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How To Stop Lying

Why You Shouldn’t Lie

Lying is a Horribly Destructive Habit 

Any destructive habit leads to painful consequences. When we choose to lie, we also choose to suffer. Think how much better off we’d be if we stopped lying and lived the truth. Listen to the words of Jennifer: “I was lied to my whole life by my mother. Every day it was something new. After living with her for 14 years, I sometimes find myself exaggerating, and making up stories to seem cool. I don’t ever want to be like my mother, so how do I stop before I hurt my family, friends, and myself?”

Jennifer realizes that lying can go from one generation to the next. One hurt person will then hurt another person because the curse of lying is not stopped.

Once we see how easy it can be to lie and to control what other people think about us, we start sliding down that slippery slope, leading to a miserable, addicted place.

Why Am I Lying So Much?

Sometimes, honesty is hard. For whatever reason, a lie feels like the easier or safer choice in a situation, and the next thing you know, you’re caught in a web of them. Here are some possible reasons why you might find yourself lying frequently:

  • You may lie to avoid facing negative consequences or conflict. Fear of being punished, judged, or rejected can drive you to hide the truth.
  • If you struggle with low self-esteem, you might lie to impress others. Lying might temporarily boost your self-image by giving you some positive attention or approval from others.
  • Lying can also be a way to shirk responsibility or avoid accountability for your actions. You may make excuses or blame others to avoid owning up to a mistake or a failure or to keep from having to clean up a mess you made.
  • Sometimes, people lie to protect the feelings or reputations of others. While this might seem noble, it’s still dishonest, and that will eat away at people’s trust in you over time.
  • If lying has become a habitual pattern for you, it might be a coping mechanism you developed because of childhood trauma, or a behavior that you learned from a dysfunctional family member.
  • Lying can also be a symptom of underlying mental health issues like anxiety, depression, or personality disorders.

If any of these sound familiar, don’t worry—it’s never too late to make positive changes. Examine the root causes of your lying habit and address them with honesty and self-compassion. Seeking support from a licensed therapist can give you the guidance and tools you need to cultivate self-awareness and healthier coping mechanisms

So, the most important question we can ask today is: How do we stop lying?

8 Practical Steps to Stop Lying

1. Admit you have a problem.

This is always the first, biggest, and most difficult step. Find someone you trust and tell them about your lying habit…no matter how big or small you think the problem is. The fact is, you don’t want to lie anymore, but you can’t stop lying on your own. You need help to stay accountable. Megan said: “When I met the man who is now my husband, I knew I needed to work on [my lying] because I wanted to be completely truthful with him. I told him that I wanted his help, and was amazed that he loved me enough to stick with me (even the few times I lied to him) and fight it out with me.”

2. Remind yourself how lying messes up your life.

Lying destroys relationships and adds a tremendous burden to your life. Understanding that there will be consequences is a powerful deterrent to breaking the habit of lying. Phillip suffered the consequences of his lying in a big way: “I used to lie all the time, and I would normally end up getting caught in the end. It took me going to prison to find out that the truth is a much better way to go than to lie about everything. Take the time to think about what the consequences are going to be of what I say or are about to do?”

3. Try to figure out what pressured you to lie.

What were you trying to hide? What would have been a better way, to tell the truth? For example, all addicts feel they must lie to cover up their addiction. The more they cover up their addiction, the better they get at lying and deceiving. Almost every lie has a reason behind it. Wrong actions almost always lead to lies. The reason Hannah lies is to control the people around her. That in itself can be an addiction. “I try not to lie, but if I see someone that I like pulling away from me because they think I’m weird, I’ll start telling lies to get me closer to them. I end up living this horrible lie.”

4. Tell someone when you lie.

Admitting a lie can make a world of difference, and while it might hurt your pride, it’s far better than being a liar. Even better, confess to the person you lied to immediately and seek their forgiveness. This is humbling, but it will cause you to stop and think before you tell another lie. Someone once said Confession is good for the soul. And it is also good at helping us break bad habits.

It would also be wise to confess your lying before God. After all, He’s heard every lie you’ve ever told. And when you confess, you can also ask God to help you break the habit. The Bible promises God will always show us a way out:

“No temptation has overtaken you except what is common to mankind. And God is faithful; he will not let you be tempted beyond what you can bear. But when you are tempted, he will also provide a way out so that you can endure it.” 1 Corinthians 10:13.

God actually has a lot to say about lying in the Bible. Check out these Verses of Hope for Lying.

5. Be realistic about what you promise to others.

Deliberately broken promises are lies that lead to broken hearts. If you promise to do something and never intend to follow through, that is a lie. Additionally, many lies begin as a way to cover up the fact that we can’t possibly do everything we promised we were going to do. Be honest about what you’re capable of doing, admitting to yourself and others your limitations, and you won’t feel a need to lie.

6. Talk to others about their expectations of you.

If you find yourself lying to cover up how you have fallen short of others expectations of you have a conversation with your parents, friends, or teachers in order to come to an agreement about what is reasonable for them to expect. Don’t sell yourself short. You may not be expecting enough of yourself, but an open discussion to get everyone on the same page is important.

7. Practice telling the truth.

When you start to feel the urge to lie, stop and think for a moment. Think about what the other person would feel about you if they knew you were lying. Think about how you would feel if people lied to you all the time. And then, as painful as it may seem, tell the truth. The more we tell others the truth, the easier it is to continue to do it. Lying is a bad habit. Telling the truth is a good habit. Work on breaking your bad habit by replacing it with a good one. Angel said: “It spreads like wildfire when someone is caught lying. Then, when the person is actually telling the truth, no one will believe them because they have told so many lies. For the sake of your family, friends, and loved ones, always tell the truth, even if you are afraid of the outcome!”

8. Commit to a life of honesty, at all costs.

Telling the truth might be horribly uncomfortable for you, but you’re starting to walk down a path of honesty and integrity, turning yourself into the person you desire to be. If you don’t know the answer to a question, don’t lie and make something up. Say, I don’t know. The freedom of the truth will be liberating.

Like any Addiction – It’s Not Easy to Stop Lying…But Worth It.

Let’s be honest…it is going to be very difficult to stop lying. Claudia admitted: “I have learned that when you start lying, it is hard to stop. It takes a lot of hard work and determination to get over a habit that has been a big part of your life.”

However, as you wake up to the reality of what you’re saying and doing and put a stop to the lies you are telling, you will soon reap the benefits of living a peaceful life. I promise, if you put forth an effort to stop this toxic and destructive habit right now, you’ll be grateful forever.

Leave a comment below. I’d love to hear what you think are some of the rewards of being honest.

For more help to stop lying, check out, Top Two Reasons You Should Stop Lying Plus How Liars Get Caught. 

  1. I have lied my whole life and know I am ready to stop because it has broken me down to the point I have lost my family and friends is there anyway u can help me

  2. Hi Gabriella, You have taken the first step and have reached out for help! It takes a lot of courage to come to this point in your life. I want you to know you are not alone. We can help you with what you are going through. The next step is to call us at 800.394.4673 or register to chat at http://www.thehopeline.com/gethelp. We also have a new app that you can download to your phone to chat, talk and find hope and encouragement. You can download TheHopeLine app to your phone here: http://thehope.dm/thlmobileapp We are here for you anytime!

  3. i have not to stop lying.

  4. peaople need to tell the truth and stop lieing when someone finds that u r doining it you will go to hell and you will always go back and remeber what youve said then you cannot take it back at all

  5. What if, you lied and you made a promise to never purposely do it again……How does this work for an A.D.D person, I cannot get anything right. My counselor has even told my mom that, no matter what we do and or how long I am punished….Nothing will work that im gonna do what I wanna do no matter what. They are considering putting me on meds for my A.D.D and hopefully itll help me get my life together a little bit more…

  6. I can’t stop lying, even about stupid things, and it breaks my mom’s heart that I keep lying to her. I hate that I’m doing this to her, and I hate that I do it. I feel like I am going to earn a reputation as a liar, and that’s the last thing I want. I hate myself.

    • I am ruining my relationship because I lie and I want to change

      • Admit you have a problem to the one you love and ask for support from them to help you with your problem. This is what I’m going to do with my wife as it’s her I hurt with my lying. If you work together and you have someone there your more then likey to tell the truth as you will have someone to rely on.

    • I have this same issue and I wish I could get help on this as well

  7. I cant stop lying to this one guy who meant so much to me and in my life. I lied over ten times about my past and how many guys I had sex with. Ended up losing him at the end :'( literally just now when he gave me a million chances to tell the truth I couldn’t. I messed up because I truly lost someone that I LOVE. My first love and my last :'(

  8. Thanks for whoever made this

  9. Hi, I used to live an extremely honest life. Then I got married and my husband cheated on me and did a lot of lies to multiple girls he cheated with. He begged for forgiveness and I said I forgave him which I do but I became angry and started lying and cheating on him. I feel awful about it but have had difficulty getting out of this.

  10. can you help me?….I lied to my best friend and now she hates me and I don’t know what to do she was the only person I trusted and I lost that like my world is shattered into 4765432345678 broken pieces

  11. I keep lying about school and other stuff to my parents. How do show my parents especially my mom that I don’t mean to lie? How can I stop myself from breaking my mother’s heart? Deep deep down inside I feel terrible and I wish I can go back in time. I don’t have the strength to let my feelings roam free. I really don’t want our relationship to drift apart. How can I be a role model to my younger sister if I do all of these terrible things?

    • i have the same problem and all i know is that you can stop

  12. Honestly, i lie so much and try so hard to make it a believeable thing that I have even convinced myself on a few things that they are the truth when its clearly a lie.

  13. So I can’t sleep. I am about 20 years old. For all my life been lied to so I guess I found it okay to lie. Even when times were tuff. My dad pass about 5 years ago. My aunt took me in. She is more of a mom then my own mom. I am GOING to stop this and today will be my first day it will be hard but I will learn. I love her a lot I am stopping this because I don’t want to be hated by her. I even hate my self. thank you for making this. Also is there tips to break this habit?

  14. I can’t stop lying to my boyfriend. He always catches me and then I’m good at telling the truth for a few days then I tell another. I need help with this. I’m hurting the man I love and I want to know why I do. I use to not lie at all but then got with him and it’s what I do.

  15. I do not like lying or making up stories to my family,friends or teachers in school i am trying my best to break the bad habit go away. i am still praying for lord to help me be a better person so my friends and family will trust me again. lying and making up stories can be really annoying.

  16. I lie to my mom all the time and it’s always about guys. I feel awful when I get caught. My life goes up in flames when I lie to her. I can see the hurt and pain that I cause her, but it’s so hard to stop. I need help!

  17. I lied to my friend about a numerous number of things to seem cooler, I guess.I realised now what the consequences can be like. I really am trying to stop. I can’t confess to her and tell her everything is a lie. She’ll hate me & right now she is the only person in my life that I care about. I’m trying to stop lying and forget the earlier lies. I can only pray that this works or I will lose the only good person in my life.

    • I know how that one feels… It hurts to know you lie to seem cool… But it takes a lot to stop lying. I grew up around lies and basically the whole “monkey see, monkey do” concept is true. Sadly enough. I honestly haven’t stopped just yet, I have a lot of progress to make and truths to tell. My lies will cost my friends and trust of family members…

  18. Some times I lie but I can tell the truth because I don’t want to get in troubel and so that is why I lie I know it is a bad thing but I just don’t know how to stop and stop getting in all the troubel that I get in to and so my parents don’t even trust me any more and so I need some advice so I can stop lieing and for people to start trusting me more often and yes I,m 9 years old and I,m lieing I know it is bad but I can’t stop like I said I need some advice😱i hope I can stop pritty soon👌

    • You have to do what you haven’t done to get something that you don’t have. Start telling the truth. I know it’s hard, but if you want a good future the time to start is now:) I’m a liar…wait I was a liar just like you but as of yesterday I’m deciding to change. No more lies. Even if it kills me.:) You can do it kiddo:) *tousles your hair* Go get em:)

    • I’m twelve and I lie a lot so I need help please

    • trouble*

    • I am in the same boat as you are with parents don’t trust me not even my girlfriend don’t trust me

  19. Im dying inside iv lied all my life infact my life is a lie i course so much pain its like watever i touch i break i wish i was never born my life is 1 big pain!

    • The Bible says in the book of James that no man can tame the tongue and that it is a restless evil set on fire by hell! With that being stated let us go to Jesus and ask for forgiveness and deliverance from lying!
      I have struggled with this but after taking it to Jesus my mind is renewed and I have the courage to come clean and deal with the consequences of telling the truth!

  20. What happens if your family just doesn’t care anymore? My dad and brother and sisters have had enough. What do I do? they don’t even care anymore, and I want to stop. Please help!

