothing to give to others with her time, her home, her food, her clothing and all she wants is some PEACE with her second husband who is now a statistic oxycotin addict from a back injury. She can only do so much heavy lifting in her marriage and she has prayed as have I and there is no end in sight and she can not hold on much longer…..WHERE IS GOD right now, where is He?

    • Sister Rintha,
      I don’t have the answers, but I care for you and I truly understand how you feel. I have known our God for over two decades and I have felt forsaken by him for much of that time. Even though I know not to trust my feelings, the pain is still real and sometimes it screams so loud that I lose my grip on the truth and I slip and fall.
      We both know all the pat answers: “we have the hope of eternal life in Heaven”, “it’ll all work together for our good”, “we need to be thankful for the blessings we have”, yadda yadda yadda….
      But there is one thing that consoles my heart more than anything else can, and that is God’s wisdom and intelligence displayed in creation. When God appeared to Job in a tornado (tornados fascinate me), he pointed Job to all these things so as to say, “look Job, I’ve got you son. I suspended the earth in open space. I set the boundaries of the vast oceans. These things took great knowledge and understanding that you can’t even begin to comprehend. That same knowledge and understanding is involved in how I oversee all of the details of your life.”
      Biochemistry and astrophysics have always fascinated me. The way the electrons of an atom swirl around the nucleus at nearly the speed of light, the way the gravity exerted by the sheer mass of the sun holds the Earth in a perfect balance with its centrifugal force as we revolve around the sun. The examples are endless. His intelligence is demonstrated from the most infinitesimal subatomic particle, all the way up to the vast, immeasurable expanse of the entire universe. This is God’s answer to our great father of the faith- Job, who is our example of perseverance in the midst of great suffering and injustice.
      Dear sister, I pray that the glory of His infinite wisdom and understanding would shine through everything you see, everywhere you go, both for you, your daughter, and her husband who needs hope too in the midst of his opiate dependency and back pain.
      I love you sister, and I hope my words encourage you not to lose heart, though the suffering is long and your heart aches with waves of grief that only God knows.
      There is a song that touches my heart deeply by Michael Card called “The Silence of God”. Another one is “You’re gonna be okay” sung by Jenn Johnson of Bethel Music. I hope you listen to these beautiful songs and are encouraged. I look forward to hugging you in Heaven as we enjoy our reward.

      • Hey, I’m not the person you replied to, but just wanted to say thank you so much for posting this. I really needed to hear it. I’m going to check out both of those songs you’d mentioned too.

  83. My wife lost out to cancer aged just 54 years. We stood on the Word and Gods promises, knowing our place in Christ and dealing with any blockages such as unforgivness. I honestly feel betrayed by a God who I thought was concerned , and promises healing. Angry and betrayed!

    • God kept his word. Your wife is no longer suffering. And if she was a believer in Jesus Christ and was saved according to the Holy Bible, she will be at peace. The hard part is for you to live without her. The only way to do that is with Jesus, the Holy Bible and a support group. Hang in there.

  84. I really don’t know what to do with my life anymore besides giving up and killing myself. I’ve been chasing my dream to play pro soccer since 6th grade. I’ve been working hard saving up for many pro tryouts only to see myself fail and fail. I’m 19 turning 20 in May. I’ve always been talented in sports yet it doesn’t seem like God is using my gifts at all. Like I’m talented for no reason. Why doesn’t he help me live my dreams? Am I just born on this earth to just live a regular 9-5 job? I’m tired of this pain. Since it gave me depression seing myself fail and fail, I have no energy to do much. I’m running out of options. I want to just die, I’m such a loser and a failure. A waste of talent…..God seems so cruel for letting so much pain and tears in my life. Crying for help praying everyday reading his word doesn’t WORK!!!!!!IM TIRED OF THIS!!! WHERE IS GOD!!!! I cant help but to be so angry and question God! Why me???? I dont seel drugs I dont do anything bad yet theres people who are criminals and succeed……why doesn’t he help his own children? God is supposed to be a good father? Yet I’m depressed and crying everyday?? Nobody understands my pain…..

    • Caesar, We understand and want you to know that you are not a failure. We commend you on your hard work and your dedication to stay on the right path. It is hard to understand why things happen the way they happen. Why our dreams do not happen. You are grieving and hurt that your dream to play pro soccer is not happening. Grief takes on many emotions. Anger, depression and frustration are part of the grief you are experiencing. It will take time for you to understand that amazing things are in store for you. The hurt is too strong, right now for you to see this. Please do not give up. Please take the time to see what happens. Please know that this is not God’s fault. God is love and He loves you just the way you are. You are wonderfully and beautifully made in His eyes. He still has great plans for you. They may not be your plans, however, they are His plans. Your anger with God is part of your grief. Now is the time to reach out to Him. Take time to read His word and have quiet time with Him. Open your heart to experience His deep love for you. We know great things are in store for you. This is a good blog to read: https://www.thehopeline.com/why-do-bad-things-happen/ And please stay and know you are not alone — and there is help for people who are feeling suicidal. You can call the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline at 1-800-273-8255 or text “START” to 741-741. Head here for a list of crisis centers around the world.

    • Your still VERY YOUNG! I played soccer and even traveled to England to play. I gave it up in high school to play football. I wanted to be pro kicker in the NFL. I was offered a tryout with the Carolina Panthers. After months of training and not hanging with my friends, I get to the tryout and they already signed a kicker. They didn’t even call me to save me a trip! I kept trying until I got hurt soo bad, I had to give up playing. My injuries were soo bad. I was really angry to. What I realized later (and you will to) was that my playing got me into the front office side as I worked with the San Diego Chargers and then with NFL Films in Super Bowl 37. I was on the sidelines at the Super Bowl and getting paid! God had another plan for me. I didn’t like it or understand it at first but it did become clear as I matured. Keep trying and keep practicing. Ask God for guidance along the way. Maybe you will end up coaching or working for a team some day. Don’t give up but keep an open mind. What took me forever to finally understand was that I was not good enough at kicker. But I still was involved in football and at the highest level!

      • I almost agreed with you. My question is would you still feel the same if you had NO NFL opportunity. Most people here had one door close period. No other door. Nothing.
        You are strengthened by God because he gave you another door. Tell me about your faith when the door closes and you are stuck with broken dreams and empty prayers.

    • Maybe God needs you to accomplish something else right now, and that’s why you can’t move forward with your dream at the moment…? It might help to ask Him to grant you patience, and to strengthen your faith in Him so you can trust with all your heart that He knows what He is doing, and that he 100% has your best interests in mind.
      I always found the poem, “Let Go and Let God” to be helpful at times when I feel like you’re feeling right now; I’ll leave it here in case you find it helpful too:
      “As children bring their broken toys with tears for us to mend,
      I brought my broken dreams to God, because He is my friend.
      But then, instead of leaving Him at peace to work alone,
      I hung around and tried to help, with ways that were my own.
      At last I snatched them back and cried, ‘How can you be so slow?’
      ‘My Child,’ He said, ‘what could I do? You never did let go.'”

  85. I don’t know how to start. After I graduated from University I promised God that I’m going to serve Him. I agreed to marry to a person who is 10 years older than me, poor, not well educated just because he was a pastor. Before I get married, I fasted and prayed that God make our marriage if he is the right person. When I got married I lived the hardest life ever with him. I was physically and emotionally abused by him. I found out that he is one of the most selfish people I’ve ever known. I used to ask God why did that happened to me. He was so stingy that we use not to have enough food. I had many questions to God. There are many other things that I prayed and fasted for and were not answered. I don’t know why.

    • That’s really hard I’m sorry. I don’t know if you’ll even get this message but I’ll be praying for you

  86. I hope you are still out there. Your only 20. Just a kid starting life, maybe the reason you’re not playing pro soccer is because you are to teach your love of the game to others. Maybe become a coach. There are tons of people who may need you to show them how to play and share your passion for the game. If you are still thinking of suicide, get help. Go to your local hospital. Suicide is never the answer to a frustrating situation. My husband killed himself when he was 27, left me with two babies to raise by myself. Think about your family when you have suicidal thoughts. Because, you might get relief from your pain, but you will absolutely destroy them. Its been 16 years this year since my husband took his life. His children never knew him. He took that chance away from them. He shattered my heart into billions of pieces. And i still have a hole in my heart for him and i always will. He didn’t consider me or our kids or his mom, dad, brothers, best friends. The people who loved him. Please seek help!

  87. I have lost my pet after losing a baby. My pet that stayed by my side while I recovered, my best friend. You say god owes me nothing, but I would never adopt a pet and then owe it nothing. I decided that that pet was mine to take care of, that means making sure its happy. If I brought a child into this world, I am smart enough to know that I owe it food, clothing and someplace safe to live. I would never let my child suffer needlessly if I could do something about it. Im not talking a new car or a tv, but having to not hurt this badly. The truth is that god can fix it, he works miracles and im his child, I begged him for help. He did not answer.

    • Agreed. Sorry for your loss. People are so quick to shoot verses and lies they heard because they don’t want to feel pain.

