I’ve talked about how a guy can and should show respect to a girl. Now it’s time to talk to girls about how to respect a guy.
If you are a guy, I know you want to be respected as well. I know that to be a fact, and it’s not just because I am a guy. But I’ve talked to hundreds of guys who deeply desire for their girlfriend to show them admiration and high regard. Ladies, here are a few things you should know if you want to make sure the men you know are deeply aware of how much you love and respect them.
It’s a fair thing to wonder how to show respect. But when is that respect earned? How can you make sure that your actions are those of someone worthy of the respect you’d like to receive? Here are some key factors that tend to garner that respect:
Every human being deserves some level of respect at the end of the day, and it’s crucial that we remember that. That “respect for others” is perhaps one of the most important ways that Jesus taught by example. He spoke to, ate with, traveled with, became friends with, and loved people who were considered unclean, sinful, and worse… because he respected them. In His words, “So in everything, do to others what you would have them do to you.” Matthew 7:12
Here’s our straightforward list:
1. To respect a guy, don’t play with his sexuality and drives.
To respect a guy, don’t play with his sexuality and drives. Cause him to love and see you as a person, and not just as an object.
She doesn’t use her body to manipulate him. If you only take one thing from this blog, get this one. Girls, you have an incredible power to control guys with your appearance, simply because guys are driven so intensely by what they see when they look at a girl and the beauty of her body. To respect a guy, don’t play with his sexuality and drives. Cause him to love and see you as a person, and not just as an object. When you flirt with him you can easily appeal to his lust, rather than who he is as a person. Dressing modestly and refusing to be flirtatious, also shows your boyfriend you aren’t trying to attract other guys.
2. She asks his opinion.
Every person wants to be respected. Guys, in particular, crave to be looked at as a leader–someone whose ideas are important. Guys want to know you are interested in what they think. He feels respected when you care about how he thinks and feels. Then when you take the time to listen, it’s even more powerful. He will feel deeply valued by you. Someone commented to me: If a girl asks a guy’s opinion, if he answers honestly (and preferably tactfully) with an answer she didn’t want, she needs to realize that he respected her enough not to lie to her, and she needs to respect his opinion, even if she doesn’t agree with it, and not get angry with him because of it.
3. Don’t try to put words in his mouth.
If you try to put words into a guy’s mouth, you’ll only show him you think he doesn’t know what to say.
She is patient with him when he has a difficult time expressing himself.Many guys have a hard time communicating, especially their thoughts and emotions.
There are going to be many times he wants you to know what he’s feeling, but he is just going to need a little more time actually getting it out. Don’t try to put words in his mouth, you’ll only show him you think he doesn’t know what to say. You can, however, repeat back to him what you heard him say, so you both are on the same page.
4. She encourages and supports him.
Guys easily feel belittled by girls. When you cheer on your man, you are breathing life into his soul. Telling him you believe in him and support what he is attempting to achieve is a very powerful way to show your guy you respect him. When he feels that support from you, the confidence you are pouring into him will help him to feel invincible. Someone once said, Behind every great man, is a great woman. Some girls are so stuck on their own needs they can’t seem to give encouragement and inspiration to the guys they know. So give a guy a gift he will never forget: the gift of encouragement.
5. When you cheer on your man, you are breathing life into his soul.
She doesn’t exhaust him with all the little details. It’s easy to want to make sure your boyfriend gets all the details of your life. He is interested in you, but he gets worn out easily if you bog down your stories with all kinds of extra details. Try to make it easier for him to process all the information you want him to know.
6. She knows she doesn’t own him.
She doesn’t demand he be there for her 24 hours a day. Just because the two of you may be dating, doesn’t put you in charge of his life.
When you let him have his own life, making his own decisions, spending time with his friends, it shows you respect him, and will make you more attractive to him.
Lindsey commented she knew her boyfriend’s time was limited with his working full-time and going to school full-time. I never tried to demand lots of time from him. Instead, I would make him a meal and meet him between classes or on his lunch break at work. He really appreciated it, and I felt like I was respecting his schedule while still fitting in time to see him.