  21. I find myself lying about stupid things too… over nothing. I end up lying about my friends behind their backs and of course they’ve found out…. twice… maybe more than that, they haven’t told me. I don’t know why I do it… I lied to my girlfriend and told the worst possible lie and she broke up with me. I really hate myself as well. But my friends have stuck by me and I’m really grateful. I really want to change. I told them the truth about my bad habit and I told my now ex that I lie when I get uncomfortable.. I noticed recently. I know I can get over living life a lie. I realize I’ve been lying for nearly my entire life… I’m 23. My own mom doesn’t trust me either, even the times I’m telling the truth. I just say what I think people want me to say and at other times I just completely flat out lie.But I’ve decided since last night… I’m going to change, no matter what it takes. You guys can do it too:) Yeah it hurts like hell telling the truth but I would rather hurt someone telling the truth than a lie upon a lie upon a lie. I’m sick and tired of me. #goingtobeliefree

  22. Ive lied to my wife A LOT. sometimes about stupid things , most times about things that I myself can come to terms with the severity of . lying is normal in my family. but not in hers. I dont like what it is doing to our relationship but it is so hard to constantly catch yourself before you lie.
    sometimes I lie because I am angry , and most times I dont feel like dealing with the potentially worse attitude from telling the truth.

    • It has to stop because its unfair to her. It destroys the feeling of security for her. Don’t bring it in to her family, because if the sides were flipped…she would be the one lying to a man that didn’t deserve it.

  23. If you can’t stop lying, then read all of these comments and then think again about lying

    • that is a grate way to think

  24. Your never going to stop getting in trouble its a part of growing up. just when you get caught tell them yeah I did that and it was a really stupid choose and I wont do it again and move on. but don’t lie it only gets u in more trouble. something that really helped me was I had a rubber band around my wrist and any time I felt like lying I snapped it. just told the truth. I hope this helps

    • did it really work. I cant do this anymore. everyone already hates me. I really need help

    • that is a good idea, but not for me, i am weird and enjoy pain, and hunger

  25. I stopped lying for about 3 months but suddenly it came back and I even lying more than last time. After I tried to focus, put my mind on only one thing then I learned to talk about the funny thing and never said anything about the third people unless me and who is talking with me. I decided to stop lying ’cause there are still many people love me like a part of them. I didn’t know why but all I gave them is lies.

  26. i want & will stop lying ive been a compulsive liar most of my life i was raised to the saying ‘lie ur ass off’ i disagree n wish i would of been different then my family. i have a beautiful 3yr old daughter and amazing fiancee that i have lied to so many times but that dont stop her from loving me but it has ruined her trust with me, so i cant change the past but i can better our future for our family. so im gonna read & learn from people with my disease and how to stop. ive prayed about it and asked god to forgive n help me. there is hope i know there is and i wont stop till i succeed!

  27. I can’t stop lying to my girlfriend she’s been the best thing to ever happen to me and she hates that I lie.I love her with all my heart and I don’t want lose her over something so dumb. Can anyone help me?

  28. I am am pathological liar. I don’t plan to stop

  29. the other week i lied about a detention to my mum, and then my teacher found out and i narrowly escaped another two detentions so now i have 1 (which was for forgetting my homework) so my head of year was horrible to me and said ‘i hope you get in a lot of trouble’. its over now BUT earlier on in the year i was told i had a detention for having my phone out, so it told my mum. but it wasnt followed up so i didnt and still havent received that detention but i got a detention for reading in a lesson and that was followed up and i told my mum it was for my phone but it was for reading and now 2 months later im scared that i’m going to get the detention for my phone and then have to tell my mum that i lied before etc :((((((

  30. I’m 29yrs. Old and I have been around liars my whole life. I was taught to lie by my mother to my father and family and I was raised lying so now it’s just so hard to stop it’s completely normal to me but I know it’s wrong. I have a boyfriend I’ve been with for 11yrs and I’ve lied to him many times and we’ve both have messed up in the past. But we’ve moved past it just my lying that keeps us from going forward. For the past couple of months I’ve been pretty good keeping my self in check. But last night he wanted to watch shows that I had recorded like a month ago, but I had already watched them and I pretended I didnt. And i said something , he asked me did you watch this already? and I denied it and said no. And he said if you did I don’t care just tell me if you did. But I don’t know why instead of taking the opportunity to tell the truth I just kept lying . Eventually I admitted I had watched the shows . He was pretty upset.and this morning he was still pretty angry . He went to work didn’t kiss me goodbye or said that he loved me. Then he called me 15min. Later very hostile upset saying I’m gonna give a new nickname bulls***** and I said nothing because I knew I messed up I could defend myself from what he said because it was all true.all I could say was that I was sorry and that I would do my best to keep myself in check. And change his perception of me. But this is something I’ve been struggling with all my life and I want to stop , I don’t want to lose him , I love him with all my heart he is my soul mate. What can I do to fix this and stop lying for once and for all I’m tired of this I don’t want to continue hurting him or myself or others with my lies anymore. Please help..

  31. Have you downloaded the free eBook? It goes into even more detail about causes of lying and how to change – https://www.thehopeline.com/ebooks/ Or chat with a HopeCoach anytime. All chats are free and private.

  32. I always lie to my parents. All the time, and it hurts them and me. I can’t seem to stop. My mom gets hurt most of all, and I can’t stop. It’s not a choice! I don’t know what to do! As an indian child in an indian family, rules are so important, and I just can’t stop lying. Please help me, Im ruining the lives of me and my family. I lie about all the stupidest things like eating food, hiding evidence, making up homework and excuses. Im simply not able to say it, and I don’t know why!

  33. i lie to my parents all the time i want to stop but cant, i just want to stop and regain my parents trust………. because i know that lying will get me somewhere…….. it will get me in a jail someday.

  34. I HAVE LIED ALL MY LIFE…. I have even spent a weekend in jail. Every time …. I think, I got a hold on it, I mess up again. I hate myself for lying and I know I need help. The only one who can take this away is GOD!!! It’s the only way any of us stand a chance, But why is it still so HARD.

  35. I have never been much of a liar (I’m a terrible liar), but I have lied about some pretty big things to my fiancé. A few years ago, I lied to him about a title loan I had. I was a single mom of 2 small children, and just trying to get by (and sinking fast). It caused a lot of hurt and anger understandably on his part. We worked through it and I swore I would never lie to him again. Until last year, I kept that promise. Suddenly, I lost my job and since he has been at home due to a work injury, We were struggling financially and instead of talking to him about it, I thought I would take matters into my own hands and racked up my credit cards to pay bills. When I finally got another job, I was still behind. A family of 4 on only my income became really hard, and so I took out 2 loans. Again, to pay our bills. Because of these loans, I naturally started getting further and further behind. I never told him about it. I guess in my silly mind, I thought I was actually protecting him by not telling him. I rationalized what I was doing. It was wrong. We tried to work through that too, but there was enough damage done. I told him I would pay the loans off with my tax return. But once my tax return came around, I didn’t make it my priority and then ran out of money to pay off the full balances. I paid them down thinking I would get it paid off in one or two more payments after that. But one of the loans kept racking up interest. I then refinanced one loan (the one that could be paid down) to pay off the other. But after looking in my bank account and seeing what I had done, he is livid.Because he could tell I was hiding something, he starting believing that I was cheating on him with someone at work (the LAST thing on my mind).
    A little off topic, when I am nervous, I get a red blotch on my neck that closely resembles a hickey. The day I took out one of the loans, I was obviously nervous and stressed and developed a blotch on my neck. He was and still is convinced it was a hickey. The day I took out a second loan, I developed another blotched. At this point he was absolutely convinced that they were hickeys.
    Because of all of this he figures that if I lied, then I must have cheated too. I was getting so sick of being accused of cheating, that a few weeks ago, after another argument about it, a coworker texted me. It was just a simple innocent text of him asking who called him and me replying that I didn’t know. That was it. I never gave this coworker my number (he probably got it from my boss), and I hardly ever talk to him at work. In fact, most of my time at work is me sitting on the opposite end of the office from everyone else buried in papers and files all day. Anyway, after him and I argued, I deleted the texts from the coworker, mostly because I knew that if he looked at my phone and saw the texts, no matter how simple, that he would start accusing me of cheating and giving out my phone number to this guy. So, I decided to just avoid the confrontation all together. I never put his number in my phone, because like I said, I hardly ever talk to him to begin with.
    Anyway, on Saturday, this same coworker called me on my day off to ask me about a customer that was in the office. After I hung up, my fiancé checked my phone and found the history of where I deleted the text. Now, he is furious, and CONVINCED that I have cheated on him. I didn’t. Never would.
    The bottom line is, because I have told these lies, now he thinks that everything I am saying is a lie. I even, in front of him, put a Bible in my hand and swore to God that I would tell the truth, no matter how bad it was, at all times. But he still doesn’t believe me, convinced now that every word I say is a lie. I meant that promise. I don’t ever want to go through this again. None of this I thought at the time, was to hurt him, but I have had to accept the fact that we don’t succeed in life on just “good intentions.” We don’t hurt the people we love most in this world, and hurting him is exactly what I did.

  36. I’ve lied to my parents over little things for the past 8 years. I first started lying when my parents divorced and my father started dating again shortly after the divorce. I stopped lying for a good 6-8 months then I broke it. I lied to my parents just a week or so ago. I want to stop but I dont know how to stop myself from letting the lies slip out of my mouth. I need a sense of direction to show me a way to stop lying.

  37. You can do it! Just the fact that you want to change is a great first step. Please chat with us online and we can help you find the direction you are looking for. We are here for you 24/7 – https://www.thehopeline.com/GetHelp/

  38. I stole money from my sister last year and did it once once more this year, and i lie a lot to my friends to sound cool. I lie to my parents sometimes I even regret doing it.The reason why i followed this link is because i think I’m now addicted to it. Sometimes I tell myself I mustn’t lie but I just tend to. What should I do to stop this?
    I feel if I confess, all the people I lied to will turn their backs on me
    Please help

    • I had similar problems. I lied to people just to look/sound cool. It’s hard but if you keep doing it, it will/can get worst. Just repeat constantly in your mind the goal of telling the truth and clear your conscience.

  39. I lie alot. It’s hard to admit it but I do. I’ve lied so much to people in school about anything just so I cool or interesting in front of them. I also lie when I get into trouble alot. I try to get out of problems by lying and hope that other people with go along with it. Recently in school, I went to a teacher to speak about a personal matter. It was 10 minutes after classes had started and I just stay in the bathroom those 10 minutes. I walked to her class room and I lied to her saying that my Art teacher knew where I was and basically skipped the beginning of my last class. She gave me a pass to Art so I’d be excused not knowing that I wasn’t there the 10 minutes before coming to her class. When I got to the class, 30 mins late, the Art teacher was busy with a student so I just sat down and did some work. I always leave 5 minutes early, from the time your suppose to, so I can get my instrument (also a lie about playing an instrument. I just want to leave class early). So I left again and when I returned, a couple seconds before the bell, the teacher saw me walk in and yelled at me saying that I wasn’t in her class at all. l explain the teacher that I was there towards the end of class but then left to gt my instrument. She told me to get out of her class and that she would speak to the Vice-Principal about my behavior of skipping class. When the Vice-Principal called me down to talk about it and give me a consequence, I got super scared. I never get into trouble at school where I get sent to a Vice or Principal. So to make it worse, I lied to the Vice Principal saying that I was walking to class and that the teacher saw me in the hall and TOLD me to go to her class. I told her that i was with that teacher the FULL 30 minutes from when I was late. Then I told her how I went to class after and how the teacher didn’t see me and then I left to go to get my instrument. The Vice-Principal knew I was lying and told me that she knew I went to the bathroom for 10 minutes. She knew I lied to the teacher about being allow to talk to her by my Art teacher. She knew that the teacher I was talking to was talking to me for ONLY the 20 mins and she knew that i didn’t play in instrument. She told me that this is what I get for lying and on top of already lying, I lied right to her face and the face of the teachers involved. The Vice-Principal called my dad and told him everything and emphasized on the fact that I LIED to her. After the call, the VP made me apologize to the teacher I was talking to and gave me three days of lunch detention.
    I don’t know why I lied to the VP when I could have just told her the truth and now the 2 teachers involved label me as a LIAR, the VP labels me as a LIAR and my parents label me as a LIAR. I feel terrible and I want to stop lying it’s just hard not to….