  88. Gods will is that we are healed, period. Are job is to believe which I have for 13 years for my wife who cry’s out in extreme pain every night. She calls on jesus “…and he will answer?” No, is the answer. I have believed, fasted and prayed, laid hands on, taken communion with her, anointed with oil, others have laid hands on her. According to the word of god all I have too do is believe. Well since I have been given the choice to believe in the name of jesus, the father and holy spirit and the word of god I choose not to believe now. I am very angry at god because he is a liar. Those of you who want to throw scriptures at me don’t bother, I have been a bible believer and studying the word for 40 years. Your job is not to judge people (most Christians don’t realize that and do it anyway just like the heathens do) besides I don’t care what you think of me. And now I don’t care what god thinks of me, which sucks because I do want to believe in him, so I will be going to hell now because there is no truth anywhere.

    • Your testamony of your perseverance for 13 years of your wife’s sickness is a fact of how much you truly love God. Steady yourself and think about what you a re saying and doing. I will tell you straight forward that your relationship with your wife is no more special or important than anyone else’s. GOD DOESNT OWE US A THING. I have 11 years of prayer for reconciliation. I’ve been mad, yelled blamed and refused to carry on. It doesnt change Gods perfect plan. Time is not relevant to God. Only us.

      • Kenneth:
        Compassion please. The last thing he needs to hear is God owes him nothing.
        He already said he knows the good book but I challenge you:
        What scripture did God say he owes us nothing? No where in the 66 books I read did he ever say that. You said that. You heard that from another liar and added it to your arsenal aka inability to read for your self. Now read revelation where he forbids adding to the words of the book.
        He said knock and I will answer. He said I give good gifts to his children. Not stones when they ask for fish.
        He’s asking the same God who healed Peter’s ear. The same God who healed the beggar who tugged at his garment. The same God who stirred the pool in Bethesda.
        Compassion please.

  89. I have been saved since grade over 45 years.
    I have always had good health. Now I am falling apart I have 5 autoimmune diseases with a possible 6th.
    To top it all off I took a hard fall on the bathroom floor.
    My butt and back hurt so badly.
    My mobility has always been poor. Now this fall has exacerbated the mobility issue as well as my pain issues.
    I had just gotten to the point with medication where my pain level was bearable.
    I just got finished railing and not too nicely.
    I’m tired I just want God to listen to my prayers and stop the falls and pain.
    I really wish my prayers would get to his ears.

  90. I have a hard time blaming everything on Satan, he is created by God so why is he the one responsible. God also cursed the Earth when Adam sinned. Why is that when God himself left the gate open and Adam was fooled into sinning. This seems excessive and does not seem like we should be praising when God himself cursed us. Jesus says he has overcome the world and forgive me, but the evidence of this does not exist in a world filled with disease and evil. You say that is in heaven and not here, so only in death will we see Gods ultimate goodness? Prayers seem to fall on deaf ears and the war of good and evil rages. God is creator of all, good and bad then.

    • Colin:
      Explore your insight further for a deeper truth. Use that to build your agency. Cognitive dissonance is strong in you. Keep asking questions. Your truth awaits you.

  91. I constantly pray to God as I cannot do anything without Him. I work on an outbound collections call centre team and I really do not like it. All the other advisors are able to secure payments except me. They do not even pray to God for anything, but everything comes smoothly to them. I pray, every minute of the day, but still my prayer to even secure a small amount as a payment never, ever gets answered. I will never be able to achieve any target at this rate. Earlier, all my prayers were answered but not now, though…I can’t even find a better job that pays more, only ones that pay less….I really can’t understand what has happened.

  92. The quote on #5 is incorrect. God allows things He knows will
    be too much for us and it’s only through relying on Him that we overcome those trials. He delights in doing the impossible through us but we have to acknowledge that we are not enough on our own or apart from Him. Apart from God we are weak and evil.

    • So are you saying that we deserve what we get so god can show off? I’d love to hear you say that to someone who lost a loved one in a mass shooting.
      The part you are not getting and what everyone is saying is that he’s doing the impossible through people who never prayed, worshipped, or picked up a bible and the ones who are faithful suffer.
      He is an infinite god who created limited resources so some can and some can not.
      We are not weak and evil. Someone taught you that (bible) and you agreed. We have judged ourselves and other people as good and bad. There is only truth and lies.

  93. Occasionally God will ask biblical, yet difficult things of us that wreck our plans and leave us in a worse place than we started for a period of time. This is nothing to do with some ailment, bonus we didn’t receive, or seemingly random tragedy. This is a much more personal disappointment as it comes as a directive straight from God to us specifically via the Holy Spirit, prayer and confirmation from others. I don’t think you can blame that one on Satan, or can you chalk it up to something you expected God to give you. I consider it something directly from God you did not expect Him to ask of you, not some extenuating circumstance indirectly linked to Him. This makes for a tougher pill to swallow.

  94. Perhaps he just doesn’t care. Everyone wants to paint a pretty picture but have you considered the possibility that if you’re God and you dont like something you can just change it. To quote Habakkuk, “how long must we suffer while the wicked continues to prosper”. Only to get some dissertation on how folks were put on slippery slopes. How does any of that help me? Or so long winded speak about how he laid the foundations of the earth etc. That wasn’t my question, I didnt ask how God made the earth I asked for his help. In the end you have to wonder why? How many sacrifices must we make while God glorifies or otherwise ignores us like an absentee landlord. It’s funny how we’re condemned by God for wanting a hope yet he sure let’s the wicked have everything they want. How do any of you know that God won’t forgive them in the end? What reward in heaven should we expect to receive in the next life for our sacrifices here. Essentially you’re advocating for us to stop complaining and suffer in silence while denying us any right to experience or react to pain. In the end, if it really mattered he’d intervene as he did in Egypt for the Jews. Instead we’re constantly told we’re wicked unworthy fodder and to stop complaining. You know instead of all the wishy-washy garbage God could….you know….just speak. But I digress, the only people God seems to be “helping” is the wicked. If he’s really in charge then perhaps he could get off his butt and start helping those that care enough to try instead of letting everyone who doesnt even give him a second thought run rough shot over the rest of us. Just a thought…

    • I totally agree with you! So many tragic things have happened to me and my family. And yet all the evil people who perpetrated hate and step on others or have money, have happy lives while the rest of us suffer. If God is allegedly so powerful and omnipotent, and we are supposed to blame Satan for bad things happening to us, then why doesn’t God stop these murderers, child molesters, rapists, corporations who lay off people 50 & older, so they wind up taking their lives because they run out of money? God never intervenes. Some people suffer more than Jesus did when he was crucified. Look at all the beheadings? This world is disgusting and so difficult to live in. My husband took his life to save ours. I got cancer. My daughter got very ill, and she is a wonderful child. My parents were good people and they both suffered in dying…. we lost our precious dogs because of vet error. Where is the punishment for those who ruin others lives??? We’ve lost our home, can’t find anything like the one we lived in nearly 30 yrs. We built it and took my parents in to care for them. We only did good. The last straw is now. I prayed two and three times daily for years on end, and things just kept getting worse and worse. I have an ex friend who puts the evil eye on people, and their lives get destroyed while she goes on living a happy life…the same for all these high level executives ordering the firing of older employees. May they all rot in hell. If God can’t stop Satan, then maybe Satan is the one with the real power and we should be asking him for help! #SoMadAtGod!

      • Sofia, We are deeply sorry that you have gone through so much tragedy in your life. The world and perhaps you have already given Satan the real power, without realizing it. We can either go through this life with God or without him. He gives us this choice.
        Jesus prayed, “O righteous Father, although the world has not known you, yet I have known you; and these have known that you sent me; and I have made your name known to them, and will make it known, so that the love with which you loved me may be in them, and I in them.”
        You might find yourself asking, “Why is life so hard?” Without God, humanity is easily drawn into hatred, racism, sexual abuse, murdering each other. Jesus said, “I came that you might have life, and have it more abundantly.” For more on why do bad things happen, go to this blog, https://www.thehopeline.com/why-do-bad-things-happen/ maybe it help you with the feelings you are having towards God.

    • My thoughts are 100% in agreement with you. I hope you can consider being an agent in your life and removing things from your life that no longer serve you. I did and I am no longer as angry. The harder second part is accepting responsibility for everything. No more fate, hope, and gods will. No more torture of wondering if He will help you but it falls on your shoulders whether it be good or bad.

  95. I’m of the belief that his does not care about some, if he even exists. I lost my job unjustly, haven’t found a new one, am broke, and about to lose my carm in spite of “praying” and NOTHING happening as usual. My lady friend chides me for not going to church with her, but why bother? Nothing comes of it but a wasted 2 hours I could have been sleeping or looking for a job. This is ridiculous, I’m too old for this, & I want to kill myself.

    • Hans, You are going through a really tough time that seems like there is no end to the pain and suffering you are enduring. You feel betrayed and forsaken. These are feelings and sometimes feelings become stronger than the truth. The truth is God loves you and he will never abandon you. He feels the pain you are feeling. He feels the hopelessness you are feeling. Continue to tell Him what you are feeling. No matter how old you are, you are God’s child and He does not want you to hurt. He wants you to endure and overcome your struggles. You are strong, you can overcome. You can do this! Do not give up. Your life matters and the Lord believes in you and so do we. We have some resources we can give you to help you with these thoughts. We have a partner that you can help you through your thoughts of suicide. We are emailing you with some information to help you so please check your email. If you need someone to talk to right now, call the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline at 1.800.273.8255 or chat online with them at https://suicidepreventionlifeline.org/chat/. You can reach the Crisis Text Line 24/7 by texting “START” to 741-741 too.
      Here is a list of additional suicide prevention resources https://www.thehopeline.com/suicide-prevention-resources

  96. I’m tired of feeling bad. Of feeling hopeless. I lost both parents within a year of each other, I have lost best friends to death as well, I have had people who I thought cared about me leave and I continue to try and do the right thing in life and keep God in my heart and in my mind. I feel isolated and alone. There are many nights when I lay down to sleep that I hope I never wake up in the morning. I try to leave it in God’s hands but I grow tired of seeing the same results and that joy that was once in my life is gone. I feel like I’m being punished for my bad choices in life or that I’m just not on his list of priorities. I’m trying to hang on but I’m getting closer to the end of that rope everyday. They teach history and math in school, they even teach how stars are born. But they never show you how to deal with depression.

