Do you have a feeling your boyfriend or girlfriend is cheating on you? If so, you should be aware of some telltale warning signs. Below, I give you 15 signs to test your relationship to determine if your boyfriend or girlfriend is cheating on you.
Do You Have a Feeling Your Boyfriend or Girlfriend Is Cheating On You?
But first…
Without asking whether your spouse or partner is seeing someone else, you may not know for certain if they are being unfaithful. Yes, there are common signs of cheating. People who cheat often seem defensive, or like they are hiding what they’ve been up to. They might spend more time away from you than usual. Or they might not be as affectionate with you as they once were. But all these circumstances could also point to different problems they’re having that have nothing to do with infidelity. Claiming someone is cheating is a serious accusation without complete confirmation. If you are concerned about your partner’s behavior, ask them about it directly before making assumptions that they are being unfaithful. For example, “It seems like you’ve been spending a lot of time away from home and I haven’t been able to reach you when you’re gone. What’s going on? Is everything okay?” This may result in you learning the root of the problem, so you can talk through it. If your partner becomes defensive or lashes out, don’t resume the conversation until you’ve gotten support for having these challenging conversations. Reaching out to a mentor or counselor is a safe way to talk through what you’ve observed and how your partner responds.
Can you relate to Angela’s fear?
Angela’s fear of her boyfriend cheating on her led her in all the wrong directions. “I always think in my head that he’s cheating, so I want to cheat. Or if he’s ignoring me, I don’t know what else to do. Every time we fight and he doesn’t show me love, I find it somewhere else. If he ever left me, my whole life would fall apart. But I never think about these consequences when I’m doing what I do. It’s like drinking and driving; people know the consequences of drinking and driving but yet do it anyway because it seems okay or it’s tempting.”
Have you been hurt like Katrina?
Katrina had her trust shattered when she was engaged. “I caught my fiancé cheating on me. We had been together for 5 years and all he would tell me was that he wasn’t happy. I think when he found that other woman, he uncovered feelings that he didn’t feel with me. The worst part is that it went on for a month. He always would tell me he would never do something like this to me.”
Now the test…
1. You begin to notice an emotional distance between the two of you. Things just aren’t the way they used to be.
2. Your instinct tells you he or she is being unfaithful. Deep in your heart, you sense something has gone wrong with your relationship.
3. You begin spending less time together. Your bf/gf tells you he/she doesn’t have the time for you like they used to.
4. The one you love so much stops asking you to go out and do special things together. Your boyfriend/girlfriend just doesn’t have the time for you like before.
5. They suddenly start encouraging you to spend time with other people. Their rationalization is that if you spend time with other people, then I can too.
6. There’s a distinct change in his or her schedule. They often make excuses for the extended time of running errands.
7. There are huge blocks of time your bf/gf is secretive about. They won’t tell you where they have been.
8. You notice suspicious cell phone activity like secret texts, emails, or strange websites. Many people are caught cheating because of what is on their computers or cell phones.
9. He or she doesn’t answer certain phone calls when you’re around. They look especially panicked when the phone rings.
10. He or she doesn’t talk to you about all their deepest feelings anymore.
11. They appear anxious when you’re together and want to leave; maybe they say they’re just tired. Cheating drains their emotional and physical energy because of fear they’re going to get caught or from spending a lot of their time trying to cover their tracks.
12. You notice a sudden change in their appearance, or they have an increased concern about how they look. Your boyfriend or girlfriend probably has a new reason to look great, and that person is most likely the one they’re cheating with.
13. He or she hangs around with a new best friend of the opposite sex a lot, even more than they spend time with you.
14. Your bf/gf spends time with his/her ex but claims nothing is happening.
15. He or she begins to be increasingly critical of you or blames you for cheating, even when you haven’t. This is a way of putting you on the defensive and making them feel better about what they are doing.
Be aware. Don’t Ignore The Warning Signs
The above indicators are all warning signs. If you notice multiple changes in behavior, routine or personality, and not just isolated incidences, you should confront them about these signs. You should always trust first, but don’t ignore red flags.
It’s also important to be aware that you can’t always trust your “gut feeling.” Sometimes it’s just jealousy and insecurity creeping in.
Lexie has some closing words of advice for us: “I think what makes a good relationship is honesty. You cannot lie to the other person or cheat! That will seriously ruin everything in the relationship, and you might not be able to fix it after it’s happened. If anything’s wrong, tell each other and try to work it out.”
Overthinking about anything can be exhausting. Overthinking about cheating can be emotionally distressing and put a strain on your relationship. If you’re struggling to put the “what if” thoughts out of your mind, it’s important to address these concerns in a healthy way and find ways to ease your anxieties. Here are some steps you can try:
Open and Honest Communication
Trust Your Partner
Self-Reflection
Set Boundaries
Build Self-Esteem
Seek Professional Help
Limit Exposure to Triggers
Practice Patience
Know your worth.
If you find out your partner is cheating on you, do not let yourself think for a moment that you are not worthy of love. God created you to be just who you are, and He loves you as His precious child. In this messy, sinful world we live in, people will hurt each other. It doesn’t mean you ever deserve to be hurt. In fact, God desires that we love each other selflessly, the way He loves us. This is how God describes love in the Bible.
Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. Love never fails. (1 Corinthians 13:4–8)
For more verses of hope about God’s plan for relationships, love, and sex, read these Verses of Hope for Cheating in Relationships.
maria says:
When I first meet my bf.everything was fine until we moved in together .He completely changed on me.he wanted to go visit his 9 yr old boy byhimself.he was still going inside his ex house.i could go he said cause he didn’t want her feeling offended.he didn’t like me answering any questions.so one day he took off and spent the night at her place.he sweated to me on the bible he didn’t cheated on me .He continue living with me by until this day I feel betrayed .I’m not happy I feel he still sees her.please help me.im52 and don’t want to marry him if I can’t find the truth…
Leon Bonta says:
dont marry him you must have honesty an a relationship with his ex where he sleeps over is too much trouble get out from this.
markie says:
Hunn, my ex did EXACTLY that, and it turned out to be true! I dont want to scare you or hurt you, but I feel he’ll hurt you worse. Put your foot down to what bothers you! Any woman can easily get a new man if they tried and eventually find the right one. Dont settle for less than what you deserve, especially if he does thinga that arent right and make you uncomfortable! You have one life to live. Who would you give the honor to be in it? A guy who hurts you whos not worthy of your love? Or a guy that makes you happy and spoils you like a queen? Is this guy the type of guy you want in your life? Is he worthy of it? Do you want to ruin the rest of your life because you are being made unhappy by the husband you said yes to? I really wish you the best of luck. Be strong hearted. Every leap and bound, bruise and heartbreak is a lesson in life and has its reason why we experience it within our lifetime to teach us something. Your love is a gift. Is this man worthy of it? Does he deserve it?
Sara Jenkins says:
You should tell him how you feel
Anna says:
Girl it isn’t worth it I’m the same way I’ve been with my man an for 3 years an his ex wife/baby mamma is still in the picture I used to know where she lived but now that she moved he won’t take me to drop off his kids he doesn’t answer the phone when he’s around her only texts me an when he does answer he yells at me but he’ll answer the phone around me when she calls I’m still with him they take there kids out more then he takes me out I don’t know what to do his one sister tells me he’s cheating on me an other sister an mom tell me he’s not idk but I do know the ex wide has a bf but I don’t know what to think of believe I just wanna leave sometimes to go visit my family but I can’t cuz I don’t trust him
Elo T says:
I understand, my husband ex wife knows , I’m live with him she tired so hard to break us up but the true is my man, sticks up for me and doesn’t hide anything . He ended up buying his son a cell phone so he doesn’t have to call his ex wife’s phone anymore , he takes me with him to pick up his son . Never never goes over to her house make his ex wife drop there son off at our house. The thing is his ex cheated on him so he said it hurts and I will never cheat on me. You shouldnt worry about having to be with him 24/7 because your afraid he will cheat , man are so dumb they will tell on themselves just ask the right question !
Corrina Schader says:
Honestly honey, the truth doesn’t matter. He may or may not be cheating on you, but in top of that he isn’t man enough to stick up for you in front of his ex and continues to allow her opinion dictate his actions. He needs to tell her, this is my woman and she is apart of my life, but he cares about her feelings more than yours. Also, he really disrespected you by staying at her place ave he doesn’t seem sorry for that either. That being said, it is not crazy to think that a man who values your feelings so little would also cheat.
Amy says:
Than don’t do it if he isn’t faithful to u what’s the point
Amanda Persaud says:
Should i leave him if he treated his ex girlfriends better than me
hani says:
From a guy view, the answer is not yes but definetely yes
Dave Diver says:
So you talked to his ex girlfriends and they told you he treated them better? I doubt it it sounds like a game he is playing or the girls are trying to make you jealous.
fiona says:
yes^
asanda,van wyk says:
Yes leave him and move on with your life
Briana Fisher says:
Well any guy is supposed to treat you like a princess. So if he isn’t treating you right then I would leave him because you are worth way more than that guy is offering you. There will be a guy out there who 100 percent will try to make all of your dreams come true and will treasure every moment together so don’t settle for anything less than what you deserve you are one of a kind don’t let anyone make u feel like ur not.
Drew says:
Yeah but you also can’t expect a guy to treat you right when you lie or constantly not supporting him on certain things, your whole comments is straight straight bs you’re pretty much just saying guys and not other women
Jesús says:
You’re insane. How do you figure girls automatically deserve to be treated like a princess?
Josh says:
My girlfriend goes out for one or two items and doesn’t come back for hours at a time what am I supposed to think? If I say anything about taking too long or what took so long she gets mad there are tail tell signs but she and everyone that has known her forever always say that’s who she is she can’t go to a store without spending at least an hour. But she knows it bothers me and dissent make the slightest attempt to change. What do I do? This is going on 4 years and we have 3 kids together
Delphine says:
My advice is: Get to know which type of a person she really is. You can’t spend all your energy and happiness trying to act like a detective and mistrusting everything she does. You need to know who you can trust around you, or you might live quite an unhappy life.
Katerya Johnson says:
I agree
ratu says:
I think u shud do it even double n make sure she notices it bra..thenu will c her cumin bk to u its called taste of own medine.. Cz the ansa u r looking for isn’t there…don’t stress yourself think for the kids…chao
Susan Taylor says:
Classical signs yes go with what your gut says it.never lies coming from a female that has experienced these things getting mad shows she’s guilty
katie says:
That’s totally norm woman behavior. Our grocery store is 3 mins up the road and I go for 2 items all the time and take an Hour. Lol. I usually get more items or someone slow in front of me
pzone97 says:
id find out why he treats her better before u just leave him I my self act different to my ex but its because of my kids an it depends on what or how he is acting toward her
Tracey says:
What do u think? U man have a invisible women bbf that you never see they just talk and text while at wor . But never talks to her in front of you??? Help??
Katerya Johnson says:
No give him a chance
Jade says:
So my bf and I met at work. But only started talking because our significant others had cheated on us with each other for over a year. And we all four work together. He decided to come to me one night and have a conversation about what we knew and how we were being lied to and cheated on. We started talking that night and realized how much we have in common. We helped each other get over our cheating ex’s. Well about two months down the road, while talking all day everyday since the first time we sat down to talk, we actually decided to become an official couple. Five months later we decided to move in together. Everything between us has been great. But about a month after we moved in together he started acting odd. He would sleep close to his phone and found me slightly crowding. I started to ask if things were wrong and was told that things with work etc were stressing him out, and not to take it personally it was nothing against me. But did catch him lying one day as to why it tok him a half hr to respond to a phone call. But a week later he told his friend, which was just the other day, that he’s going to marry me. Also our sex life would make most couples envious and hasn’t become any less exciting than when we first started our relationship. If anything has gotten better. However, with lingering thoughts I searched his phone. Just two days ago his browser said he was looking at the “casual encounter” adds on Craig’s list. Its obvious I’ve been cheated on before and I know it left me a bit scared. But seriously am I over thinking things, or should I seriously be worried?
Ryila28 says:
Well…I definitely see why you’re having lingering thoughts about your relationship. Considering the fact that he is planning on asking you for your hand in marriage, I feel that is why he seems to be acting a little different. I can guarantee you that he’s nervous about making such a life altering decision but that tells me he has thoroughly thought this thing through. As odd as it may sound, I can see him searching for the casual encounters as a way of just seeing how solid his decision was…you know, purposely throwing temptation in his face to see if there was even the smallest part of him that would think about straying. To me, he has invested much thought into the idea of making you his wife so it may not be a wise decision to “confront” him about what you found on his phone. It would hurt him and could possibly ruin what you guys have. Just let it play out, give it time, and if he is still acting weird a few months from now then ask him about it. This is only my opinion, but I hate the thoughts of a little insecurity destroying what could be the love of your life. *hugs* Give us an update when it all plays out! 🙂
George Stanley says:
I’m convinced that my fiancé is cheating on me with my best friend the reason I believe this is because my best friend claims that she has been sending him messages but he won’t forward them to me she told him I was going be at home with my parents for the break and now i!m stand offish about this whole thing what do I do?
Katerya Johnson says:
Bring both of them together and talk about the situation
John An EvaMarie Hanks says:
A man should never change how he is or how he acts towards a woman he claims to love because if you truly love someone you get over the fact that something went down i know that if my wife ever cheated on me i would be angry and upset that it happened but nothing would stop me from trying to fix what ever it was that made it happen. see the easy thing about it is that when you find out someone has cheated on you and you get upset then calm down and let them know you still care and are willing to let it all go they will tell you whats wrong or what caused them to cheat and they will realize that you really do care and they will realize how truly lucky they are to have you and chances are they will never cheat on you again. but if they do cheat on you again you gotta let it go no matter how mad you are because if you truly love that person nothing and i literaly mean nothing will get hard enough to work out.. a good mother never banishes her child from outta her home when they have done wrong no matter how bad she thinks it is and its not a fact of oah she birthed that one tho because that doesnt matter its love even when you dont recieve it back thats true love. i think you should talk to him about it and confront it put it all out in the open and hear what he has to say if you truly care for him and he is cheating on you tell him how much you love him even if you dont get the love back it will show him in time how much you really do care about him and he will eventually follow your moves and do it to. and never take the thought out of your mind that he may think your cheating on him because he could think it out wrong and do something stupid because he thinks you just dont care or that your just cheating on him anyways so whay should he care. dont leave him talk to him and live your lives telling eachother everyday how much you care with your words and your actions and never stop.
Leticia says:
If he cheats on you twice it seems wrong if you stay. Why should you? Why can’t you cheat on him like he cheated in you? What is the point if you cannot trust him?
trisha says:
That has to be the worst advise I’ve ever heard in my whole 47 years… bt , what can you expect from a male who must have no self worth …they Dnt thnk like us females…However, I’ve had great advise from my male friends in the past . bt, it was because they actually cared about my well being… and , the best advise ever I’ve been given was from my male cousin…Love does not = Pain… And if ,you are feeling hurt in a relationship your significant other should be worried that you are not hurting in the relationship with them. AND,from personal experience. .. If you’ve confirmed a cheater in your past , & if you look deeper in the new persons actions you will know the differences…some times they are Suttle. .. Stop listening to what they are saying and listen to what they are not saying…Its all in their actions,truth….a good relationship continues to grow & not stall out if it is the right connection…learning to except it either way is the hard part.dnt wait 22 yrs for the sake of any child or any excuse you give yourself for staying.put yourself in a bttr position if your are not in a good one to make a decision on how your feeling in your relationship. .. bt, can say this to any female out there who’s dating or married or engaged to be married to a man. ..Ppl make all kinds of commitments every day whether they are honored is a whole other story… Look at the divorce or break up rate since the beginning of time.. But , looking into a person’s character will tell you whether they are an honorable type personality. .. if this person shows its important to honor even the simplest of things in general , you have found someone who will be honest with you .whether it’s what you want to hear or not…if you look at the way they function with family or friends & everyday ppl they come in contact with,will speak miles of how they deal with ppl in general. . . Dont, ever try to out cheat a cheater . because it never reaches or exceeds them .because they are already past the point of being reached the first time they decide to put themselves between some one else’s legs.i find it hard to believe ,you are who they were thnkn about while they were having their fun… So, don’t thnk by you forgiving them , it will make them be true to you…for what ever reason ppl wanna give, I’ve heard many men say, they jst get board with the same thng& want something different .bt, dnt want to lose the relationship they’ve built & families involved so see… there’s never a happy satisfy for this type of individual. You could be giving lots of bedroom time & it wouldn’t change that they would want a lil something different. ..and want to keep their steady relationship as well…and if you thnk by asking a cheater if they are cheating,that they will willingly admit it to you .then you are mistaken yourself even further than listening to the wolf /grandmother who ate little red riding hood. .. so, I say to any woman out there who’s thnking their mate is cheating ,all gloves are off to make it your business to know for sure. And , if your having these insecurities in this relationship , you should not be in that peticular relationship. .whether they are cheating or not…
Cassie says:
Me and my boyfriend have been together for 2 years now, for the past 6 months, I have these dreams of him cheating on me, it happens about 3 times a week, they are with different girls in different places every time, but it’s places he usually goes, night clubs, his friends house, his house, my house. Every time I dream him cheating on me it feels so real, I wake up sweaty, crying and screaming, I don’t know what this means or if it even means anything in real life, anybody know ? I need help!
toya says:
wow me and u r in the same situation. i also wander the same thing about my fiance. we been together for a year in half since june 2013. i have the same dreams and nightmares when i wake up i usually wake up hot and sweaty and it seems so real. i have come to realize that its not always our gut instincts or womans intuition. it can also be us women are very jealous and insecure are because the men make us that way and there is no security in the relationship. if you truly feel that you are being cheated on, confront your boyfriend and ask him and see what he says first instead of jumping to conclusions. you may just be having those dreams because being cheated on by someone you love is what you fear the most
Mandy says:
I have the same dreams about my fiancé like right now hes at his exs house seeing his son and his other ex from years ago is there too and she just broke up with her ex fiance…and I don’t trust her with a 10 foot pole…but I have dreams like that all the time and I wake up hot sweaty and crying and screaming…but I don’t know if its real I don’t think it is…we are engaged and have been for 2years our anniversary is this Saturday valentines day and we are getting married June 16th 2015 of this year…I just hope its not true wat u women think I should think or do…mandy
pzone97 says:
I have to say dreams can be warning signs but don’t take them to heart unless u see warning signs that keep poping up while ur awake I had a dream about my ex wife before we broke up about her an some guy who was a carpender an three months latter after that dream I found out that she was cheating on me but keep an eye out for sudden changes in there behavier if u know him like I knew her its easy to spot changes
Cassie says:
Hi, Cassie.I know how you feel. I have had lots of boyfriends (thy ask me out and I would feel bad to say no) and I have had one boyfriend cheat on me. It was the worst feeling in the world! I began not talking to him, and sooner or later, we broke up. I’m pretty sure he has asked out every girl in my old school, so I feel like I am not special an not recognized, what should I do to get other boys attention?