    • Try this it helped me too:
      Keep a rubber band on your wrist so whenever you start to lie you snap the band on your wrist which will help you remember to tell the truth
      Credits: someone in this comments section 😉

  40. It is not fair that they have put a label on you. Lying is a behavior, but it does not define who you are. People can definitely change. We want to talk to you. https://www.thehopeline.com/gethelp/

  41. I lie to my husband about money issues..He wants me to move out..I am on line now reading about lieing…I don’t do it to get attention! I do it so I don’t stress him out about things, but alot of times it comes back to hurt us….

  42. My partner is at the end of her tether and I could be on the verge of losing her as I have lied from the start and have tried over the 17 years to stop but I can’t seem to be able to own up and take the crap I deserve. There’s certain things I have had the chance to own up to when my partner has said it’s ok but I think it will play a bigger part than she’s letting on but I don’t know I that’s the case because ive never tried it and would rather wait and see if the lie will work…I seriously need help…anyone?

  43. I’m going to start with (and attempt to stick with) the truth. I’m in my 30s and I lie. I lie because I’m afraid of disappointing people who respect and love me. Ironically, those people usually end up losing all respect and trust for me, not because of my actions, but because I lied. Unfortunately each link in this chain of lost relationships only makes the desperate need for someone to love and respect me all the more real. This increases the need to cover up my flaws and mistakes. I’ve even started asking my children to cover for me with their mother, which is horrible and kills me inside each time I do. It’s only ever small things, like my wife doesn’t like the kids to watch TV too much. But we both work shift work and some days when I’m at home alone with the kids, I’ll let them watch a movie. Now, I will get a lecture from my wife about this, but nothing compared to what I get for lying to her. But I still ask my kids not to mention it to their mother. Thankfully, I have really strong, confident kids and they always sell me out. But I need to stop. They deserve better. I want to raise strong, confident, honest kids, who can be proud of their strong, confident, honest father.
    I had a bit of a chaotic childhood. I would get in heaps of trouble for minor things or natural accidents or flaws. So I learnt at a young age that lying was often necessary to avoid a beating. I guess I’ve never actually unlearned this habit, even now that it is definitely not necessary, and in fact gets me in more trouble.
    How can I stop?

  44. I am sorry you are struggling with this, but I believe you can overcome this habit of lying. Your desire to do better is a great place to start and realizing where the need to lie came from growing up in a chaotic family. We have a free eBook that goes into more detail about getting help http://info.thehopeline.com/lying-ebook and you can chat with a HopeCoach anytime 24/7 – https://www.thehopeline.com/gethelp/

  45. The two of you could read our free eBook about lying. It is a good way to start the discussion. Someone else who read it said, “My ex husband lies all the time we have two children and I always wanted to know why? This is helping me and I sent the information to him.” Here is the link to download it – http://info.thehopeline.com/lying-ebook

  46. i have lied about my whole life since i was little. first it was to not be noticed. At fisrt i think is was because my parents were going through some stuff and I was going to a new school every other year so it started so I could fit in to the environment I was put in. So i went to really rich schools and then cared so much about money and my appearance and would lie that my family was more well off than we were. Then I was put into a poor school and everyone seemed to have a bad life and I wanted a friend so bad I made it seem like my situation was horrible. At first it was hard to lie but the it became almost instant. Then when i was in 5th grade I didn’t want people to know how not okay I was. I had contemplated suicide but on the out side I was the happiest kid. I finally had a point where I was fixated on dying and realized how bad it was and got help. The therapy in my life wasnt helpful some just wanted to throw pills at me others would gain my trust and break it so lying started to become constant again. i did seek help but i just could trust people. So life when on I started lying about who i was to get a cute boy or to pass a class. jI found a job where lying was appreciated which is retail.I became so consumed in my lies at this point i actually believed my own lies. The hardest part was I was in a car accident and had memory issues after so the lies I told myself almost became my reality. Now I want to stop. It has never effected a job or friendships but it is effecting my relationship. I don’t know the truth about everything and I don’t remember when I lie but we were so close to breaking up because i was getting out of hand with it and his whole thing is trust and I broke his trust. Now changing the fact that I lie is all I want. It is almost like a weird addiction and research is all I have. I don’t have money for a therapist but I don’t want to break this mans heart anymore. It is the worst quality I have I am trying to break it but it comes so naturally and I guess I need help.
    I want to share my story because I hope that people don’t let it get to the point where you can’t tell the difference where it is just easy and it is hurting people you love.

  47. I just destroyed my relationship with the love of my life because of my habitual lying and I want to stop. I need help. I want to face her again as a better person who overcame this ugly trait that has destroyed my relationships with people for so long.

  48. HI I’m 18 years old and I have a habit of lying i just ruined my relationship due to this problem I really liked this person we were together for a long time and due to my lying we had to end things. It tears me apart but it is my fault I said to him that I wanted to change and I tried but it’s so hard I was always being doubted and I understand why but even when I would say the truth about something he wouldn’t believe me and honestly I don’t blame him for thinking that way, I mean I did ruin it with lies but I really want to change for the better but I need support

  49. I have come to the realization that I have a compulsive lying problem that I cannot break. My boyfriend of 5 years is on the verge of leaving and I’m scared to death I have messed up for the last time and there isn’t going to be a way to salvage what we had. I have to fix me, not just for him, but for myself and my son. How can I fix this. A simply apology isn’t going to get me anywhere.

  50. I am sorry you are struggling with this, but there is still hope. Recognizing you have a lying problem and wanting to change is the first step. You and your boyfriend will learn a lot through reading TheHopeLine® eBook, “Understanding Lying.” Getting to the root of the problem will start you on a path of healing. Download it here – http://info.thehopeline.com/lying-ebook

  51. Hello, I have been lying to the person that wants the best for me. I fell in the lie because I wanted to appear perfect for her.
    she caught me on my lies many time to the point. She still wish that I change this habit, that I become better. That I come to her truthfully. I pray That God helps me, hat he helps me to humble myself and tell her the truth no matter how low or a way she might think of me. She deserves but the truth.
    She still has a little care for me. But things are different now, she still wants me to be better, but It’s different.
    I have done the worse thing to her by lying on who I am to appeal great to her. I definitely can say anyone; lying will not build you, it will only destroy you, even if you are trying to protect the other one from something, because, the day they will figure it out ( and they will ), all you will wish for is, if I only told them the truth.
    Remain in God my fellow brother and sister.

  52. I don’t think I will ever be able to stop lying. I’ve been lying since as far back as I can remember.

  53. My favorite lie: “I’m already halfway done”. Sometimes before I started. I feel horrible for not being able to manage my time better and not have more energy or dedication to get everything done as I promised. I don’t want people to worry. I don’t want them to think less of me. I get it done. I might pull two all-nighters and collapse at the end, but I get it done. Sometimes I might lie because I’m too tired to defend my decisions if I told the truth. Sometimes I lie to cover up a mistake, by blaming things out of my control (never people, more like the weather, or a train running late. It might have run late, but I should have known better and taken an earlier one) Although I suspect I’m too quick to blame myself and try to cover up things that weren’t actually entierly my fault. The fact that I’m generally considered a thoroughly honest and trustworthy person makes it even worse. I’m very scared that unless I get rid of most of my flaws, if I get honest about them, everyone will hate me and won’t want anything to do with me.

  54. I cant stop the little white lies. And i only have this problem with my wife. Its really starting to mKe her hate me. But im so focused on not making a small thing bigger i lie to try to dissuade but it only makes things worse which i awknowledge. But its almost inate. I explain right after but by then her thought process has jumped to an extreme scenario which in turn makes the situation overwhelming and bad

  55. I have lied my whole life. I need help I just keep missing up everything.

  57. I lost the love of my life because I can’t stop lying about stupid things to either avoid confrontation/an argument or to spare his feelings or just anything of the sort. I loathe myself for this awful trait I possess. I want it to stop.

  58. I am 13 I cannot stop lying… you say that you just need to admit when you lie, but it’s not that easy. I choose to lie to get out of trouble. I just can’t stop. Please help. Any advice would be much appreciated! Please…

    • It has become a habit and you use it as a defense mechanism that’s why its hard to stop, I know from experience, I was a liar and I was good at it too, but I learned to admit it to myself once i came to admit to myself that I need to stop it became easier to stop and I started to lie less and now I’ve stopped and I try to avoid getting into trouble and if i do i just prepare myself to tell the truth and face what is to come, its a long process but it is worth it.

      • Thank you for sharing your own story to encourage others who are struggling. 🙂

    • same

    • I know it is hard just breath and then tell the person you lied to and if you cain’t tell them face to face then gmail or write a note

  59. I’m 13 and I lie all the time. Either to get out of things or to hide that I did something wrong. To stop lying is gonna be really hard. I don’t understand why I do it. I could say things so much easier if I just said what I wanted. For example my parents asked if I wanted to go to my brother’s foot ball game which is 2 hours away, I really did not want to go. But instead of just saying can I please stay at home I ended up lying saying that I had drama practice which I didn’t. I need some advice and a lot of help. Please.

  60. Im 18 and I lie practically everyday. It can be about the most insignificant thing in the world and I still lie. It has put my Dad through living hell most of all, and our relationship is on the verge of collapse. Ive always lied because I was so afraid to tell the truth, thinking that the truth was far worse than the lie. To help complicate matters, I have a gaming addiction, and I create elaborate lies to fulfill my desire to consistently fuel it. It has gotten to the point where every word that escapes my mouth is a lie. Even the times when I tell the truth I am never believed in. I have even gotten professional help for this very thing and I even lie to the professionals! I desperately want to to change and break this habit, more than anything in the world. But I know that it will take take time and work. Thank you to anyone who has taken the time to read my story and I wish everyone with my problem good luck in the future.

  61. I told a really bad lie and this article changed my life

  62. What do you do if telling someone the truth is going to hurt there feelings? Example
    Wife: honey do I look good
    Husband: yes ou look great
    But really she doesn’t .

  63. I lie when I am too scared to face the truth. A couple of weeks ago, I made a mistake that I can never forgive myself for. I used illegal substances and ever since then, everyone who knows about it hasn’t looked at me the same. Every day I think about this mistake I made and since then I haven’t been able to stop lying. My relationship with my parents was deeply affected and will never be the same because of ME. I feel like crap and when other people can move on from this, I still can’t and I would do anything to go back and change the mistakes I made. I’m a Freshman in high school and I want to be in the US Marine Corps but liars can’t be trusted and can easily get booted out. This is a story to not only do illegal things but to not lie because it is very hard to break a compulsive lying habit. -Jack

    • Jack, there is hope. Have you downloaded our free eBook about lying? Getting to the heart of why you are lying is really important. You can chat with a HopeCoach anytime 24/7 – it’s safe, confidential, and free – here is the link https://www.thehopeline.com/gethelp/ Jack, everyone makes mistakes in life and we learn from them and become better people.
      Here is the link to the free eBook, which would also be good to share with your parents to get a conversation started. Your parents love you and want to know the truth so that they can love you through it. http://info.thehopeline.com/lying-ebook

    • Jack, You are being far too hard on yourself. First teenagers are the hardest critics and they don’t mean to be, they are growing. Secondly even the best of teenagers lie. You can rebuild what part of your reputation you think you lost by NOT doing it again…first and foremost…drugs will ruin your life. On the lying end of things, this is something you can control…Forgive your past lies, stop lying and move on. Before you know it you will be far more comfortable with yourself and self esteem. Remember you and your friends all want to fit in, but that doesn’t mean by choosing the option that will hurt you. You will find the friends that need you to say “no” too. Now forgive yourself sweetie. I hope you will be a Marine someday. Part of being a man is facing the truth and dealing with the consequences. The more you practice it the easier it gets and the stronger you will become…just a like Marine. Just be true to yourself Jack…no more drugs!!!

    • Own up to it and apologize to those people you hurt and don’t look at you the same way. In order to gain their respect or trust, you need to be honest as to why you did, why you lied, and prove in your actions that your words are credible. Perhaps getting involved in a drug program to learn how destructive drugs are to not only you but to those around you.

  64. can anyone help me please my lying habit has made my life a living heck? if you can cause it is really hard to tell the truth and I ly to try to stay out of trouble.

  65. last night i lied to my dad, he’s my hero. and i don’t deserve all the things he gives me. in the past years my mom has always lied to me and my family, i promised myself i wouldn’t become like her. and that’s where the lie’s started, i lied to myself that i wouldn’t be like her. when i was little all i ever did was lie, but i got away with it. it hurts me that i struggle to control myself when i lie. i really hate it every time i do i feel guilty. my dad left me alone at home and said he wanted me out. i would like some advice on how to earn his trust back?

    • I’m assuming since he wants you out, you’re old enough to be on your own. Get out. Prove him wrong by making it right. Become independent and show him in actions that you’re trustworthy. It will take a very long time. The thing about liars is the only one they are fooling is themselves if they think they’ve got the world fooled especially a good parents. Your hero deserves better than you’ve given him. A hero is someone whom you respect which is why you call him a “hero”. You couldn’t respect him or you wouldn’t lie to him.