Showing respect to your boyfriend is the very best way you can show him that you love him.
7. She must respect herself.
There are many girls who are extremely insecure and are convinced they are not worth being loved or respected by others. So they end up sabotaging their relationships with guys because of their low self-esteem. They tend to be constantly asking their guy if they are still being loved by him. It’s very difficult for a guy to respect a girl who doesn’t respect herself or see herself as worthy to be loved.
Jonathan had some great thoughts I must include. A girl must also respect herself; if a guy desires to date her or even just be her friend, he must like something about her. By not liking herself, she is also saying that her friend’s and/or boyfriend’s opinions of her don’t mean anything to her. If she returns compliments with contradictory remarks, she is not respecting the guy’s opinion, or his attempt to respect her.
Girls, it’s valuable to realize how important this topic is in your relationship with guys. Showing respect to your boyfriend is the very best way you can show him that you love him. But it’s also true with all your relationships, including your relationship with yourself. It is crucial to respect yourself and I’ve written a blog about that as well.
Beverley says:
I learned to like well actually i love being me thats how i learned to respect myself x
Mel says:
I m trying to respect my self but …. but bec of my looks i feels sometimes im not good enough 4 my Guy .
Kora says:
Don’t ever think that way Mel, I am sure you are very beautiful from the outside in. Remember being confident is very attractive to men. So just put a smile in your face & be humble. 🙂
Ashley says:
The older I got the more I realized why I was receiving the wrong treatment from guys I was dating. It was because I didn’t know how to value them as a person let alone myself. But I noticed that I wanted more out of a relationship so I decided to stop pointing fingers and to focus on myself. And I am still learning how to love and respect myself. I’ve also learned how to be single because it doesn’t make any sense to keep dating different people with the same outcome.
Yvonne says:
Must know how to respect your brother and his friends and everyone’s
Rebecca says:
I never learned how to respect men due to my upbringing. I’m in a relationship now, and realize that I have a lot of work to do to keep the guy I have; like my self esteem and respect for myself and men.
Kora says:
I respect myself very well, I have an older brother and he has tought me a lot of stuff on how to respect yourself. I know I am a very beautiful girl with a lot of confidence but I know becoming to confident is not good either. I am just very confident and humble because being down someone else isn’t going to make you look better!
FYI; Thank you for the awesome information! You rock!!!
sarabel says:
Very good info. I’m 40 and have a series of failed relationships. My ex used to always say I don’t respect him. Now that I met someone I like I need to polish up in this area. He’s very busy all the time in his work and I want to be that girl in this article. She was very supportive and nurturing. It’s amazing how you’re never too old to improve 😉
Bruce Jenitalia says:
A man also has to earn respect.. Never give respect to someone who doesn’t reciprocate
Fire343 says:
We men do earn respect, you women are just so disrespectful and feeling entitled to walk all over us that no matter what we do it’s never good enough. You need to learn to respect men even when they make mistakes
Sarah Diane Entrop-Armstrong says:
I agree with Fire343. I respect someone automatically until they prove that they shouldn’t be respected. THAT’S when they should have to “earn” respect back, is if they do something to lose it. And I mean do something outrageous, not something like “forget to call”. A man should have “earned” your respect as soon as he became your man! How you gonna date a man that you don’t start out respecting?
Neek says:
So if the relationship starts off disrespectful an years down the line their forms some kind of respect, an the man insist on getting his continual respect, but is indifferent to his woman’s opinions on how she’d ought to be respected…then what?
James Dennis says:
Man you got me, that’s the million dollar question.
Marianna says:
So I shouldn’t have started dating not respecting what he does or who he is?
JC says:
Exactly. Don’t date someone you don’t respect.
JC says:
Bravo 👏🏼
Exactly. Perfectly said.
James Dennis says:
Amen brother!!!
JC says:
As a man, this is true. It’s unreal what I’ve dealt with. I can do 99.9% good and she’ll pick and pick on that .1% and how I didn’t do things perfectly. That drains a man BIG time. Very upsetting because he loves this woman. He can’t do anything right. She may say she loves him and feel it, but that is a horrible way to live.