Katerya Johnson says:
Having dreams about your man cheating on you can be two things you are afraid and worried that he might be or its a warning sign that he is are will be some time soon
bharath says:
Im in a relation from about 4 yrs i heard she proposed other person a year before she didn’t approve it nor disapprove it
What to do to know if she is cheating
She said she no more has feelings for me
Trinity says:
My boyfriend had sex with me and left me and the baby when she was born
Katerya Johnson says:
I was in the same situation and it hurts like hell but we was able to work it out but it will take time for me to trust him again it will be better over time
Trinity says:
What should I do
Trinity says:
That’s true
yanna _100 says:
should I leave him if he got to many girls in his phone or if he’s txting to many girls
kaykay says:
same here my boyfriend right now still has his pictures of his exs and he tends to show me those pictures when i really don’t want anything to do with it and just recently a random as girl texted him telling him that he’s cute and that she wants to have sex with him and afterwards she asked him if they want to hangout later after school and this guy said yea. he has told me many times that he would never leave me and that he loves me with all his heart but even though he says that he’s still gonna meet up with this girl and i have feeling that he’s gonna dump he for her just because she wants to do nasty stuff but I don’t think that i’m ready to realize that he might cheat on me. SOMEONE PLEASE HELP I’M SO CONFUSED WHAT SHOULD I DO?
enrique jaimes says:
My girl friend of 7year left me on cristmas on jan 17 was my bday an not even a call that was mess up a week ago i go to her house i have a 2yr old son and a 3yr old daughter with her n she opens da door at dis point she dnt even let me c my kids so i peep in n theirs a old man bout 50yr old or more sitting deir wit my girlfriend shes 25 im 26 holdin hand in front of my son n they sinnickly tell me dey have bin married bfore she even new me dats not the worst she tells me da next day in a mcds dat my baby girl aint mine i feel real bad i feel used even tho im a man n i hope they were laying bout my daughter i cant c her not being mine n being around dat kind of people all her family says dey didnt noe but if its true wat they say dey all new i bin use 😓😢😥
Jason says:
My gf asks me for money all the time and she doesn’t like holding hands and she calls her cousin babe and he calls her the same thing. She doesn’t like me kissing her when his around because she doesn’t want him to know. And we have been getting appart from each other more with the things she says, like always being tired. This whole thing is beginning to hurt me so much, and I love her and I don’t know what to do. And to make it worst she’s been the first person I’ve been with for a year. I’m one of does guys that helps a lot, but I just think she’s using me to benefit her life and her cousins. Any help? Should I talk to someone at my doctors?
mother hurting bad says:
My boyfriend and father of two of my kids been togather for 7 years, about 4 years ago he tryed to have sex with my roomate but blew up in his face she told me what he hadtryed. My trust went down hill if he was trying to do that how much lower could he have going. I love him he is all i have other than my kids. I forgave him after a couple months. I belive he started cheating on me again, i am very jealous with him after the roommate thing. Everyday I have ask him if he is but he says things like he wouldn’t do it again becuase he saw how bad he hurt me or he would rather leave me before liveing another nightmare, or im crazy, or he will do a lie detector test. I started to belive I was crazy also and told him I should see a doctor but he said no I should talk to him. He even came to me and said he was so sorry for things that made me like this that he looks at me like him I ask him what things he was sorry for but he got a little mad. Even days when I didnt talk to him he would look me in the eye and say u really think im a cheater but really I am not and he looks so sincere. He also has said if he did cheat he would tell me. And sometimes he says im lucky he has not done that. Or I care to much or I am to sensitive. Also he gets so mad at times and says why are woman so stupid to want that so badly and that if that is what I really want he will start to be that way. And than he says I really dont know what man I have and when I do it will be to late. Help me I dont want to ruin the relationship if je is turely not.
mother hurting bad says:
Also he says he was not always a good boyfriend but he has not done any cheating that he loves me and doesn’t see him self with any other woman. That he has lied to me in the past but not cheating just not where he was suppose to be.. geezzz im hurting so bad I had all the signs that he was cheating but no proof and no confuses. He says he thinks it is just better to leave me for my insincerity and he will be tired to keep telling me no all the time that I think to much…. I really dont know what to do I even went as far as to tell him I found a condom wraper but he said that was definitely not his but than ask me what kind of wraper it was and why I didnt come to ask him about it when I found it.. I feel like he is hideing something. I just dont no.
indhu says:
he only praposed me so i was accept after two months he is saying he dont love me and he dont like me also.but i didt do any mistake i dont know what happen to him.i asked him he didt responds its very pain full please dont believe any guys.this is cheating are not??? but i love him a lot
Tracy says:
I met my bf a year and 3months ago. We are living in other countries. We meet each other in every two months a time. We know each other through dating site as he is divorced and I am too. We chat with each other everyday and his work is business man and he travel around the world. It is not matter if currently he can’t fly to see me cos his work is charged and he is very busy and I also found out the truth that he is cheating on me. He is not divorcing and he still lives with his wife and his children. All pics he sent to me is only him and his children. I found out his address and all information for him and his family. I feel hurt and i hate myself cos I was easy to trust him and loved him with all my heart. He just called me today and tell me that he will meet me end of this month as he doesn’t know that I knew all thing. Please tell me how to treat him? And which is the treatment that he deserve it?
jodene reid says:
My problem is my boyfriend always enjoy talking to this person of opposite sex, he text and calls everyday. At first we were just always happy but since am pregnant n move in with him he changed. He always says is his friend n she is fun n easier to talk with. We mostly argue these days but haven’t from the past couple of day I asked him to stop talking to her around me and it seems I just say the worst to him. We argue a lot when go out. He don’t even says things anymore like I love you are anything of that sort as he used to.
kule says:
oh wow that sucks sorry how’s your kid now
Isiakakha mundustrong says:
I have been in a relationship for 1 year now and all has been well until recently when i started noticing strange behavior with my girlfriend.
1: she doesn’t want me to pick her up from work in the evening and she would always suggest that we meet at home. Main reason is she is working late or running errands.
2: She has made new friends at her work who she has never wanted me to know.
3: A couple of days ago she came home passed midnight while drunk
4: The next day she never showed up and never picked my calls
My question to you is could these be signs that she is cheating on me?
How do i go about this situation?
raven says:
do all the things she is doing make her jealous
joe says:
my gf has been actin really weard lately not calling me to see if im ok or having sex anymore maybe once every two to three weeks and then shes always accusing me of cheating making hateful faces at me and then I found not once but twice her ex bf pic in her phone she blamed it on her daughter but I just don’t believe that and then her ex husband called shes always runnin up the other bathroom to text or talk to who ever can somebody plz help me cause im really think something is goin on
joe says:
I mean constantly accusing me of things im not doin im always at home if not work I always call her but the feelin just aint mutual and then I get yelled and screamed at like I aint somebody we never hold one another anymore she want even kiss me and far as a hug its not compation behind anything anymore what should I do it hurts cause I love her
ForbiddenChaos says:
Me and my boyfriend have been dating for a year now,and recenlty he’s been distant,He’ll say he will get off work early,but when it’s about time for him to get off,He won’t be home for 4 or 5 hours saying he’s driving home,he hasn’t been comiing home until 10 or 11 at night when he usually gets off at 2 in the afternoon,and whenever I ask to be intimate,he says he’s too tired.
crazy farm girl says:
mine too. he did it a lot. I was too scared to end it so I was stuck 10 years like that,.
crazy farm girl says:
if your mate never wants to have sex with you, and you get tons of offers from others but never do anything about it, and you just want your mate but they just dont want you ever. What does it mean?
Aru says:
Its been almost 2 months of our relationship,I met this guy on Facebook gradually we became a lot closer and even met.Things have been going good but recently all of a sudden he started saying things like ”his face is so bad that I might not want to kiss it’ and when I ask him to meetup hes busy most of the time and he says he has no friends then who does he hangs out with? And once i was talking to him on phone and heard a girls laughing sound when i asked him who it was he didn’t react much and said that I was having hallucinations.My heart says something is wrong. What should i do?Are these hallucinations or something is wrong for real? How to know if he loves me for real or not?
Justin Stallone says:
well ive been dating this girl for about 7 months and at first everything seemed to be fine then after awhile her ex(and her childs father) kept getting all the attention even after all of the horrid things he’s done to her. at first she talked negatively about him then around the fourth month of dating she starts to get friendlier and friendlier with him. i asked her if she would back off a bit but then everytime he’d even post he was having a bad day, she’d always go on and cheer him up. we had a major problem recently where our friend forced herself on me and she believed i cheated on her. i went to her the very next morning and told her what happened now we seem good cause i was able to show proof but shes still distant, tired, grumpy, and defensive. just today i asked her if she was texting someone else because the SINGLE text message came up saying it was a duplicate. but i only received one message not two. she seemed defensive but i couldnt tell im just wondering if a message will come up as a duplicate if she sent it to someone else at the same time. because after i told her about our friend forcing herself on me she started talking to another guy from her past they were flirting but she told me that we were on a “break” which i believe cause she said she wanted time to herself. but i dont know for sure. sex life is good but attention has been more towards her phone and social media. as for affection? i dont know at times she seems like she wants me and then at times she doesnt want anything to do with me. i dont know what to do she wont open uo to me she says she wont even open up to her own mother. i feel like she either is cheating or just doesnt want me knowing to much but i dont want to judge. she does work two jobs. anyone know how to tell if she is? or if there are any key questions i can ask her to see if her reaction depicts that she is indeed have other intentions? i just feel so unimportant.
hurt country mom says:
I found out my fiance of 7 year started clicking on nude pics Supposably 2 years ago I think loner. was on face book looking up ex girlfriends and many other girls he says he never contacted them he said when he went to Vegas for business he was posting on Craigslist for girls said he wanted a friend there then after I Cought him that march 2 2015 he said there was nothing else then found out March 3rd by doing more computer research he met a girl at casino in Vegas looked her up the next month and only talked nothing physical or anything just talked he said and also found out he sent nude pics back and forth one night on Sept 25 2014 to a girl Courtney she knew about me our kids and her mom use to watch our kids, that he slept with 12 years ago we are now doing OK and trying to make it work. We have 2 children have a home together the whole nine yards I am 29 he is 30 he said he would never do anything like this knows how much I have been hurt before always preached honesty. I’m so confused what to do or believe i know everything the whole truth even though he says I do and he wants to make it work sorry and it will never happen again please help I don’t know what to do or believe
April miller says:
He has spend to much time with his friends and less time with me what should I do
Steven says:
I’m a bit concerned about who my girlfriend chats to on WhatsApp. And I’m also a little worried about who she smses… Would love to go through her phone.
wendy says:
My boyfriend told me he got girl. What should I do
wendy says:
He just told me.I am his ultimate. Even though he got another girlfriend,I really hurt.
Griff says:
OK. Here it goes. I’ll make it short and sweet. Fiancé and I have been together for 2 years. While working at a prior job, she started to have feelings for someone 10 years younger. I found out and confronted her. She said she was confused but realized she only wanted me. I gave benefit of the doubt. That was a year ago. She’s still friends with him, and I was OK with that, but about 2 months ago she started to become distant. Sits alone in chair while I sit on couch. She still texts/calls him but randomly will show me…otherwise all conversations get deleted. I’m starting to get mad and worried. Want to confront her with this but don’t want to fight? Thoughts? Suggestions?
pzone97 says:
Sad to say it but it probley will end up in a fight but make it clear that its bothering u an it has to stop or be sneaky an trt to put a app on her phone to see what she’s up to but be careful about that do research an find one that would work best for u but if she loves u an respects u she will stop
Cody Hanthorn says:
My wife was having an emotional affair with a guy she knew 3 years ago. I found an old phone of hers and was going to throw it away. I powered it up and was shocked at the sexual texts that where on there. It was all from him. There was nothing that was on there that was from her. The texts talked about him wanting a fake stay at his house and mention of quickies. She said they where never alone and that the text where sent because she told him I was looking at her text messages. I am on my second week of counseling and not knowing if they did anything physically is killing me. There is no doubt it was a emotional affair, but I wonder really what happened 3 years ago.
kelila serrano says:
I’ve been with my bf for a year now, their was a point we did not get along nor talk to each other but we slept in the same bed. Hes a salesmen, he deals with customers all the time. I found out about a month ago he was talking to other women yea his Customer, during the time we didn’t speak to each other. I question him about it he claims she was after him and tells me he just went along with it but he never kissed her nor have any intercourse with her Just text messages back and forth. I really don’t know whether to believe him or not? He says i have nothing to worry about. Mind you he did not tell me about him and the other women, one of his coworker ask me if we were still together, i said yes. Why? So he said this women calls the job asking about my bf, asking if hes in a in a relationship because he keeps asking her to go out to lunch and she tells him no so therefore that’s how i found out. I’m just. confused I love him but I don’t know whether to believe him? Help.. what should i do?
john says:
I’m 23 years old and I’ve been cheated on by all my ex’s I’ve never cheated I love the one who I am with why cheat ,from this day forward I believe my girlfriend I have been with for 2 years I believe she’s has cheated but I don’t know i can trust anybody because of all my ex’s , idk what to do
pzone97 says:
Its hard to trust anyone after uve been lied to an cheated on an hurt so many times starting a new relationship is awsome but when one little thing happens the seems wrong or something reminds u of ur past it can hurt the relationship ur in if u know they have cheated then its best to get out of the relationship take a little time then look for someone new but if u don’t know if they have then try to set down with them an have a heart to heart talk about things that scare u worry u bother u or upset u if they love u an respect u then they will listen an take to heart what ur saying an would try to help u an not put u in those type of situations again
Confusedddd says:
Okay, weird question… My girlfriend went out the other night, said she was at her friends… But then after we fought said she went out after her friends house?? Is there reason to panic with this? We live together mind you.
trisha says:
All I can hope is that ppl wake up & start putting them selves first for a change.instead of worrying what the other person will think if they ate found out to be the cheaters.you can forgive them bt, doesn’t mean you have to ever trust that person again. And anyone wanting to thnk they need to still be in the shopping isle.should not be in a so called committed relationship. . . No one is less important in a committed relationship. So, she has every right to claim her self respect because it evident he wasn’t giving her respect by searching ppl out in the casual adds.inwhich, isn’t to just go out and have tea so , not only has he deceived her.he put he health at risks by tempting himself with sex from other ppl.Not a good foundation for a committed relationship , not to mention marriage.
kashe91 says:
I saw a message in my bf phone. He was asking this girl to be his side chick. She wrote back and said friends instead. then the next day he comes home from school and jumps in the shower right away. I’m I over thing or is he cheating on me?
jon says:
my partner used to be so loving caring. then about 2 years ago she went out to her bosses flat got drunk and stayed there all night. I tryed to call her about 40 times. no reply. when she turned up she looked shifty. then about a year ago she went away to a funeral with her ex husband and kids for 3 days. but she didn’t want to go to my daughter’s wedding? she hardly comes near me we have crap sex about once a month and she seems very distant
jon says:
hi all my girlfriend seams to of changed loads over the last few years. she went to her bosses house got drunk didn’t come home. when she turned up she looked shifty she shows no affection we only have sex once a month and it’s not good. she seams to get on better with her ex husband now. when she used to diss him.
