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5 Reasons Why Guys Cheat on GFs & What It Means

What to Know About Cheating

Why Do People Cheat on People They Love?

It’s really hard to understand why people cheat on people they love. Sometimes, people decide to cheat because they feel unloved, or like they have fallen out of love, with their partner. Sometimes, they feel the romance is gone from their relationship, and having an illicit romance gives them a sense of excitement. Sometimes they feel deep shame, pain, and regret, and they don’t feel like their partner can know about it, so they turn to another person. Other times, there may not appear to be a logical reason your partner has hurt you in this way.

Regardless of what happened, or the reasons they give you, remember not to take on the responsibility or blame. If you’ve been cheated on by your spouse or partner, their choice to be unfaithful was not your fault. It is their responsibility to understand where they went wrong and accept the consequences of their behavior. Rather than running back to them at the first sign of regret or apology, it’s important for you to take the time and space you need to heal. After all, re-entering into a relationship with someone whose dishonesty hurt you so deeply may not be emotionally safe. Talking with a mentor or counselor can help you understand and heal from the pain of cheating in a safe space with someone you can trust. 

Cheating

This is not an “every-guy thing,” you know. Lots of boyfriends are honest, they keep to their promises, and they do. not. cheat. When it is time for a dating relationship to end, they end it and move on. In other words, they don’t start something with another girl while they are still in a dating relationship.

Some of you girls are already thinking On what planet do those guys live? I’ve never known a guy like that. If that is the case, maybe you need to start hanging around with a different group of guys.

If you have a history of dating cheaters or know way too many girls who have, then you might need to rethink how you pick your boyfriends. We’ll get to that later.

And, yes, I know girlfriends can cheat too, but today we are going to talk about boyfriends.

Reasons Guys Cheat

There is lots of advice floating around in books, blogs, and everyday conversations about why guys cheat. But if you haven’t figured this out yet, you will eventually discover that many reasons are really not that complex.

The male approach to dating lies somewhere between that of a caveman and a mechanical engineer, often more like the caveman. So, I have simplified the WHY of cheating by whittling it down to five things. This is not intended to be a complete list, mind you. But understanding these few simple things about guys could help you a lot.

1. Boyfriends Cheat Because They Want Out of the Relationship

Dustin wrote: I think the 2 main reasons why guys cheat goes like this:  1) Guys get stuck with a clingy girl. He figures maybe she’ll change over the course of a few months. He really likes the girl for a lot of her character traits but notices that she’s not going to let him go.

Miss Insecurity is dating Mr. Self-Confident, and with that relationship, she is trying desperately to plug some pretty big holes in her own self-esteem.  She becomes obsessed with her boyfriend. You know how that usually turns out…clinginess, jealousy, anger, tears. But Miss Insecurity doesn’t want to press Mr. Self-Confident too hard about his commitment. She would prefer to assume (or in some cases, dream) he is as committed to her as she is to him.  But Mr. Self-Confident isn’t committed at all and is in fact, trying to figure a way out.

One reason guys cheat is that they want out of the relationship, but aren’t man enough to just break up, so they cheat in order to have an excuse to get out.

(BTW, guys have to deal with insecurity just as much as girls.)

Dustin continued: 2) Guys just want sex from a girl. The girl isn’t willing to give them sex just yet, so they stick around. They wait for a while, giving promises of everlasting love until they finally get what they want. Then they stick around a little longer and say Hey!…so I’ve met this other girl (who I’ve had sex with without you knowing) and I just don’t see things working out between us…so Yeah.

2. Boyfriends Cheat Because Their Relationship Goals are Different

Then there are guys who are very willing to talk about the relationship. They make lots of promises, using words like,  “I love you,” “you’re so beautiful,” and “spend our lives together.”

The girlfriend might be saying the same words, but there is a difference. Some girls give a lot and put up with a lot in order to get what they want most…the relationship. And most often, in the end, they end up with a broken heart.

On the other hand, some guys (including the ones more likely to cheat) come at it from the other direction. They get excited about the relationship too, but only because the relationship is the way to get what they want…usually sex.

It’s pretty simple..  she wants a relationship, so much so, that she is willing to offer sex to get it. He wants sex, even if he has to give some relationship to get it. But cheating violates the relationship, not the sex.  To put it bluntly…guys cheat because the relationship was never their goal...it was the sex.

3. Boyfriends Cheat Because They Aren’t Strong Enough to Resist the Temptation

Boyfriends who cheat don’t always do it with a plan in mind. Remember, guys are not that complex. You probably know about some girls who stalk guys like sexual predators- they try in every way they can to get them to cheat. Unfortunately, some guys just don’t have what it takes to refuse.