  66. I really need help I lie about anything everything to my family and worse part to my girlfriend. Lied about my babe that he was dead and the tattoo on my hand remind me of him (instead it’s my grand mom who past on) lied about my age to her that I’m 31 and I’m 28 she’s 30.

    • Wow! I’m speechless.

  67. Hi, I’m a 45 year old man who has lied to everyone including myself for many years. I have now lost everything, my home, a steady job and most importantly the love of my life. I feel utterly destroyed and I need help before its to late for me. What can I do to reverse this downward spiral into oblivion ?

  68. 42 years old and still making up stuff or exaggerating stuff to make story seem cooler. I hate it, I just want to stop but find myself doing it over and over and then feel stupid afterwards. They are usually dumb senseless lies that don’t get me out if trouble, the weird thing is I actually can’t lie to get out of trouble but I can make up stories all day, I used to do this when I got really drunk so I stopped drinking in excess to avoid running into this behavior but now I’m doing it completely sober. I just want to stop but I’m keep doing it.

    • I need help i lie about the dumbest things and it kills me i am so used to just whipping up a lie but i never take time to think about if i’m doing the right thing

  69. Going to try this. I have stop these lies, it’s killing me inside.

  70. I lie about playing games. I have been caught many times and still repeatedly play video games on my laptop. I dissapointed my parents to the point where they are going to send me to boarding school. I want to stop but I can’t. I need help fast. I love my parents and I want to earn back their trust and stop playing video games. Please help me

    • Talk to them maturely about it and if you really cant stop have them hide your laptop until you feel the stop feeling the urge to play games

  71. I have been a lyer for most of my life. It cost me my marriage my business and my love once. I hate that I lie about things especially when it comes to my self. I don’t know when to stop and and when I get caught on a lie I lie more to cover up the first lie. I absolutely hate it I just want to be better from the bottom of my heart

    • Talking to a HopeCoach about your struggle is really helpful. Just click the “chat now” button. We also have an eBook that is full of helpful information – real stories, insights, worksheet, etc. Here is the link to the eBook – http://info.thehopeline.com There is hope. You can get better.

  72. I lie to my wife about small things because I assume that it might hurt her. I want to tell her the truth, everything and get it off my chest. I am scared that after hearing all of that she might leave me and never come back. That is not what I want. I keep telling myself to wait till i get my paycheck so that I can cover up the lie, but I would be lying to her again about the salary that i am getting as I would be paying off a debt that I have not told her. There is nothing else that I am hiding from her. But me constantly lying and trying to hide things I know might upset her have taken my once chance of getting an opportunity to be trusted. How do I make it all right? Please tell me.

    • I am so glad you are being honest here. That is the first step in healing. Have you read our eBook about lying? That’s a good place to start and talking to a HopeCoach is really helpful. Just click the “chat now” button. True intimacy in a relationship comes through being completely honest with one another. Being humble, sorry, and repentant may actually bring you closer together.
      Here is the link to the eBook – http://info.thehopeline.com/lying-ebook It is great for both of you to read.

      • I already took a printout of the ebook and will read it tonite itself. I want to be honest, though I am scared but I really want to be honest and tell her everything. I want to work on our relationship and address everything that she expects from me as a partner as a husband.

        • I am so proud of you for taking these first steps! I will be praying that her heart is full of compassion and grace and that your honesty will open the door for a wonderful deeper relationship together.

    • You can only make it right by being honest and dealing with the consequences of your actions. You’ve denied her a real relationship with your lies and the right to be involved in the decisions that affect you both.

  73. i cant stop lying about things i do or did, recent event i went out with my sister and never told my boyfriend and he found out by himself and he aksed me what did i do this weekend and i lied to him even when he knew i was lying, im making a fool out myself , i have this habit of trying to get myself out of a situation that is direct to me and is uncomfortable towards me by lying and i do tell the truth when i know within me that what i am saying is the truth but by the stupid lies i told in the past he will never believe me. please help i am losing him and he is the reason of how i came to addmiting i have a problem and i want to change 25 years of this habits please

    • You CAN change. Being honest here and asking for help is a great start. Talking with a counselor or here at TheHopeLine with a HopeCoach can help you get to the root of the issue. Sometimes we lie because we have a fear or a traumatic memory. The fact that you genuinely don’t want to do it says that there is hope for you to get healthy in this area of your life. Please chat with one of our HopeCoaches. Your boyfriend can also chat with us about how he is feeling and maybe learn how he can help you, too. Just click the “chat now” button or go to this link https://www.thehopeline.com/gethelp Together the two of you could also go through our free eBook about lying. It will help the two of you talk about it together in a healing way for both of you – http://info.thehopeline.com/lying-ebook

  74. I feel so bad right now. How long does it take to become an honest person? The feeling is horrible and I do not want to lie anymore. Please help me

    • The fact that you are being honest about it and feel remorse shows that you can and will get better! Have you downloaded our free eBook> http://info.thehopeline.com Also, you can talk about it with one of our trained HopeCoaches. Simply click the “chat now” button. We are here cheering you on. You can do it!

  75. I’m 13 and I can’t stop lying to my parents. I’m close to my mom and tell her a lot of things, but when I do something wrong I don’t tell them and always end up in trouble for them. Lately it’s escalated to taking things from them and using them, like my mom’s tablet. I am tired of doing this but i just can’t stop. I really don’t want this to escalate into a huge problem where I’m stealing something illegal. Someone please help me.

    • You stated you “always end up in trouble for them”. Why not just admit the truth since you already know you’ll be caught lying and getting in trouble? At least by being honest, there’s a chance of repairing the relationship with your parents before you get older and lose all their respect.

    • I would lie to my mother when I was younger about anything. I didn’t like to shop but she did so I would lie. I also would just end up in trouble. I am now 40 and the lies that started with her continued. It is great that you are getting ahead and asking for help. I really wouldn’t want you to end up in the same position that I am now. Keep getting help find someone to trust, if you cant find one see if you can see a therpist. It’s great that you have found this place, I no longer feel as alone as I did.

  76. I always lie. I lie about my life and I lied to my bestfriends. Now my bestfriend is in love with someone who I made up so I tried ending it by telling her [the guy] was involved in an accident, or that he doesn’t want anything to do to me anymore, etc. But I can’t seem to stop and tell her the truth. I have much more ridiculous lies that sound like a made up story but she naively believe that everything coming out from my mouth is true. And now, she’s the only person who I keep lying to so that she won’t feel upset. What should I do?

    • She isn’t naïve. She trusts you. TELL HER THE TRUTH. You put yourself in this position and you need to own up to it. It will be your friend’s choice to forgive you or sever the friendship. Stop being selfish thinking only about yourself. You’re not protecting her. You’re betraying her.

  77. I am a liar. I am destroying my family. I am going to use these steps to better myself

    • Admitting you have a problem is the first step to healing. You might want to also download our free eBook that goes into even more detail and has a practical worksheet included. http://info.thehopeline.com/lying-ebook You can do this!

    • I’ve been lied to and being on the receiving end hurts and has chipped away at our relationship. It’s good you’re admitting it but you need to take it further. Take responsibility for your actions rather than lie about them. The person on the receiving end may be hurt when you speak the truth but you won’t lose the respect. Being hurt with honesty is one thing and it’s very possible to move forward but being hurt, betrayed, and treated like a moron when lied to is insulting, degrading, in addition to hurtful.

      • Parent. My child is now 18. Her lying has destroyed our entire family. She has gone beyond all normal lying , not to avoud cobsequences, but to get what she wants, to manipulate people or circumstances out if pure selfishness. My husband and I have lost our feelings of love for her, have no trust, and don’t want to maintain a relationship. We simpky can’t face the pain of her actions. She has told job altering, life changing, legal jeopardizing, and relationship, character, and integrity destroying lies. She does it to make herself look good to others, to get what she wants, and to keep other family members away, out of jealousy. Her own conscience is seared and she has no remorse. I beg you to stop lieing. It’s a sin before God and u will lose your family and be alone. U will not have love because that has to be built on trust. U will kill people. My husband and I have not seen our 4 grandchildren fir 2 years due to lies, have essentially buried another daughter, grandkids, and the Liar. We have no reason to live. Its a grievous sin because Satan is the Father if lies. People will forgive the truth. Just tell it.

  78. I am a Liar and it has truly ruined my life. My husband will no longer believe me and has no trust in me. My husband asked why would someone who lies to them all the time. I really have nothing to say because I wouldnt either. It has been hard for me these past few days. Im telling the truth but I have no leg to stand on. It’s frustrating me but I know that he is more frustrated than me. I know that I can only live day by day but he feels and sees the hurt from the past when he looks at me. I am losing my family and heading for a divorce that I don’t want. I have giving my whole family pain that could have been avoided.

  79. I’ve lied pretty much most of my life and it hasn’t really affected me until now. I’ve lost my girlfriend who I’ve been with for 4 years and planned to marry. Every single lie was unnecessary they wouldn’t have caused any break up just maybe an awkward conversation and even as she caught me I continued to lie and she continued to forgive me I couldn’t stop and I don’t know why. All I had to do was tell her she gave me multiple chances to just tell her everything and I just didn’t maybe I couldn’t maybe I wasn’t strong enough. I don’t know what I was scared of but I see I have a problem and I want to change she meant the world to me and I just didn’t stop. People say you never realize what you had until you lose it and I’ve never related to anything so much. I need help and I don’t know how to change I just know I need to and that I’m determined to move forward life is about growth and I’ll never grow until I realize a web of lies always ends with a plummet that sometimes you’ll never bounce back from. Lies have brought nothing but pain and I can’t live a life of constant pain anymore so I have to face it.

  80. I am thirteen going to be fourteen in half a year and one month and i have the same problem .its like an addiction to me .I can’t seem to stop and my parents , teachers and loved ones keep getting hurt . I know that it’s bad to do it and I never feel good after i do it but i keep on doing it and i have know idea why it keeps on happening i hate when i have to lie but i also hate it when I might get into trouble even the slight thought of trouble scares me so i need help and i need advice please help me i really need it .

    • Molly, I am so sorry you are struggling with lying but I am so glad you found our website. We also have an eBook that is free and really helpful – http://info.thehopeline.com/lying-ebook And HopeCoaches are online 24/7 to chat with you about your struggle. Just click the “chat now” button.

  81. i am thirteen now going to be fourteen in half i year and one month and I have the same problem . I keep lying all the time it’s like an addiction and I can’t seem to stop at all in the process i keep getting my parents, teachers and loved ones hurt and when that happens i also get hurt at the same time . i hate it when i lie it never makes me happy it kills me please help me anything will do.PLEASE i really need it.

  82. I am 21 and made it a habit to lie whenever I felt getting in trouble or whenever I thought of losing my (pretty) mask. As a small kid I lied sometimes but since my parents started a war (I was 12 then; they were already diveroced when I was 4 year) I adapted lying as a defence mechanism since I got to live with both of them. I got really good at lying, or at least that is what I thought. Little did I know I started doing this to everyone and for one or other reason this resulted into everyone liking me (litterally everyone). That is the pretty mask I was talking about. Now, approx 10 years later my house of cards starts stubbling down after me lying at big issues… For one or other reason now I have the feeling I make everyone angry and that eventually I will end up alone… After some reflection I realised that I cannot lie anymore and I started the process of telling little truths (I must admit it does feel good, its a relief!). I realised that by telling lies you are exactly counteracting the very reason you are lying: you just want to do good and be seen as good by everyone. Well… I feel a monster and the problem is, I dont feel like I deserve anyone… And so I bounced on these steps. And I will mark this message I write here and the steps suggested on this website as a new start. Clean sheets! I will continue the process of truth and I guess I’ll just wait and see who will see the real change in me and continue with them. Hope its going to work, because when you lie, you are even lying more to yourself…

    • You can do it!!! I am so proud of you for writing in here. We also have a free eBook about lying that is really helpful – http://info.thehopeline.com/lying-ebook You can do it! I believe in you!

    • Same

  83. I’m 20 and my lying is destroying my life everyone treats me as if I’m a nothing, because I am. I have fallen into a deep depression I have attempted suicide twice because of it. I’m trying to join the military and have a dream of being a cop I need help I’m losing control of my life I can sleep and have no want to eat anything I’m scared this is my life and I won’t be able to change it

  84. i lie a lot and it has become a part of my life, don’t know if it will go.