Bri says:
ok, I cheated on my bf a few years ago when he was incarcerated. And I ended up getting back with him feeling like I still love him and I had made a mistake. But he ended up for giving me and we’ve been together for years after and is extremely extremely rocky but we still managed to be together and we do have some good days but I feel like deep down in my heart and he is cheating on me you are yes you know me and I’ve sent him down and talk to him truthfully to try and see if he really have cheated on me but he still says no I’ve been faithful to you the whole time. there is something in me not allowing me to believe anything that he is saying. And the little incident I had while he was incarcerated did not happen again and I did not cheat on him again. you have also been together and then going through this for the last four years and we also ended up having a baby Who is seven months now. And he also says that he wants to marry me and I do want to work it out but I want to know that I can trust him and right now we are not living together but we talk every day but we still get into arguments and I still have a huge problem with trusting him.
alexandra smith says:
My bf used to live with his ex for 4 mouths and i thought he was cheating but when i left his ex house he was crying and ringing me what dose that mean now he lives with my borther and i dont know if his cheating because have a go at each other most of the time
shyguy845 says:
I don’t know what to do? I think my GF is using/cheating on me. I have been clean/sober now for 91 days & we only had sex 3 times. When we first met, we did it all the time. Now, since I’m sober she never talks about it or even tries to do anything with me. We rarely see each other because we live about an hr away from one another. I love her & she claims she loves me. She had me blocked from Facebook for nearly 4 months & I finally flipped out one night & she decided to add me back on FB. We’re friends on there but she never speaks about me to any of her friends. In one post I have read she considers me a “friend” plus her status is “Single” we have been together for almost a year & I have never felt this way about any woman in my life. I love her & don’t want to lose her. When I ask if she is speaking to anyone else she gets really mean & starts getting angry with me & I personally think she sounds guilty because she seems to take it to a whole new level. I’m lost & I have tried everything. Besides leaving her. I’m scared I found my soulmate but then again I can’t force someone to like/love me.
jerome says:
Can someone please answer this for me, if the woman that I’m with always say that I’m cheating and I’m really not. what do I do.
pzone97 says:
Let her have acess to ur phone an ur email an facebook or anything else u hav any time she says that if she don’t believe u or tell her to put a app on ur phones to let her see for her self ur not cheating show her ur willing to let her look an that should help but don’t take this as I’m saying she is doing this but a lot of people accuse others of cheating to justify there own cheating
Mameh1 Mameh1 says:
Hi, my girl friend cheated on me after 4 years and then I founded it my self and I told her it’s over and then she asked me for second Chance I forgive her but inside of ma heart am afraid that she will do it again. What should I do help me.
Wonder says:
Hello
I’m am writing this because I need help making a decision and after many days and weeks or research I’m going crazy. I don’t even know what to call my relationship. Been with him for 15 years started dating at 15 we now have an 8 year old son we are not living together we both live with our families. We both work I have my son most of the time but he takes him weekends that when he has time. So we both needed space because after many years of drama in our relationship family gets involved not being where I need to be as an accomplished woman,made me realize that enough is enough gave him space to sort things thru to have a reality check and so he can figure out what was important. Which I was hoping my son and I well now just in 2 weeks he decides to start txt his neighbors and a tenant that lives next door at 2 am when he gets off work I know this because I pay the bill. Which is driving me crazy because I can see I’m playing detective I confront him and Her ask what is going on because me and him are still intimate we sustain a relationship but no one knows we do it’s really complicated. My child is having a difficult time at this age not understanding many things and I’m really confused don’t know how to feel about this I am very frustrated and helpless. I don’t know if I should call it cheating? I don’t know what to do with the way he’s acting now? Like all of this is my fault? Why the lies? Why can’t I see any happiness in the end is it because I want us to be a family?
andrea says:
my bf is my classmate……of same college. At first I thought that he loves me a lot and the way he speaks with me………i thought he really loves me. He had 2 girl friends before…..but he told me that he broke up with them and he said that he truly loves me. I believed him and I did whatever he asked…..because i din’t wanna lose him. I am the topper of the class……I have noticed sometimes that he is quite jealous of my score. I don’t no whether he is in relationship with me just to distract me from studies……i haven’t done anything wrong with him. He has a sister……….he never lies with his sister he loves his sister a lot…….she is my friend too. One day i had been to her house…..my bf called his sister at the same time when i went to her house. He din’t know I was there….and i had told her to on the speaker……she asked my bf whether he loves me truly or not…..but he said that he was just playing with me and he din’t love at all……he was just acting. I don’t know whether he had told simply or not but my friends say that he is a bad boy and not to believe him but when I chat with him i don’t feel like he is cheating on me……..but sometimes i do……i just want to know the truth. What should I do?? ……. please give some suggestions
Terri CodyAtherden Hopkins says:
I have a boyfriend and I seen a text from my best friend on his phone saying sorry I couldn’t come, I asked him about it and he said he was her brother he was texting but I asked him and he said no it wasn’t me I wasn’t even in town what do I do????
Sonia says:
Break up with him, he lied
Karen Baker says:
I believe my bf is cheating he has a addiction to porn and other websites he hardly touches me any more
TheHopeLine® says:
Karen, Thanks for reaching out to talk about your bf’s possible addiction to porn. We have a partner at xxxchurch.com that can help you with this. Here is a link to one of their blogs that may help. It is written for a spouse, but I’m sure some of the content could help you with what to do. https://www.xxxchurch.com/spouses/5-things-you-must-do-if-your-spouse-is-hooked-on-porn.html
Anonymous says:
Hi everyone,
Okay so my boyfriend and I have been dating for two years and a few months & it’s been pretty rocky. We met on Facebook, through mutual friends actually and we met of course & all of a sudden we just clicked, we talked and talked at a park, then went home. It was a few weeks or even months after that, he was still talking to this so called ‘best friend’ who he’s known since primary. But what made me upset was when we had a little argument today about me messaging him cause apparently it was annoying him :(. Anyways I felt like he went way too far by saying that he slept with that ‘best friend’ & knowing him he knows it gets me upset when he mentions her because he used to spend more time talking to her than me. He told me time after time, ‘Your my first, I am a virgin, I haven’t slept with any other girl! I regret it big time, I gave him my all my everything even my virginity. I knew I should’ve listened to my mum. & no he’s denying that he never did it because he must feel bad. I don’t know, I’m so upset, I don’t know what to do, I want to break up with him but I feel like I’ll regret it. I don’t know if he’s turning the truth into a lie. Please help. He also calls me weak. I guess I’m too weak to break up with him #confused&scared
.. says:
Think my girl is cheating on me, doesn’t answer txts for hours always says going to bed but if i drive past her lights on, only way to get quick reply is to accuse her, always seems busy. I asked her multiple times if there is another guy cuz her sketchy ways she says no. Treat this girl like nothing but gold not really getting the same thing back. Sex is good but i think it’s time to grab my stuff from her place.
pzone97 says:
What else is she doin to ake u think she’s cheating the light on a lot of people sleep with the lights on an when u always ask her if she’s cheating or ask her if there is another guy around will really hurt the relationship make sure u have good hard proof before u accuse or confront her
Ashley says:
Okay so me and my boyfriend have been dating since March 23rd, 2015. The 23Rd this month will be 3 Months of us being together. I just can’t stand it Becuase he gets these random mood swings where one minute he’s all happy and telling me how he loves me as I do for him. but say, the next day he gets alittle mad and upset and stuff. Also, he ignores me from time to time and usually makes up an excuse like “hey, sorry I went out to eat” or whatever. I never really go anywhere so I’m always texting him. And like today he was supposed to come over my house but he “had to go to the lake and won’t text me in a couple of hours”…. I’ve been worried that he’s cheating on me but he promised me he wouldnt. He broke that promise Becuase I made a fake kik and asked if he has a girlfriend. He said no. I was so sad 😆he has also lied to me too before…. but I don’t know what to do! Someone please help.
pzone97 says:
That don’t sound good there is no excuse for cheating whatever the problem is but he could have some issues that are bothering him fromm time to time I myself have mood swings wear in happy one day an the next I’m not an getting comfterable in a relationship does happend but not that fast just keep ur eye out for signs an do somme research
Genesis Batalla says:
So my bf / father of my 7 month old just doesn’t seem all the into our relationship anymore. He tells me that he just got “comfortable” arounduu try me. He even stopped wanting sex and when I bring it up he claims he is tired. I don’t know what I should do because I’m 18 and living with his parents. Help
Yashira Salcedo says:
What should I do if he treats me bad and tells me im lying when he’s the one doing it?
Visca El Visham says:
She feel disgusting while i am with her , i am getting many rumers against her but she still loves me , i dont know what to do sometimes i feel like leaving her
Shawn says:
Well I have a 15 year old daughter that just moved in with me and my 25 year old boyfriend. I’m 38 much older than he. But I watch him always looking at my daughter and laughing out loud acualk he stares sometimes. Shes a teenager and we’ll teenagers like wearing short shorts and things and I see him staring at her all the time. Then when I confront him he denies looking. Our relationship was or seemed distant before she even moved in but now more than ever. My daughter has already had intercorse with a boy her age and she seeks attention from boys on some chat apps and men too. I try to tell her that’s not OK but she won’t listen. I see almost every night my daughter comes out of her bedroom I find her on the downstairs couch apparently assleep. But I also see my boyfriend getting up in the middle of the night sometimes. I just feel like there’s is something going on with tgem. But I don’t want to accuse either one. I guess you would have to really see the actions between them is just really weird but I need help.
pzone97 says:
Yea that don’t seem right an ur her mom put ur foot down if she won’t listen take her computer or phone she needs to know ur the mom an ur bfwhen he gets up at night wait a few seconds an get up an follow him or catch a day when nobody is around for awhile an set up a phone with a good sd card turn the volume down an kind of hide it to wear u think he’s goin an let it recorde threw the night an see what’s goin on
TheHopeLine says:
Hi Shawn, Thank you for reaching out to talk about what is going on. The situation you describe sounds like it could be a disaster waiting to happen. Trust your instincts and first and foremost do what you need to do to protect your daughter. She is a minor and you are her guardian and she needs your direction to help in her life choices. Although you can not ultimately be with her every minute making sure she is not having sex with boys her age…you can make sure she is in a safe environment at home. If your instincts are telling you something is going on, take control of the situation, before things progress any further.
··||HOPE||·· says:
I dont know what to do… yes she has cheated on me with her classmate and i caught her and forgave her and recently she confessed that some guy at a party kissed her and this was in 2012 so i dont know what to do really!?
Haider Dhari says:
from man to man find another one
lisa says:
If my gf is sexually attracted to someone else should I be worried…
Haider Dhari says:
leave her homie
pzone97 says:
Well we all can honestly say to our selves the we find other women atractive but wouldn’t say to are girl friend hay that girls hot but if she’s talkin to that person a lot or hanging around that persone or talkin to a friend on there phone different that normal like sayin I love u baby to her friend ronda or something that5 that’s a red flag an just watch how she acts an talks before u confront heror try an talk to her about it an let her know it bothers u
TrustFKED says:
its driving me nuts I don’t know what to do…. she’s making my head go crazy like I can’t even sleep at night, I have this worry in the back of my head that she’s always talking to another guy I am literally going insane in my head. 🙁
precious mccardle says:
Is he cheating. On me bc he never ask me to go anywere with him.. and when he leave he will be gone for hrs and he always on his phone. But he won’t ever Tell me wat he is looking at or who he is talking too .
pzone97 says:
That does seem like a lot of red flags goin up do a little snoopin an if u can’t unlock his phone or anything catch him off guard an just ask him to let u see his phone if he refuses or gets angry an starts sayin u don’t trust me just say let me see the phone to show me I can trust u cause if there’s nothing to hide then what’s the big deal an if he won’t or gets mad then more than likley he is
Stuart Pennell says:
I treat my woman like a queen she treats me like crap, it won’t be long before I pick up an go because I can’t take it any more.
help565 says:
I do the same but when i leave her i always end up going back and she does the same thing everytime
Christian Kennedy says:
Stop going back. You`re worth more than that dude. Life is short, don`t waste it with someone who doesn`t love you.
Sean Leary says:
Sounds like the song Self Esteem by Offspring.
Suhbceyhbe says:
I feel you brother… 🙁
Benja says:
You go Bro! Cheers to all the men who do their best for all their women but they don’t see it. Women are soo many, take heart and don’t marry as easily as it feels.
Aaron Will says:
Thanks you
Aaron Will says:
I know how you feel.
My soon to be wife go back behind my back taking lots of pictures of herself and a video and send them to a guy like this past Monday the 04-24-2017 and what is so sad is that was the same day I started my new job but this is how I find out about her doing this to me I had to take her to the Er room on 04-26-2017 at 5:30pm because she wasn’t feeling good and she said that she needed a X-ray so me being a good man and I gotten her everything I take her there we got in a room she give me her phone and I was going to just play a game on her phone when I seen a app that I never seen before it was a free texting, calls, video chat app it was called Whatsapp so I got on it and seen that she was talking to a guy he asked her if she send the picture’s and the video yet and there was nothing from her so I started to look in to it and seen that the day I started my new job was the same day she download this app then I go to her email address and seen everything. She made me so sad and everything else I am 30 Year’s old and she is 21 going on 22 I loved her so much that I done everything for her I even gotten a job for her to work and she had to do this to me I been down this road before with my ex’s and my ex wife but anyways her name is Cheyenne I know I am to nice of a guy I pay for everything I never can read very well and she can’t too I know it just happened to me not too long ago this week and I am sorry for everyone seeing this very very very big book but I have a lot on my mind right now and I don’t know what to do anymore I haven’t smoked since 4-yrs ago but I started back up in the last 24-hrs and here I was hoping that everything will be OK well I guess that I was very wrong and yes she is still at my house and yes I do own everything inside and outside of the home she is a mix girl and I don’t talk much to anyone about my life or anything but right now I need to take to someone about all this I can only text because I been trying to pay all the Bill’s on my own and it’s not that easy for me so email me or send me a txt on here sorry again thanks.
Hope says:
I Hear Ya In The Same Boat But Im A Female. But My Man Stopped Working And I Have Been Paying Everything For Awhile. I just feel stupid for wasting so much time on him. Im a hard working woman and because im always exhausted he thinks he has the right to cheat it makes me so heartbroken.
Jason says:
Hi I’m a stay home dad of 7kids 8yrs-4month old OK my girl works and a good worker but my problem is that she just is to much about her job always talking her boss and she always has conversations with him and she sure can even have a conversion with me even about are kids she is to tired to here me out but can talk with this all day long and laugh and joke with him but not me wwwwhy is she cheating or just lost interest
Luisa Taylor says:
Thats messed up man. I am really sorry to hear all that…you deserve way better than that…you should tell her to find another place to live. Because if you stay with her she will most likely play you. Ill be honest ive dated a few guys that was older than me and i was around that age girls wont settle down at that age that is the truth…atleast for.most females…i remember feeling like after a year or so or just a few months id get bord with the person i was with…im pretty sure most females at that age are not ready for a relationship that could turn into marraige. Your best bet is to move on. I recomend being a promicurous till you forget about her…there are the right females out there for ya keep looking but i also recommend to be friends with a girl for atlwast 6months to a year before desiding to date because its always best to be friends first. Gd luck
Karlee says:
Yeah n i treat my man like a king but when he calls me a idiot or dumb for no reson at all i treat him as a slave it all stops till he clicks why I’m pissed at him he never apologies just starts talking nice to me again but times running out as far as I’m concerned all men are the same how do i know cause this is my ex before him was exactly the same
Mark Cowan says:
I love you. sorry MG
hannah says:
i always blame him that he is cheating bacause there is always a text or call in his cellphone and he has another phone for it.. so to prevent this i cheated on him too. What should i do? I feel like were cheating to each other.
pzone97 says:
Cheating because he did or u think he did will only make things worse but if u know he is cheating confront him or end the relationship or both but don’t stay if he is cheating or if u want to cheat I’ve been cheated on many times an it really hurts makes u feel worthless an like ur not good enough I’ve even tried to kill myself several times believe me its not worth it be honest to ur self an ur partner
marlon says:
I have my girlfriend and she lives in downtown LA and i live in a city called Alhambra and its 32 min away by freeway and my heart just tells me something is not right she always texts guys from school more than me and stays up to one with them without me knowing and when shes sick i tell her ill leave her rest and wont bother her but she texts her friends all the time and she cuts out on dates and a lot of stuff i dont know what to do what should I do
Debbie says:
I have a bipolar boyfriend who is flirting with his sister what should I think of that?
gerald says:
I’m a good and faithful man who does everything for the women who does not love me at all she has plenty of male friends but never has time for me she comes home late from work with all kinds of excuses strange calls she let her phone on vibrate all the time lately I’ve been feeling really down and she shows me no attention she is happy with the guys she works with I always do good things for her but she doesn’t do anything for me to the point I just want to walk away all the signs are their I could write more but what’s the use hurting and depress
pzone97 says:
I’m pretty much in the same way right now man an its hard to just say to ur self oh everythings ok I’m just paranoid but think hard about it an watch for any other signs an talkin to a bunch of guys or goin to hang out with them is a big red flag I hope u can find out what u need to know soon I know it drives u crazy an it makes it hard to work or do anything else but try an keep calm do a little snoopin an get the best proof u can before u confront her or try to even set her up but just be careful
noone needs to know says:
so my girlfriend and i are high school graduates and yes i know that we are still young and such but we have only been together since the end of high school. well i have been cheated on a number of times and i hate the feeling but with her i don’t know if she is cheating on me or if i am just paranoid… it will start out she wants to come over then something changes and she cant or we make plans to go somewhere and then she drops them because of work and things she has to do. well after that i have started getting some weird replies on some of my texts that i send her for example i will ask her how she is doing and she will send me something like “Im glad i have you :)” and it scares me a bit that’s why i am here can anyone help me with this or am i just paranoid i don’t understand ;-;
pzone97 says:
Ur girlfriend sound like me lol except I’m a guy an I’ve done that a lot had to change plans an things but what she is doin isn’t nothing to worry about bud I promise u if she was ud notice a big change not just in how she acts an talks but also about the things she does an the people she’s around
Tracey Smith says:
I think my girl cheating on me
pzone97 says:
I know how u feel I feel that way about my girl to but what makes u think she’s cheating
jared fields says:
can anyone help me im in a really tuff situation
pzone97 says:
What kind of help u need
Kim Sexton says:
I sort of caught my girlfriend cheating by talking to guys and them sending her their nudes. She often tells them that she’ll send nudes back but she never does. Idk what to think. I don’t wanna tell her that I know because then she’ll get pissed at me of looking though her phone. I still really love her too and I don’t want anything to go wrong. I have also notice that when she comes over to my house she wants to go places and in the morning when she leaves she is really happy that she’s leaving and I barley get a goodbye from her when she walks out the door. We used to have something special and I really want that back because I can’t imagine being without her.
pzone97 says:
Not to sound mean but if she is doing that then things are not going to work out if u are with her an she is doing that then she dosent love u believe me I went threw a very simular thing a few years back an kept stayin an wanting to be her man an make things better but it will only get worse she even had me so messed up that id go get guys for her while she slept with them in the bed id set on the couch an cry don’t let ur self be draged down like I was it will be hard but u need to confront her an if things don’t change then u need to build up the strength to end it an take time before u move on
jessica says:
hai im jessy
Christina says:
I have been with ny boyfriend for 9 months and currently 7 months pregnant. He always thinks I’m cheating on him when I am not. Hides his emails and caught him deleting multiple text in which he says were from his Mobil carrier. He won’t let me use the car anymore, makes me take the bus, and has been very angry, hurtful and distant to me. Also expecting me to care and pick up after his two children and a puppy. I cannot work because of pregnancy and he expects more than I can give. What do I do? Please help me! 😳
pzone97 says:
not to be mean but if he’s deleating emails an text like that that’s a red flag an accusing u of cheating if he dosent have any reason to accuse u of cheating then it could be to justify his on reason to be cheating an tryin to ake u do all that an maken u take a bus an fusses an u an won’t let u use the car he’s either cheating his self or has something bothering him he don’t want u to know
Samantha says:
I’m currently in a relationship with a guy who’s bi polar. We’ve been together 5 months. At first things seemed fine, but after awhile he would start constant fights and say he needed to “leave”. Because he can’t have stress. Then he wouldn’t text me or anything all night. Then the next day he’d make up some excuse and act like everythings okay again. He blames things on me, yells at me, and threw my phone across the room when all I do is check it. He plays on his for hours, but won’t let me see what he’s doing on it or touch it. He talks to a lot of girls, and cheated on my friend he dated with girls I still see him talking to! And he buys me stuff a lot. I think he’s trying to buy my affection, and is cheating. And I believe I’m pregnant. What should I do? Please help me.