4. Boyfriends Cheat Because of the Influences Around Them

Check this out…when it comes to being faithful to wives and girlfriends, one of the most important factors is a guy’s parents. Generally speaking, guys who grow up in homes where their parents cheat, find it much easier to do the same thing.

Counselor Gary Neuman asked 200 cheating and non-cheating husbands about why they cheated. He found that 77% of cheating men have a good friend who also cheated.  Some guys give in easily to the temptation to cheat because that is what their friends and family do. You should not judge a guy by what those around him do, but don’t underestimate the power of influence.

5. Boyfriends Cheat Because They Got Away With It Before

Do you remember Tiger Woods? He was married to one of the hottest women on the planet, but he was a big-time cheater with lots of women. (BTW, only 12% of cheating husbands in the Neuman study said that the women they cheated with were more physically attractive than their wives.)

The guy cheated once, then twice, then three times. It became easier and easier to give in, harder and harder to say no. If you are dating a guy who cheated before, there is a good chance he will cheat on you too, even if from the beginning he never planned it that way. If he has cheated more than once, it is even more likely that it will happen again.

Bears Repeating – This is Not ALL Men

These five reasons don’t paint a very favorable picture of guys…so let me reiterate, this is NOT all men.  And while it might be hard for a cheater to change his ways, it’s not impossible.  I believe sometimes people are truly ashamed of a choice they made and would like to undo the past.  In fact, if you are the Cheater here are 5 Life-Changing Steps for you! My point in this blog is to point out things to look for and consider if you find yourself in a relationship with someone who cheats.

What Does It Mean When a Guy Cheats on His Girlfriend With You?

First and foremost, it means you cheated too. If you didn’t know he had a girlfriend, it wasn’t intentional, but you do need to step back and respect the person he cheated on before you pursue or demand a relationship with this guy. If you knew he had a girlfriend, then you knowingly cheated, and it’s time to examine why. We all make mistakes, and it’s important to avoid falling into a toxic shame spiral. But it’s also important to be honest and accountable for your actions.

You can’t read his mind, or his heart, or predict his next steps. If you are in love with him and want to be with him, you can communicate that to him, but say it once, say it clearly, and then wait for his response. Continuing the relationship behind someone else’s back isn’t fair to anyone. Letting him continue to speak to you or see you while he’s still with someone else is up to you, but it is a continuation of the cheating behavior.

Once you’ve stepped away from him, whether you’re stepping away from him for good or until he breaks up with his girlfriend, you need to take some time to reflect on what you really want. You can spend time wondering what he wants, whether he’s choosing you, or what it means that he cheated to be with you, but in the end, the only person whose mind, heart, and actions you control is you.

Reflect on what the future would look like with this guy:

  • If he cheated on her to be with you, would you be able to trust him to be faithful to you if he met someone else he was attracted to? Or would you be constantly worried about him cheating again? 
  • Do you believe you have a genuine connection with him? Was lust and the excitement of something forbidden part of what brought y’all together? Is what you have a solid foundation for a lasting, healthy relationship?
  • Do you feel your personal values align with his? Is he a person you can imagine a future with? Is he someone you would want to see yourself within a year, two years, five years?
  • Do you feel like you are your best self when you’re with him? Is he someone who encourages you to act within your integrity, pursue personal growth, and chase your dreams? Or is he someone who just makes you feel comfortable with the status quo and excuses behaviors you don’t like seeing in yourself?

When you find yourself in the position of being “the other woman,” you have an opportunity. Will you use this opportunity to get to know yourself better, hold yourself accountable to your values, and seek the support you need to grow?

Can a Man Cheat and Still Love His Girlfriend?

It’s important to remember that the choice to cheat rests on only one person’s shoulders: the cheater. There is nothing that the cheater’s betrayed partner did or didn’t say or do to force that choice. Sure, maybe the relationship wasn’t the healthiest, leading the cheater to desire connection outside of it, but there is no excuse for betraying someone who trusts you rather than choosing the brave path of communicating about your problems or breaking up if you’re not happy.

Now, can you cheat on someone you love? Sure, people betray those they love all the time. From borrowing your sister’s sweater without permission to asking the girl you know your best friend has a crush on to prom, you’re going to make a decision that leaves a loved one feeling betrayed at some point. The real question is, what’s going to happen with that relationship after the betrayal?