JC says:
I couldn’t have said it better myself. This is SPOT ON.
lis says:
My boyfriend and I have been dating for there months. When he was courting me, he endorsed he had deep feelings for me and thoughought about long term. His ex and his teens seem to not like the fact he’s in a relationship though his time with them had nit changed. Lately I’ve feel like he’s withdrawing though he claims not to be. He tell me that my feelings for him are to good to be true and that I come off euphoric. My question is, is this a red flag that should retreat from the relationship before I get hurt …do I run for hills?
Michaela Reynolds says:
Respecting yourself and others has to do with your view of the world. I have learned to respect myself because I believe God created all humans in His image (Genesis 1:27). We are all equally important in His eyes. He created me with a purpose in mind before I was born (Psalm 139:13-16). This gives me a sense of duty and healthy self-esteem to find and accomplish what He has in store. However, even when I mess up, He offers me love and forgiveness because His Son, Jesus Christ, suffered the penalty of my mistakes in my place (Romans 5:8 and I John 1:9). I don’t need to be insecure because I always know that God loves me unconditionally, no matter how other people treat me or what I do. He highly values me as a beautiful piece of His creation. If you love God, you will naturally have a respect for His creation, and your relationships will reflect that in loving acts of sacrificial service, because you realize that we are here to help each other for the glory of God (John 14:15 and 13:34). I hope you will find peace and security in a relationship with our loving Creator.
Dianne Scott says:
FANTASTIC
R. Katie Kane says:
It sounds as if he is the one with the insecurity, not you. Now, that said, I’m not saying you should retreat from the relationship entirely…but he may need some time to grow into himself. Does that make sense? If you are a confident, self-sufficient and highly esteemed individual…wouldn’t it be healthier for you to be with someone who reflects those characteristics back to you? You could wait it out and see if he is able to grow, but I wouldn’t rush into marriage just yet.
R. Katie Kane says:
While I understand your points about respect, and realize that your perspective is from the male point of view…it is lacking in respect to those things men do to lose our respect. I mean no offense to the males that may be reading this, but men have a tendency to repeatedly make those little mistakes (a big one for my spouse has been not calling when he’s going to be late…for instance), and then not correcting them even when they know deep down that they strike a nerve in their partner.
I realize that some men don’t feel as if calling when late should be a high priority, but what they DON’T realize, is that it can stress their partner out immensely. It has little to do with keeping tabs on our men, and more to do with worrying about their safety and well-being. I agree that men need time away from home/family with their friends, co-workers, extended family, etc… They, too, need to realize their women have those same needs.
Many of the points listed are true on both sides (men AND women). Women desire respect nearly as much as they desire that personal connection, and lack of that reflective respect is every bit as damaging to a relationship. I guess my point is this: you give what you get,..learn your partner’s love language, and they’ll make a MUCH bigger point to learn yours…communication really is the MOST important aspect of any relationship!
Bruce Jenitalia says:
The question is how late is he and how often? Most men aren’t offending by you asking him to call if he is going to be late, unless he is doing something or someone and you are interrupting. I would look more into his lateness.. Just saying
R. Katie Kane says:
My husband took it as a personal affront, that I would dare to question why he was late. The frequency had been several times per week, during a time in our marriage when we were truly not getting on well. I had asked him repeatedly to call if he was going to be late, and his response was: “There is no need to, because if I am not at work, then I’m at home. Stopping every time I’m going to be late to call and tell you, just makes me that much later getting home.” The fact that this completely disregarded any feelings that I might have on the subject, apparently never occurred to him.
He has since begun to do much better, and our relationship has been much smoother for it. He did stop awhile back to comment: “You know, you were right, calling or sending a text if I’m going to be late does create A LOT less tension on the home front.” , a fact that I’d tried repeatedly to convey years and years ago. If I’d simply walked away, we never would have reached this point, but I would tell any woman reading this, it is NOT a smooth sailing voyage!