Le says:
I don’t know what to do anymore with my GF been together 2 years and I’ve noticed a lot of changes in her ie her behavior , she is gone for hours at a time and not answering her phone when I call she is always tired when she gets home fights with me in front of other guys we use to have sex 3 4 times a day to once a week maybe gets up in the middle to make something to eat I NEED ADVICE PLZ
Kelley Schaeffer says:
My situation is i recently found a pair of boxers that arent mine a cigarette in the ashtray also not mine, wifes phone on silent , wife on her phone at 430am, all this in the past week we have been together 13yrs she swears up and down nothing is going on and has an excuse for all the above but my gut is telling me otherwise id hate to throw this relationship away for nothing but i just cant het anything out of her any suggestions on getting the truth
chris kennedy says:
Please i nred some help. The love of my life is trying to make me feel like im losing my mind there are several signs that lead to cheating but how can i approach her so she’ll tell me the truth.
Ra'Shiek Willington says:
I’ve been dating this female for a month now. And for like the first few weeks we were all peaches and cream. Then She started school..works with horses. Says shes busy and cant even stoo by to see me or anything. When I try and make dates..for us to spend some time together. It gets blown off. Oh Im busy or something just the other day she gonna say shes not.gonna be able to hangout or have the time til November. Really? Thats months away. Oh and the bad part is we both in town..work same place. Sge pose to be be getting. A divorce as she say..not sure what to believe anymore. An thats just the top layer. Haven’t went deep into it. But from what you read what do you think my move should be???
Robert Adamson says:
Strange scenario here; my fiancee is telling me her and 3 other girls are having a sleepover at a bed and breakfast inn. Her gf was given a nite free by the owners at her birthday party which i attended on july 1st i reside in another state and was visiting with my fiancee as we were going on a trip the following day. Now that gift was on july 1st; why is her gf waiting this long 2 use it? And on a sunday night? My fiancee calls me every night; i suspect something fishy here as if she told me this morning. i think so she would not call me tonight and telling me of the sleep over at this bed and breakfast inn; about 30 miles from where she lives; so i would not call her or she call me this evening. I found a profile of hers on Zoosk Cuba Libre with her photo her correct age but erroneous horoscope sign and her education listing was very upgraded as well as the town she resides in ; i never asked her about that either.. created a fake profile and sent her message; 2 days ago; she has not read it; or been on that site.
What other information could i give for someone to help me find the truth
when i am with her she treats me wonderful. u see her about every 4 weeks or so ands tay for a week. Thanks
William Mathers says:
I would like to know the answer to this as well. For the past 3 or 4 months, about 3 times per week, I’m having these dreams and it’s always right before I wake up.
Richard Marchais says:
She went to college and says that she is always in meetings for being a CA
Devin says:
My girlfriend is kind of shady sometimes. like she says to trust her and yells at me when i have doubts… she always “picks up people to drop them off” and then when i call and ask why its taking so long she starts making excuses. im not sure if she is cheating. and would a woman who is cheating really want to get married adn have a baby? iim just so confused i dont know what to think. someone please help…
marc says:
One night I woke up, and my GF wasn’t next to me. I called her and she told that she’s with her friend (1 AM). I waited for her, and saw that some guy drove her back to home. She told that they are just friends, and nothing happening between them. And suddenly she played “I don’t spend much time with my friends as I want to” card. to be honest, I don’t know what to do. I love her to the moon and back, but whats happening between us, is not good.
alexander delapaz says:
Well i have a 23 year old girlfriend and everythings been going good until she started to acting strange ever since i started talking to her about the way she acts its been nothing but
William Stclair says:
I know if I had a chance at true love I would cherish every moment and do my best to make them happy, I would sacrifice anything to have a true love
William Stclair says:
It seems easier for a woman to get a man, then for a man to get a new woman, the chances are better for you
JC says:
And that my friend is a reason why many good men have a tough time
Anonymous says:
I need help! My bf and I have been together for two months. We clicked right away, spent hours talking on the phone, he would work eight to ten hours every night and still stay up talking to me for hours more when he got off work. Now he sleeps 12+ hours until its time to go to work, and doesn’t talk to me hardly at all when he gets off work. I’m lucky to talk to him two hours when he gets off work. He lives an hr and a half away from me too, which really makes matters worse. He stayed a few days in a row with me last week because he said they were cutting hours at work, he was supposed to leave that Tuesday night, but I walked over to my moms a couple houses down for a little bit, and when I came home, he. wasn’t expecting me to walk up the way I did, but he was outside on the phone with someone. He didn’t hang up, but he was definitely nervous. He was definitely talking to a woman. I played it cool and went inside. He then comes in and tellls me that he is leaving then. On Monday instead of Tuesday. He said he was going to drive to work and ask if they would work even though he wasn’t scheduled to work. He needed the hours or whatever. This was already a red flag to me. We then go to the grocery store before he leaves. I am also there to pick up a few things for my sister, I realize the grocery store didnt have an item that she had asked me to get so I asked to borrow his phone to call her. He took out his phone, and he was trying to hide it, but it kinda looked as if he was deleting a call in his call log before he let me use it. HUGE RED FLAG. So then we go to head back home. He hands me his phone to look at something he thought was funny on his Facebook, all of a sudden he has an incoming call…..my heart sinks! His ex gf was calling. I handed it to him and he ignored the call…he works with her so he said she was probably getting in touch with him to discuss something work related. Still, I asked why he didn’t just simply answer the phone, and I explained that if he had nothing to hide he would have done so. He said he just didn’t feel like talking to her…He is always pretty secretive with his phone. Sleeps with it right next to him or in his pant pocket. Like I previously stated, has been working a bit more and not really making time to talk on the phone like he used to. He had a day off the other day and didn’t come over. He said it is because he didn’t have gas money but I told him I would put gas in his car if he needed me to. He said okay, but as the night went on and it got later, he said he didn’t feel very good and he ended up not coming.. I am very scared.
Michael r thomas says:
Hi I have a akward situation my gfs old mate is a compulsive liar (what my gf tells me though) my gf talks and hangs out with her friends bf anyway her old friend messaged me yesterday saying that my gf message her bf naked photos about 4 months ago iv asked my gf and she denies everything that she is saying but in the back of my mind I don’t know who to belive, my gf used to always make the first move in bed but in the last 6-7 months iv had to make the move, we used to have sex about 5-6 times a week now it’s about once a week, iv been cheated on quite a few times so it might be me being parinoid since her old friend messaged me this, she has always not liked my gf since she been hanging out with her bf, I’m very trustworthy person and I don’t accuse people of cheating just because she has a male friend, please I need some advice to what to do as this is making me feel like I’m crazy
xavi says:
So ive cheated on this girl i was dating for 11 months. It took 3 months to tell her i messed up because my conscience was eating me alive. But what drove me to cheat was because within 9 months of dating, she had tinder while we were dating and I saw one of the messages that she was gonna meet up with someone. Anyways, the revenge thing did not work out. Ever since i told her, shes always making me feel bad cause of how i cheated and reminds me of what i did. Its like putting salt on an open wound trying to heal. But the thing is, I think theyre signs that she might be cheating on me. So of course, i ask her like “hey, is there anything you want to talk about” or the famous question, “are you seeing anyone else” and of course, her response is no. She says shes never been with anyone else since she met me. Then, i get frustrated because i know she talks to dudes on the phone behind my back then deletes it. Im trying to start new and fresh but, its like shes numb. And she doesnt care if we should be together or not. Ive invested a year and 8 months into this on and off relationship and im just trying my best to make it work. What should I do.. i dont want to let her go but its driving me insane. And she knows im going crazy.. i try talking to her and all she does is smile and laugh.
mac says:
See me and my girl been going threw the same situation but we been together 6 years and after her 21fs bday she’s been acting real funny dont fuss dont argue be talks to boys and acts like is not a problem mean while if I talk to a girl she says I’m having sex or sending pics I messed up big time in the pass but her ways are very funny and I’m at the point where I don’t want to put up with it she claims to be mad at her house abs takes it out on me I really don’t trust her and its been like this for months idk if its me but there’s change she don’t even kiss or hug me like befor hit is very unusual
Jocelyn says:
Okay so I know my girlfriend is cheating on me but she doesn’t know I know…..I love her so much and I dont know what to do …..The girl she cheated on me with has a boyfriend and I just…Idk what to do
Guest cx says:
Okay, the only ones that I can relate to are that we don’t spend as much time together anymore and that he doesn’t express his feelings as much. But the time schedule is because he works. And I believe him because he sends me his schedule (Which is written out so it’s not typed) and who he’s working with that day. And the feelings is because we never have time to do it as much because I’m always busy with band (I’m in marching season currently) and he has to work so almost everyday, we only have time to talk about how our day has been and we’ll through in on how cute we looked today or how much we love each other and it’s mainly him lol you know what. He’s probably faithful and it was just my insecurities and jealousy creeping in cx
Guest cx says:
Oops, I meant *throw in
Lol not “through in”
izzy saole says:
He shouldn’t be talkin to his ex’s smh thats what u call a cheater…. Nuff’sed “If he’s trying to open a new chapter in life with you… then why is he still on the same page with his ex’s.” Think about it :/ u
You can’t move foward and focus on what’s behind you all the time. All in all do what feels right ♡ if ur boyfriend makes u wonder …. then he sure is up to something…
izzy saole says:
Js cutt her off bro…. honesty n communication plays a big part in a relationship. If she can give them to you then shine yo shoes and kick her to the curve bruhh
izzy saole says:
Shine yo shoes bro …
Alexis Kruger says:
I have a girlfriend but I’ve done everything in that list with a very recent friend whom I’ve come to care a lot for because of how she was with me (very loyal and caring). I was very straightforward with the friendship to my girlfriend until she accused me of cheating even though it was just a friendship to me. From that point forward I wanted to keep both my friend and my girlfriend, but now she has put me into the place where I have to choose between my friend or her (even though I have never cheated on her). That will be the only way for her to be at ease. I don’t know what to do… I don’t know if I should give up a really good friendship over a percerption. HELP. I have never cheated but with the purpose of keeping both of them I have lied to both of them. I can’t keep doing this, it’s eating me inside… And my own nature is to be truthful, not being me anymore is killing me.
Stacy says:
Me and my guy has been together for almost three years now and the signs of your bf/gf is cheating above are how he’s been acting. So I don’t know if it’s me or if he’s really cheating, but I feel in my heart he is. I don’t know what to do. I love him unconditionally and I’d loose it if I lost him. Any thoughts can it be fixed if he is?
Aaron Tang says:
It’s authentic and incredible. I found my gf cheated on me by her text message. At first, I found during that time she looked especially panicked when the phone message rings, and she set a complicated password for her iPhone which is a secret to me. Once she told me her password but when I read her meeage, I found the “important message” has gone! I cared her so much and I could’t leave her. So I searched a software by google which named iMyfone Data Recovery for iPhone, it can retrieve lost message easily. Unfortunately, the result that I didn’t want to see made me sad for a long time. But I forgave her later, because everyone will make mistake inevitably, the most important thing is that she love me. That is enough.
alize schopp says:
so my bf has been what it seems like avoiding me he lied to me today about going to soccer practice see then i called his friend and he said no we gonna hang with each other now later on i found out my best friend and him have been seeing each other behind my back but they swear they haven’t done anything but they ditch me and make up excuses to hang with each other this guy is amazing and sweet but i don’t
really think the disrespect lately is worth it. what should i do?
alize schopp says:
should i leave if he hangs with girls behind my back (my best friend)
Aneth says:
My first love is cheating on me….I caught him several times through texts but he always get mad at me when I try to talk about the girls he is cheating with..what pains more is that he is always busy to me..but free in social networks…he has cheated not only with the girls I don’t know but also even with my friends…..what should I do…if I decide to leave me…he cries and threatening to kill himself..please help me with the advice..
bob says:
I think my gf is cheating on me we have been together for 6 years now we never see each other as I work nights and she works mornings and afternoons and on my days of she is always baby sitting for someone we have not had sex in 6 months she says it hurts and every time I even go to do something sex related she would have a go at me and make me feel like * for even trying I don’t know what to do
Kaye says:
Yes, leave him and ditch your friend. Neither of them respect you. Also, lying will lead to more lying.
alize schopp says:
whta am i suppose to do or say when he treats me well but hes never there for me but im suppose to be fine with whatever he does but he freaks on me when i hang out with friends he just says hes jealous or overprotective
Pari says:
Hiya all,
I have been talking to this guy for 2 years now. We were talking on a social networking site, but I gave him my fake name for security purposes and thinking to myself I am not going to be meeting up this guy for real. So, he basically knows me by my fake name, WHICH IS REALLY BAD AND SAD (sign)……
So, after talking over the phone and messaging each other for a year, I told him I liked him more than a friend. We would argue and get along too..hes a really good guy hes honest has not lied to me about anything …..which is really good….
We met this year April 2015 …..he would …….pressurise me in meeting him…he would say hes going abroad to marry his cousin and we need to meet up etc……the amount of times hes said this …..uffff…!!!! tooo many times before in 2014…..
So, after we met and everything we were good….got a long……he lives like 1 hr and 20 mins away from me …soo we met half way in another city ….he works…..he has told me he talks to girl mates but does not look at them the way he does at me …..hes a sort of person who rushes into things and does not have any patience …..
In 2014… a lot had happened ………we kept on arguing with each other ….he would keep on saying that he is not good enough for me ….i should find someone else etc …..he kept saying this for like nearly 3-4 weeks ….this actually got me agitated …….but i kept quite and not say anything …i did say why u keep saying this ,,,he goes just …..so anyways …i created a fake profile on a social media website ……so he added this fake profile and started talking …he knew i was doing this ….but the whole point was to divert his mind somewhere else …..i was just sick and tired of arguing about the same things …..i thought if i do this this will make him hate me and wont talk to me… in dec 2014 matters got worse ….we were literally arguing he started to drink alcohol ……i did feel bad …like really bad …..but i just could not take it anymore…….so i was going on holiday on 1st jan 2015 ….i promised myself that i would forget about him …..and i did ……i told my aunt this …she goes you try and work things out with him …..so…i gave it another thought ….and i messaged him …….i asked him do u still have feelings for me ….he said yeah of course i do ……so …..a month or two went past us arguing again and talking again …how typical …..so …..we got real close …no arguments just having lovely conversations ….so …in march he would say im getting married soon …i was like …o no not this again …he goes if i dont meet him he soon and make things fast he would marry someone else ……i would be like why is he being like this …..so ….we talked and arranged to meet ..thank God he didnt argue after that …..so May went and June came ……..