  97. Yesterday, when I came home from work, I found our cat, Sophie, on the floor. At first, I though a nail had gotten caught in the carpet, but it was much worse, she had no feeling in her back legs. She was almost 18 years old and had been in failing health. Since January, we have counted each day with her as a blessing, as she had a lung mass, which medication cleared up. She had been on thyroid medication for awhile and getting skinnier. I prayed we would not have to take her to the vet and have her put down like 4 out of the 5 other cats we have had over the years. I bargained with God about giving up this and that if only He would save us this anguish. We did take her to a vet and she is gone and I buried her next to her sister out in the backyard. We have been home today helping each other cope, my wife and I. I am adamant that another pet I do not want, but she will want another. God, please forgive me for being mad, and give me the peace only you can and let this not be a contention between my wife and myself. I have had a rock in the pit of my stomach since last night and need it gone.

    • I don’t know if you will see this post but I am going through almost the same thing. We moved into a new home and I had four cats. After the move, one of my kitties who was only about 6 years old and who I have a very strong bond with stopped eating and very rapidly lost a lot of weight. She was a very small cat to begin with so losing a few pounds was detrimental. It turned out she had hepatic lipidosis and her liver was failing. The vet (filled with greed) wanted over a $1,000.00 to put in a feeding tube. I only had about half the total amount and I didn’t have any credit cards or other money to cover the rest of the amount for her surgery. The vet (and I called numerous of them) refused to work with us for the remainder of the costs. They all referred us to a Pet Credit agency which would of taken too long to get approved. We were VERY short on time. We tried force feeding her by hand but it was too late. She passed away in my wife’s arms on 8/19 at 12:45 am. I was soooo mad at the vets, myself and God. But then I went to duckduckgo.com and typed in the search engine, “I am mad at God for taking away my cat.” It brought me here and the first post I see is from you also upset about the loss of your kitty Coincidence? I don’t think it is. That small sign has comforted me but I miss my fur-baby very, very much. She truly was my companion, my friend. I have never had a bond with a cat like I did with this little, sweet and loyal kitty. She followed me everywhere, she slept beside me and if I sat down she would instantly jump up and sit on my lap for me for as long as I would sit with her. She was a beautiful, kindred spirit and I miss her so much. I don’t understand why this had to happen but I pray that God will show me in His own time. I am trying not to be mad at God but it’s difficult because I loved her so much and she was taken away from my family so soon. I thought she would be with me easily for another decade and now she’s gone. It hurts.
      I am sorry for your loss and I am glad that you had a 18 years to spend with your fur-baby. I hope one day, when it is our time to cross that rainbow bridge that all our fur-babies and loved ones will be there to greet us.
      God bless.

  98. Please pray for me. I bounce back and forth between anger and sorrow. My husband left me a month and a half ago. I haven’t seen him or my 2 step daughters since then. Half of my life has been ripped away from me and I feel I have no control. I am a Christian and I do know that God’s ways are higher than ours. I still hurt. I ask for peace and it doesn’t come. I ask God to reveal what I should be learning from this and nothing. I ask God to make the devil flee from me so that I am not tormented with horrible thoughts but it doesn’t happen. Why would God lead me in to a marriage and then let it fail? Doesn’t God hate divorce? I was thankful for my marriage. I gave God the glory for it. I prayed for my husband. I feel like I followed God’s rules and it still wasn’t good enough.

    • Hi, Leann
      My heart goes out to you. I feel your pain. My wife, too, wanted a divorce and custody of my 3 children. I lived 14 months on a couch in my brother’s 2nd bedroom. It was a very difficult time in my life. I struggled. God never abandoned me even though, at times, I wanted to die. Please let me encourage you. God is LOVE. He promises never to leave you, never to abandon you. Sadly, the decision your husband made was his. It was selfish…sinful perhaps. He will have to deal with the consequences of his decision. In the meantime, I encourage you to read the Word, pray, be around other women who can lift you up and encourage you. I will pray for you.

  99. I don’t think God owes me anything I just wish he gave me a better life I am a Christian man that has always had strong faith even though I probably should have lost it as a child every day since birth has been a fight I even attempted suicide more then I could keep track of every time something prevented it but going in adults hood even moving several states away my life hasn’t been any much better only good thing has been my precious daughter but I still feel like my life is worse and she would be better without me I just cursed God and said I hate him which my 32 years of life have I ever done I dont even use or like the word hate it just shows how fed up I am I don’t even know how to feel anymore I dont even know why I’m on this or writing this

    • William, You have been through much in your life. The pain and hurt you are going through is hard. You struggle daily and God still loves you. He still loves you when you curse him and blame him. Just as you love your precious daughter and she is your only joy in life….God finds joy in you and He loves you. You are His creation. He is strong when you are weak, He is there during all of the pain and struggles you have experienced. Please never give up, keep seeking the Lord. He is good and so are you. How about signing up for one of our email mentor’s? It would be a man that you can email back and forth with for as long as you like about anything. Your mentor will listen, encourage and will be there when your down about yourself. To sign up go to: https://www.thehopeline.com/emailmentors/

    • William,
      Please, don’t ever let yourself think for one second your daughter will be better off without you. She won’t! She will live a lifetime of PAIN if you were to leave her commit suicide. One of my very close friends committed suicide and it changed not only me but his 3 daughters forever and in a very difficult and painful way. I know you don’t want to cause your precious baby any pain.
      Just remember, your daughter loves you unconditionally and a daughter NEEDS her father to help protect her and guide her in this difficult world. Live for her and your sacrifice will not go unnoticed by God.
      I will pray for you and please remember to pray for me as I am going through a difficult time myself. I have a post further down expressing my own pain.
      God Bless! Do not give up hope 🙂

  100. I honestly don’t know what I’m doing wrong but honestly I feel like God’s punishing me or wants me to pray harder. First of all I needed to get good grades since I am in my final year at high school. I have prayed and studied the bible daily and asked for help countless of times but I still got a C- and C in two of my important assessments. Honestly seeing this did destroy my spirit and will to continue since my overall average for all my subjects will be C and yeah. I don’t know what I’m doing wrong and I pretty much cursed God and rebuked him from my life but there’s this voice in my head that keeps persuading me to talk to God but I honestly don’t feel like it since I quit in life like I’m seriously done. PLEASE HELP

    • Azariah, Never give up! Your last year of high school comes with a lot of pressure, as you stated. We are proud of you for working hard in school to make good grades and understand your disappointment. It may seem like God is punishing you, however God loves you! He has fatherly affection for you. He cares deeply for you. He is taking great pains so that you will share his holiness (Hebrews 12:10) because he wants you to be as happy as possible and enjoy the peaceful fruit of righteousness (Hebrews 12:11). Please know that you are not alone. A HopeCoach would be glad to chat online with you about how you are feeling and give you some resources to help you. To chat go to http://www.thehopeline.com/gethelp

  101. If God wants me to find him and his will, why has he turned my life into a long game of hide-and-seek and made himself impossible to locate? Why does he always play hard to get? An earthly father loves his children, wants to be with them and play with them. He doesn’t hide from them and make them do all the work in the relationship. Why isn’t God more like that?
    And I know God isn’t responsible for any of my hardships and trials. I simply want him to help me understand why, and not let me suffer in the silence of his neverending absence.

    • God isn’t serving you. Why remain attached to a belief that doesn’t serve you in return. Please ignore anyone who says God doesn’t owe you anything. If what you are doing doesn’t serve you in some capacity you can change that situation.
      I know if no woman who would stay with an abusive husband. Are we not the bride to God?

      • Very well said.

  102. I see you didn’t reply to my question concerning God shirking his responsibilities. Well, answer me this, who’s responsible for a child born into an abusive family? The God who decided to put them there, or the parents He knew would treat the child poorly? I ask because I was one such individual. When I was younger I dared ask “Why did God do this to me?” The reply I got was “Don’t blame God for what your parents did”. When I pointed out that God was the one who put me there, knowing what would happen, I was told to stop my blasphemy. If you’re going to answer my question with platitudes, just delete, because I’ve heard them all.
    As for the hell I spent my youngest years in, you wouldn’t believe me if I told you. No one else who was a so called “Christian” has yet.

    • Wayne,
      We are sorry you have gone through this incredible amount of pain in your life. It is understandable that you are experiencing anger toward God. What we would like to do is to offer you an email mentor that you could talk about this long-term. It would be someone that you can email with back and forth about what you described in your comment or anything else that is going on in your life. To sign up for an email mentor, please go to: https://www.thehopeline.com/emailmentors/

    • I get that.
      God can look down the timeline of life and see how things will play out. Makes a decision contrary to our prayers and we are stuck with the result.
      Free will my a77.