  85. I have a very bad problem with lying. I’ve been lying for years and it’s caught up with me since than. My boyfriend will ask me questions and I refuse to be honest with him about them. He gets hurt and wants to hate me for it. Its effecting our relationship in a way if some parts that I cannot fix or try to fix because lying comes easy for me. His family doesn’t like it when I hurt him nor lie to him. Being honest with him is like drinking a bottle of cooking oil doesn’t taste good. I don’t blame him for getting mad, but I want a life and future for the both of us.

  86. Thank you v much for writing this down. I Think this is v helpful and it surely helps to become a truthful person. Especially the sentence that wrong actions almost always lead to lies,helped me a lot. I wanna be a truthful person and i am going to be. Thx

    • Awesome! One of these steps at a time, and be patient with yourself because it will take time to break some of your old habits. To reemphasize what you read here and for more, download our free eBook, Understanding Lying: http://info.thehopeline.com/loneliness-ebook.

  87. I lie to feel cool
    to not feel judged
    my friends think I’ve just had a bad break upu with my boyfriend but in all honesty I’ve never even met the guy in my life btu the problem is that my friend saw his picture and started asking around I even lied about the guys name, she’s never gonna trust me she’s going to tell everyone
    I just didn’t want to seem weird I’ve never had a boyfriend let alone kiss someone
    turns out her other friwnd knows the guy’s name is actually Kenny, how am I supposed to face her on Monday

  88. I’m 35 yrs old and I have lied my whole life. In this time I have managed to ruin 2 families. My first was with the mother of 3 of my 4 kids. We were young when we first got together and fell in love. I have always lied to avoid disappointment from others in me. I’ve always wanted acceptance from the ones I love . I have now destroyed a second family. My wife( soon to be ex-wife ) is probably the most honest and sweeties person I’ve ever known. My lying has now caused an end to our relationship and my soul is torn to its core over this. She has been so good to me and all I did was lie to her over and over again . Lying is so much worse than drugs . I promise you that is a truth. You don’t have to go out and search for a lie like you do drugs. I wish I could help young people understand exactly how damaging lis can be . Until we lose something we truly cherish and desire we will never see what our lies do to not only others or ourselves. Hope all of us can over come .

    • I know how did you stop I have lied to many years and it has damaged my family and the relationship between me and my girlfriend well she was my girlfriend till I lied to her I need help any advice you can give me

    • That’s so horrible. I can imagine how you must feel loosing someone you love so much ans something so small but yet would of taken 2 mins to fix wreaked your whole life. At the end of the day me you and people wouldn’t be writing stuff like this if they were not serious about getting help. I hurt my wife so bad and when I get the chance and going to ask her for her support and that I have a problem which scares me amd makes me freeze and that’s when the lies come out. I’m going to fix it before it gets truly bad.

  89. I have a wonderful lady she is everything to me, my world my true love as But I Lie too her. I don’t always lie but I’ll always lie to Protect my feelings of being hurt, scared I’ll lose her, hurting her or disappointing her because she is everything to me. I know what to do STOP LIEING but when the times come when she ask the feeling of her leaving or disappointing her, losing her is so grate, I just lie even when I know it’s wrong, I’ve been trying an trying to fix it I go good for a while then it slowly creeps back an Back. Please anyone with information I would love to here from yous.

    • I need help too I go forward then I go backwards I need help to

    • Admit to her you have a problem and need support threw it. You may find yourself being more truthful to her knowing that she’s helping you with a problem.

  90. I have been lieing for so many years and I have not stopped because my family and my loved one can’t trust me I need the help to stop this habit I have had councerling and it has not help me

  91. I have lied to my wife now 3 times this year and last night was caught out and was told I had broken trust again. I did however tell her that I think I have a problem. It’s like I will be honest up to the point where I freeze and I think I need to lie, even tho I know it’s wrong and gaining back trust is one of the hardest things to go.

  92. The reason I lie is because I just want to prove someone wrong and I don’t want to be the one to be Court out and get in trouble but it I don’t think I just lie lie lie !!!! And I feel like sh** after what found out , but then when you tell the truth they won’t believe you !

  93. This article has really helped me,I hope to work hard on my lying habits to stop telling so much lies. My whole life has been a living lie. It has hurt so many people around me that loves me and I have lost the respect and admiration of people who once love me. I pray and hope to work to overcome this terrible of lying so much

  94. Today I’ve admitted I have a horrible habit, I habitual lie. I am a 48 year old male who has lied my entire life and can’t stop if my life depended on it. Well today it dose, my wife is about to leave me cause I’ve lied about everything our relationship has been built on. Im now going to try and change my life for the first time ever. Please wish me well because I know this is going to be the hardest thing I’ve ever done.

  95. You are absolutely right. I usually lie because I never want to be in trouble. Maybe confession for me is good for me. I hate to do it but it has been a habit for me, and it’s very bad for those who love me. I never mean to hurt anyone just because of this “habit”. Maybe confessing more can help me be a better person, and much less of a liar. I don’t want to become that person. Thank you.

  96. I’ve destroyed everything that was good in my life by lying. Don’t let it happen to you. Seek help before you sit where I’m sitting. I promise you, no amount of lying can cover up this pain.

  97. Hi everyone, I am 14 and i lie too much, i say things and then i begin to start believing them, then i tell them to others and then they see that it is a lie and then i disagree, then later that day i would realize that what i said was a lie and then i don’t know what to say to them, so i tell them another lie not wanting them to be annoyed at me, but then they find out and the cycle repeats, i desperately need to stop, my girlfriend broke up with me because of it (but a miracle made her come back) and my dad called me a little sh*t for the first time and said f*ck to me for the first time because i lied, please help me………………………….

  98. I’ve screwed up so many relationships because of my lying. I’ve been a liar since before I can even remember. My mom tells me that I made up the most elaborate stories…
    I may have just ruined everything with the man I love. How do I fix this?!

  99. lying hasn’t messed up my life but i feel it is bad to lie to everyone i know even to my parents;i get away with yet i feel guilty inside.What can i do stop?

  100. thanks it really helped me understand

  101. I’ve lied to my husband so many times he understandably does not believe anything I say to him I need help as my marriage is breaking down due to all my lies. Has anyone got any suggestions in helping me be truthful and my husband to start believing me.

  102. I have had multiple experiences where I have lied, multiple times where my parents had to have some serious conversations with me that scared me to death. I know I shouldn’t lie, but yet I never know what the consequences will be. I know that if I come clean about it immediately then the consequences won’t be as bad, but I still do it anyway. Why am I doing this to my family/myself?

  103. Its my habit and it is making my boyfriend hate me even more and more everyday.

  104. I tried to but it was too late cause I don’t get a super ultra insane big talk with rich.

  105. I lie cause im worried people will leave me,but,sometimes,my lues catch up to me,and then im screwed

  106. hey my name is Michael gravely and ive been bad about lying to my wife about some serious things and some non so serious and its been a course of 3 years and she has had enough my last hope might be getting help because I have a problem I lied last night about something she asked me not to do I told half the truth but lied about one key factor I need help so I don’t hurt her no more I don’t wanna lose an amazing women

  107. I can’t stop lying.
    One of my worst, twisted lies went too far and got me into a situation where I was self harming because i hated myself for it, going to warped phsychotic lengths to back my story up, and sexually assaulted by one of my friends.This is the outcome of my lie, how it spiraled out of control, I hate myself everyday for it. But I can’t talk to anyone about it because then my lie could unravel and I can’t face that, I’m too scared it’s a terrible lie, really really twisted terrible lie. Please don’t do this, you don’t know what you’re getting yourself into..

  108. I am 16 years old and I have a serious problem with lying. It is never anything all that big but it is affecting my life greatly. I am also in college and I find myself lying about anything I can to hide anything I have done no matter what it is. I dont know what to do anymore. I have lost the trust of my step mom and now my whole family questions everything I say. I left my mother at a 12 years old because she was a pathological lair and now im turning into just that. How do I stop this??

  109. Hello, you’re not alone. I just got yelled at for lying. I never realized I could be so disrespectful. I will have to stop, can someone tell me how? I have the best friends ever, I told them I have to part from them for a while. But some advice would be so helpful. Thank you again.

  110. This has been very helpful. I hurt my husband by lying, I didn’t cheat on him or anything like that, just to keep out of trouble because I knew how he would react. This article was very helpful.

  111. I need to stop lying to my grandparents because it’s not getting me no where in life plz help me 😔😔

  112. I have been seeing a counselor and I stopped lying for about a week. I know that a week is not that long but for me it is. Today I lied again for no reason and I don’t know what to do. My parents were about to trust me a little more and that all just went down the drain. If there is any one who thinks they can help him need it bad.

  113. im 13 and i have lied for many causes which eventually i get in trouble for. lying is an extremely bad habbit just like smoking,drugs,alcohol etc. So what is the solution for all these problems ? Its your mind. you have the choice to either lie for not going for your maths class or admit it without getting in any major trouble. i would probably lie but i have now started to think before i lied. what trouble could i get in to. trust me i know how hard it is to admit but if you admit the truth it will help you more than concealing the truth from the world.

  114. Help …I have lie so many times about stupid things that I have lost my wife trust at all levels. So much that my wife believes that I have lie her about us and infidelity… the thing is that I can not judge her because I totally deserve to have this miss trust. I am aware that a have a problem. I am a good husband. She is the most amazing woman on earth, but I am hurting her. I have a serious problem, I have damage my marriage so much, I need help, books, papers something to change this killing and terrible habit. Any recommendation is well received pls.

    • Erich, We are proud of you for reaching out to talk about your issue with lying. It sounds like you are ready to take the next step to overcome your addiction to lying. We do have a free eBook on Lying that may help you at thehopeline.com/ebook/lying. Also, how about chatting online with one of our HopeCoaches. They will listen and give you some additional resources to help you through this. To chat Monday to Saturday from 7pm – 12am go to thehopeline.com/gethelp.

  115. Lying is indeed a bad addiction. I got into the habit of lying for no reason, until it broke the trust of people I cared about. But changing is quite possible, and it brings lasting peace of mind. You will get all the support you need, just stick with it

  116. Hi my name is Erika Marie and I have 4 kids and one on the way and I am 16 years old and I have a problem with lying. My doctor thinks I am lying to him about being pregnant with a 5th child so my boyfriend and I are doing this pregnancy together but alone.
    If anyone has anything that could help my lying problem please reply.

  117. I need help with lying. My lying has cost me so much. I have know idea how to stop at this point. And I lie about little things that don’t matter. Why am I doing this. Omg I need help. I just destroyed the woman I fell in love with cause I can’t stop lying.

  118. Pls help me, I lie a lot to people around me, from my parents, my colleagues in school,to my friends. Even though it’s the most trivial of lies, I just can’t help myself. I’ve tried to stop but it’s so difficult as I find myself lying again to make me look intelligent, rich or responsible. I’m just fed up with this kind of life. I’ve lost a few friends because of this and I don’t want to lose the ones I’ve already. I do admit, that I need help

    • Jerry, It is good you are reaching out to talk. Have you thought about talking to a counselor? There may be some deep-rooted issues causing you to lie. Ours partners at Focus on the Family counselors offer an initial free consultation to identify what help is needed. Here is a link to our partner page for more information. http://www.thehopeline.com/partners/focus-on-the-family/

    • I understand. I had a few potential friends, however because of my lying I now have none.

  119. I have recently been caught and I don’t know a way out. I continue to lie even though I now have no friends, no life, but most importantly, my family now hates me. I need serious help!

  120. I’ve been lying since I was 9 years old. But only to friends, yet today, one of my lies from years ago is starting to affect my twin brother. He pissed, he is even ignoring me. I have felt with this before and I thought I fixed it. Now I’m back atbstep one. I hope to stop lying or else the lie with affect the rest of my family. It has started with my twin, and I don’t want it to continue to spread, cause just him….is too much to handle already…help.

  121. i need help i have been lying to my boyfriend and i know its not right to lie becaues it wont get you no where in life i just need help plz?

    • If you know your lying to him try not too. Lie to him first, stop and think of how it could ruin you and him and then say, “I lied, this is the truth…” and if he loves you, he will totally understand. Or should…

  122. I NEED HELP, I LOVE MY BOYFRIEND AND IM LYING TO HIM AND ITS HURTING US I JUST NEED HELP PLZZZ!!

  123. I see what you’re saying but its like i cant stop myself. I lie to my boyfriend, who now wants to take a brake. I lie to my Pastor, who is now done with me. I want to stop so bad. I truely understand Paul when he talks about ” i do what i hate, and what i will to do, i do not do. I just want to be good, but ny lies are ruining my life. Please help

    • Worst of all, my kids have picked up this habit. My lies are affecting the people i love

  124. I keep lying towards my family, they don’t think I care but I really do, I jus want to stop lying I love my family too much to loose them, please help ;(..