Fire343 says:
This is you automatically assuming a guy is late because he is cheating on you…sounds like you are very narrow minded because you chose to open your trust and soul to non genuine men which was your mistake. The key here is preciseness and accuracy in whom you choose. To assume all women are cheating babbling idiots is your own fault, there are way decent men out there.
Derek says:
Here the thing R. Katie, what women fail to understand nowadays is that men make mistakes, we’re not perfect, you shouldn’t expect us to be…that’s like setting us up for walking into a bear trap. So he keeps forgetting to tell you he’s coming home late…big deal??? You have to learn to respect us and realize that we are busy, hard working, and we forget things. Imagine if we were to hold you women to the same standards, of course you would get pissed and feel disrespected. Bottom line, don’t portray anything towards us that you wouldn’t want to you, it’s called the golden rule. Learn to respect us more, and in return you’ll see results.
Araceli says:
Hi Derek, I apologize for intruding, but I wanted to add something. I understand what you are saying and am in no way trying to argue it. However, being in a similar situation as R. Katie’s I don’t agree that you should jump to the conclusion that her first assumption is that her man was cheating (it may very well be the case but lets broaden our minds for a moment).
I personally believe that communication is a sign of respect and I’m sure most other women would agree. Being a rather busy woman myself I would demand the same respect any man would. So if I were to request a courtesy call or text it may simply be because I also want to re-arrange my schedule if need be. See, it goes beyond assuming someone is cheating, they simply want to feel respected as well.
Just as you respect your boss enough to notify them you are running late, behind, need to call out, etc. because you respect them and want to keep your job, it isn’t an outrageous request to hear it coming from a woman. It isn’t about keeping tabs on someone, it’s about having mutual respect for one another.
Relationships are work, so if things are going want to work, then the respect should be mutual.
Tez says:
‘Being a rather busy woman myself I would demand the same respect’
Why would you even demand anything? Im sorry but this sounds a little controlling to me to have to demand anything. Respect shouldn’t be demanded, it should be inspired. I respect my boyfriend because he inspires me to not because he demands me to respect him and I would never demand respect from anyone. These woman on here sound like they have some control issues…Sorry just my opinion… The fact that someone is going to get worked up cause your man is late and doesn’t message you? Seriously there are much more important issues in a relationship than if he texts or not when he is late… I understand if he is maybe more than an hour late, but if it’s within a half hour bracket I wouldn’t sweat it.. And why you woman gotta wait for him to text/call, if your so worried why don’t you call him yourself or message him? That’s what I would do, a quick message saying ‘hey babe, guess your working late, hope everything cool. Let me know when you be home, love you’, why is this so hard for woman to do? To me that is showing respect to MY man because I am assuming the best of him NOT the worst (that he is late, not that he is cheating or in a car accident) I see woman these days trying to control and manage their men and then wonder why they get cheated on, don’t get respect from them and their men are emotionally distant.. I love that my man leads our relationship, I am happy to go with the flow and trust him that he will lead our relationship safely and securely. I think alot of woman just need to love life, go with the flow and trust more in their men to lead them.
j says:
I like this
Sarah Diane Entrop-Armstrong says:
I completely agree with this. I let my man lead as well. And he calls and texts me all throughout the workday. And if he had the “life shocked out of him” or if he was in a car accident, how is he gonna call anyway? Lol. Have a little faith ladies! There has been plenty of times where we would purposely NOT pay our phone bill. A phone, if you let it, makes life more complicated and can be a distraction. He comes home when he comes home. End of story. And if he’s NOT wanting to come home, then there’s something more seriously wrong than just forgetting to call.
R. Katie Kane says:
Hi Derek, just so we’re clear here, I don’t hold him to a higher standard than I hold myself. If I am going to be late…I call him. If I’m not coming straight home from an appointment, but am instead, stopping at the book store, grocery store, etc…I call him, and ask if there’s anything I need to pick up for him while I’m out. I think what you may be missing here, is something another woman can easily understand, we worry.