In this scenario, two decisions need to be made:

  • The man who cheated has to decide if he’s willing to take responsibility for what he’s done and work like he’s never worked before to rebuild trust with his girlfriend. He has to be ready to make serious changes in his lifestyle, own up to his failures, and commit to personal growth that isn’t going to be comfortable or convenient. His other option is to let her go. If he can’t handle being faced with the consequences of his actions, like being there for her when she breaks down in tears over random triggers, being willing to cut off contact with unhealthy friendships, going to therapy, or allowing her to see his phone whenever she wants, etc. then he needs to decide to end the relationship. Otherwise, this cycle will most likely repeat itself.
  • The girlfriend who got cheated on has to decide if she wants the kind of love this man can give her. Sure, he “loves” her, but he chose to be with someone else and betray that love. No matter what kind of trust is rebuilt from that point on, the past cannot be rewritten. She has to decide if she would rather do the hard work of breaking up with him, grieving that relationship, and moving on with her life or the hard work of grieving the betrayal, healing from the trauma, and learning to rebuild trust with this man she loves. Either path is difficult, and either path is an understandable choice. But the choice has to be made.

Giving it a Reason Doesn’t Make it Hurt Any Less

Just because you may now be able to determine the reason your boyfriend cheated on you, it doesn’t mean it hurts any less. In fact, it might hurt even more. So I want you to know, right now, that you can and will get through this. Many others have walked this path before. You might learn some tough lessons through the process, but you can come out on the other side of this stronger and ready for a healthy relationship.

In the meantime, God wants to help heal your broken heart. He promises this in the Bible:

If your heart is broken, you’ll find God right there; if you’re kicked in the gut, he’ll help you catch your breath. Psalm 34:18 MSG

The only condition is that you need to look to God for help, pray to Him and share your feelings with Him

God met me more than halfway, he freed me from my anxious fears. Look at him; give him your warmest smile. Never hide your feelings from him. When I was desperate, I called out, and God got me out of a tight spot. God’s angel sets up a circle of protection around us while we pray. Open your mouth and taste, open your eyes and see—how good God is. Blessed are you who run to him. Psalm 34:4-8 MSG

God is waiting to comfort you in your pain. It’s up to you whether or not to accept it.

You know they are cheating on you, but what are you going to do next? Read – Your BF/GF is Cheating on You…Now What? 

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  2. My bf had cheated me. I love him truely and don’t want to lost him . Now he finding negative points in me and always try to fight with me . I dnt want to lost him what should i do to make him stick on me only and to become perfect in his view?

    • Hey. I got out of a relationship very similar to yours. I stuck around for 6 year, an nothing changed. He did the ultimate betrayal, which was, he went an told his ex ALL of our personal business…even down to the sex. The entire time, he was telling me that he wasn’t talking to her. I had to findbout from her all ofbour business he had told her. Even then, I tried to be with him because I loved him so much. But after a while, I found muself trying to hold on to someone thay wasn’t trying to hold on to me. I couldn’t trust him after he told her all of these things. So then, hetried to find any and everything to complain about just to start an argument because he knew that I would leave. After not talking to him for a while, I would get a txt from saying, “I’m horny,” or, “Can I borrow some money.” I had to realize, even though he did the ultimate betrayal, I was still trying to be that woman for him; all the while, he wasn’t trying to be that man for me. I notice that I became a convenience for him. So my advice to you is, if he’s not showing that interest you need him to show, then you will just become a convenience for him at some point. You can’t make a man love you or be with you if he doesn’t want the relationship anymore. You can be everything he wants you to be, but if he lost interest some time ago, you are just wasting your time. Just don’t put up with for 6 years like I did. I know its hard, but move on. You can aleays get a better guy. I hope this helps. Good Luck.

    • Tbh I can tell you now he’s not good for you and the only was to get him to see your pain is to hurt yourself really badly, which is really sad but guys don’t just see pain in your eyes or your tears they need to see something worse to understand what they have done to you, also try not to get to attached it hurts to much when the guy breaks your heart and don’t let him take advantage of you. If the guy knows you really love him more than he loves you he is more likely to use you and cheat again…
      I know this from experience

  3. My bF cheated on me with an uglier, no selF respect and brainless girl. I don’t know what he likes about the girl. IF i let them be together i know their relationship won’t last because i know the girl’s personality. Assuming, deceitFul. Even her current husband doesn’t care about her. She’s been depressed and lonely and cries every night cos her hubby doesn’t care. Talk about KARMA!