    • Hi James i’m Logan and I know exactly how you feel and i would encourage you to think back if anyone in your family has angered you over something in the past. I have noticed that i lie mainly to my step father and my mother because of my mother and fathers divorce. I felt like my childhood was taken from me and for so long i was angry and I selfishly took my anger out by lying and never truly got over the divorce till i forgave my mother.

  125. I found out my husband has been lying to me for 35 years. Is it really an addictive behavior? How can I ever trust him?

  126. My boyfriend continuously lies to everyone around him, he’s tried therapy but he’s still doing it. It has put him in many holes and no matter how much I catch him in lies he only confesses when he knows he’s absolutely caught. I don’t know what to do anymore…

    • I understand where you are coming from. Lying hurts everyone around you but the fact that it’s something in us to just do it gets hard to tell the difference about the truth and living a lie. Just to to him and try an see if there are triggers that make him want to lie an have the strength to help him

  127. I have lied about some of the dumbest things and also serious things I have been caught lying to a lot of people and I cannot come up with a good reason why…. I feel stupid and hated a lot of the time I need some help obviously can someone please contact me about this ongoing issue please and thank you…

    • Maybe try looking back at something those people may have did to anger you i myself lie over dumb reasons to but i’ve noticed that i would mostly lie to my mother and step father. My mother and father divorced when i was much younger and it crushed me i felt like my childhood was taken for no reason by both of them and was so angry and i would take my anger out on my mother and step father by hurting them with constant lies

  128. I have lied to my fiance Stephanie since we first started seeing each other. I was married and told her I was divorced, not only did she find put the truth, she found out by my now ex wife talking to a family friend about us getting divorced. Then it just got worse from there. I’ve lied about having a job, I’ve lied about money, about my past, ive lied to fit in, I have been lying to people since I was young and I can’t stop. Only thing is I want to stop, i just don’t know how?

    • You have already taken the first step which is too identify what the problem is, you need someone you can trust to tell this too. Maybe your best friend or anyone, but you will not be able to get rid of this addiction all by yourself since you will not be able to stay accountable.

  129. I see a lot of people on here pleading for help to stop lying and has a liar myself i can say with experience that you just have to stop i’ve ruined relationship with my family i’ve lost my reality escape that being video games all because I bought games I was strictly told not to play….I can’t see my biological father anymore because he lets me do what I want and encourages me to lie to my mother who doesn’t deserve the pain i’ve put her through…i lie out of anger and did not know it it until i lost everything. If it isn’t obvious my parents divorced and it crushed me and for the longest i was so angry at both of them and i would take my anger out on my step father,mother,and step brother all because i was selfish and did what i wanted to do not caring of who i hurt because i was never really punished up until recently…my console was smashed,my car is being sold,my mother doesn’t know what to do anymore,my relationship with my step father is terribly hurt…and i am broken mentally and spiritually…and that’s exactly what it took to finally get me to realize after so many years of just nonstop lying. I encourage anyone that’s struggling with lying to stop before you get broken and in the deepest hole of your life where you have only two choices left stay in it or start crawling out of it which won’t be easy and i’ve only recently started to crawl out… i’m here with you in the battle of truth and lies and trust me it isn’t easy for me but to anyone who reads this and is going through a similar situation,you are not alone i know how you feel and fighting a battle alone is hard but is a lot easier when done together.

  130. I am here for lying to my mom about the biggest things, and the littlest things. She has talks with me all the time and I just continue sinning anyways. I want to stop this habit. I will stop this habit. I am 12 years old which is still very young but I will try to ask her for a therapist. I want to come clean to her and admit and say, yes mom, I admit I am a liar, but I want to break out of this and talk to someone. If I come clean to her, I just hope she understands. I recently got in trouble when I was already in trouble because behavior in school got me in trouble and she took away everything. I stole my little sisters phone and got caught with it. I lied about it . Last night I was sinning on Instagram and I seen the phone on my moms dresser from when she took it and I quietly deleted Instagram, Snap chat, and pictures from the gallery. I went to my school website with my grades on it. I exit out of the browser so that when my mom opened the phone, it could look like I was just looking at my grades. I believe its time to come clean. I cut my arm with scissors last night and threatened to kill myself. I was really hurt when my mom said, ” your a liar, I wont believe anything you say.” Every time I just keep messing up and messing up. I feel really bad and need to stop this immediately! For the love of God, My family, and myself. I am here to make a promise that I will never lie no matter how small or big the situation is. After all, lying won’t get you anywhere but a black hole in life.
    Sincerely, Laniya.

    • Hi Lanya,
      I just finished reading your credo, your promise to yourself.
      I am sending you good energy to carry it out even if it is going to be hard.
      You will grow as a human being and you wont hurt so much nor will you hurt your mom.
      I pray that you will be able to see a therapost. Therapists are awaesone help.
      All the best. You are in my prayers list now.
      Love and light from Canada

  131. I lied to my husband of 41 years about money. I want him to be proud of me, so I lied. I think he wants to divorce me and I can’t blame him. I love him and wish that I didn’t lie to him.

    • I understand, I did the same thing. It all came out and he know I have been lying about the money. I feld better that the lying has stopped but then I could start seeing that he resents me in everything that happens in our lives and that is just tearing my hart in pieces. And before I knownit I told another lie. Why is this happening. I do not want to lie, But I just could not see him being dissapointed in me again.

  132. Thank you for the advice. Lying can be such a harmful thing. I’ve lied to my boyfriend about speaking to my friend (who he is not fond of) and it is truly put strain on our relationship. I don’t want to have to lie and these tips really help.

  133. I honestly wanna stop lying but can’t put that to an end, whenever i find myself in a situation like…… For instance: when i’m in argument with someone it will get to a certain level that i will start bragging over a thing that i know i have never in anyway experience such thing, irrespective of what the person might towards such thing. I actually wanna put that to extincttion but can’t but am certain that with these your few steps i can. all thanks to individual or group that made this page available?

  134. I lied to my boyfriend of 2.5 years about something sooo stupid. I lied about going out to dinner with my friend and having them come pick me up from work. I was spending the night at her house. I told my boyfriend I rode the bus and that we are at her house. He wants to know how I’ll fix my lying. I know I need help with this lying thing because it needs to STOP.

  135. I lied about something so stupid lying about a towel in the hall and he keeps bringing it up

  136. I lie and have lied my entire life out of fear of getting in trouble. I know I need to grow up because I’m soon going to loose my family over this. If it happens again my partner will leave me, no doubt. I don’t blame him as he has gone through so many lies with me. I’ve been given the final ultimatum last night over lying about the smallest thing that didn’t even matter and I feel completely small and broken.

  137. I actually have been lying through all of my life. It’s hard for me to even tell the truth because I think and I know one people will judge me and two I will get in trouble for my actions. But my concern is my boyfriend rn I have lied to him so much that I am actually scared of lossing him and now he is starting not to care.its like I am tiring him out now ….But know I have a lying habbit that I need to get myself out of it because it’s something very serious and dangerous.

  138. Ive always lied, and that was he bad habbi I ever had. I dont know how to start telling them the truth behind my all lies. I dont know what exactly the words I just say. Im afraid losing them, Im afraid that if I tell them all my lies they will not forgive me. Im afraid being me but Im tired being a lier.😭😭😭

  139. I’ve always had a lying problem. I don’t know why I do it or where the urge comes from. But it’s gotten to a point where I don’t feel anything anymore when I lie. I’ve lied to my friends, every now and then to my girlfriend, and most importantly my parents. I don’t want to hurt anyone when I lie. I don’t know what is wrong with me but I know that I have a serious problem. I just don’t know how to change

  140. I told my girlfriend I am rich but I am not. We have now a child and things are complicating. I lied her because she loves money and I know she won’t see me again if she knows the truth.

  141. I have lied about dumb stuff my entire life. I was raised by liars and picked up the habit and story telling. I lied to my husband repeatedly when he begged for the truth. I just couldn’t do it. I hate myself for it. It’s going to cost me my marriage because all he wants is for me to tell the truth.

    • Me too, But with my wife, She is done with it, and I want help more than ever before, where do we go? How do I get help professional help? God Help Me Before its too late…

  142. I have lied to my wife a lot especially in the beggining to cover up an affair. She stayed with me and i lied throught the 12 years we have been together especially little things. Im trying really hard to brake the habit because i cant do it anymore. Im always afraid of telling her the truth because i dont want to hurt her. We are seperated right now and even though she hasnt gotten over the one affair i had before we were married i am trying. I think i used lying as a control mechanism and all it did was hurt her. She sees that i am trying and wants to still work on us but its going to be a long road.

  143. I’m still a student at school and iv not got the best grades and I feel bad for letting my Nan down so I tell her that I’m doing really well at school and now she has a meeting with my teachers to talk about how my grades are not good now I don’t know what to do and I lie about all the things I have won the only things iv won are 3 clear rounds on my horses I don’t do gymnastics I just dance after school and I hate myself for lying to her but that’s the only escape I know

  144. I’m in highschool now, but all since 5th grade I’ve been lying to everyone I know, even strangers. Every person in my life I have told atleast one lie to. I hate it but I don’t know how to stop. I hate the person I am today and I think I’m going to have to change schools just to get away from all the lies I’ve told. I’m afraid although that I will never be able to escape the lies I’ve told. I’ve been caught many times and still haven’t learned from my mistakes.

  145. I’m in this new highschool, and I have been through peer pressure which led me to lie a lot, lie to my teachers, close friends, and especially my parents. My mom knows when I lie and she begged me to stop when she warned me that if I continue to lie about my grades and why I dress the way I do and why I have attitudes.. It could ruin the trust and strong bond we have. I really want to stop lying, but it’s like I’m addicted to lying.. I can’t stop.. and I have been crying thinking about my mom and friends not knowing what to do to stop it.

  146. Hi, i just started working about 2 moths ago in 2018. My hole life is a lie. And last night I did some research as to why i lie so much. Turns out people like me lie without even knowing it. So i got my self a title last night and as soon as i found out the truth of who i really am, i was broken and destroyed because i didn’t even know it till now. I’m /was a pathological liar. It’s painful. But I’m glad i finally found out and now I’m doing my research and ways to stop lying. The bigest benefit is, actually living a happy life. Lying only gives you a life full of drama.

  147. I am addicted to lies I do lie to everyone unnecessary especially when I failed at school and I become a complete liar my life based on lies and I now hate my self I need help please I can’t lie this much abymore

  148. I lie to my family my biggest lie I told was I had a job when I didn’t my whole life I have lied I’m addopted and I don’t remember when I started

  149. I have a horrible problem with lying. I lie on others to make myself feel better. I have low self esteem and feel threatened and intimidated by anyone that I know in my heart is everything I’ll never be.

  150. Guys can you please help me I really have a bad habit of lying to my boyfriend. He really loves me and I do to .but the problem is the I lie to him too much and now he wants to leave me please I really need help .I really can’t lose him because I really love him .he is my everything please

  151. I met the woman of my dreams but I keep telling her lies so that I look good or I did one thing and not the other. Like I was looking at a girl on insta I just should have said something when asked but I felt guilty and said something else. She repeated to me just tell the truth and I try to but then I say a small lie. I have a problem and I need to work on it. I don’t think I’ll ever get her back because of what I did.

    • I know exactly what ur going through I’ve lied to my girlfriend and her kids To make myself look good and now she left me and she was the one I really wanted get married to and now Iam all alone and I truly love her and her kids but because of my lie to her that doesn’t look like that’s ever going to happen now but I did admit to lying to her after I got caught and now Iam going to get help from a therapist but it doesn’t change what I’ve done to her and those boys and the pain I put them through I feel remorse and sadness but just so everyone know I love them dearly

  152. Helpful to me.. im one of the people who lie to much and im fighting against it i dont want that anymore

  153. Very good article , I am really very upset due to my this bad habit of telling lie. These 8 points are heart touching and I will definitely work on it to stop my habit. Very helpful to be a Truthful Person…..Thanks

  154. Thank you so much this is very helpful to me I am suffering to this. I lie to much like every single day, small or big lies it’s still I lie and I don’t want this. I suffered consequences because of lies I lose my friends and my best friend just because I lied. 😭

    • I do the same thing even though I try not to.

  155. Thanks this really helped me I lie so much it’s ridiculous. And I’m really trying to break this habit of mine that I’ve had for so many years before I pass it down to my child who I love so dearly. Most of all it will better me as a person.

  156. I haven’t tried this yet,I lie and do stuff that I know i’m not suppose to but I don’t like doing them,it’s like someone else is controlling me,I keep getting grounded by my parents for lying to them but right after I get ungrounded I get ungrounded for lying again,Please let me know if this works.