  103. I understand all this, I have had trials since the day I was born, my family don’t love me, been in and out of care all my life, been bullied domesticly abused raped lost children, lost homes, I’ve even overcome drug an alcohol abuse for 10 or so years now, failed relationships, always taking on other people’s problems, and I’ve been in a relationship with someone for 4years now, his partner died before I came along, I love him very much but I’ve had nothing but grief from his kids who she left behind selfishly from alcohol abuse that’s how she died, I’ve been regular to the grave with them, I’ve took abuse been penalised by his an my family,we have been deserted by everyone, we want to get married because I love God an don’t want to live in sin, I have prayed everyday for situation to change, social services were involved an he could’ve lost his daughter but I worked hard to help an now after 2 long years there not involved now, but all he does is argue with me an blames me for our pottless situation,I’ve given up my home everything to become a family for that little girl an when we argue he thinks I have other plans which I don’t, I pray everyday for God to help but situation has got worse, I want to get married I want to move from his home that he lived in with his partner,it’s not my home an I feel I’m living in her shoes,it’s not my life, I have strong faith always and I’m now losing it,I’m angry with God an that bothers me and I can’t run away as have nothing or noone and I thought I was being taught something by God but I feel it’s punishment, where is he because I’m starting to wonder

  104. I have prayed an prayed, we can’t afford to get married so we live in sin, I am depressed, we have nothing an noone, God doesn’t answer me, I’m angry as I threw my Bible across the room an that upsets me even more, I’ve lost all hope in everything, hold steadfast, what kind of advice is that when all u get since the day of your birth an for 42 years be in constant pain an battle,without love without happyness without dreams without hope because everyone u have hope it gets shattered just as quick, it’s not god’s fault but when your prayers for years an years come to nothing u start to lose hope an dreams, might aswel stay depressed or do away with yourself in this life coz what’s the point,I’m always gonna have nothing an noone an be a nobody,always slagged off,abused an ignored,might aswel die

    • Romans 2:11 says “god has no respect of persons.” Has anybody seen the meme where there are two different fed up wives who evict their husbands by throwing their stuff out of the house? The one woman who was impulsive just threw her husband’s clothes out of the house and all over the lawn whereas the second woman folded up her former spouse’s clothes in nice, neat piles and carefully placed them on the front step before changing the locks to the house. The first woman took back her abusive husband whereas the second lady decided she’d had enough abuse and neglect thus making her decision based on some level of poise and rationality. What the bible calls “pride,” which is also one of the seven sins, I call Self-Respect. “god owes (me) nothing,” not even respect? Well, I guess that’s my cue to leave.
      “I don’t fear hell and I don’t care if I get into heaven.”
      – Katharine Hepburn

  105. All I know is that I can’t find any love for God and Jesus. I never had much, and now I have even less, and my “life” just keeps getting worse. I’m disabled and in chronic pain . When I relate everything that has happened to me, most people don’t believe me. And I feel that God is doing all this to me. I’m a sinner but not as bad as others by far. I don’t have any faith that God will help me. All I expect is more pain and unhappiness. I barely exist on my $900 a month disability. People tell me to go out and do something. I can’t afford cable for the TV so what am I supposed to do. I’m sick of all this and just wish God would leave me alone. I really don’t expect to ever have any hope

    • Ask God to give you mote love for Him ❤

  106. In fact, to be a true Christian is not an easy thing. It takes real courage, faith, and love to stay with God even if everything seems to fall apart. Difficult moments come to tests our faith and willingness to be an overcomer. When prayers go unanswered it doesn’t mean you should give up on God. Why?; Because God’s time is the best.

  107. I have a bitterness to God now because a person in my life has been sick with cancer, double knee replacement and now he has lost his job from not being able to work and the doctor not releasing him and them stopping his disability leaving him with no money to live. At least I can do some to help him. I have prayed to God for his help for him
    Nothing and total silence. People who are evil seems like have better lives and less pain

    • This is truly how I feel as well. My mother has been diagnosed with pancreatic cancer and has been unwell since June 2019. Life has just been wave after wave of anxiety , stress and hurt. Apart from her being in different kinds of pain and discomfort.
      I’ve been living life praying and keeping positive but I just feel I am running thin and I am sooooo tired.
      I am tired of being the breadwinner
      I am tired of having to raise the kids and take care of my mother.
      I am tired of having to make sure everything is okay.
      I am tired of having to go to work and perform like my life is just fine.
      I am tired of having to put my dreams on hold.
      I am tired of pretending like this is the same mother who never emotionally and verbally abused me at one point. Who used to say the most cutting words.
      I am tired of being the bigger person.
      I am just tired of everything.
      I just feel so frustrated with this situation.

  108. I was so mad at God today I cried my eyes out and said ” IM NEVER PRAYING EVER AGAIN!! And I meant it..Here I am reading this article bawling my eyes out. And praying…😤😭 No He doesn’t owe me anything, my life can be much worse. Actually despite my circumstances at the moment, I am Blessed. But some days I feel life squeezing the life out of me. I pray, and pray and pray. I get angry when I feel abandoned and alone/ helpless. I really needed to read this. On to another day….🙏

    • Hello Monica, Thank you for your comment. We are encouraged to hear how our article helped you. We want you to know you are not alone. We are here to listen and help. If you’re seeking prayer, we have a prayer site with prayer champions that will pray for you at https://www.theprayerzone.com/. We also think you would benefit from having an email mentor. It would be someone that you can email back and forth with for as long as you like about anything. You can sign up for an email at: https://www.thehopeline.com/emailmentors/. And lastly, we’d love for you to be a part of our community that is praying live on Facebook 4 times a week. To find out more go to: https://www.thehopeline.com/theprayershow/
      We believe in you and so does God! Keep fighting and never give up.

  109. How did I stop being angry at God? I stopped at step one and then I repented. I felt better. Then I found this article and felt confirmation. There are a lot of people hurting in the comments. Mostly because we chased God and He couldn’t be caught.
    I dont have words to say to bring peace because I, too, am asking the same questions about why I ‘feel’ abandoned. But one thing I can say is that everytime I’ve gotten angry and belligerent with God, ive felt good releasing that steam and then I’ve felt better after I repented. It feels very rewarding. God knows how much you’re hurting and even though your life is miserable. He wants you to find the reward in His presence more than you find in his promises.
    Our stubborn minds don’t want to hear it but I appreciate this article pointing out that God owes us nothing. Deep down we know this but we want Him to love us how we are accustomed to love.
    Humans value love as what people give us (attention affection, honor, favor, priority, privilege, gifts, time, sacrifice, etc…). If those things stop we see it as love lost. How many spouses forget the compromises made beforehand when the spouse pulls away? How many friendships were severed and the acts of love were no longer valid? How many unabused children grow up to hate their parents despite the love they carried out in the past? They can only see love in the present and in action. It’s because we are all selfish. We want to feel active love all of the time and we dont value the love that has been shown. We are ungrateful. It’s hard to stomach, admit, and agree to but its human nature.
    You see God has already done the ultimate act of love when He sent Jesus to take our sins. If we get nothing else in this world we get the reassurance of an eternal peace, which is really the best gift. When this short life and all of its trials are over we get to be immersed in goodness, every tear wiped. While those who dont know God will suffer eternally leading them from a short mediocre life to a non stop gnashing of teeth in pain from being away from Gods presence. It isn’t worth it. Even if you live from zero to 120 in pure misery, it isn’t worth exchanging for Gods eternal presence… no more guessing or chasing, or stressing or blaming, or feeling ignored or excluded. Complete acceptance and good times with the Father.
    Now to the hurting heart who is living through a pain, this may just sound like babbling words that do nothing to stop your very real, very current pain. I have felt the same. But let me remind you that is only because we are selfish. We are ungrateful. We are not worthy. But God loves us anyway.
    He came to earth as Christ and felt the rejection and heartache and struggle and abuse and He STILL said I’m going through with it anyway. I could start over with a new design of people but these I love. I’m going to die for them even though they are selfish, ungrateful, scoffing, and belligerent, I’m going to see this through and save them anyway because some will accept Me and repent and I will forgive and welcome them into My kingdom because love is what I do and Who I am. And though they will cry through the seemingly impossible situations they have to live through they will soon see that none of those problems could touch the everlasting problems of the lost, unsaved, wicked… and then they will finally understand that I love them and they are safe.
    We are told what good is it to profit the world and lose our soul because that is what matters. When we get too caught up in very real and present dangers, let’s let God know “Hey Dad, I’m mad at you, help me!” And expect Him to. Repent for your misdirected anger and remind yourself that though this danger is horrible, unacceptable and downright cruel, we can see Gods love when we look to Him in truth and not in fear of the situation. In truth we know He sees the big picture. Hold onto your faith even when it feels hopeless. Even if it’s been 50 years and you felt like giving up 2 decades ago, keep on enduring to the end. Turn your thoughts on those of heaven and the rest will follow.
    We can say “Lord I know I’m mad because I feel you’re not listening, and everything keeps falling through and my ex is still being blessed after all that he/she did and I cant keep my head above water and I wonder how you expect me to stay out of debt if you didn’t bless me with a larger income, and my very best friend has cancer, and I’m paying for someone else’s mistake, and I’m dying slowly, BUT my hope is not tied up to the things in this life. These distractions are temporary and when they are over, they are done and new things, good and bad, will replace them but nothing can replace your good in the kingdom.
    I am trusting in your promise to prepare a place for me in the kingdom and that is where I will focus my eyes and my heart. Thank you for your faithfulness, mercy and grace. Only you can be trusted to be Good. Not this life, these circumstances, friends, family or even me. My eyes are on the prize and I cant promise that I wont get angry when hurting and weak but I will always let you know and trust that you love me anyway and it will bring me closer to you. Then we can laugh about this in the kingdom some day after I’ve endured to the end where the promises come to life and the eternal rewards overflow.” God bless you all.