We worry that our spouse may have been involved in an accident on the way home, or on the job itself. My husband is an electrician who frequently works in hot panels with very high voltage. He is often on the job site alone, without anyone there to aid him if something went wrong. I’m going to bet you hadn’t considered that before your response, and no, I’m certain I hadn’t mentioned it directly (outside of stating that we worry for their safety).
My request had nothing to do with a childish need to have him on an electric leash. I don’t waste time worrying about a cheating spouse. If he’s cheating, he is, and there’s little I can do about it. I hope he has enough respect for me…to keep that on his own conscience, and not share it at the expense of my own.
You are correct about the hard-working aspect. He does work very hard, but like Araceli pointed out, he’d never dream of NOT calling in late/sick to work if he wasn’t going to show up. After all, he respects his boss, and would like to keep his job. If he respects his wife, and more importantly his family, he should afford the same (if not more) respect. After all, marriage is a contract to love and honor your partner…and that is a 2-way street.
As a side note, since my initial post…he HAS started texting if he’s going to be late, and asks if I need him to pick anything up. Apparently, after I sat him down and showed him WHY it was upsetting me so much, something clicked…and things are golden now. He’s still late from time to time, but now I’m not pacing the floor, wondering if he’s had the life shocked out of him. 🙂
Heather Pruden says:
I have done a lot of research on how to get and keep a man and everything seems to come back to the same thing…men view respect as love. Without feeling respected they don’t feel loved. And the hardest thing as a woman is trying to decode man language and know exactly how to make him feel respected and what to say to him to make him feel safe. I’m always afraid I’m going to say or do something wrong. It sometimes makes me come across as a little insecure. I’m currently with a great man, but I’m trying desperately not to push him away like I’ve done so many times before. I will gladly use the techniques provided here and do my best to keep him happy and satisfied. Thank you.
Dianne Scott says:
I agree.
Bruce Jenitalia says:
This is what is wrong with women. Stop trying. Let go of control. Just be you and if it’s meant to be, it will be. You’re wanting a man to validate you and with this mentality he will walk all over you. If you have to try “desperately” than that’s what he’ll see, desperation.,
Hinata Uzumaki says:
Thank you for this.. The one thing I need to work on is making suggestions while he can’t think of what to say… He never told me he was annoyed by it but maybe he’s just being polite. This was a very helpful article.
Krista says:
I have been in a serious relationship for 3 yrs and recently things have gotten a little rocky and he tells me I don’t respect him. My question, is it really that he thinks I don’t respect him, or is it that he is trying to control me. I give him his space and he is able to do whatever he wants go fishing to friends ect. but I am not allowed to go out with my friends or even go to there houses. Its when I do those things that he says I don’t respect him. I really need advice so bad!
Zeanne Lopez says:
Respecting myself is huge for me. I do this my “Loving” me first. The only thing is that sometimes I confuse this with pride. I wont call him or text him because I think they should always chase me. If they don’t call me or text me then so be it, I’m ok with that. I always think it wasn’t meant to be. How do I create a balance?
Bruce Jenitalia says:
They should chase you. Point, blank
JC says:
Yeah but that goes too far too tho. I just dealt with this. If I guy doesn’t get responses or half a– replies etc and she’s playing it *too*cool for school ….then he SHOULD just give up. I apply myself and give effort, if I get bs responses and half a–ery in return then I will pull away and think that is just rude
Dianne Scott says:
I had a friend ask me, “Would you want to be married to you?” Oh my… Heck no was my answer as I rewound years of insecurity and jealousy in my mind. So I became someone I would want to be married to. In the process, I learned to like myself.
Blair says:
Greetings.. (:
I’m Blair and I’m 14. I went on this article because I’ve recently been having a difficult time compromising with a guy I used to date and currently have a “thing” with.
He and I have been fighting a lot lately and though I appreciate the fact that we always make up, I feel that this roller-coaster thing we have is getting old and has far too many short ups and downs. I think it’s about time we once-again experience the extraordinarily big and long up part of our relationship; late-night texts on iMessage, FaceTimes that end up concluding at 1 in the morning, Oovoo (a video chat app)calls with just him and me that last for three freaking hours after midnight, and how we save each other from sticky situations with people at our school.