Something bad happen in June …….i had family probz , i started a new job as i promised that i would meet him …..he was talking to my best mate ….uffff !! i can still remember …..so …..as i was so engrossed with my new job ,,,,,i was getting agitated with my family probz and him talking to my mate …there was me thinking how to save up and go and see him and he was laughing away with my best mate ………sooooo…..i sad pretty bad things to him which i should not have done ……….omg !!!!!! ….i argued with my best mate and him …….me and him …we argued all the way through June, July, August, September ………during these months he was saying he was going abroad to get married to his cousin …….an then in August he was saying the was getting married to his cousin from his city ……….sooooo…….during september time he was messaging and then blocking me on whatts app …….he messaged him near end of septmeber that he was getting married …. i did not response to the text ……after 2 weeks in nov ….he messaged me many times and called me many times too ……he wanted me back ……..i was thinking to myself …..hes upto something again …….but we talked ….and he said if he had not had any slight feelings would he text me …….i said to him to talk to his parents about us …he said he will do in good time……
those summer months ……i cried and pleaded to him to give me another chance ……i really thought i was going to lose a really good guy …….
we have not spoken much since we last spoke or texted each other ….he said to me just trust him …he is not one of those dodgy guys ……….but we have not spoken for 3 weeks now …….im busy with my assignments and i think he has changed his job again ……so ….i dont really know his working hours ……..
should i worry about this ? And when shall i tell him “my real name” i actually feel really bad but i didnt know i was going to meet him and have any kinds of feelings for him ………
baines_harry says:
One of the biggest red flags is if he/she is in regular contact with an ex. (Even if it is just text messages) You have every right to be angry if this is the case. Another red flag is if he/she is more distant than usual and it’s always an effort to do things together. Of course these are just the usual signs and not definitive proof.
If you do find out your partner is cheating, end the relationship and never look back. It will be extremely difficult but I firmly believe once a cheat, always a cheat. If they REALLY loved you, then they would never even think about cheating. That is all.
James says:
Is it weird that she wont let me read her texts? What does she have to hide?
gothbiy says:
My girlfriend gets on her phone every 20min and doesn’t pay attention to me she won’t tell me anything. She mumbles I love you but that’s it she also is backing different, she usually doesn’t pay attention on how she looks but now she does I’d think she’s cheating but idk anymore.
Jessica says:
I want to apologize in advance for whoever takes the time to read this long mess…I’m not sure if this section is for commenting to previous conversations or to ask advice on your own so I’m just going to express how I feel and maybe someone on here can help me. I think I’m just paranoid and jealous from what had happened kinda in the beginning of our relationship… uhm we had seperate phones, jobs, friends, and had been together for a year and some odd months before we had our first real relationship problem… I caught him texting and picture messaging another girl. And I honestly never exactly caught him through the phone, the messages were hidden in a secret box he had downloaded on his phone but I know there was something in it cause when I asked him to open it he (being taller than me) held it in the air where I couldnt reach it and deleted anything before I could actually see it but had later told on himself while we were arguing! And one day we had another argument just simply about who the girl was he was talking to and why he wouldnt just tell me the truth and he broke up with me and she picked him up from work and of course I don’t know what happened after that but the two of us were staying with his grandparents at the time cause we had been evicted from our apartment so by his grandparents word I wasnt aloud back until we resolved it between ourselves so I moved back in with my momma and daddy. I reacted to this girl picking him up from work by going on a date with a guy from my work and tried to just forget about my boyfriend and move on cause I couldn’t beleive he had done that. Well a year and half later here we are and he’s just been acting funny again and I dont know if its because he just started a new job and is trying to get on this new schedule or because theres another woman in the picture. Don’t judge us when I say these things I just need to mention ever detail so I ensure I get your best advice! Im pretty damaged from what happened even though it was so long ago but we’ve moved forward and told each other we’d never bring it up again. Finally back in our own place again and we only have one car and one phone that we share, after the incident we had agreed we’d share a phone until we were ready for each other to get our own again, and I take him to work every morning, come see him at lunch everyday and pick him up from work and we head home together every afternoon. And he hardly ever goes out without me anymore unless he’s going to play basketball with his friends and he still asks me everytime if i want to go with them to watch, So my question to whoever is, can I finally trust my boyfriend again? Yeah he’s a little distant when he’s playing video games and I do have to repeat myself more than I would like when we talk sometimes, but does he really have time to cheat? We pretty much spend every minute he’s not at work together but I still fear cheating even after a year and a half. I really don’t have many girlfriends to talk to because after high school they kinda got a little wild and too crazy for me so I really need advice from whoever can talk me through this. I feel like im so paranoid and wasting our life together worrying but I dont think my heart can take what it’s already gone through again. Please any advice is helpful and I just need to know if I should relax or continue to keep my gaurd up. I dont want to push him away but sometimes when I began to think about it, maybe smothering and pushing him away would be less painful then catching him talking to another girl again. And I dont know if I clarified this somewhere up there but he claimed all they did was hug when she “dropped him off” a year and a half ago but I never believed that for one second. But I left it at that just because I don’t think I couldv’e handled the truth if what he told me wasnt. Like I said we share a car, a phone, our apartment is in both of our names, and hes very affectionate but has been acting a little distant. Is he just tired of being smothered or is this nightmare repeating itself??? Please HELP! Thanks so much ladies and men.
yehya says:
I have met a girl in high school and she was depressed.engaged to someone she hates because she used to love someone but her family rejected him.and i was her only friend in school.i have trusted her like myself and more and she felt that there is someone here who cares for her a lot.after like 1 and 1/2 month of friendship she suddenly goes distant and without me knowing the reason she started talking to other guys and spending time with them and ignoring me.we were becoming best friends.that hurted me really and from time to time she stares at me and turns around but at first she was caring a lot.what do you think the hell happened?weird!
naomi says:
so my boyfriends family member commit suicide a few weeks ago an everything went down hill he stooped talking to me almost completely but still told me he wanted to be with me an i got worried so one night i showed up at his place an he was high out his mind an wouldn’t let me into his place then i heard girls voices i said oh you have girls hear he said ya my room-mate brought them over well he went out to get something he told me this girl carly was there my heart smashed this girl try to get with evey guy ive dated this year one guy actually cheated with one of my ex i told him alight have fun ill talk to him later then left went home we talked he promised me nothing happens so i trusted it few days after i go on social media sites an start digging she made post that day about dating someone then on the day she was at his house so i went on her instagram it said happily taken buy nathan witch is my boyfriend i sent him a picture of it an we fought it out almost broke up about it i went looked again a few mins after i talked to him an it was off her page he tried telling me she did that just to make me mad then we were getting coffee a few days after an she was there we tried to avoid her but she came up to us an ask my boyfriend to speck to him alone i said nope then pulled him away with me i dont
know what to do
Michael Dousa says:
Okay well everyone is talking about the guys always cheating and I will be the first to tell you it ain’t always the guys girls do it too. I do have a situation going on right now though I have been with my girlfriend for going on two years now but have been cheated on in every relationship by actually catching them cheating on me but every girl says the same thing they won’t do that to me blah blah blah well I would really like to know if a girl introduces you too a guy she works with and you notice him looking at her in ways he shouldn’t be and she wants to know your opinion about him and as soon as you start saying what you didn’t like she immediately starts defending him then they are always together by themselves at their work and she starts getting distant and was for a little over a two weeks then she goes back to her normal self but yet you still see her with the guy all the time and today I caught her in a lie and shes at work so I haven’t talked to her about it yet but I would like to know if my gut feeling that she is cheating on me is just in my head because I have been cheated on so many times or if she really is cheating on me
MultiBillionHeir . says:
Yes, more than likely she is. You already know she is but you’re just in denial right now.
Gettingtherewithhelp says:
She seems to talk with this one guy more than me. He’s very offensive towards me too. They Skype a lot and he’s bigger and older than me. She’s telling me I don’t act like I used to. She actually had text sex with another woman but she was ready to tell me and she felt really bad about it so the relationship didn’t end there. I’m going to visit her soon. I’m really worried. She tells me that she loves me everyday and I tell her too. I’ve been really focused in school and haven’t had much time to talk and be with her recently. I do love her though. We’ve been together two years.
lozza says:
My fella and I have had an argument about a few weeks ago he was causing me of cheating on him with a really good male mate of mine and now he is saying that he can’t trust me but yet he is the one who has put a locked password on his text messages and his Facebook messages so I can’t read them an he is starting to get a bit close to this woman who is 10 years older than him and is starting to look after his appearance an style of clothing a lot more than usual don’t know what to do without causing an argument or loosing him can anyone help??
Jonathan Strickland says:
when I ask my gf if my brothers cute she says no he’s ugly as hell but every time there around each other they talk but I tell her not to and when I ask her if he’s cute she gets mad at me I don’t know what to think
Lee says:
So my bf’s friends girlfriend told me last night my bf cheated on me with the bartender at the bar he didn’t come home till after bars close that night (we had been fighting and He wasn’t answering his phone) next day I saw a message on his phone from a girl and it said lol and nothing else. So I knew fishy things went down.why delete your message? So I confronted him last night and he said she is jelouse of me and is just trying to break us up. I don’t even know why I’m telling you this just reading it over is the writing on the wall.
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Jessica says:
So, I found my boyfriends profile back up on the website we met and he moved back in July up north and on his profile he said “I’ve been in NY for 5 months now.” I even asked him and he said that someone got his information but how is that possible, when everything on the profile was correct about him. And, you have to pay to use the website and he said when he called his bank for his credit card that there was $160 was charged. And, the website price is $80 per/mnth. We’ve been together for a year and 4 months now. I took screen shoots of the profile and showed them to him when he came into town to visit me. And, his face said it all. Help.
Matt says:
I’ve been with my wife for 17yrs. Back in 2009 she had a job working with a co-worker whom she talked about constantly. Come to find out, which she already knew was sleeping with every female he came into contact with. When she got pregnant they played around secretly about our child being his. In 2015 a snow storm came where my wife had to get a hotel alone in order to make it to work, after returning home for the first week she would take 3-4 showers a day. Shortly afterwards a sex video came out on fb which was uploaded around the time she was in the hotel. The video was posted by one of the guys friends and was secretly recorded though i couldnt see the womans face after 17yrs i know what my wife sounds like, not to mention my wife contracted an STD which she tried to blame me for.Outta anger i kinda hinted hust to see what kinda reaction i would get out of this guy and he’s pretty much played into it exactly like i knew ge would. My wife denies cheating so i just wanna second opinion as to what im feeling. Does this sound like shes cheated to anyone else?
Pleasehelp says:
My boyfriend has dumped me twice in the past couple of months because of this girl that he likes but like the idiot I am I took him back because I love him. But now is friends are telling me that he has her name saved under something else on his phone and that they keep planning on hanging out together alone. Now I’ve spoken to him about this and he swears it isn’t true. And today he told me he doesn’t want to come round because he doesn’t feel well and I believed him but because I was worried about what his friends said I asked his mum if he was ok because he told me he was ‘ill’ but his mum told me that he hasn’t been home all day and stayed round his mates house last night and was drinking, so I thought alright I’ll let it slide as long as she wansnt there. But I then, not long ago, got a message from his mate telling me that he actually stayed at her house last night, was drinking and tried it on with her. Now I don’t want to believe that’s true and I’ve asked him about it but he’s at work so he can’t reply so I was just wondering what to do.
Daisy says:
If he dumped you twice for another girl, clearly he does not realize what he has. He’s not committing himself to you like he should be. You definitely deserve better my dear.
José Alvarez says:
I have 25 and i have been dating the love of my life by 3 years, the form we came across was really great, we get along fine we have nice dates and spend a lot of time together, tough we are not perfect i have had troubles of course but we allways overcome it together as a couple. Whe are having a kind of long distance relation ship, and are separeted by 3 weeks and one week together, then when i have vacations we spend an incredible whole month together all the time. Our sex life is relly great, it just seemed to me that nothing will ever give us the hard trouble to split us, or so i thought cause we allways talk it through and move on. But a week ago i just received in fb some snap shoots from some unknown fb profile about my love talking dirty things with a guy frome her college, received 9 snap shot with info about her, those where, apparently, taken by someone who hacked or had access to her account and sent it to me. It jus crushed me and toke me to ashes, first i thought was some dude or girl who realle hates her guts and is trying to hurt her. Then i thought why somene would do something like that, too much effort just to tell me, and since then i have been something like a detecvtive, trying to find something that invalid that info, something that would make it seem false or modified. I sow a lot of flirting and some nick name i used to say to her, info about her inviting this guy to help her with her house cuange, which it happend cause i spend multiple days helping her with that, found also ugly things in the conversation, i could not beleive that, i was on shocked, cause we are in a long distance relationship and without trust we are doomed and i dont want to leave her she means everything to me. Anyways, i confront her and sendd her the info i got and she completely denied the veracity of and unknown people, i did some digging loking into that dude and all of a sudden clues appeard, it really hurt me. I know her tastes in music and some day she made me listening to some group different from her tastes, extrange in her cause she diden like that genre, i found that way had the video of that song posted on his fb. I also found that guy posted a phrase of a song and my girlfriend dedicated me phrase from that song conteined just two lines below the guy´s, which made me thing what are the odds of that to happen when there are millions of songs and inside the song many lines, why he posted that line and why she posted the other one on her whats sap status and dedicated me, it just same so odd!!!, i began to see many thing which my heart didnt want to realize. She said she has never talked to him like cero!! which makes me wonder if she is lying, i sow in fb she went to some college trip and that dude was on the picture jus thow rows from her, so i dont think she has never talked to him not even once like she tried to make me beleive. I dont think she is capable of shuch thing cause she loves me but she had been unavailable for long period of times during day and told me was because her battery ran out, and it happend to her alot!, i dont know what to thing, she blocked that guy from her fb and she does not sing in in fb since then. It just all separetely, the evidence i found, seems nothing, but together it seems something else. i tried to forgive her but the pain comes in and we end up fighting, me starting and she denying and telling me to trust her which i really do but all those things made me think what i really was cheated big time. i love her and i do not want to trash our whole love history, aour gols our dreams of traveling around the world or those of moving in together and having a family growing old, we some times talked that, though now i realized was just me and she playing along, i dont know what to do, we currently cant move closer because colleges and i cannot share and met those dreams to the girl of that messages i really cannot although i told her that i would forgive her being that true or not, which she keeps denying it. why someone would do those things, emailing me those snapshoots, and the idea of that being the ooposate of fake is haunting me. And she tells me she doesnt want to break up, she cryed and wonder why someone would that to us, when i asked her about the ocntent and veracity of the snapshoot she said she didnt write that down, that she has never never not a single once has talked with that guy, so she implyied the content whas fabricated, which i wouldnt see the point, the required effort to tear us apart, and that goal is currently being accomplished, due that the wonder makes me doubt her and i stop being lovely to her and start telling her the new evidence i found which make the pictures true, i am just lucking for clues to disprove that snapshoots and wind up findind the opposite. i dont know what to do cause i think i will never know the trut cause she would never come clean beacuse she loves me and wont jepardize what we have, and by other hand if she did that why would i keep the long distance relationship going which for lack of money from her part, which is tru, i am the one who for tree years has going to and fro to see her, she just really few times. now i am worn out with the doubts and wonder about what if she did that, what if she is telling the truth, what if she reallly loves me but had a slip with that stupid, to whom i confront him in fb to tell me what happend, he ignored me, then i got mad and insulted him and threatened him that i would find him, and you now, pure anger talking. it is more odd why he left me in seen(im mexican do not know how to say when those marks appear in fb when spotted), if he was blamed for somthing false he shouldhave said to me it wasnt true or something alike, but he didnt care. i dont see some one making fake accounts and then inventing false conversations with info about my girl, besides the ocnversation seems flowing, i mean it does not appear to be invented or lame, it seems authentic. what to do?
Stevie says:
True love does exist. Some may not believe it. But the reason for that is because you stick to someone who either you don’t truly love or someone who you truly love. But they don’t love you back. True love exists. Always has. You just gotta get out there and never give up hope.
disqus_mnOE7x3P89 says:
What happens if you lied about something in the past to him but you didn’t cheat you just didn’t want to hurt him and he said he’ll move on from his hurt feelings but he says he has no trust in you and you think you can fix it with time but you guys been getting distant and don’t text that often like back then could he be cheating should you end it or talk it out what would you say
Arkansas says:
So my girlfriend of 4 years, but we have broken up once for eight months and she dated 3 different guys, well she Direct messaged one of her exam happy birthday and I wasn’t mad about it. What really got me is that she was snap chatting him with a nick name “jay” and lied straight to my face and said “it was a one of her friends”. I know I ain’t stupid because later that month going to a family reunion with her I say “jay” biemoji and it was a guy and I said “I thought jay was a girl?” She said “she is” but I confronted he and said girls don’t have guys bi emojis on snap chat and she came clean about it and said it was her EX boyfriend and she didn’t like him that way. I ask what did y’all talk about and she said “just talk bout random stuff” I was pissed off but I love her and I let her get away with it but I still haven’t forgave her but a couple months after that she text him wanting to sell something to his dad but he didnt want to buy anything. Well that I wanst mad about it was texting for a week and me having to find out the hard way, which makes me feel bad, and she said she was sorry and won’t happen again. I don’t want to loose her. I spent all my highschool dating her and half my college life with her and I want to marry her. I can’t trust her much anymore. When she is on her phone she will sit where I can’t see it and when she text someone she won’t do it around me? I can be paranoid but I have reason to be. We barley talk during the day or in the evening. It’s it just my head playing tricks on me? Or is she cheating on me?
Jerry Krohn says:
Interesting read thanks for sharing. It seems that the top indicator when reading a lot of these blogs is when they completely change their schedule.
Matt Kaymen says:
All of these signs seem quite accurate. Thanks for sharing.