  157. I need this article really and need help I’ve just cost my 7 year relationship with the woman I loved and my kids they are still babies I want them back but i thinks it’s too late

  158. I read this article and I agree with it. I have lied to my wife who loves me very much. The lies I have told are tiny and there is no reason for them. My wife is very understanding and will say just tell me the truth yet I still lie.
    The lies have hurt our relationship and I need to fix my problem as it is not hers.

    • I have done the same man,Ive come to realize the roots of why I’ve lied in my life. And now its just finding yourself to tell the truth when your under pressure. I lie when I’m under pressure, thats my problem I try to manipulate situations so that I don’t get in trouble or loose control of my environment. I never realized that till just recently when I hurt my wife. Now she is so hurt that she is shutting down and is thinking about seperatung or divorcing me. I am trying to find help or get help to learn more to stop this habitual habit. People like you and I need to overcome this. And we need to start by not lying to ourselves.

  159. I am a student, since childhood i used to lie and usually I used to get caught by other but as I grew up it’s been my everyday job because of which i always get myself into trouble. I don’t want to lie anyone, because of my lies i have lead my friends, my family down and everyone had made their own perception about me that i am a bad person. I want to prove everyone that I’m not a bad person it’s all just that i had a very bad habbit of lieng despite of having right guidance by my family that “lying is a wrong deed” i still can’t resist myself to do the same which is everyday making me the person who I am not A LIER and also i am a good person I don’t want to do all this .
    Since i have read these guidelines I’ll surely implement them in my life but i would request for few more tips for my case.

  160. I’ve been lying to friends and acquaintances for years, I want to be populair and be the center of attention. Everyone should know what a great life I have, I want to stop it, I never want to lie again but even with small things to impress someone I lie through and through . . . i want to stop but i can’t get any further and need help . . . this article is very well described and the author understands what situation we are in . . . I can only thank you and wish you all much success and hope you manage it!

    • In the meantime, I met a woman I love more than anything. Unfortunately, I often lie to her in order to stand out better. . . I can imagine that I’m not the only one who does, but I don’t want to anymore. . . but it happens automatically and I don’t know what to do . . . maybe it helps to find a therapist and ask him for advice.
      Or do you have any other suggestions as to what I should do?

      • Please can you share with me the advice that you had?

  161. I need help as I’ve been lying to a friend she told me she hates liers we have been friends a lot of years I can’t even talk on the phone to her as I’m feeling dishonest about this lying I’ve only lied about 3times I don’t know what to do

  162. If I know I’ve done something wrong I lie about it when confronted. Mainly by my wife. I love my wife to death but i can’t help it sometimes. I don’t want to cause conflict. Even tho she said just tell me the truth and we will be fine sometimes I can’t and this makes things a lot worse. It’s that bad she is talking about separation and I don’t want to lose her or my daughter. I have admitted to her why I do it. I need to get in a frame of mind to come clean when I’ve messed up.

    • I am the same way and it has destroyed me. I now lie about stupid irrelevant things and often do not even realize it until after the fact. Little lies turn into big ones and once you are telling big ones, little ones do not matter at all anymore. I am a big fat liar and I have to stop or it will destroy me and my family.

  163. I was lying to my gf of 3 months and I was caught and all my lies have came out and I lie to my parents about things and it’s to protect them so they don’t get hurt but it really has blew up in my face and everything is coming out little by little

    • I really need help

      • Ivan, We are here to listen and help you. Lying is an addiction and hard to overcome without help. Would you be open to chatting online with one of our HopeCoaches about this? Go to https://www.thehopeline.com/gethelp/ to chat. Also, an email mentor would be good for you to sign up and get too. You can sign up on that page too. If you would like a counselor our partners at Focus on the Family will do a free consultation. To find out more go to: https://www.thehopeline.com/partners/focus-on-the-family/

  164. Thanks for your message and guidance. I’m in recovery mode and working on being a stand up mature man looking forward to a peaceful and happy life.

  165. I need help 😣

  166. I need help have been lying to my friends here in school and they all took me to be a list and it hurt me ..
    how can I stop this habit.

    • Maybe you can confront them and say I’m sorry if want to be your guys friend it’s just really hard for me to tell the truth I’m truly sorry

  167. Hi, my name is …………….. I don’t want to say my name I am 12 years old and I need to stop lying. I just don’t want to be punished by my parents. My parents only believe in perfect. I have to have straight A’s no A-‘s and if I do have an A- then I get put in the corner for 25 minutes but I may sit down. please reply on anything that you want to ask me.

    • It sounds like you are under a lot of pressure that may be contributing to your issue with lying. Have you tried to talk to your parents about the pressure you are feeling? Perhaps you could write it all down in a note and give it to them to take the time to read. It’s important that you communicate this with them before it gets to be so much pressure that you can’t take it anymore.

    • Hi I need help with stop liying

    • It been the same for me to. I’m lily I’ve been lying to my bf my parents and my closest friends I don’t know what to do anymore sometime I just want to die and think that none of these things happened but they did and that don’t go away. My parents slowly get the truth from other people then I get held at then I get my phone taken. My parents say that I’m a little brat and that I need to move out bc they are sick of my I’m only 14 I have no where to go. I need help

  168. Hi…. I’m a ordinary kid but I cannot stop lying and if you could help me then I would like that very much.

  169. i think I’m a pathological liar. i lie about everything but it doesn’t benefit me. i know that it doesn’t but i can’t stop doing it. i sometimes get away with it but to be honest it never feels right. my parents are so strict and my dad is always angry and disappointed with me and everything i do. i wish he was nicer and i wish that i was who he wants me to be

  170. I’m also a pathological liar. I’ve been lying since early childhood as long as I can remember. I first lied to have things my way in a convenient way and also lie to avoid punishment. At first my lies were triggered by fear, fear of being punished by my father. Because of my slow wits and not much planning in my lies, I would always, 100% get caught. I realized, I wasn’t exactly bright and I knew I was horrible at lying. But I continue to do so all the way to my adulthood. In highschool and university, I would lie to my parents about how I was studying hard and getting decent grades. But at the end of the term when the grades came out it would be revealed that I didn’t do so well and I would have to explain to my parents that I lied about studying, that I didn’t study at all. When I look back, it’s really stupid. For some reason, I would always decide to tell the truth about my grades at the end of the term. Why tell the truth here when I already lied? This would become a cycle for me every single semester in university. It was depressing and I was slowly destroying myself but I did it anyways. My parents eventually lost trust in me in. They could not trust anything I say. They could not let me live independently because they could not trust me. I would be constantly interrogated with questions because of the lack of trust they have. This is my life right now. At this point, I lie without thinking. I lie about the pettiest thing. I lie about whether I like this food or not. I am at the point that I am not sure who I am anymore. Everything I do, I hesitate in. I can not decide things on my own. I hesitate at all questions people ask me because my mind is unclear. I just give them a random answer, I make it up. But because it’s a made up and random answer, people figure it out almost instantly. I know I have a problem. But I always just forget about my problems and think about happy things. For me, I am able to enjoy life while forgetting about my problems. But that is the most dangerous and self-destructive trait for me. I am seriously, just a fool and in need of help.

  171. Hey my name is Thomas and I’m a really big lair and I really need to stop doing what I do and I hope the people who read this comment get inspired to stop lying.

  172. Hi there my name is Isaiah. I have been a liar pretty much my whole life and I have almost always been caught in the end. Even the times I haven’t been caught I still end up feeling guilty. I think a huge part of my lying is because I spent most of my young childhood with my mother who was a drinker. Anytime she would come home drunk she would be furious at for any little thing, even it wasn’t my fault. I found that when she was intoxicated, it was easy to persuade her, so I kept doing it. I developed a habit early on and it stuck with me. I know that lying is awful, and it affects me and everyone around me. I figured the first step was to get out of my mom’s house, so I moved with my dad into a stable, sober and better off family. I am now 14 and have been living with my dad for over a year and my lying problem is better, but still exists. Infact, I told a lie this morning and after that I figured it was the last straw, so I started researching and found this page. I guess in this long paragraph (if you read the whole thing thank you and sorry) I am trying to say, thank you Dawson McAllister, for you might have saved me from living a life of a liar and a sinner. Now I don’t want to be either of those so thank you, personally and sincerely.

    • Isaiah, Thank you so much for your comment. We are glad to hear that Dawson’s blog has helped you! Realizing now the impact of how lying can affect your life is very mature of you. You are just beginning a better life for yourself. We’ll be sure to share your comment with Dawson. He will be blessed by reading it. Remember to take it one day at the time and if you slip, just keep trying!

  173. I almost lost my boyfriend last weekend because of a lie. something that was from my past resurfaced and because i feared what his reaction would be i lied. unfortunately he had read all about it in one of conversations with my best friend and he knew everything. believe me trying to get back to admit the truth and justifying why i lied was far too hard than if i had just told him the truth, and since then i have started to sort myself out, am praying about it, i have even told my boyfriend to help me overcome this bad habit and reading this article has helped me in how to stop lying. hard as it may be, i want to stop this destructive habit

  174. I just recently got caught in many lies and it has really screwed up my family.. I can’t say this website has helped me YET… I just read it so I have to have time to put it I to practice. I really want to stop so I’m glad I took the time to read this.

  175. Too many lies…one will never move forward, if they keep lying. I’m 37, and a lair…no one trust me, even when i tell the truth. After reading this, i pray to make a change. JESUS PLEASE HELP ME.

  176. I am a liar. I’ve been lying for so long I don’t know how to stop. And I always get caught in end. Lying has ruined the only good relationship I have ever had. After reading this article I have found hope to stop this destructive behavior. I am done lying to myself and people I love.

  177. I’ve ruined so many relationships in my past due to cheating and lying. I want my current one to work so much but I keep telling him these small lies. But it is these small lies that makes him not trust me. He wants to be able to trust me but because of my past he really needs me to prove that I can be in a faithful relationship. I honestly believe I can be but it’s the small lies that are destroying what trust he has in me. And we will be away from each other for the next few months and he doesn’t know if he can stay in this relationship if he can’t trust me to be faithful and honest while he is away. I so desperately want to be honest and to change but how do I even convince him that I do want to change. He’s just gonna think it’s another empty promise. Hopefully this article helps and I’m gonna try my very hardest to apply these techniques.

  178. Hey my name is Khalil and I have a problem wit lying so much that I can’t stop myself I have ruined my past relationship of lying n cheating and I can’t stop lying so much that I got use to it every since I was a lil boy my father always lie to me n I was just use to it n now I have that n I just can’t stop n the relationship I have wit this woman that I’m currently wit I just want this to work out n have her trust in me n believe my words …& she knows when I’m lying to her when I look away…I keep telling her that I well work on it but it’s not working all I wanted is to stop lying & tell her the truth I never wanted to lie to her and it’s like disease when I start lying n I know it’s not good to lie n is not go get anyone anywhere and I love this woman she been there a lot through my whole lying process & all she wants for me to stop lying to her & just tell her the truth so please anyone that see this please don’t lie tell the truth because lying can get you in trouble and ruin your relationship & your life….thank you for letting me Express my feelings of lying but please don’t lie tell the truth always again…thank you

  179. Hi I came in here looking for anything to help my husband from stop lying, His lies just broke up our 18yrs old relationship and it’s very hard on our kids so I started to search the internet for any information that can help him to stop lying and practice telling the truth. This information is very helpful, i forwarded it to him and hopes he reads it and starts to practice it. Lying is very destructive and it hurts and destroys lives. Stop the lying, LIES HURTS.

  180. I’ve been lying to my friends and family a lot, once I start one lie, I just feel like “if I lie a little more, the story will be connected to each other and no one would notice a thing”. But I was wrong because whenever I lie, I’m always caught lying at the end, I feel like a horrible person. I really want to admit all the truths but I’m so afraid of what might happen. Especially my friends at camp, the “me” they think they know is not real because ever since I met them, I’ve been lying to them, for the sake that I don’t trust them with anything. And my family, I’m such a big liar, I always try to admit the truth to the closest people in my life, but it never works for me. I’ve decided on my new goal: admit the truths that won’t hurt me or anyone else, and no more lies. If I lie one more time, I swear I will correct it right away, or if I don’t then I’m going to punish myself. May god help me get rid of lies that I’ve told.

  181. Hi, i’ve been lying so much for the past weeks and the guilt is killing me. I want to be a trustworthy person but i can’t seem to stop lying. I always feel indebted to my parents so when I make mistakes, it’s hard to tell them. I’ve hurt them in the process. So I wanted to change. But I really don’t have people close enough to confess to. I’ve been thinking of making a blog telling all the lies I made and the consequences of it. I hope to unload in some way. Thanks for the posts. Very encouraging!