He’s going into 10th grade this year, and I’m going into 8th. We’re two grades apart but we’re only 10 months older and younger. None of us got held back though, haha.
We’ve been getting in a lot of fights mainly because of my bitchiness and my lack of willing to understand him and compromise with him and learn to accept his contradictory opinions.
We’re in a fight again right now due to his jealousy toward my first-guy love and my telling him he didn’t have a right to get jealous, something like that.
Although I’d hate to be the one to apologize this time, how do I say sorry? Once he and I make up I’ll make sure it’s the start of a more clear relationship between us.
Also, I’d like to keep it an un-confirmed or unofficial relationship, like the whole “yeah, oh she’s my girlfriend” and “yeah, O.M.G. he’s my boyfriend.” That and we’d still be other’s and he and I know it’s for real, and not just-by-paper official.
And he and I might have a possible date this Friday, that’s if we make up again.
Please help?
I greatly thank you!!
TheHopeLine says:
Proud of you for communicating your needs to him and proud of him for listening and responding. That’s what good relationships are all about. 🙂
Mel says:
I’ve read all those ideas and I’ve applied them …
I must of been unlucky or thought of as a mug because
I dressed modestly … Or a sexy way on a night out with him
I gave them time
I encouraged them
I met up for lunch
I listened
I was 100% loyal
I did it all … I’m alone and bringing up their kids by myself
My respect for them never encouraged any respect back
They used me belittled me and cheated on me .. (They being my ex’s )
Keri says:
I haven’t dated for around 7 years, so now I feel I’m ready, ive veen doing a little research on how to do it right and this is the the most valuable and encouraging advice I have seen so far! Thanks ?
Neek says:
I do all these things an my lover still insist I don’t respect him. I came online an stopped here to even look up more ways an at the end of the article I was stumped to see that was all. I thought I may of had to do more. If I get an attitude without saying things I won’t mean or insist he speak to me better he’s assured that by even saying that I’m out of line an don’t respect him. At such a loss …
TheHopeLine® says:
Wow, you sound like you have really tried to do everything right to show respect. Maybe the issue isn’t with your behavior, but with his insecurities and false perceptions. Chat with us online and we can help you sort through the situation some more – https://www.thehopeline.com/gethelp/
JC says:
Agreed. Sounds like it’s him
Chelsea Webster says:
My boyfriend keeps thinking I have no respect and I’m trying my hardest to show him it
8YearsMarried says:
I 100% agree with Fire343. If you love him, and can’t imagine your life without him, even if he doesn’t deserve it, have compassion and respect him. End of story. He will be happy, and in turn so will you. It’s really that simple. 😉
biulla kamberipa says:
Waoh strongly agree
I Speak The Honest Truth says:
Most women nowadays certainly need to read a book on that one since they have no respect at all nowadays.
Annie says:
It has been a difficult task for me to respect a guy maybe cos I have been independent for too long. I honestly need the gift of respect. I feel hurt right now cos my boyfriend complains bitterly and now am on the remedy lane.
JC says:
☝🏻THIS RIGHT HERE ☝🏻
What Annie said.
Feminism is a double edged sword. You gain in one area…but lose in another area. The pendulum swung too far.
Kristie says:
I am hoping to learn the actions and verbal ways of showing respect to a man I just started dating.
Dante Ironheart says:
it’s called… wait for it… human respect …yay
Marina Labelle says:
Hi guys
I’m 21 years old and i have been going out with my boyfriend for one year an 8months now, ever since his been jobless, I noticed that I started to loose respect for him and since I was the one always doing things for him, it made me talk to him as if he was garage and I didn’t see anything wrong with it until now. I honestly feel bad for the lack of respect I’ve shown this guy and I know if Iever tried to speak to another guy the way I speak to him, I wouldn’t be in any relationship, but I took too much advantage of his kindness and love towards me and I just want to learn how to show him respect and show him I appreciate him
Anti-Cracker Leon says:
well,you should start to respect him from now on, but explain to him calmly that he needs to get a job. Sometimes its hard to get on our feet so give him a push, but not by bad mouthing him, but by supporting him in every step he does ,say to him that he is doing a great job and tell him to continue this way,that youre proud of him and youll see that your relationship from now on will be better than ever!!!