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  5. My bf broke up with me bc he doesnt get that im not fake and he ..flipped out bc i never facetime him or anything and i was gonna go to the movies with my friend ..And i invited him and they cancled the movies and he thinks im fake bc..he thinks i never want to meet up with him ..what should i do ❓

  6. Absolutely , they need only sex n nothing much ….. its been two months since (.separation ), bcoz I heard him having mob x with a mean gal , he did break my hope n every thing , guess he shd be A play boy kind of thing n he abandoned me after using mee …that’s disgusting abttt him …..know, it feel s good to love someone n to be loved by someone , but gals know ur limit in every thing never fall for any cheater like me
    …… n am all set now , even ,kinda enjoying liberty after a long time …)

  7. Hi I been dating my bf going on 3 yrs. He’s been very abusive and I just got comfortable it’s hard to leave. I feel alone lost confused. In his emails he try to hide these dating sites he signs on okcupid, xmeeting, meetme, instabang. I don’t understand why he would loose interest in me. He says I am ugly cause I Spanish not a white rich girl. I need help

    • i hated reading what you wrote re your bf
      he is mean and you do need help : any local sources – or girl groups? i myself have just been cheated on but dont live with him and after confronting him and slapping him a few times
      we walked our separate ways

    • Ann, There is no place in love for abuse. You deserve to be treated with respect in a relationship and need to leave. Thanks for reaching out and telling your story. Please call or chat with a HopeCoach that cares anytime 24/7 at 800.394.4673. If you want to download our free app to your phone to chat, call, email and get encouraged here is the link to download it. http://thehope.dm/thlmobileapp

  8. They cheat because they can.

  9. absolutely correct the two reasons u gave in last para
    “Two reasons: either he never gets caught or he is allowed to do so by girlfriends who keep taking him back.”
    more importantly for this kinda boys itz no use of giving chances to correct themselves

  10. The last 3 years of our 4 year relationship was just a big lie! At the end….we brought out the worst of each other.Just a big NIGHTMARE! I didn’t respect him enough & he took my love granted! Now looking back on the so called relationship, I should of walked away after proposing to me, I knew there was something not right!I asked him if he was Gay….he chuckled; and said No! Later…I asked him if he was married! It was like pulling teeth……but he finally said YES!

  11. Come to find out he had lied to me, even stupid little things were a lie…..The cheating was right in my face by the end; I wasn’t taking all the riff raft very well(at all)! Its weird how we act when we just don’t know what to do…when we’ve been betrayed(or at least I didn’t! ) He told this woman he loved her right in my face! I freaked out,swinging, hitting, punching him….braking my pinky finger! It made me crazy…and NO ONE WANTS TO HEAR IT, so who do you talk to?!

  12. – Well sometimes guys cheat bcoz they get bored or they simply just can’t get what they want from you but that doesn’t make it right thou , someone cheated on me too but what really hurt was that it was with one of my “friends” that knew about us turns out she was a real bisshh that just want my bf …

  13. I was chrated on in my face and while i was there. Fisical, emotional and mental abused for 18 years. Normaly if i was in right mind he would regret ever knowing and he would be gone from the first moment. But i was severely disable from car accident on several nsrcotics that kept me passive and numb. I loved him with all my heart and soul. Every told me to get rid of him that i can do better. The thought putting him out with no where to go and no money would tear me to pieces and felt sorry for him and rstionalizing thath he had a hard before i made some one out of him making so much more money and not work hard but smsrt. He would quit jpbs or walk off. He knew i was his leaning post. Once he did some thing frightening i came to my sences and it hurt me to the core to finsly reslize and accept the truth of him not loving but hated me for pressing two abuse charges on him. I started packing my clothes and making preparstion to get away from him. That is whem he kissed both of my hands telling me i am a good wife. Too latevak on my way out the door never to return. I was cold as ice no feelings. Signed off lease left every thing as it was my apartment to begin with and he was not working but i paid all bills and rent then walk away proudly. Started divorsce proseedings and supported him for one year and a moth to give him a chance to find work and get on his feet. After all that he continued to ask for help then i finaly said i am cutting all support. For well over a year up until two days ago after repeated told him not to not call or tex any more that we should accept is over and move on. This time he let go i have not hrard from him in two days. I lost weight and over came my suppose to be permanemtly disable. I no longer need care and getting back on my feet. While he struggles to barely survive. The last time he ask me for money i told him to get from the pu_ _ _ he is fu_ _ _g.
    Am gone baby and feeling good!