    • The only thing I have to say is that most people who have lived and walked this earth will not have eternal peace. They will have eternal torment. Quite frankly, obtaining eternal peace is extremely difficult. This is made clear in the Bible.
      ““For many are called, but FEW are chosen.””
      ‭‭Matthew‬ ‭22:14‬ ‭NKJV‬‬
      ““Enter by the narrow gate; for wide is the gate and broad is the way that leads to destruction, and there are MANY who go in by it. Because narrow is the gate and DIFFICULT IS THE WAY WHICH LEADS TO LIFE, and there are FEW who find it.”
      ‭‭Matthew‬ ‭7:13-14‬ ‭NKJV‬‬
      Most people would have been better off not being born considering that their eternity is in the lake of fire.

  110. I am mad at God because of the horror I see happening in Australia. Why are animals paying for what man has done? The Bible says He regretted making humans, I do too, so I guess we think alike in that respect.
    I don’t understand, the images of their suffering and death are painful beyond anything I can explain. I have prayed to Him everyday to stop this madness, have mercy, bring rain, soak the fires, and bring restoration. I have bargained, ” wouldn’t this be a great way to show your Glory? ” (yeah, not my best moment, but I did it any way.) I have prayed for the fire fighters, their families, the people lost, their homes, the land, every creature, alive, dead, the hurt, and in harm’s way, and the animal rescuers to have strength to bear what they have seen. It is depressing and makes me feel hopeless and helpless.

    • Laura, It is so hard to understand why this tragic suffering is going on in Australia. 🙁 We have lifted up many prayers here at TheHopeLine for those affected in Australia. Your heartfelt prayers for all that you mentioned is being heard. It is good that you are talking about this and how it is making you feel depressed and hopeless. We have a blog that may help you continue to process all of this. It’s at https://www.thehopeline.com/why-do-bad-things-happen/ Also, a HopeCoach would be blessed to listen to how this is making you feel. Would you chat with a HopeCoach tonight at https://www.thehopeline.com/gethelp/. We care about you and want the best for you.

      • I thank you for your response. I read the article suggested. Thank you for that. I spoke with my husband last night about how sad I am and we talked about the idea of sin in regard to being mad at God. He said even Jesus got mad and did some property destruction. (My husband is a jokester.) (Though that was a bit different than being mad at God, it was more being mad for God).
        I struggle a lot with the things people do to animals. God has placed on me an enormous amount of compassion for them. I see it as a blessing and a curse. Blessing, because the opposite is indifference (which is horrible), curse, because it hurts, A LOT.
        My husband also told me he watched a video of rain falling in Australia, like downpours, not just a small amount, and people were so happy. I can only thank Him for that, and pray for more(without distruction, please).
        I think we tend to forget or dismiss how powerful prayer is, and oftentimes, as humans, our hands are completely empty, we have so little power. What I am trying to say is, He empties our hands, so we lean on Him more. I was wrong, in being mad at Him, and now have a better understanding, that my power lies not with me, but with Him.
        I also thank Him for allowing me to be mad at Him, so I could come around to the other side of it and understand Him a bit more…instead of praying in anger (negative), pray with hope( positive).
        I am getting there, so glad He has patience with me. (On judgement day, I see myself pulling out a list and saying to Him, “On yeah, well I have this list of things I think you could have done differently, too!” ). 😇

        • Laura,
          I really enjoyed reading your comment. What a blessing to hear how supportive your husband is towards your feelings about the suffering in Australia. Your compassion and empathy is so needed in our world today. You are right, having such an empathetic spirit can hurt a lot, however, you’re a great example to others! Many have built up walls so high that they don’t care anymore. You care and God loves you for that. What a great way to look at your feelings towards God, by thanking Him for allowing you to be mad at Him. I love your humor about judgment day! Take care, Laura, you have a good and caring soul! Terri from TheHopeLine Team

  111. I asked Jesus for forgiveness a long time ago. However, is it normal for a Christian at times to say to god, “I don’t trust you.” I don’t know anybody yet that has the coronavirus knock on wood. Hopefully I don’t get it. However, I have been looking at the number of new cases every day in the United States (which you know of course has been having it the worst.) I prayed that a few Saturdays ago, the 34,000 new cases the US had was going to be the worst amount of new cases in a day. It looked for a few weeks that there weren’t going to be any days that topped that, but only close to that. However, I saw unfortunately today that the new coronavirus cases for the US was 38,000. When I saw that I just got too angry at God. He is not giving me what I want. I am pouting like a little 4 year old and punching my forehead pretending the forehead is Gods forehead because that is how mad I am. He didn’t answer this prayer the way I wanted it to. Some people will say maybe he will answer this prayer the way you want it to but it is within Gods timing. Gods timing is not always your timing. However, I really hope it doesn’t take any more than a few months for things to improve, but I am concerned that it might unfortunately take longer than that. If looking at these numbers makes me too angry, then maybe I should avoid looking at those numbers for a few days. But I can’t help but avoid the temptation from looking at those numbers because that is how much I want those numbers to go down. When I looked at those numbers today was when I said to God finally, “I asked for forgiveness of my sins a long time ago, but right now I just don’t trust you. I am just too scared. I don’t believe you always take care of us because you didn’t stop this.” It worries me that states want to reopen in May even though honestly we are not getting any better. I am thinking, “God, we have already been getting our butts kicked badly enough with this virus. Can you let up on this virus and help us finally flatten the curve by May. Can you show our country at least a little bit more mercy than this.” We sadly aren’t coming even close to this flattening the curve right now. My former roommate is asking if I believe it is God that caused all of this. I don’t believe God wants suffering and evil. However, there are times where I believe Gods allows Satan to strike us dead. A perfect example is Job. God wanted to make a wager with Satan and prove him wrong. Satan said, “If you let bad things happen to a man of faith (like Job for example) he will curse you to your face.” God said, “Okay, strike Job down. I bet you Job will perservere and I will give him far more things.” I don’t know if God is trying to do the same to us. That is let an evil virus (like COVID-19) strike this earth and let Satan spread this virus to people rather than try to stop it soon. I pray God slows this virus soon. If I were God and were in control of everything, I either would have stopped this virus or if this virus would still have happened it would not have been any more contagious than SARS, MERS, or Ebola.

  112. I totally feel this way ! I wanna make a decision to live like the cruel world but I can’t , it is not in me , but God is also not answering any of my prayers . I am just tired ..

  113. For me it starts at the beginning. I was brought into this world by a Romany gypsy father who was a womaniser and who refused to sign my birth certificate and take responsibility for me being his son, and a birth mother who was immature and selfish and gave me away for adoption. I was adopted by a loving couple who knew love and stability.. but little else. Low achievers, anger issues and stubbornness were among some of the wonderful other attributes that I got from my adoptive parents which added into my DNA mix of bad blood from my birth parents.
    In a nutshell this led to me now at 45 years old having had a life of turmoil, very few lasting friendships, every attempt at a relationship with a member of the opposite sex destroyed and a work history of numerous jobs in numerous areas fail and the common denominator of me being although likeable, a right pain in the ass to be around.
    Quite frankly I wish I had not been born.
    After an 18-month failed marriage in America to a beautiful looking prosperity gospel Texan Christian girl, she abandoned me so after hanging on for a few months until the money ran out, I returned to England to find against my every wish that she planned to divorced me.
    I had believed through sequence of amazing coincidences weeks earlier that God had said not to worry that it wasn’t over until he threw the towel in. She went ahead and divorced anyway in my absence.
    9 years of depression later, after gaining about 150lb in weight to overeating and having had no social life.. God was gracious enough to give me a trailer to live in which was 30 years old. I was actually genuinely grateful at the time because it was just something ‘from God’ and I hadn’t heard very much from him for years.
    However it was very small and after 4 years of being there and begging and pleading and crying out to God in anger and frustration for him to give me a house – somewhere bigger to live, he was gracious enough to prompt some Christians to give me the deposit for a house. The budget was small but I was able to find something which I needed to move into quickly… it was the only one quickly available … I needed to move fast due to my trailer beginning to fail badly.
    The house I moved into which I’m in now I did see was very small all but at least it was a house and the deposit paid for.
    However 6 months down the line again I find myself asking the same questions:
    1. You expect us God to worship you at churches and sing hymns about how great you are and how good you are to us… We are told at these churches that you have an amazing plan for our lives yet for some their lives end violently in murder in the extreme or just drag on aimlessly through a life of insignificance. I know we all can’t be Billy Graham’s, but you haven’t even show me any direction or vision or purpose – yet – you have let the woman who divorced me go off and marry some other Christian guy who presumably is better than me and they’re now enjoying a wonderful life together praising your name… Is that what I should do… just slap a smile on sing to you all the words you want to hear to get what I want???
    2. Why can’t you just surprise me.. just ONCE … and actually give me an answer to prayer which I generally enjoy and want and is genuinely more than what I could imagine?? You tell me I’m your precious child yet I wouldn’t treat my CAT the way you have treated me or at least have allowed others to treat me..!!???
    I find that I get very angry and accuse God of being a sadistic £&+/#@…. Because he refuses to take responsibility for the person he’s birthed me as into being, and sits back and just allows my life to aimlessly drag on with me having a constant struggle in various areas getting nowhere whilst I look on and see others including ex-girlfriend’s ex-wife progressing wonderfully.
    Yes, I’m angry at God. I wish I wasn’t but I’m too honest to pretend that I’m not.