Lord Rixuel says:
if a person cheat on me, she is no longer my ex, but a total stranger in my eyes. no mercy for cheaters
ayezz says:
Hey I’m a 17 year old girl , I’ve been with this 25 year old for 2 years now everything was perfect at the beginning when he was living with his father then when he moved out with his brother & sister everything changed he tuned on me , dosent show me love like before honestly I do not ask for anything I said to him when I fist met him I don’t want anything for you but for you to love & cherish me I told him live in a carbord box I’ll still love you & be by your side , I do everything from cleaning to what ever his family say I even do no questions asked , but he dosent even give me just 5 minutes of his time just to ask me how was my day or even when I talk to him it’s like I’m invisible like okay sometimes we talk don’t get me wrong but it’s not like before like i found out his messaged a few girls but he said he deleted Facebook now but I just don’t know anymore the time I feel love is only when we are in bed together I think I’m so attached to him because my family isn’t stable like i don’t get along with them & he took my virginty I’m so lost like I really don’t know what to do anymore I just want to die I know who ever reads this might think it’s stupid but it’s so hard to put how I’m feeling into writing …
Run says:
You need to dump that dude. 25 years old living with parents, along with everything else he has done, spells loser. It appears that you are just being USED!
Run says:
Your lying caused the relationship to go awry. Have you worked hard to fix things, instead of just expecting him to get over your lie(s)?
Jaz says:
I’m worried my boyfriend may be cheating on me he’s accused me of cheating on him with my ex then he thought something was going on between me and his best mate, he takes ages to reply and he says he’s playing on his xbox or helping with his family (may be true as he does live with his family.) They is no change in appearance and I’m allowed to use his phone but they is nothing to say he could of deleted my messages and now it’s starting to effect my dreams is this me just being paranoid or shall I speak to him about it??
Gerald says:
I feel the same as Stewart no matter what I do it’s not right I’m always in the wrong I always have to apologize for something and even when she breaks it off I always feel as if I have to mend it
Luis says:
Hey umm I’m a 15 year old boy I need tips or help i have a girlfriend and she has Instagram like she flopped a lot of people and idk what to do and she does a lot things behind my back and everyday I get this weird feeling she’s cheating on me what should I do?
MultiBillionHeir . says:
Dude you’re only 15. Don’t take relationships too seriously at such a young age. Girls will come and go just enjoy your youth. Another girl is right around the corner.
Jill says:
My bf stop having sex with me should a end it we have been together for 6 months
Sophi says:
Just recently my fiance took a trip we are expecting I gained weight and feel super sensitive,the whole trip he was awful to me on the phone,I could bare our conversation cause he called me names and was insecure to talk to me in front of his co workers it made me feel unbearable,and insecure of our relationship.. this advice help alot cause he has never talk down to me and honestly their was a two hour delay he message me and lied telling me he was going to eat breakfast ignored me 2 hrs and said he had class that is why he didn’t call on his 15 then told me he was hungry later that evening he never ate breakfast cause he was on the phone with me.I feel he is leaning in to me being a issue,even tho I sent him money to eat in his trip. I feel something more happen,including if he was hiding their were women coworkers I mean ..I don’t understand why lie, we work with other sexes all the time..I am bought to pack up and out he kinda grosses me out now.I could bring this to his attention but he will batter me with name calling and I rather just leave.
Jacky says:
My best friend turned gf had been cheating on me since an year.The gut feeling was so intense but she refused each time.lately she confessed she was seeing this guy and had a lot of time together while i was still near them.quiet a shock as i never could makeout the difference. have really lost all trust on girls and now she is tryng to patchup the relation due to her guilt before she marries him.
Rose says:
I have a boyfriend been with him about a year now. We are in serious relationship and until two days ago I found he is chatting with one Philippine lady. He is talking that lady that she is looking for a Philippine lady for a serious relationship and he is ready to meet her. I become crazy and don’t know what to do. I asked him few time if he is looking for another lady and he is denying and he doesn’t know that I know about the story what he did behind me. Now I still confused weather to continue with him or walk away.
Rocky Belyeu says:
I’m so scared all the time I’m getting cheated on from what’s been happening to me in the past and I can’t shake the feeling
Dylan says:
My s/o has 6 of these traits and some are pretty bad, she cheated on me once but claims she was black out drunk, should I believe her?
precious says:
I luv ma bae so much despite d far distance hv never cheated..buh I once cought her cheatn nd she pleaded where by I forgive her.. now another cheated nd I so much luv her nd she swear wit her life nd her daughter life never to cheat anymore what should I do
Jason Ortiz says:
ok so look im a stay at home dad of 6 kids my wife doest trust no one watching are kids okay so anyway she Is so insisting making sure she looks good before work she take a shower after work then another before and there longer then thy used to be she lso is always talking about her boss and he knows alot people and so forth and she totally is always laughing joking at work with him having small talk alot more then me she lways talk crap to me puts me down she comes home that happy person is gone and i sick of this stuff she claims she always tired not into sex just herself or work what do i do
Kyle says:
She was doing EVERY SINGLE THING mentioned 😅😅
Rob says:
Before my girlfriend met me she slept around.. ALOT. I fell madly deeply in love with her when probably I shouldn’t have. We celebrated her 21st birthday at a nightclub and she gets a lot of attention from lads and clearly loves it. That birthday was ruined by me for her flirting with some punk who was brushing her hair with his fingers with me all of 10 yards away on the dance floor. Now she’s away celebrating her 22nd birthday tonight, and hasn’t messaged me in 2 days. Regardless to me texting wishing her a fantastic night out tonight. And when the clock hit midnight sent her a happy birthday message. She’s been online on both Facebook and whatsapp yet ignores me, what is going on with this girls head? Any thoughts are greatly appreciated, thank you
Renee says:
What does it mean when my bestfriends boyfriend keeps going outside to check his phone??? Don’t you think if it was his friends he check his phone inside.
Renee says:
Need advice what does it mean when my best friends boyfriend keeps going outside by his car and checking his phone while my best friend is inside. Don’t you think if it was his friends he would check his phone inside. I just find it suspicious. What do you guys think.
Marcos Sanchez says:
My girlfriend got the bad habit of smoking marijuana well the thing is she was hanging with a not so good friend the friend accused her of trying to flirt with her boyfriend then she comes to tell me that my girlfriend/fiancé has cheated.
Question: What are the chances it is not true what are the chances it is true
TruthBearer says:
You need more information
Jennifer says:
My husband was in our garage with our neighbor, I walked up and hard part of their conversation,my husband said “I know she’s going to find out, and when she does I’ll be ready ” he didn’t know I was standing there.I confronted him, and he said he was trying to get a rise out of me.I can’t get it off my mind.Need some advice.
Francis Deangelo says:
Everyone cheats on everyone. Let’s just call it what it is. Monogamy is fiction.
TruthBearer says:
She’s cheating dude
Truth Bearer says:
You need to tell him exactly how you feel about him playing you like a fool and never ever let him continue to.play you again. No sex. No hugs. Nothing. Do not disrespect yourself any further.
TruthBearer says:
Of course it’s suspicious. Nobody hides something legitimate
Everett Anderson says:
I try to do so many things right… and she just wants to hang out with soo many other guys… what do I do?
Everett Anderson says:
i have been cheated on because all of my girlfriends have loved other guys and they just want to be with someone else… do i end my life or try to keep going on?
April Bancroft-Gunther says:
I feel like I’m going crazy. Is it my own insecurities or is my husband cheating on me. Every time he has a text on his phone,. I think it is from another girl and I think why am I not good enough. I really feel like I’m losing it. I’m don’t feel like I can confront him, because if I’m wrong then I continue to destroy our trust and marriage, however if he is cheating on me then there is no trust. I’m so lost, so embarrassed and no one to trust to talk to you.
Pushover says:
I found out my husband of 14 years has been having an affair for the last year. I’m so devasted. He says he loves me but he also cares for this other person. He doesn’t want to give her up. But he says he still wants me. He wants it both ways.
Chris says:
I have been with my girlfriend for going on almost 10 months. She has a sort of thing where she had a family member refere her to a guy who is supposed to help get some family assets in the country, (it’s a substantial amount of money). Here’s what I do not understand though, she never gained a lawyer, or consulted a banker. So the guy she has been put into contact with has fallen in love with her. She tells me he’s a creeper and wished she never had him “help” her. I have suggested that she let me put her in touch with a trusted attorney and banker. She insists that she is fine without that, and she’s fine without the help. So as she tells me things about this guy, I see texts come in while we’re together, things like “I love you “,” I miss talking with you” , ” xoxoxo” unfortunately for me I seen a reply, reciprocating something similar to him, but insisted that she has to say things like that so she doesn’t lose her “inherited assets “. I can’t believe I’m even going to a chat room for thoughts. Also to put the icing on the cake, he sought me out on social media, asking me to contact him,because he’s in a relationship with her as well, and does not like being lied too. Her and I live together, I support her and three of her kids. Now it doesn’t seem there’s time to be unfaithful, but it doesn’t take long to meet with someone either. I appreciate your thoughts on this matter ,and opinions nevertheless.
Stranger says:
I just lost a girlfriend of six years, because many of the above signs were happening… Distance, Less feelings, Less Sex, Dramatic change in music taste and physical appearance. Then it all culminated in a night where she went out partying and stayed at a friends house overnight (who i dont know). In our relationship it wasn’t normal for us to sleep out after parties. We both agreed it is strange and uncomfortable and we have missed many parties because we did not have a way to get home after the party and thats not how we roll… Anyway, the day before she left I asked her not to stay the night because it would make me feel uncomfortable and she laughed at me.
In my heart I know she cheated on me. But she will never admit it. Now we are over, and she has painted a pretty little picture that makes out its my insecurity and jealousy… with no fault on her part at all.
I don’t know why i’m posting it here. But i’ve been made to feel wrong for my feelings. And I want to die hahah.
To top it all off, me and her were having sex for months while she was dating her ex… That should hvae been the biggest warning sign for me.
Valerie says:
I. Think my. Bf is being. Unfaithful.
carisma2006 says:
Why do you feel he’s being unfaithful? I have a story to tell myself. I posted it up above if you feel like reading. But I feel like he’s been cheating on me with his ex and I just don’t know what to believe right now.
Thomas says:
I’m married one year , My husband has changed so much, like every couple we fight ,their was this one time we had a fight he went out got drunk and took drugs and kissed someone else as he says I forgave him, but recently I’ve been noticing things like his friends handing him things on the sly and he’d go the bathroom i have said it to him but he just starts saying I’m crazy and stop ruining his night, then last night I woke up I seen him delete things from his phone I asked him what he was hiding and he acted stupid . I know I’m not going crazy and I’m not seeing things .
Diana says:
My boyfriend and I have been in a relationship for five years I am his first gf and we’ve always a had long distance relationship. in the beginning everything was perfect he would always do special things for our year anniversary he would tell me how he felt towards me deviate me songs and poems he would always be attentive but this last two years he has changed he just doesn’t seem to care about how often he sees me and if they are days we can’t see each other he doesn’t seem to mind it.whenever we go out he is not really affectionate nor does he ever seem to want to make out anymore. And I have questioned him why he isn’t the same why does he barely show affection anymore and he just states that it’s all in my head. We’ve had some pretty huge arguments and we do argue often. Idk if that has changed his way of being with? Or maybe due to the fact that I gained weight? But I ask home if he is still attracted to me if he still loves me and if there is someone else. And he always says he loves me the same and that there is none . But I still can’t help feeling that maybe he doesn’t love me anymore or that he’s cheating.
Jonathan Mejia says:
Ok I’ve been with my woman for 1yr and 7 months 27 days. Ok l o ng story short she’s working out of country in orenburg Russia for the debt that she has 8 years ago. Now ive sent a couple transactions to her and everytime i’ve its a different girl and her photos show a different woman that shes with that i noticed. She says that’s her girlfriends. She wants a future with me have kids and marriage. Ok last time ive seen her email was on November 15th and she said that she’ll write to me once shell get back from her hometown. December 21 after i wrote to her idk. What do you think about this. She mentioned long hours what she doing and how much She’s earning. The embassy of Kazakhstan wont let her leave until she pays that debt. What fo you women think?
Jeremy says:
I’m um gay, and my boyfriend has been growing more distant and hanging around his ex a lot… but his ex is one of my best friends, and I know Vincent(his ex) has a boyfriend. His boyfriend Scott, who happens to be my bestest friend ever, has voiced his concerns with Vincent possibly cheating on him. Is it possible our boyfriends are cheating with each other? There has also been an extreme decrease in the amount my boyfriend tells me he loves me…. Someone please help!
carisma2006 says:
I am really starting to believe my man who I’ve been living with for 4 months and been with for 9months isn’t over his ex and may have been cheating on me with her throughout the entire time of us being together. There was major drama that went down on New Years , unexpected drama. One of my friends is friends with my mans ex. They talked and apparently my friend ( whos name is Mike) told me he had some things that he felt I needed to know. He told me he was still involved with his ex ( Sara). My bf told me that it was all lies and that he stopped seeing her in May2016..but we made things official in April of 2016. That’s all that he admitted to. So I told Mike that if she didn’t have concrete proof that I am going to stay with my man and continue on with our relationship because I thought it was solid. Well…. she contacts me on FB to let me know of the concrete proof… at that point, me and my man were kind of over. She told me these times where they were out together and hooked up over at her apartment. She said they’d go out on their lunch breaks to hook up or just have lunch. She said that he bought her a couch and a table My man denies it and says they’ve only been friendly and they’d just talk about things going on in their lives so of course she knows about events that went on in his life. He feels that shes just mad because he chose me over her. She told me that he took her to his friends/Coworkers birthday party. She also said that there were times he’d go through her phone. All of these things had me wondering if all this were true. I don’t know how I feel about things as he hardly ever talks about her. So I’m staying for reason I don’t want to get into. Hopefully things work out, if not I have A LOT of pieces to pick up. Does anyone feel like I should be worried? Is he still in love with his ex? Should I believe him? I told her in one of her messages to me that if he ever contacts her to let me know by screenshots because it’ll have his phone number date and time of contact. Was that smart of me to request that? I gave her my number to contact me. Do you all feel that he will try and reach out to her or will he leave her alone and respect our relationship? Again he’s denied everything.
carisma2006 says:
I know this is from 3 months ago and not sure where you all are at in the relationship but my thoughts are this…..He’s lying and cheating. talk to him about things. Tell him to be completely honest with you so you can move forward but before you do that, get some evidence to prove he is cheating on you. good luck
carisma2006 says:
I think he’s chatting with someone the girlfriend wouldn’t like him talking to.
MCookies says:
My fiancee and I have been together for 15 months and we have a handsome 5 1/2 month old son. Before the baby he was a blessing in disguise. We were friends of 5 years before we even knew that we felt the same way about each other. We got into some trouble and spent time in jail approximately 3 months. I end up having our son in jail as another result as well. Now since of release he has been staying out late. Hanging out with new friends and watching porn and on dating websites. WHAT should I do before I get married. I’m 29 and he is 26
Suriya Kumar says:
My girlfriend cheated on me…. We have been in a relationship for more than 1 year …. Till that day I didn’t get any doubts about her…One day I saw her talking in mobile to someone for long time , I saw her and she didn’t noticed I asked her in chat what were u doing that time … She said she was helping her mom and nothing more… Doubtfullness filled my mind… And I began detective work… Noticed she was in a relationship with one more guy near her house (whom she talked that day) .. I have gone mad and started detecting more … Found that she was having dirty chats with pics with him … Started my detection more and found out she was doing these kind of chats and works for past 5 years and was in a relationship with many …. Many guys…. Cried a lot … She was angry on me at first after hearing this news and told me to leave… I tried a lot to leave but I can’t…. Someday I started to blackmail , to make her reply my texts and was hurting her with the works she did…. She told she won’t do these kind of activities again and states that I was her only true love and rest were lusts…. My detection has gone mad and found out many more things and guys in her life…. I told her and she replied that she will block everyone and she wants to live only with me till death…. She told me not to carry her pasts and she want to forget those pasts and forgive her… She now says I will be happy without her , if she leaves my life will be happy and so on… Ans she wanted to stop everything…. Now I blocked her everywhere , and my exams are nearing and her thoughts killing me intermittently…. What should I do….
JoshR says:
I’m almost certain my girlfriend is cheating on, we’ve been together almost a year but she’s started getting really distant and doing girly things, which when we started dating she would mock other girls for, and she’s stopped being clingy at all. I feel like I’m just annoying her now, even when we video call she’s always doing something else and I take second place to that. She even started dressing differently, more revealing clothing, she wears makeup now, she dyed her hair, shes getting fake nails, she started straightening her hair and whenever I bring it up she yells at me and tells me I’m trying to control her. I really love her but she won’t even stop doing things if she sees that she’s making me cry. It’s like I don’t matter. I know she’s been abused by almost all of her exes and her parents still abuse her. I don’t believe she’ll really be like this once she moves out but I don’t know what to do…
Don says:
Hi,
I really enjoyed reading your article about signs of cheating. I myself was cheated on and I feel if I had known the warning signs beforehand, I could’ve somehow prevented it from happening.
Keith says:
I first met mine over a year ago and we had our little fights but recently something is wrong but I don’t know what it is, she has a mark on her neck and she claims it’s a bruise but it doesn’t look like one, she texts the guy who is apparently her friend but she hides her phones when texting him we don’t spend much time together like we use to, I feel so distant from her. Any advice from anyone on what I should do
Bob says:
I went through my girlfriends phone of almost 2 years. She’s been distant and hanging out with this guy that I don’t like a lot recently. He’s known to play girls until they sleep with him. Like I was away at school or work and she didn’t tell me he was over at my house without her. Which I’m assuming by the way they were talking that they made out with minimal clothing on. Then her texts with him are sexual. I don’t know what to do. I know I shouldn’t have looked through her phone but I tried talking o her about how I feel about him and she told me that she wouldn’t ever think about doing anything like that and I have nothing to worry about. I’m just hurt and I don’t want to lose her. I was going to propose. Help.