    • This is the same situation for me I hope I will get through it and hope you do too.

  182. I lie all the time. I don’t know why. I’ve lied to my husband about how much money I have. My dad died and left me some, but it’s all gone now. My husband thinks I have loads. He thinks I will have a fabulous pension, but in reality, I have none. I told him I had a great job, but I wasn’t even working. He loves me and thinks I’m wonderful. If I tell him the truth, I’m scared he won’t love me anymore and he’ll leave me. I’ve got myself into such a mess, I’m thinking of just leaving and starting again.

  183. I’m currently in a state of lying all the time to my roommate (whom I love and adore but he thinks I’m lying about that too). I lie about literally anything. And at what cost? Other than to ruin a (potential) relationship with this person? Granted, we don’t see eye to eye on everything. But we have a lot in common. Music, politics, world views and the like. But they can’t trust me. And I don’t want to be this way anymore and honestly. Part of me wishes he would let me go. I’ve been treated unfair in my childhood and teenage years. Abuse of past boyfriends (sexual/verbal/physical), constant cheating and them lying as well. Is that why? Should I slack off of drinking and try to see things through the looking glass? I don’t know. I just want to save what’s left and get my relationship with him back.

  184. I’m starting to lie and i feel terrible doing that I’ll try these steps

  185. I lied to my finance about my parents going to her family home to do negation I wish I never did this and don’t know how to fix this she is hurt and I really need to know how to stop lieing and to fix this

  186. I have been lying to my parents and I will try thse steps

  187. thank you for what you did i’m going to try out your step

  188. I hate it when I lie to my parents about simple stuff. It makes me feel like such a low life an not even half the person others and I expect me to be. I want to put an end to this toxic habit, especially since lying keeps me from going out with friends and spending money on important necessities. Thanks for these tips, and I will reply to my own comment a few weeks down the road to give a status update on how my more honest lifestyle is.

  189. Hi , You said there is always a reason behind every lie we say . Well my reason is simple , I can’t be honest about my true desires or interests with my parents. I live in a religious and traditional family and there are many things that I can’t do in my life because of that . Actually, no, it’s not that ; but it’s the fact that I’m not strong enough to tell them what I really want. Guess I’m just a coward in the end . Please help me . There’s no one that I can talk to about my lying habits. I already lost my best friend because of this. Of course it’s not the only reason behind but it made us closer to separation.

    • Huh. We have very similar problems.

  190. This is going to help me so much

  191. Thankfully I will be able to save my marriage and stop the lying for the better of all around me, thanks for the advises and comments. God is great!

    • I really need help understanding why I lie like I do

  192. My life is hell when I lie. Sometimes I lie for no reason. I am a compulsive liar. So this is part of my accepting, and being who I am. I lie a lot. I am admitting this so I can become a better person. I lied today actually. And, I got caught. But I do have trauma, pain, insecurities, and I just lie. I used to try to play the victim, and try being what people want me to be. Why? Because I have never liked myself. And, that is going to change today :). Like SpongeBob says “another day another nickle” . Sooooo Im just going to stop lying and be myself. And, I Cai, promise never to lie to myself or anybody else starting now. :). Have a great day guys because mine wasnt startig off so well, but now I feel better

    • I am so glad I read this today… I have the exact same issues. I too, have childhood trama unresolved pain and fear of abandonment and people not finding me interesting. It’s terrifying to me to feel overlooked and ignored because I was growing up. Emotionally neglected and abused. It’s almost like I pretend to be someone else entirely so I can ignore my true past. It’s killing my soul.

    • I’ve been lying since I was 9 I’m 10 years old and I still lie I dont like it tomorrow I’m gonna follow your instructions to stop my habit.It gotten so bad I told my mom that she’s not my real mom because I’m adopted that hurt her and me i never wanted to say that.I feel so bad these days about when I say that.I lie to my friends and family and o HATE it’s so bad sometimes I lie for no reason.I want tot stop my lying habits and live in truthfulness.-Taleah

  193. I have lied to my mom for 17 years I’m not proud of it I need help I want to have a better relationship with her I love her I js really need help I have a problem

  194. I have been lying to my wife about small things for the past three years and it has turn in to resentment for me I don’t want to lose her I really love her I need help

    • I do the same. My wife has no trust in me anymore. She used to. Used to say how honest I was. I was. I started lying to “protect” her. I was mostly just avoiding uncomfortable conversations. Lies just made everything worse. I would lie about the most insignificant things. I threw away her trust in me to keep from “getting in trouble” for taking the last cookie (yes, my lies are that moronic). I don’t even know where it started but it needs to stop now. I have hurt her and she has enough pain in her life. The worst lies are when I agree to do something or we make plans and I don’t follow through, just drop it entirely. Those really hurt her, the others just remind her constantly that she can’t trust me.

  195. I start to lie then I cant stop it happened ages ago aswell then I stopped Lyin and I have started lyin I need serious help I’m losing my mates cos of it

  196. I am lying right now

  197. I lie to cover up my cutting. I feel guilty, but I don’t want anyone to know.

  198. I’ve lost any trust my parents had in me. I’m a compulsive liar. Even when I don’t need to, even when I don’t WANT to, I still do and I hate myself for it. This has been a problem for over 3 years and I can’t break the habit. No matter what I do I just can’t. I’ve had suicidal thoughts just because of this reason. I know to some people this may sound like nothing, but I feel like I don’t mean anything. I feel like a lying piece of___ 90% of the time. And tbh, that’s probably true.

    • That’s the exact case with me to. I

    • I’m the same way. I lied to my parents yesterday about finishing school work because that’s usually what I lie about, and now I’m getting my tv taken, my LED lights taken and my phone was already taken from pass lying. I honestly hate myself, and I only lie because I can’t control it and I’m scared of the consequence I’d get if I told the truth. Now I got all my s*** taken away and have no was on ranting to anyone but I also have to do suicides. (It’s a running exercise and it hurts like hell). I only lie because I’m scared of consequences. I lied this time because I was stuck on a question and the last time I asked for help, I got yelled at for being selfish because I asked at 9:30PM then I got lectured about my sleep schedule and how I need to wake up early to do stupid school work. I mainly get in trouble because I lie about school work.

  199. I’ve always lied to people even myself sometimes. Lying about my own history and age really hit me hard today, and I started having panic attacks because I was afraid of getting caught and getting hated on by what I call my “online friends”. I want to start a new life and forget everything I’ve done, but I know fully well that it will come with a price and it might come back and bite me in the ass.

  200. I lie because I’m scared of my consequences. Today I got caught up in another lie and now my TV, school iPad and LED lights are getting taken away. I’m also doing running exercise (suicides) and they hurt so badly. It’s a consequence my parents give me, and today my stomach hurts like hell like really sharp pains. I’ll just sleep all day when I get this taken away. K-drama, anime, music and sleep are my getaways from reality. Now I can only use one getaway. I have strict parents, and I read that lying can be a cause of depression, and very strict parents (the kid is scared of the consequences). I hate how I am. I’ve been lying for 3 yrs, ever since my grandma passed away. I only lie about my grades, and sometimes other stuff but mostly grades. 😞😞 I want help but my parents don’t believe me when I say I can’t control it. I usually get numb when I lie, then I just say “yes” ASAP knowing it was suppose to be “no”. I can’t even tell them I’m feeling this way because I didn’t want to face the consequences of being yelled at for not being done or my REAL excuse. My excuse is that I didn’t do it, but I was going to do it at 3am. But I fell asleep FAKE SLEEPING because I thought I heard someone coming upstairs. Now I’m living my terrible life of being a disgusting liar.

  201. I’m so glad I googled this.
    Now that I know I’m not alone handling this sounds a bit easier.

  202. HI Im Dan Im 41 I recently started a relationship with a girl Ive prayed about God sending me as he designed for me. We have so much in common and share a lot of the same wants and desires Ive hidden a few lies from my current living situation and past relationship. Well she called out my lies thangs were realy bad and I even hurt her in another lie in a conversation with a friend. We have take our relationship from bf gf to tring to be friends and me getting help for me bring a liar because ive come to the realization I do need help and i still have 1 lievI havnt been able to come to find the words to tell her. I NEED HELP Ive admitted there is a problem, but were can I get help?

    • Dan, Thank you for reaching out for help. We are proud of you for taking the steps to move forward from lying. Please feel free to chat online with one of our hopecoaches at https://www.thehopeline.com/gethelp/ You can also sign up for an email mentor at: https://www.thehopeline.com/emailmentors/. It would be man that you can email back and forth with for as long as you like. You can talk about anything with them. They will help you with your desire to lie and walk you through some steps to help you learn to deal with the need to lie. The main thing is to keep trying to move forward. It may take longer than you like, however perseverance will be the key to better relationships and better self-esteem for you. (Our online chat with a HopeCoach and email mentors are free of charge and confidential)

  203. Hello, I’m DV and I tell a lot of lies. I’m a liar and I need help. There are time when i wouldn’t even know that i just told a lie. It’ll just hit me much later that i had lied to someone or about something. This has been going on for a very long time. I need help

  204. Hi my name is Joe and I am a liar. I lie by not telling my wife everything. I just leave things out. It can be about anything could be serious like a credit card or stupid. I can’t seem to control my lying. I have gotten caught so many times and I really want to stop. My wife is at the end of her rope. I really hope you resources help me change because I am afraid I will lose my family. I believe i am a conflict avoider. My lying started with my mom because she would get very upset with me. My wife usually gets very upset when I lie to her also. Which I understand but the fear of losing my family makes it easier to lie even though I always get caught. Any advice to help me turn this around?

  205. Hi my name is Ritchard from Nigeria i am 31 years old i am a terrible liar and it has cost me many things i have always prayed from for a woman to be my wife and God brought her but i lost her through my multiple lies. Please help me i can’t continue to live this life of lies

  206. I’m Samantha and I’m a liar. I’ve lied to my husband and I’ve withheld information from him in fear of an argument and simply “what he won’t know won’t hurt him” and it’s costing my marriage. I’m glad to know I’m not alone but I need help to save my marriage. He’s at the last straw for us and I cannot lose him. Please help me.

    • Samantha, We are proud of you for reaching out for help with lying. Lying is an addiction that can be overcome with help. We want you to know we are here to listen and help you with the next steps on recovery for lying. A HopeCoach is available to chat online with you about your marriage and lying. You can chat with a HopeCoach at https://www.thehopeline.com/gethelp/. For additional resources on lying visit our topic page on lying at: https://www.thehopeline.com/topics/lying/ We believe in you! d

  207. Heloo thankyou very much for the guidance and counseling. My fiance has advised me several times but I don’t learn. Whatever you talked about is what he is ever telling me for example the consequences of telling lies. I really need to change and be a good lady

  208. My husband has been lying to me and now I don’t know if it’s just more recent or our entire relationship (16 years). I just don’t know what to do anymore. I can call him out on something with proof and he will still lie to me about it. He definitely leaves things out because he doesn’t believe that omission is the same. We are going to counseling together and have had separate sessions alone. I believe he hasn’t been completely honest with our therapist which only makes the problem worse. I’m beginning to feel my only option is to get a divorce because I can’t continue on with someone that I will never trust. I’m absolutely heartbroken because I don’t think he can change.

  209. Hi my name is SD and I am a liar. I will say things to make me sound cooler and the second I say it I regret it but im scared to tell people because Ive been lying for years. I know I should stop but I just cant

    • Hi SD, We are proud of you for reaching out and opening up about your problem with lying. Talking to a Hope Coach may be helpful to understand what underlying things may be causing you to feel like you have to lie. Lying is an addiction and you can overcome it with help. Go to https://www.thehopeline.com/gethelp/ to chat with a Hope Coach. They will listen and not judge. They are there to help you.

  210. I say lie because even I teel truth but everyone say me are you mindless don’t tell the truth you are mad they never see that what am I feeling even everyone knows i am depressed but no one cares 🙂

  211. Hello my name is Ben and I am a liar. Lying has become a second nature to me and I will lie over the littlest things. This has impacted my relationship with my girlfriend who I love very much, but it’s gotten to the point where my lying has came between us and she no longer trust me. I’m looking to getting help and stopping this really bad habit of mine.

  212. Hello Anna, Thank you for reaching out. It’s completely understandable that lying has been because of your trust issues. We are proud of you for seeking help for your lying problem. Lying is an addiction and with help, you can overcome your need to lie. Would you be open to chatting online with one of our Hope Coaches about what is going on? A Hope Coach will listen and help you with any resources you may need to prevent this from happening in the future. To chat with a Hope Coach go to: https://www.thehopeline.com/chat-live/

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