    • Christian, You have gone through a great deal in your life for a long time. Thank you for being open and honest about how you feel. Please know that you are worthy and you matter. The enemy would love nothing better than for you to continue to feel this way about yourself and God. No matter how you feel about God. He still loves you and believes in you. You matter to Him. It may feel like he has abandoned you, but he is still there waiting for you to understand how important you are to him. Getting angry at God is normal.
      We think you would benefit from having an email mentor that you can talk to for as long as you like about what you are going through. To sign up for an email mentor go to: https://www.thehopeline.com/emailmentors/
      If you feel like you have no one to turn to right now, don’t despair or give up. Talk to a HopeCoach at, https://www.thehopeline.com/gethelp/, whenever you need a listening ear. We can help you find greater hope and encouragement during this difficult time. We are here for you, and we want you to know there is always hope.

  114. My children have been abused by their father for the past 10 years and continue to be abused. My son was raped at his fathers house. Their father was founded on medical neglect by not giving my son his seizure meds. I have been to court for the past 10 years and I can not get the court to understand what’s going on over there. Yet, the courts allow their father to have primary custody. It sickens me. My children hate being at their fathers house and plead that don’t have to go back when I get my weekends visits. I have exhausted all my resources to save my children, but everything fails. I tried letting it all go and that when my son got raped. My children do not deserve this. They need a way out. I have prayed for 10 years and continue to, but nothing changes for my children. Even my oldest son who turned 18 in Dec. last year, moved out of his fathers house right away and lives with me now. He had to endure 10 years of abuse from his father and now he is struggling to be who he needs to be. I don’t know what else to do. I cry every night hoping my children are safe.

  115. I’m to the point that no matter I do for God, all I get back is a very short end of a stick; I’m to the point that if a relationship with God requires being #$^&@*& at every chance; then God can keep his “love”, I don’t want it.

  116. Thank you for this article, it helped a lot!

  117. I see children dying from disease or violence. Someone I know buried her four year old not even a year ago from an incurable cancer. I see animals suffering too, and what did they ever do to God to deserve to suffer with disease, abuse or neglect? How can children and animals, who don’t know anything about sin or following God’s laws, still have to go through all this pain and suffering? I lost my father to violence when I was only twelve years old, and I’m 38 now, so it’s been a while, but I’m certain my earthly father wouldn’t have let me go through horrible situations and suffering, yet the One who has the power to stop it all from happening is just sitting up there in heaven, shrugging His shoulders like “Welp 🤷‍♂️“ Why doesn’t He do anything? What is the point of life?

  118. Remember, everyone, it is the devil doing all these things to you. God could be here right now fixing everything, but the stupid devil screwed up everything. It’s a very sad stupid existence, full of liars, delusional people, cheaters. It’s all we have, unfortunately. Just go about life humbly accepting that this place is horrible, because that’s all we can really do. Anyone who tells you otherwise is possessed by satan.

  119. I am so upset and I hate to say it ‘mad at God’, due to failing my driving test twice. I really need to pass my driving test as I have a job lined up that requires me to have my license and I need this job to pay tuition fees. Honestly so upset and not understanding how I have managed to fail twice despite my fasting and praying and faith in God. I hate being upset over this as there are harsher things going on in the world. However, sometimes I have to ask, God, why me?

  120. Wow, these writer’s are ignorant people aren’t they? For them, everything fits so neatly into this category or that category and has a simply answer. Therefore it must be us with the problem, right? How many readers asked God to be made? How many times has God remained silent? If God is as powerful as he claims then why doesn’t he just fix it? Who was responsible for creation? After the serpent did what he did who was responsible for him? If God is truly all knowing he had to know that was going to happen after all, right? Yet he did nothing to prevent it and once it was done he did not fix it. The only plausible answer is that it’s what he wanted all along. You say God doesn’t make mistakes yet he appointed king Saul and by his own admission regretted it. He even stated in scripture he was sorry he made man because he was so “aggrieved “. Perhaps the real answer is that God doesn’t know everything like you all claim and occasionally makes mistakes too. That’s a God I can relate to…that’s a God I can forgive.

    • Dear Jerry,
      GOD gave us free will. We used our free will badly and chose to sin, making this earth an accursed residence while we live on it. GOD does not make mistakes, no matter how hard it may seem. Jerry, He loves you and is experiencing your pain with you right now. Turn back to Him. He loves you from the bottom of your heart and doesn’t want you to go away from it. Peace be with you.

  121. God is a very evil filthy scumbag for not giving me a good wife and family to share my life with. What did a single good man like me do wrong anyway God since what i really wanted would have been real normal to begin with.

    • God is not mad at you. He loves you.
      Satan is the one to blame.

    • God is not mad at you. He loves you.
      Satan is the one to blame.

    • Satan is the one to blame.

    • God is not angry. He is happy. But satan is the one to blame

  122. I have to disagree with Lucas on this statement.
    “Trials give us an opportunity to build our faith in a way nothing else can.”
    I can think of a way that can help build our faith even quicker.
    “God actually answering our prayers will build faith.”
    Unanswered prayers only breed doubt, discouragement, discontented, disappointment, and heartache.
    I don’t think that God owes me anything accept that which He promises in the Bible.
    I write this as a Christian that (my opinion/observation) has never had a prayer answered, has never seen, heard, felt anything from God.
    Thanks for the opportunity to say my piece. May God Bless You, in Jesus name, Amen.

    • I think I could have written what you said as well. I know God has answered some prayers for me but rare. It seems many Christians I know, including me, pray and pray and pray and it seems the opposite happens instead.I’m not talking about selfish prayers either. I know I would be greatly encouraged by answered prayer as well. I am trying to believe still, and know that I am not God but it is so hard to the point I feel I have hardened and I don’t have much desire anymore. Trying desperately to change that though because I know He is always right even if I dont feel like He is.

  123. I don’t believe there is a Ovid virus,,colds,flu,phumonia,and sick people are dying but not from any so called c ovid virus,aNd the so called vaccine for this bs,is a farce too,invented to make people fatally ill..part of a conspiracy to begin the world order,talked about in The Book of Revelations..Satan at work,,You have to trust in God here,,Because He is the only One who can save you in the end times.

  124. I don’t like feeling overwhelmed to the point where none of this makes sense and it seems like that is the purpose of life to go through trial after trial to point where you are blind to your personal identity and truly that is all your personal fault. Regardless of everything from the world deep down it is always you who has free will and have to make a decision and that is attacked though sin. Ugh. And then you have to work your way back and/or become cold hearted and implore love for life. And things attack that. I guess it really is about changing your whole
    Life and that sucks when you have to do it.

  125. God has walked away. This was God’s master plan thinking to bring glory to him. But when he took both of my wife’s away by death. That was not enough. He took all four of my sons away by death as well. What god did to me leaves me with an empty shell of a man. God does no answer prayers good does not care anything about us. God is a very bad shepherd of his flock. I have tried to reach out thru scripture and other books by God is just a blank space in my empty heart.

    • Dear Guest…You have lost so many loved ones in your life. We do not share your pain and hurt and can not imagine it, however, we can empathize with your deep pain and grief. We understand your feelings towards God. Your feelings of anger and abandonment. You are heartbroken and grieving beyond what most people have had to endure. We have some resources that may help you and please know you can chat online with one of our HopeCoaches about what you are going through. A HopeCoach would love to listen and be there for you. You can chat here: https://www.thehopeline.com/gethelp/. We have a partner called “GriefShare” that can help you with your continuous grief recovery. You can find information on how to get help from them here: https://www.thehopeline.com/partners/griefshare/. Please know that you are not alone. We are here to listen and support you.

  126. I lost my faith in God. He let other people hurt me so brutally. I have been suffering for last 12 years and those people who kept hurting me enjoyed at the cost of my pain.
    I don’t know what I did to them. One of the person was my own husband, who destroyed me in every way. I am scared of God . I feel if God doesn’t like you, he will backstab you and try to hurt you every way, through people. I was a normal person , average at everything, didn’t try to hurt anyone or caused anyone any pain intentionally. I used to pray God, even when I was going through bad time, I kept praying. God didn’t come for me. He didn’t help me, he let other people hurt me. I was ok with that. I asked him to heal me at least after putting me through so much. He is silent. I stay in pain all day and night. I don’t see any end to this pain. I asked God to give me death but I didn’t get one. God wants me to suffer , I understand but how much more as I can’t take it any longer. I need to be out of this pain, I want to heal again. I want this to be over. I feel like screaming till I have breath inside me. I want to shout at God for give me death. I am in so much pain that I can’t take it anymore.