Ximena Torres-Medina says:
hey i have a boyfriend i want to be ok because we are having are first month together but sometimes i get whit all this quetions on my mind and text him saying if he is cheting on if he loves me or not but i want to know if i make him a prank the this kid give me a kiss is ok if he aswer o ok the good or bad
ivann says:
my gf deleated all of the pics of us then a homie asked if I was still dateing her and I said yeah she always wants to hang out but yesterday she was hanging with her ex and he has a gf on her sochal meata it still says ”I love my baby (my name)” and she aint acting like she is but idk, ive been cheated on before and I’m really hoping that she aint cheating cuz I really love her
Jennifer slani says:
When I first got with my husband he would always. Love me the way I needed toto be. He would never make excuses on why he couldnt give me a massage or why he cant do this or that we dont spend no time together weve been together 15 years And everything is a excuse. He never shows me love at all !! We only have sex but thats it thats the only time he actually only touched me. And its not romantic sex its just quick an over sex and he doesn’t care about my needs or wans as long as im home. Taking care of the kids. He don’t care he works for a residential tree company. It poured rain all day long! An any other time. He wouldnt of worked but the last month hes been working in the rain miserably when hes home. But wheb he is getting ready for work he seems so much more happier. He seems so missrable here. He came home with a brusie on his forearm like someone was holding him down. And looks like fingerprints my heart tells me hes. Playing me but I’m not sure. He seems and acts guilty. And when I ask, he denys of course but!!!!! What do you guys think. I know he is guilty of something he comments on other women. Just something isnt right!!! Hes a liar an I know it!! I try to keeo track of all his hours! But he can out smartthe me cause I don’t have access to any bank statements or card holders or money for that matter!! I don’t trust him anymore. He always jus seems so so so so guilty. He says one day that he wishes id leave so he can move onon did that mean so he can move on with a new lover im so confused. Maybe im over reacting I don’t know anymore:-(
Derek Dimond says:
How do you know if your gf is cheating on you? What to do? how do you find out if she is?
HappytoHelp says:
Please take caution when reading this article, before you jump to the conclusion of, “SEE I KNEW THEY WERE CHEATING!” I’d say that 75% of these things occur naturally when two people just don’t have the relationship they used to, not necessarily because one of the parties is “cheating”. If you feel insecure about your relationship, unfortunately, there are thousands of articles available at the click of a button to tell you that your partner/so/spouse is cheating on you. Before you go down the road of PI’s, and accusations, ask yourself if maybe you are having these feelings because of insecurity in yourself/or your relationship. Then ask what YOU can do to make it different. After 30-60 days of DOING ALL YOU CAN to make your spouse/so feel needed and loved, they still are distant, then chances are they have moved on emotionally, and you should do the same. In the end, you will make yourself look and feel better than if you take the road of accusations and trying to inflict pain on your partner.
Irie says:
I’ve currently dating my bf for 4 months now and he never lets me look at his phone and says he doesn’t talk , text or etc with any other girl but me and he use to accuse me of cheating and now I think he is cheating or did before but I don’t know how to find out and he always has his phone on him and I really don’t feel like going through it either . Please help .
Nina says:
I’m 13 and My boyfriend and I live 35 minutes from each other and due to the fact we can’t drive. We see each other every two weeks. I saw him yesterday and today me and my cousin decided to prank call him. She said things like “do you have a girlfriend” and he wouldn’t answer the question. He hung up on her and facetimed me and asked if it was me and I lied and said no. While we were on FaceTime he was calling multiple girls to see if it was them. While on the phone with one girl, she said “by the way I have pics and my friend does too cause she videoed you sending them to me” So that immediately raised suspicion to me. Then I admitted it was me who called him after they hung up and he got mad and hung up on me. But now I assume he’s cheating on me and I don’t know what to do. He isn’t taking my calls or texts. My cousin texted him and he INSISTS that he’s not cheating but I don’t know what to believe.
The Laura Ambrose Show says:
my boyfriend met another girl at camp and last night he claimed her as a best friend I don’t know if that’s considered cheating and he wouldn’t let me add her as a friend for some reason would that be considered cheating on your significant other he also felt her foot cuz he wanted to feel a tan and then he made some weird noise after that like that feels nice and he hardly even knows this girl he just met her and I’ve been dating him for 9 months is this cheating
Lowlow says:
My fiancé has been constantly on his phone when I’m not looking, it’s going off in the middle of the night. When he goes to the bathroom, to get a drink he has his phone. He jumps if I touch it, he won’t let me use his phone to make a call or anything. Am I being paranoid or is this a chance something else is going on?
Raider4life says:
so I have a crazy situation on hands. My lady who I been with since high school 15yrs and 2 kids. I think she is cheating with someone at her work. Now this is all my fault because she caught me cheating before and now that I’ve been straight and devoted and loyal to her since I cheated . I feel like shes cheating now. She never initiates sex and says it’s because I’m the one always doing the intiating which is kind of weird to me because if I don’t even try to have sex with her she won’t even attempt to have sex with me. Another sign is one day we had a serious emotional conversation and she cried and said she is so sorry and that she’s not in love with me anymore but she still loves me and she is so confused and doesn’t know what to do. So when she said this it was a major red flag to me because to me that says she is having mix feelings and has someone else. Now when I asked her about that she quickly tries to say she is confused because she doesn’t know if she wants to stay with me or move on because I did cheat. So we said let’s start over n start fresh well that was her idea. We have been more intimate n showing more love I can tell a change in that aspect however they’re still signs that comes up for instance she got off work early one day she got off an hour and a half early called me and she sounded happy and excited but said she had a bad headache and that’s y she was leaving work early. Mmm and her job has medicine and a room with doctor if they get to ill. So that was weird like she didn’t even go to work. Another thing is I smoke weed and so does she but she only smokes at home with me usually and she is not the type that can function at work is she is high she can’t even drive when high.So I have a vape pen and one day she asked me if she could have it or can I buy her one then about 2-3days later my pen is missing smh only thing I can think of is she gave it to another man. So I’ve been jobless for a months now and I got an friend who is hooking me up with a job at tesla and the other day we had another emotional conversation and she cried again and said she thinks when I get a job again I will cheat on her and she knows what it feels like. Now I’ve never cheated on here at any of my past jobs so that was another red flag because why say something like that you should be happy I’m getting a job must be feeling guilty. I know this all happened because of me and I made a mistake cheating on her in the first place. And now I have to deal with the consequences. So she won’t keep it real and she denies it says she wants us to workout. Is she cheating on me is what I want to know I have had a few discussions with other people and they all said it sounds like she’s cheating. Now I’m doing my research so anyone any tips please
Elly says:
My boyfriend doesn’t live with me. And we live fairly far but not that much meh. He lives with his best guy friend. And lately he’s been really tired and going to bed early. Which is wierd because he would always call me before he goes to sleep. We would always text and call each other and now we aren’t doing that. I jus feel in my gut something’s wrong and whenever I try and ask him about it he says it fine and I always double check to make sure but then he gets annoyed almost? I feel like Him being tired and feeling bad is jus cuz he’s been working almost every day but idk. He’s been almost distant in a sense and I don’t like it.
crimson says:
my boyfriend and i been back together for a little over a year now and he claims he loves me but he still texts his ex gf and he goes to her house he says all he wants is his stuff back from her and i clearly state that he should have been had his stuff over a year ago he goes to her house still and still tells me nothing is going on i did confront him about texts i seen o his phone thats how i found out he goes to see her i have very little patience with any of this and i just feel deep in my heart there’s more to it
Anonymous1 says:
My bf confessed to me yesterday that he sometimes texts with this girl from his work, i was like; “really? About what? Can i see the texts?” and he looked at me with this look in his eyes like a scared puppy dog and said; “i erased the messages because i was worried youd freak out.”
Now I feel really uncomfortable and betrayed. He told me they’d talk about a lot of little stupid things, but if it were a lot of little stupid things, why would he erase the messages unless he felt guilty of something?
He claims that she likes to work out and hes been working out lately too and was sending her little pics here and there of different foods and energy drinks he was having, etc. In the next breath he told me she sent him a picture of her tatoo on her stomach…
He told me that he told her one day that hes not interested in her in any kind of romantic way, that he has a gf and loves me very much.
My concern is that hes withholding information from me. I feel theres a lot more to the story than hes letting on. What would possess her to send a picture of her bare stomach to show off a tatoo? Why would he erase the messages? Were they really sexting?
And one day i went with him to his work and that same girl was working that night, she was acting very strange. All his other coworkers walked up to him and said hi. She was staring over, kind of with a puss on her face but never said anything. The next day he told me that she was asking; “who was that girl with you last night?” he told her that it was his gf. Well, supposedly he told her that. I worry that really he wasnt being open with this girl that hes already in a relationship. Im just really sketched out.
Hes never done anything like this in the past and all the other females he has on his phone, their texts were never erased. I just feel really confused and im not sure what to think. We’ve been together for close to 5 years. But he acts different with this job he has. Goes to the bar there on his days off, stays there later after work to ‘sit at the bar’. I just get this weird vibe.
But then he turns around and says he loves me and to trust him, that he doesnt know what he’d do without me. The situation is just really off to me. Something isnt adding up. 🙁
Katherine says:
The hard thing is you can’t make out since you are in a long distance. I caught his first email some suspicious sex meetups or dating sites. I asked him on the call that night and he kind of over reacted, kind of mad. Saying it wasn’t him and ended the call. I knew he had needs and since i’m far i couldn’t give it to him. I knew he had a chaturbate account and all the other accounts are the same name as his chaturbate account. I made him a new account and caught him there the second time. The first time he said it wasn’t him. The second time he erased all his activity and after that day i don’t see any activity in his email.Whenever i talked to him about this he just says so sarcastically. What do you think folks? Is my instinct right ,that he is cheating.
Kaylee says:
How do i know if he is cheating cause today he is not letting me touch his phone all of a sudden cause he been texting this guy he said but i know its a girl he been deleting messages on facebook dont want me aeound him ehen he texting. Gets piss when i try to grab his phone always acuses me when i havent been doing nothong n i been letting him check ma phone! I need help
stacey russell says:
Ive been with my partner for 5 years 2 kids . He recently went to t
His bosses party after work. Anyways i see him dancing with this girl (which obviously i was angry) on social media. He tried to lie about it even tho the v3ideo was right there . Couple weeks later his mate sends him video showing the same girl saying something but he quickly jumped off the video cause i was right by him?? And i kept asking questions and he got all deffensive telling me to leave him alone and all saying im ugly etc then he said it was nothing. Then about 2 days later he took his top off and he had like claw marks on his back?? Someone pls help i need advice. Is he cheating???
Ramon says:
My girlfriend deletes everything and uses multiple social sites should I be worried
Sara says:
My boyfriend of 2 years has recently cheated on me. But it goes deeper than just getting drunk and sleeping with another girl. He signed up on tender and match. Met a girl, had conversations with her , bought her dinner , and then a hotel. He now texts me every day and calls on stop telling me he loves me. He broke my heart and played me for a fool. How do you get through it ? Or should I ? I am so confused . Once trust is gone…
Martin Nunez says:
My gf took off for week. To hang out with a new friend. This new friend introduced her to some guy. The new friends daughter when I asked where they been she immediately told me that my gf was kissing this guy. We still are together but I can’t stop thinking about it. All three of them ended up going outta town. It was my birthday weekend when all this happened. Everytime I bring it up she gets angry with me. I love her but I can’t just get this image of her kissing this guy. It’s taken over my life.
Corey pate says:
My girlfriend always Tell me that I’m not doing my part right or I cause her pain but yet I do my very best at everything with her I treat her like my queen she my everything I let her know that and I get on my knees and tell her how sorry I am whenever she Tell me how to be a man she always Telling me what I. Not doing right that she’s tired of everything but I haven’t done anything and she always questions me about other women telling me iusy be with someone or I must be watching porn she’s always like this what do I do
Whitney Echum says:
In the past I found emails and my bf would disappear for days and when he got home he would say nothing happened but the emails say otherwise but it’s been 9 years since it last happened but it’s still hurts me and I just want to know if something happened like sex. Because the emails I found said it did and I just want to know that the truth. Is it wrong of me to still be holding on to all that?
Dawn B says:
Okay So i need help…it could be my insecurities….I’ve been I’ll..lost alot of weight and I don’t like my body image…we have been together for 16 months and he proposed in Sept..I am 51 and he’s 50…but lately he’s been secretive with his cell…turning it on vibrate..the keypad off..checks fb when I’m not in the room..makes excuses…we are in the process of looking for a house cuz he wants to be married asap……he has been sidetracked and the other day left his cell here when he went to his Dr appt…I just went to the im page and noticed an ad of a girl giving a guy felatio…that’s what he lovesabout me… then later on that evening he mentioned out of the blue how he had all this crap on his cell he didn’t know about so he got rid of stuff while in the bathroom…that’s his routine..lol..no surprise there…it’s close to Valentine’s day…he is still Affectionate…so I don’t know..I’m not that type of girl to go thru his cell…I won’t do it..it’s always Round but lately he takes it with him…does stupid little crap that’s suspicious but could be nothing…he alwAys said he would never cheat he would just leave but to me sexting is cheating…
Joann Sumner says:
I’ve been with a guy 4 and 1/2 years and for the past 2 years he has become very distant from me emotionally. I have also noticed that he drags his cell phone with him everywhere he goes. When the phone rings with certain numbers he does not answer them and tells me not to answer them. Our sex life has become very sad. It was at maybe twice a week now it’s down to once a month. When we go out he puts his head down like he does not want to be seen. And again lately he has been accusing me of cheating. He has done that before about a year-and-a-half ago. Please can someone help me and tell me if this is all signs of him cheating or even if he is not interested in me anymore.
Ainar Abdullah says:
What if your man says he loves you but never has time to be with you?! We live in the same area but we hardly see eachother.. in a month we could meet up twice n three tyms would be a jackpot..
wer only chatting most of the time he never even calls me?! But then he says he loves me and doesn’t wanna loose me?! Im lost?!
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Cassie says:
Recently my fiancé has been not sexual as usual and is always tired or has some type of excuse not to be affectionate. Could it be he’s not sexually attracted to me anymore or he’s seeing another woman. And when I ask him if he’s still attracted to me he says yes?! Not sure I am very worried
Klevin13 says:
I don’t know if anyone is going to even read this, but lets give it a try…
So like my girlfriend is so social with other people when I am not around…
Also like when she is at Karate, like she told me she wouldn’t go there, since like 3 of her exes are there, so she didn’t go to Karate for a whileo. Recently she started attending Karatr so much, I can only see her on Saturdays from 1 pm to Sundays, she almost always stays longer at Karate or when her exes are around at where that may be.
I tried leaving her in a public place, but she got up and screamed, cried infront of everyone so I told her I didn’t know what I was doingg when I told her I wanted to breakup, just so that she could stop…
Also, the one time she texted her ex, my friend found out, my friend is one of my girlfriends best girlfriends, boyfriend. So I asked my girlfriend, who was she texting and she told me nobody, she even swore to me she was not talking to any guys.
Also my girlfriend doesn’t tell me about all of her chats, only some of them…
I don’t know, I think I am just over thinking everything… Please help me, I get so worried and depressed, like last year I was wieghing in at 86 kg and 6% fat, now I’ve picked up wieght and weigh 115kg from all the gym sessions I’ve skipped to be with her, or talk with her over the phone. She told me that she would also skip Karate sessions to be with me, but it only lasted for a week, then back to normal it went, she doesn’t offer anything up to be with me… I always have to fetch her etc…
silence hawkins says:
hi im young but it has happened it is hard and yeah so
Neyo says:
My gf always talks to this one guy and loses the time for me… I confronted her about it and she said there was nothing. So I just believed it for a while but u know it still hurt whenever she would talk to him and not me. But the other day she was texting him and I saw one of the texts say “because we love each other.” And she said “yea.” But I really love this girl and would die if I lost her. What should I do?
Dan F says:
This kind of crap is literally helping to destroy my family, my girlfriend of 12 years has accused me of such (though she is the only one who has cheated in the past) I am honest about my faithfulness with her, but “all the SIGNS are there she says”, and this website has helped that continue.
You must realize how these SIGNS can easily be wrong, and that the human mind is notoriously good at putting information together in ways that seem all to true, but is a false-positive (can seeming look true, but in fact is not).
The worse thing is once these ideas are planted and thought over multiple times in the mind and then voiced out-loud, it actually strengthens the neuron pathways that generate the feelings associated with the “SIGNS”, and therefore seem more true despite being false.
This has seriously damaged us, making it difficult to go to work and progress through my career that is in transition. I am now seeking professional psychiatric help for my family since we are all now affected by this.
I know you want to help women protect themselves against dishonesty, but you must recognize much more is at play than investigative skills and uncovering the evidence of cheaters.
Please consider reading the book “Thinking Fast and Slow”, it will help people understand the implication involved in how the mind functions successfully despite many, many errors in judgement.
Brand0n23s says:
I’ve fell in love at the age of 25 first time ever It was wonderful know one has ever opened me up and it’s been 5 yrs burn now I’m having the hardest time ever I’m real confident and smart but this has stripped me for almost everything it feel like torture and it hurts I don’t know what to do I ask I’ve begged but I think she messing around n it’s a lot of wonder and I just want To know already I’m good on the hurt but I can’t get out n she don’t even care to be there she says I pushed her away n maybe I did but why she still holding on n ignoring me daily we’re she come give me a little n leave me worse ?? I just want to know already
SusanFord says:
My ex boyfriend Bradley macintosh cheating on me texting this girl have sexy this girl had text From this girl on he phone cheating on me ring girl
Bradley macintosh says:
My ex boyfriend Bradley macintosh has been cheaing on me texting this girl texting this girl texting back on phone ring this girl break up with him he lied
Brian says:
My fiancé isn’t really intimate with me that much anymore and when I asked her why she gets defensive about it, really confused don’t know what to do.