Brittany says:
I am implementing respect with my relationship with my dad. We have a strained relationship. Lately, I have really noticed his effort to love me as his daughter. Therefore, I made sure to let him know how much I appreciate him and that I am thankful he is my dad. The response was phenomenal! He told me he loved me more than all the drops of water in the ocean! That is A LOT of love! 🙂 He has never responded that way before. I am 27. The respect concept is new to me. I am thankful for growth and constant learning.
TheHopeLine® says:
Thank you for sharing your story. What an awesome result from showing respect! I hope you and your dad continue to grow closer.
Nola Spencer says:
So eloquently put. I agree 😊
Nola Spencer says:
May I share this link on my fb page? I did a search for ‘I respect men’ and this was only one of two hits. Terribly sad…
TheHopeLine® says:
Yes, we would love for you to share this on your FB page! That is sad that only 2 articles showed up. 🙁
A. Mirelle Rivera Díaz says:
This thread had this quote:
“I need your help. Would you comment back to me on how you have learned to respect yourself. If you don’t respect yourself, tell me why.”
Not anymore, I wonder what happened.
Why I didn’t respect myself: Because somewhere along the line I knew I had to stay in touch with my inner voice and I didn’t, because I knew the person whom I had to keep my word above all was me, and I didn’t. Many times. Because I kept going towards the people that didn’t do good to me. Because I wanted to be with anybody but me, sometimes this person would be kind, sometimes this person would be destructive (me with no-shell or protection, I got many injuries). Because I did things against my principles, because I have been self-destructive. Because I can’t forgive myself and convince myself I would deserve another chance, that even tho I made so much harm to me and others, I still have hope to be god’s love receiver. I felt like I was a demon sometimes.
I was cleaning my inbox and saw that I saved the link to this article.
I feel like 4 years have given me a lot of maturity. I was doing things wrong, I didn’t respect myself, I’m still learning to do this properly. I I pushed my boundaries, even tho my partner at the time had great human qualities there was a side of him that was definitely an aggressor side. We came to a point where I couldn’t go out with friends, and/or colleagues. He couldn’t trust myself, but that was because I didn’t trust myself in the first place.
I should have just stood away from dangerous/toxic relationship or behaviours since the beginning, and not let it develop.
Right now, I’m just: how I let this happen?
I’m deeply thankful for life’s second, third, fourth, so on chances. I’m still in the journey to get to know myself, and respect myself. Although, I’m caught in an another relationship where the guy pretty much ignores me, I have this feeling he’s selfish, I even dream that past innocent loves tell me to stay away from him, my gut tells me. I think he claims it to be good because we both have “our” time with ourselves, but not checking in for days/weeks. I don’t think this is sane. Or maybe I just need to give love to the situation and trust that whatever is for me is here to make me grow. I hope, not with too much pain.
Kris says:
Men, or at least most of them, are not worthy of my respect.Maybe there should be an article about how men should respect women?.Because they don’t.Men my age leer and state and honk at and have grabbed my 15 year old daughters breast.They are pigs.
Anti-feminist says:
Women are so self entitled and have no respect for men these days. Modern women are the true pigs.
ss says:
Number 1 is, Be respectable yourself. This is on here.
There is a story about Audrey Hepburn going to visit a men’s prison to do volunteer service. As she walked in, the men certainly stared, but there were no whistles, cat calls, or hey babys. A few men said a mere, hello. Men DO respond to your energy.
I myself have passed construction sites and not received whistles, but rather, words. “You look very beautiful”. To which I say, “thank you”.
Is there going to be a random jerk or 2 who are clueless? of course. Thats life, but most men can sense who you are more than you know.
And then the final piece, when he cherishes you by treating you well, the best way you respect him is to RECEIVE it. This shows him the most respect of all.
Emily Pacheco says:
This was greatly valued and appreciated. Thank you for sharing.