    • Hi,, I feel the same as you.. he took my mother at the same time my husband turns into a monster and hurted me and my kids in many horrible ways, 3 years has passed and I feel that I still in pain.. a pain that I don’t deserve because I was an amazing wife and he took everything out of me plus his family create lies and the mom even did witchcraft on me and they stole my business besides all the the betrayals that to be honest I didn’t even think that people can be so disgusting…the only thing I can tell you is that you need to get out of your pain but yourself,, don’t wait for justice,, justice doesn’t exist but don’t let other people to destroy you either,,, keep walking,, don’t wait for God either sometimes he takes a lot of time to put things on their place…. your ex and his family I am pretty sure they aren’t happy and they will get what they deserve.. don’t waste your time thinking what they did to you ask God to help you to be stronger and find peace….hope you feel better and stronger 💕

  127. I am deaf. I try to ask him to fix my issue but nothing happens. I wait and wait and still nothing happens. I think i need to fix something I did wrong. even though I’m mad I don’t want to be mad at him but at my problem.

    • God is not mad at you. He loves you

  128. I understand how hard it is when it seems God isn’t listening or doesn’t care. To anyone reading this, please understand that, even though it’s hard to believe, God is watching you and He loves you. There are things happening that we don’t see nor understand.
    Job didn’t know what was happening “behind the seens” when he was suffering. If you are suffering, you could be like Job. So, please hang in there. It will all make sense one day.

  129. I got angry with God twice this week. I felt like he doesn’t love me because he can’t give me a good life that he promised. I never get to have a good break in this life, its one struggle after the other. I would ask something from God and I’m gonna lose the other thing that makes me happy. Never had a good childhood, I struggled till tertiary. Things got better when my mama got a job then she passed on, 1 year later. Back to square 1, had to pay my fees and I didn’t see a way of doing it I dropped out. I got very angry with God because he took one thing I relied on, my 100% support system my mom. Eventually he provided I went back to school and I completed the course. I had few jobs to have an income for survival and it was bad I hated every minute I spent in those places. I prayed every morning would read Isaiah 43 and it kept me going. I finally Got a job I always wanted and it was one of the best things the Lord has blessed me with. Then last year I lost the job that I loved even though it wasn’t paying well. I’m stucked here not knowing what to do except praying but when I don’t see any results from my daily prayers I get mad. But aa I was angry with God there was this voice thay said read the Bible and I came through some scriptures. Psalm 25:3 Psalm 37:34-40 Psalm 27:14 Mark 10:27 Hebrews 12:2-29 and Joshua 1:5-9 Genesis 28:15. After going through those scriptures my heart was at ease knowing that God got my back. I’m glad I listened to that voice. He is truly talking we must listen.

  130. I only read maybe the first half or not even of the article and found it quite condescending and patronizing. People are going through real emotions and hard situations in life and to repeat over and over “God owes us nothing”. We know that. I know that. I prayed hard for my suffering to stop and it didn’t but I never prayed just expecting God was a “genie in a bottle” as you put it. The pain, anger and frustration is real

  131. If God had created women just like the good old days, then many of us guys wouldn’t be still single today. God created so many rotten women today unfortunately, especially the ones that will Curse at us for no reason at all when we will just try to start a conversation with the one that we think would be really nice to meet for us.

    • On the flip side, I feel as though there are no good men out there. Men my age are looking at my daughters. If God created woman for man why didn’t he make men decent?

    • My question is, “How are you judging which women would be worth you dating?” I see a lot of older men who base everything on sexual attraction and not on the woman’s heart. This is a sinful societal brainwashing when you base how much sex appeal a woman has as worthy of your time. God wants us to judge each other by our hearts, but man teaches us otherwise.

  132. I have been through so much the last couple of years. I just want the hurting to stop! I started talking to a counselor last November, it has helped with some things but has opened more issues too! I have kept everything to myself my whole life and now she wants me to talk about them. This is very hard! I just feel like the heart aches just keep coming!

    • Nicole, We are proud of you for taking the first step by talking to a counselor. Talking about things can be difficult at first, however, it is so important to talk about them and get those feelings to the surface. Holding on to them and internalizing them can be toxic for your mental health and physical health. It is so very hard and the heartaches are a part of the process. If it helps, you are welcome to chat online with a HopeCoach to talk about what’s going on too, along with seeing your counselor. You can chat online with a HopeCoach here: https://www.thehopeline.com/gethelp/ We believe in you!

  133. I’d like to disagree: God owes us everything. When a parent brings a child into the world, that parent owes their child everything which it is in their power to deliver. Firstly love – unflinching, abundant, unconditional and expressed. To characterise a hurting persons response of anger towards God as akin to a spoiled child having a tantrum is arrogant, unhelpful, and just plain incorrect. The simplistic approach you offer is harmful, and doesn’t lead to any better understanding of the nature of God & his love.
    Telling a broken person that their anger is somehow childish is hurtful in the extreme. l don’t have chiIdren, but can (barely) imagine the crushing pain of the death of one’s child. What response other than extreme and overwhelming anger is more appropriate for a grieving parent? Do you really expect the quadriplegic sufferer to shrug and accept their fate? Or the lonely singleton, or – doubtless in your twisted theology – the non heterosexual, to cheerfully accept a life lacking sexual expression or even intimacy? Should we not get angry for these people, as much as they do for themselves? Does the survivor of childhood abuse not have the right to be angry with the God- who we often sing about as “all powerful” who allowed this evil to befall them? Power is only power if it can be exercised, so on all-powerful God who is constrained from acting is emphatically not all powerfuI. The loving God who chooses not to intervene to prevent evil is surely not a loving parent. Our anger may be inchoate, but that doesn’t mean that it is irrational, misdirected, childish or wrong.
    God’s promise is abundant life – in all its fullness. How hollow that sounds to me. Sure, I don’t have the ” full picture”. Tell me: what is the full picture of a life ruined by childhood abuse? By years of depression? Where are the years the locusts have eaten? What is the full picture here?
    Is it simply that some are “vessels for destruction”? If that is the case, then God is a liar. What human parent – evil as we are – would give a child a scorpion when they ask for good things? Yet God does. What human parent does not understand that hope deferred makes the heart sick. But God doesn’t. Oh, but you don’t see the big picture.
    By now, I think you may realise that yes, I am angry with God. His unfailing love has failed me. His promises have proven hollow, or worse, have seemed like cruel mockeries. Restore the years? More like to those who have suffered, I will heap further suffering upon – a full measure, pressed down and flowing over.
    In summary, I’d add another reason for expecting something from God: His promises, and what we are taught of the divine nature. I’d argue that the problem is not that we fail in our obligations to God, but that he fails in his – as an even ordinary parent – to us.
    In the human world, a parent who allowed their unprotected child to be ravaged by the evil depredations of one who the parent well knew was bent on the destruction of their child – would not be allowed charge of any child. In most jurisdictions the parent would be prosecuted for neglect. Add in the unfulfilled promises, and you have abuse at its most heinous. Oh, but I don’t see the big picture.
    Whilst “somebody” may have defined anger as you quote, I’d define it more simply as “a rational response to broken promises”.

    • Hear, hear!

    • Wow! INCREDIBLE

    • I agree. I believe in God, I’ve been born again, I’ve experienced the reality of God, yet the last 3 years have been a nightmare. All I have prayed for is my dad’s health, a good doctor, medicine that doesn’t destroy his mind. I’ve had no guidance from God. I have an ulcer. I am so tired I can’t think anymore. If God doesn’t help me and I mean by tomorrow, I don’t know what to think. I am done with waiting.

  134. Joe wrote: I have to admit that I am angry at God. The more I have prayed for help and guidance, the more I get nothing. He is ignoring me. It’s His right to do with me what He will, but I am frustrated because I have done what I think I am supposed to do and yet no response, no help.
    This is EXACTLY how I feel. Minus the ignoring part. I know He sees me but I feel like God is just watching me struggle. I have ADHD and 2/3 children also have it. Parenting them well is exhausting mentally, emotionally, physically, and spiritually. No matter what I do or try, we just don’t get much traction and I end each day feeling discouraged, hopeless, and worst of all- helpless because I am doing the best I know how and still our family suffers from the chaos of having neurodiverse brains. My oldest is 9 and a half, so we’ve been at this for a few years now and I’m tired. Last night, in my usual sleep deprived state (because they have difficulty falling and staying asleep), is when I realized some of my anger is directed at God over this.
    However, I see a glimmer of hope in remembering that my expectations of Him are what is contributing to my misplaced anger. Thanks for the article. I can’t finish it at the moment, but I will come back to this to help myself remember that I was not promised a life without hardship, but that He would be with me (John 16:33).

    • I was in your shoes, and I prayed for guidance. God answered me and showed me what was effecting my children. We removed artificial and synthetic ingredients from our food and environment. Then we later stopped all vaccinations after God opened my eyes further. My children did 360’s. I have no doubt God led the way.

  135. I’m mad at God. Really mad. All I’ve ever wanted is to be happily married to a man I love who loves me. That is the one part of my life that is consistently messed up. Everything else is pretty good in my life. I have a lot to be grateful for. I AM grateful.
    But I still want the happy marriage. The other stuff is great, and I DO thank God for it. BUT IT’S NOT THE SAME!!
    I’m going along with everything, being a good girl, etc. I act like everything is fine. But inside, I’m angry at God. I’ll probably never stop being angry at God. God is going to do whatever he wants whether I like it or not. Well, he got what he wanted. I hope he’s happy.