Jack says:
Hey all. I wish I wasn’t in this chat room to be completely honest but I am so here….
Recently my gf has seemed really distant, we are both busy during the day with our jobs and studying. So we mainly spend time on the weekends. We have been together for almost 5 years.
Only recently she has been more distant than usual. When ever I try to touch her ‘ intimately’ she shys away and turns her back. We haven’t had intercourse in a really long time. I can’t even remember the last time.
There are small signs that she is seeing someone else and my gut is screaming at me to do something.
We used to be they way every couple is, we couldn’t keep our hands off each other. Only I very recently found a ‘lacey’ thong on top of her wash basket. This sent all sorts of alarm bells ringing because she hasn’t worn one for me in almost a year I would say. The fact that it’s on top also indicates that it was one of the last things she wore. She worked from home that day so didn’t go out anywhere. And now I’m thinking who have you worn this for?
I know it may sound crazy, she can wear whatever under wear she wants shes her own person. But at this point its very out of character. This thong also is considered ‘sexy’ and has been worn for me on special occasions.
Maybe I’m crazy. Maybe not.
Maybe she’s cheating. Maybe not.
Tasha says:
Just recently me and my boyfriend broke up behind me asking him if he was cheating on me. He flipped out and created a huge argument that lasted for a week and tried to blame it on me. He brought up every old thing in the attempt to avoid answering the question. Then finally I asked him if he still wanted to be with me. Then he replied “we were never together”, which is where I became lost at because we had been living together for 2 years and he had even given me an engagement/wedding ring.
After hearing that come out of his mouth multiple ways and times I began to get upset and told him if we were never together then come and get your things…. and he did?
Now he wont answer my calls or texts.. Does that mean I was right about him cheating and he just wasnt man enough to admit it?
Jammin says:
Yes
Ezekiel says:
My gf no more replys to my txts and when i call her a man picks up a call bt when i try to ask she keeps on telling me that her brother is the one forcing her on that man am now left without what to do nxt
Will says:
One day my girl didnt answer my texts for like 2 hrs even after that she was short with her replies. After calling her twice ,she fowarded my calls. Then tried to fb videochat and she declined. She finally calls me back and she says at her guy friends house . She had been drinkng and was clearly drunk. She was thr with her 4 yr old son. She says shes known him since she was 12 but after asking a few family members of hers..apparently shes only known him a few years. I told her if she aint gt her butt home bwfore i gt thr that its over amd she went home but was mad at me for being mad. Shes been acting diff ever since that day. Am i being insecure or is she messing with this guy. We r engaged and ive never heard of nor have i met this guy. Texts have gotten less too
Tony says:
She’s drunk? With her 4yr old? Has she done this before does she drink often & drive drunk? How long has she been acting like this? Dude sounds like the party’s over with this chick. I mean you don’t know who this guy is,when she comes home does she smell or look freshly showerd or does she go straight to the shower when she gets home? How old are you two & how long are you together?
Matthew says:
Hi all, I have this feeling that my girl is cheating but I do not know. When I’m with her she doesn’t act weird or when I talk to her, we will talk for hours but I just don’t know. She lives about a hour away from me, so I can see her about once a week due to schooling. I am just concerned because she still hangs out with her ex and (yes I know it’s creepy) I like stalked her on her Facebook and Instagram and she still has picture of her past relationships, that is what has me worried and I don’t know why. I don’t know how to explain this feeling but it’s as if I feel like she is cheating but at the same time it doesn’t feel like that. I don’t know if I’m just over exaggerating or…but I have been in relationship where I have been cheated on and maybe that is the reason I feel this way.
I just want help.
sweets says:
I hear girl talking and him everytime I ask he says he is talking to himself or im hearing things then starts a fight saying im crazy why cant I catch them
Alisha says:
Idk what to do my boyfriend doesn’t talk to me like he use to, he use to be clingy as hell now he kind of rejects my hugs or I have to force him to hug me yanno? He doesn’t ask me what’s wrong anymore he goes hmmmmm .everyday we would call from 3-10 every night but lately he either hasn’t called me and I leave 10 miss calls and 15 messages or he calls me and says I’ll be back then leaves for 4 hrs and then he randomly comes back he use to always buy me things now nothing 😭 I love him and I don’t want it to be true am I just stressing or do u think he’s cheating
Lily says:
So recently I was on my significant others phone and saw several searches for this girl I didn’t think it was a big deal till I saw that he poked her months ago. He’s also been working longer hours than what he’s actually scheduled for. He doesn’t spend as much time as he used to and gets really upset and tells me he doesn’t need to spend all his time with me. I asked him about the girl thing and he got mad when I started crying. I don’t want him to be cheating, I honestly thought he actually loved me. What should I do also he denied doing that and said it looked bad but he didn’t do it and he said sorry it looked bad and he swore that he really didn’t do it. I dunno what to do .
Lost for words says:
I don’t know what’s been going on lately but I feel like my girl might be cheating on me. We’ve been together both on n off for 6 years, we had a daughter who is now 3. Recently things have felt off with her. We are planning a trip to FL for our daughter but the more I think she is cheating the more angrier I get. One reason and thing I don’t get about her is we talked about getting more hours at work for this trip and she got a new job that pays more but she does not want to give up her hold job. She says she’s enjoys working with the patients so she wants to at least work 1-2 days there still mind you it’s like 40 mins out of her way and her new job is only 20 mins away. I’ve been noticing that when she works the morning 7-3 shift at her old job she will send me a text saying she got there but will take hours to get back to me which I get she’s working but hours is a long time. Also I’ve been noticing she will give report till 3:30 (she’s a CNA) but somehow won’t end up leaving work until 4-4:10 sometimes. And every time it’s another excuse to why she’s running late. She tells me she works with a gay friend at her job, but why is she snap chatting pictures to this “gay guy” or Facebook messaging him for the “work schedule” yet you know like 4 other ladies who are able to give you the schedule. We are planning in on moving in together but my trust for her isn’t on that level anymore. Another thing I noticed was one night around 11 she got a texted from a “work friend” that she claims is her friend that has been working with her since the beginning of her old job. Well I believed it till I looked at the message and noticed it was whole new message like no previous saved messages and she just said it’s (her name) then they replied saying oh I had your number saved all this time. Idk what to do, I can’t think straight. She’s been with me for a huge part of my life and idk. Like less then a week ago I sat down with her and told her if she had anything going on tell me now before we make the commitment of moving in and she looked me in my eyes and told me not to worry because “she would never” do that. My gut feeling just keeps telling me something different. Am I overreacting or is this something to be worried about ?
Brad says:
I know exactly how you feel my friend. I used to date a girl a few years back that would slowly start being at home less and less and would always lay the blame on me saying I wasn’t showing her any affection or anything. Well a friend who lived next door broke the news to me and come to find out it was all true. So I ended up kicking her out. Fast forward a few years and she messages a mutual friend of ours out of the blue and is like hey do you talk to (my name) and she’s like yeah every so often I do and has her relay a message. So me having the good heart that I do gave her another chance. The other day was looking through her phone with her permission of course and find numerous nude pics of her ex husband that he sent to her over phone text. Now not sure what to do. Any ideas?
Steve says:
The best advice i can give you is life is short. Right or wrong, as selfish as it sounds you need to look out for #1. Think about how long the universe existed before you were born. Then think about how long it might exist after you are gone. Millions? Billions? Of years. You get 50-100 years to enjoy living. Do you want to spend another second worring about what if? And is she? Do whats best for you. If you think she is cheating then move on. If you love her and want her in your life then confront the issue in a serious adult manner laying everything on the table including phone/computer history. Anyone who thinks thats rude or an invasion of privacy to the person they claim is the “one” is a fool and are keeping secrects for terrible reasons. If things dont work out Just remember 1 thing. Over 7 billion people exist on this planet with 62% of those not in a commited relationship. Im sure the person you deserve and deserves you is within that 2.5 billion ballpark
Oscar says:
You need to trust yourself and give her a little bit space, to make her understand she can’t joke with life.
cassandra bennett says:
So im in the 7th grade my bf is in 8th one of his friends told me he was cheating he saids it brmants with his frend brock i know i might be young but im in love with him i need help if you have any advice please
Oscar says:
If his friend say something why not to say it in front of him and then you are going to figure out if it’s true or wrong! ( let his friends say it )
Jamal Jones says:
I think my girlfriend is cheating on me we been together 4 years she goes to a local college and one day I go to see her and she have to sign me in I pulled out my Id and the person behind the desk says to my girlfriend do you want me to sign ( he says the man name ) so I waited until we got back to her room and asked about this guy she signed in she told me he didn’t come in her room they were in the lounge because he couldn’t get in the house. Three weeks later it happen again same guy this time she said he was going to help her with a paper she had to turn in but she felt bad and half way up the stairs she told him I got it and he never entered her room. I’m I being premature or do I have a solid reason …. I need help with this don’t want to accuse her I like be her too much.
Nana says:
Sit her down at dawn talk to her and l think she will stop doing that if only she loves you
Chris says:
She’s cheating bro she’s a liar
Oscar says:
Make sure who you love to be your girlfriend or your future wife that’s the difference . Brother don’t hurt yourself you need to love yourself first
Rachel says:
I moved back to my boyfriend’s home from other state after 3 years. I busted my boyfriend having the life insurance on other woman’s name, use her name for 2 credit cards and he said she just helped him for a cash loan. Even I read his bank statement with the new bank card. He charged the motel in 3 times of 3 different dates. He admitted that he was considering to take some drugs but decided not to. He met the drug dealer at the motel. Hard to believe? Even I arrived home and he was not home! I texted and texted, FaceTime. He won’t answer till 5-10’inutrs later. He said bad internet and I was at the store to get some snacks. He had his mom all the times cuz she’s 92. Never leave her alone at home but he did leave his mom alone when I was at work. I got off early and got home. She was home alone and he left a note saying, I will be back by 630 or before. I texted him and FaceTime him. He was in the car and saying, I left from store to get some snacks. Joke? Relationship for over 15 years!!!!
Oscar says:
Things happen like that when you don’t pay attention to the mistake of your partner. What I mean, in fact when you are in the relationship : your mistake it’s a task to solve by your man/ woman and all the quality you have it is important for your man/woman to adopt.
Vickie says:
I have a bf and I have not heard from him since some time in November or the beginning of December. I will text him in the morning and before I go to bed and I still have not heard anything from him so what should I do or think?
Matty says:
It’s over.
Oscar says:
If someone goes away from you be careful when he’ll be back to you means he may forgot something else .
What you can do enjoy your life as much as possible you can. because he’s not the last and the first
Raya says:
That’s a major red flag, but don’t disregard the possibility that something is going on in his life.
jeema says:
we were loving since 7 years. he had one of his friend lover friendship and she is handycap girl.she and my bf was in gud relationship only. and her bf were not in contact with her. So,she ask my bf to search about her bf. My bf searched her bf , he had told to her that gay got already married. And He cheated this handycap girl. She had tailoring,beauty parlour and printout shop. My bf go there daily and speak with her and his shop owner . And also he inform me that i am going there and all. we both fight for he compare to that girl she is earning salary more and she had that much confident even she is handycap and she dont have any support and from poor family. why dont you have like that confident and why are de-motivating yourself like that we put fight her already. One day i saw her photo in my bf cell phone in secret gallery app in with my photos . i know the password of that secret app. He dont no that i know the password of that app. on same day I ask him to open that app. He gone away and delete her picture and gave the phone. I didn’t ask him about the picture that time. I ask him later he told me that she send that image for my friend. His friend didn’t got married .(his friend didnt got married that matter he already told me before itself. For him only he get the picture from her like that he told. And i put fight with that girl why are speaking with him and she told they have spoken in video call and we chat in whats app but she didnt tell that we didnt spoken wrongly. she told me that your bf only said me that you left him like that so we spoken friendly like that they both are telling. Iam in a big confusion . i want to know that my bf is cheated me are not.
Ja’dore pk says:
We all get cheated on don’t feel bad life goes on remember it’s always somebody out here who is better for you never Settle or apologize 💯🤙🏽
Sausage says:
Should two people in a relationship chat with each other everyday.. And now I have lost itcoz she claims always busy. And its driving me out. Even when I know shes not busy. When she is chatting with her friends she does that happily u see the joy on her face but once its comes to both of us she becomes something else. I need ur advice please. We 5months already
Raya says:
No, because sometimes life gets in the way. But, if you know she’s not busy, and seems unhappy, ask her sweetly if anything is wrong, but seriously, don’t pursue it. Then, another time, just say something along the lines of “Hey, I noticed we aren’t spending as much time together, and it’s bothering me.
Di says:
I was with my boyfriend for 23 years until four weeks ago he ended it because I was talking to his friends to find out if he was cheating on me and someone told him off and he said I have made trouble for him he didn’t like anyone knowing his business he was texting all the time so anyone would thinking there boyfriend was cheating on them if they was texting all the time he still comes and see his son but he just outside we don’t talk I feel I need to see if he is talking to someone but I don’t want him to find out
Joseph says:
Okay so me and my gf have been dating for 5 months but every time she does something I get suspicious. but it’s stupid stuff that I get overprotective over. Like she will be on her phone when we hang out and then when I come over she turns her phone off. Or sometimes she straight up ignores me for hours and I think that she is talking to another guy. I saw she was snapchatting some guy and she ignored my texts that whole day then when I brought it up she denied it. I could be overreacting but I don’t want to be cheated on that’s one of my biggest fears. And maybe I always think of the worst scenario but she’s too good to lose. And plus I treat her like a good bf. but sometimes I get that feeling that she talks to other guys.
Aniket says:
i like your article, i am running detective agency, it will help me in business
por says:
thats so cool
Brandon Tompkins says:
Ok so my wife for pass two years I’ve felt something different off wasn’t the same, I wld try talk in to her about it & she wld ignore me or jump straight into defensive mode when all I did was simply ask. But everything I try talkin to her about I’m crazy a lie etc. I don’t know what to do cause I have no solid proof but everything in me says something off n her actions do as well…according to ur 15 signs she qualifies for all 15 but I’m tired of being played stupid and crazy shes got everyone family long time friend believe in I’m Looney n lost it…nobody will listen no body will help nobody will believe me or its somwthing much deeper much more than I care to know
Raya says:
I would say talk to her about it, that something feels a bit off. Make sure that you plan out what you want to say beforehand, so therefore, you are able to put up a decent argument, especially against this line. “So you mean to tell me you don’t trust me anymore?” Just talking about your feelings will make you feel so much better, regardless of everything.
Andrew says:
My girlfriend of nearly 2 years accused me of cheating she constantly accused me for 6 months. I told her over and over that I wasn’t. I got very upset and emotionally drained. However no matter how hard I tried to convince her she refused point blank to believe me. She then finished with me several months later I found out that she is engaged to be married and will married early this year. I can’t believe it. It’s only been a couple of months since she dumped me. If anyone has experienced the same as me then please get in touch. I am still in love with her but I know its over.
Ray says:
I just found out my girlfriend of two years is chatting with her ex on Facebook, she says there in the yard sale group but I know you don’t have to be Facebook friends for that
por says:
its okay
Regina says:
I been seeing my boyfriend for almost a year.for the last 6 months things has not been the same. We don’t go places like we use to.he comes in from work and get his music and go outside till 6a.m I thought it was me.I have tried having sex with him but he tell me to stop or quit.so I stop .I having had sex with him but he watch a lot of pornography on his laptop. I came up with a UTI a few months ago something I never had.I think he’s cheating on me
Tykim says:
This I accurate but not always the case. For me if my girl read this page she would think I’m cheating. But tbh I just do that stuff so I don’t get too attached. So if she does break my heart I can stand to wake up another day. Being a faithful guy it hard to really love someone once your hearts been broken. So as a defense we sometimes act in the way described above. Not because we cheat but because we’re scared you will.
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Hmford says:
I read your comments and I’m wondering the same I have been married 14 years and I don’t know if he’s being serious or not but he says that his kids aren’t his and if we have an argument he accuses me of cheating! I haven’t I have thought about it would other do it though what should I do/think?
Sshheifra says:
Ok so now he is cheating on me 😔😔😔😫😫😧😧😟😟😟😟😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭
Ryan slagle 34 says:
Dont trip mine is too how old are you where are you wanna faithful man who loves lime christ it seems like I know shes doing this but my love blinds me I want a faithful sweetheart who loves lime christ
Kristin says:
Haha
I knew I’d read up on this comment sooner or later right
Man how can someone cross that line?!
princewill says:
so she’s cheating on me…
she sounds so cold over the phone and does not show care anymore..
Shaun says:
Just about everything in this list. Guess what I have to discern now is if my insecurities are creating phantoms or is my instinct desperately trying to open my eyes?
Valerie Mondesir Alarcon says:
Is He Cheating? Let Your Intuition Be Your Guide
Anna says:
So, He is really cheating on me.. with the woman who have money, why he doesn’t want to let go of me? i am tired holding on and believing him when he told me that he only loves me, he just need to fix himself that’s why these things are happening. And he wants me not to stress myself and him, and take everything easy. I’m tired crying over this, i’m tired of myself too…
Murungi kay travor says:
Is she cheating? Don’t rush to a decision just let her be.
lesley says:
I don’t know about people’s relationship and i don’t like to meddle into peoples businesses but cheating is a big thing , ridiculous and can cause you a life trauma, get help fixing this to help your mental help.
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Might help out