  136. 40, unhappily married, mother of 4. God has been my rock for 20yrs. Most of those years were lukewarm. My life has been crap since the beginning. Sexually abuse by my dad. My mom used to fight my siblings & I then brag to my aunts about it. She has mental issues. My dad was a single parent. I remember being suicidal at 12 due to the sexual abuse. When I was 14, I wanted to stay with a friend for 2wks. My dad said I had to have sex with him in order to go. I said I’ll tell on him. He got the dictionary, looked up evil. He said I was evil. My older sister was my best friend. I looked up to her. She was like a mom to me even though we’re 2yrs apart. She later admitted to me (as a adult), she hated me & wanted to kill me. That’s my foundation. My life consisted of sex with older men. Tbh I simply wanted to be loved. I’d make friends until they found someone better. Suicidal thoughts grew stronger every year due to rejection. In my 20’s I heard a voice while sleeping telling me to do God’s will. That woke me up spiritually. Searched for Him, His word. I fell in love with God/Jesus. Things in my life never really changed. Suicidal thoughts, break downs, get back up, rely on faith…repeat. I’m tired. I don’t expect for things to be perfect, but geez. I feel ignored, used, rejected and over looked by everyone for 40yrs Including God at this point. Mind you I put forth an effort to change my negative thinking.
    Tried to walk in love. I genuinely made an effort daily to change my life for the best. Pointless.
    Ready to step away from my faith because what difference does it make when the outcome is the same. This is all over the place. I’ve been up crying out to God. Also, my horrible backstory showed me what is actually needed to be a parent. Love, communication, guidance, discipline, quality time and praise. Raising my kids (2 are grown, 2 are teens), are the only thing I’ve done right.

    • Im really starting to question my faith with God. I feel like my life is a joke to Him. Why test my loyalty why make me go through hoops to prove that I love you what allow bad things to happen to me that is not a loving God that’s not a caring God. My life to God I’m starting to feel like is a game. This big GAME to get to heaven. It is simple logic if someone loves you they would not hurt you if someone loves you they would not allow horrible things to happen to you especially if God can foresee them if God knows everything why allow bad things to happen. How can the Bible teach to blame Satan but at the same time God is supposed to be more powerful than Satan. it doesn’t make sense. My heart is so broken. Why can’t God stop Satan. Why can’t God just get rid of Satan. You mean to tell me God is so powerful that I should trust him but yet he can’t stop the power of Satan. It makes no sense.

  137. I share your pain. I was abused ( I’m male) – nothing so seriously as you ,but the emotional &physical abuse was significant. I’m gay – nothing wrong with that – but I don’t want to be , especially as God seems to forbid homosexual acts. I have ADHD, and EUPD, with RSD to throw in there for good measure. When I pray, God seems to respond exactly opposite to what I ask for. How many of you who are fathers, when your child asks for an egg, would give them a scorpion? Well God does! Everything I do seems to turn to dust. I have asked to die, but instead get a half-life. I should ask for life, then I might get the release I crave. So yes, I am angry -no, incandescent with rage – at God. The trite “its became we don’t get to stick our fingers in a socket” is patronising rubbish! God shares our pain. Well, that is good to know, for all the good it does. Like you, I’m ready to turn my back on God. I have tried. I have scored out to Him for help. God is a cruel, unforgiving father. Cold, distant, and arbitrary. He loves who he loves and hates who he hates. Why not just not create the latter?

  138. I honestly can’t stand this – “Place the blame for evil on Satan, not on God. God is good and Holy and perfect and loving. He is the opposite of evil. You may be mad at God because he didn’t prevent the bad from happening to you, but he is not to blame for the bad thing, Satan is.” Even in this explanation you state that you can still be mad at God because He didn’t prevent it. Well fine. I mean at the end of the day the loss of your spouse still remains REGARDLESS of who’s fault it is. I can say ok Satan is to blame for my wife’s death but I don’t care. I don’t have a relationship with him and I know he does not love me. God is supposed to love me and yet he still did not prevent it. So word it however you’d like, I’m still mad at God. It can be for allowing it to happen if that reason makes people feel better but it still happened and I am still without the love of my life at 57.

  139. I am Angry at God and I am NOT forgiving Him for what ‘He has allowed.’
    I was suppose to be Famous and performing in the Arts.

    Because someone was jealous God allowed me to be tormented and allowed everything to be taken. This person wanted be embarrassed, in pain, bullied, picked on and tormented. Because I continued to fight and refused… God did allow me to have my career.

    So ****** your Judeo-Christian God. He failed me. Why should I suffer because a spoiled rotten brat, can’t always get His way? I became a Christian eventually but found out who God truly is… I did not hear what God wanted me to do… so I stopped Him and told Him *****!

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      • You understand my pain. I tried many people and they give me this “God has plans” speech. As well as the laughable “Worldly-minded.” As one artist that is hated for he had artistic talent… I too have artistic talent and was literally stolen. I lost faith in God and in Christ. Until I get what I want. I want the world to know stay away from the Judeo-Christian God. When He said in His word. He is not a respecter of persons. Let’s see you “know how you (I) feel”? I developed ideas and developed countless artistic things which is a sight to see. If I say what was stolen you will call me a liar. Until I reveal key information about me, we will go nowhere with this conversation. I want people to know that the true God, is a no good liar. “He comes not when want Him, He’s a “on time God”. Well, not to my liken. I had problems about moving and experienced homelessness for the last time. So I’ll wait for a REAL GOD to show up and GIVE me what I want! Then I’ll Serve that one and let you know about it! If no God does this. There is NO God. God is dead. So much for watching those fluff-a-nutter movies. They may end being a lie and apart of your imagination!

  140. I wouldn’t say that I am mad at God, just completely disappointed with Him. I understand that God knows what is best, but I can’t comprehend how God’s complete lack (none) of involvement in my life is good for me. I gave myself to God through Jesus over 42 years ago. In that time I have never heard, seen, or felt anything from God. Nothing at all, including having zero prayers answered. This is a hurt that can’t be blamed on Satan. Satan can’t stop God from being involved, only God can stop Himself. God is responsible for His own actions or lack there of. The pain of God’s silence and absence tear at my soul everyday. I don’t know how to be ok with this nothingness from/of God. Thanks.

    God bless you, through the Holy Spirit, in Jesus holy name, Amen.

  141. God punished a good man like me with singleness since i always wanted to be married with a family of my own that i still don’t have today. Why is that? Why didn’t God make me meet the right good woman for me?

  142. You say God owes us nothing, but then turn around and promise that God will offer peace and comfort. I’m mad at God because He couldn’t even offer that. God may win in the end, but I lose either way. You say God loves my heart, but that’s not true at all because He denies all that is good about me, and forces me to be everything I hate. Why was He so selfish to create us just to be his slaves and torture us? Trusting in Him has been my true regret in this life, a horrible waste of 40 years surrendering to His will has meant a life not worth living and a dread of eternity with the God who wanted that for me. I will always choose love or hate and doing good over sin, but that is because I would never want anyone to ever be hurt the way Gods plan and utter rejection of everything I am has hurt me

  143. Amanda, there are many of us good single men out there very seriously looking for a relationship today. And why would we want to be single and alone anyway to begin with? I don’t like being single at all. Didn’t God say that man shouldn’t be alone? Many women just don’t realize that there are many of us single men that don’t play games at all, and would really know how to treat a good woman with a lot of love, respect, and commitment. However, it is most of the women nowadays that are very mean, horrible, and nasty altogether when it comes to us men for no reason.

  144. Or maybe he created a lot of rotten, solely sex seeking men!

  145. I beg to differ with the statement “God owes us nothing.” As our creator he owes us everything, we did not come to earth out of our own free will; if given the choice, I’d choose not to come. Earth is full of torment and pain, how is this God’s good plan? As soon as I made the decision to give my life to Christ, my life has been chaotic to say the least. I’ve been through seemingly unending hardship. I am livid at God, and this is why can’t remain faithful to him for a more than a week; as soon as I begin to think about all I’ve been through, I go back to being livid. How can a good loving God allow to Satan to have his way with his children? Also, the Bible conveys to rid ourselves of all malice and anger, but fails to give us instructions on how to achieve that. It also states to be loving toward others for love “always trusts” yet trauma is very real. I often feel as though the Bible invalidates our feelings and our very real experiences. Put on “joy,” be joyful in affliction, but when you’re battling major depression Joy is a foreign concept. I am so mad at God, really. I don’t understand his “big plan,” and how he can use this for good. What most unsettling is what the angels declare in revelation, they say “God created everything for his pleasure,” hence, this makes me believe God enjoys our suffering. He sees the conditions of the world and how I’ve wronged so many times yet he commands me to be strong and courageous. I honestly HATE this bible verse, “Deuteronomy 31:6 NIV
    Be strong and courageous. Do not be afraid or terrified because of them, for the LORD your God goes with you; he will never leave you nor forsake you.” I remember often seeing while on the verge of suicide, how can I be strong when every inch in my body wants to end it. I’ve tried praying about it, being honest and open with God, and nothing has helped. At this point, I’m thinking about living life for my pleasure, meaning: I’ll be kind to others but I will not abstain from sex, nor from anything else; I’ll live for myself, because pleasing God seems like mission impossible. He wants to remain faithful, yet he completely disregards our human needs, why create us with needs and then be upset when we want to exercise those needs? He wants us to abstain from sex, right? Ok! But even Christian men are players, and my needs are very real, so real I sometimes get cranky. What are we to do? At least we’re trying not to displease him, the least he can do is show us kindness, and spare us, but no! We have it worse because now we just made Satan our enemy. Remind me again, how is this love?

    Writing this really rekindled my anger.

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