  14. I have given up hope..three years now since or child and she may ask for sex 4 times a year..leaving me to a lot of late nights and allot of porno..I work I pay bills take care of my family.yet any time no matter how long it’s been since the last time I asked her about it she gets upset and says that’s all I care about..I’m 34 and she’s 27 to me that should make for a healthy sexual relationship…I don’t want to cheat…I’ve been cheated on…ANYONE :-[

  15. Hey its really true story. Think that me right this. thanks

  16. Davied don’t cheat her just leave her and don’t wast years of ur life coz they’re worthy and u can find someone who’s better ,,but if u love her try to fix the situation with her but don’t cheat cheating leads to a very hard heart breaking

  17. I barely can move my neck its so soar.. excuse my spelling.my phone picks up my words slow because I type fast

  18. I have a friend who is dating a guy I like and never once told me he asked her out until I confronted her and now they are couple. I feel hurt because she is hiding it and when I mentioned it all she says is I don’t have to tell you everything. I feel she has been dishonest with me and now I have been giving her the cool treatment. my question is shouldn’t she have told me. I’m so hurt by this feel that she can’t be trusted. not even really about the guy now its our friendship. any comments on this

    • Hi,
      She has not behaved like a true friend and cannot be trusted.

    • Honestly I don’t think she should have to tell you, as a friend it’s a choice, if she knew you liked him yes this can be a toll on your friendship but if it was just an honest mistake don’t worry about it,

    • Transparency =friendship

  19. A guy i’m dating ( for 4 months) says he doesn’t like to french kiss because its too intimate.
    Any thoughts …. Anyone?

    • I just suggest talking to him about it, obviously you can’t force anyone to do anything but if it’s too intimate, why are you two dating?

  20. Kat are you really into him .. if not then drop him like it’s hot and find someone thats more you … and if you are into him let him know how you feel about it and if he doesn’t take it in to consideration tell him about himself in the nicest way you can and if he dont like that sets off some signs of how he”d act in the future of you guys relationship

  21. I was separated from my husband and started seeing an old friend whose relationship was “winding down” . We began a passionate relationship. He broke up with her then got back with her and lied to us both. So for 3 years he lied to her and for 6 months lied to me AND her. What kind of a man does this?

    • He married her for a reason. If a man cheats on his woman with another, he is very likely to do it with the next woman he is with.

    • The kind that doesn’t mind doing it.
      The kind that got away with it.
      So we as partners aren’t supposed to be inquisitive, look for clues on their phones, search history if we have a hunch bc then we just being crazy, but if we are trusting of them and they cheat, there is an overwhelming feeling of stupidity on our part for… Not being smarter and noticing the signs.

    • I was with a man for 11 years and just found out yesterday all the lies he told me and that his wife he supposedly left and was divorcing was sleeping with him and living with him the whole time! I talked to his wife. This is how I found out. He lied to her too. When he went with me on weekend vacation he told her he needed time to himself and slept in his car. We were getting married on my birthday in September, we picked out rings, I picked out a dress. We even chose the location and at sunset on the beach. Only to find out he still had a wife. What kind of man does this? He was not a man. He was a little boy, who got his hand caught in the cookie jar. I believe his wife of 20 years is forgiving him and I was left with a broken heart and unbearable pain. Leave, don’t cheat. He still is unaware that I know everything. He is on a romantic weekend with his forgiving wife. To men and women who cheat; so much damage is done. The pain is something beyond anything that I have ever known. Leave. Don’t cheat.

  22. I have been dating my guy for 4yrs in the beginning I thought it was nothing serious I made a mistake and cheated on him but I confess to him for three months I received silent treatment and after alot of pleading he said he forgive me but for the past 2yrs out of the 4 it been one cheating to another I have photo proof kissing and smiling together but he never take a picture with me and every time I caught him he his always saying sorry am tired of the relationship but I don’t know how to end it I always find myself going back to him. .please what should I do. .

    • Break up with him. If he comes back he cares. Imagine your life like that for the future years, is that what you want? But if he does, i wouldn’t except him back. It would be allowing him to do it to you and to the next girl he is with.

    • He’s a man so his pride won’t ever let him forgive you walk away sweetheart

    • My bf and I have a history we have known each other for 6 years and have a 5 year old together. We only started dating in 2013 and I caught him cheating on me with a hooker on his birthday and the day before a planned romantic getaway weekend. When he came home he told me he didn’t know why and it only happened once and will never do it again he love me and doesn’t want to lose me but I am deeply hurt I can hardly look him in the eyes. Idk what to do.

      • That would be really hard to forgive. Not sure I could do it.

    • pray and read the bible….surrender your life to Jesus christ….He wil lead your life….this is best solution that I can give you….

    • Be done with that!!

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  24. I need advice..I’ve been divorced for 10 yr I started to date someone younger than I, not knowing it would turn into a wonderful relationship. ..He is very confident respectful hardworking man with no criminal record, …I’m clear in my mind as to what I’m in need I am not confused…though one glitch he has a girlfriend he has been with for 6 years..it’s been a year since we’ve enjoyed each other’s company…I’m wondering if perhaps this is just a messed up situation?? Any advice …As I don’t date married men….and he has no children!!…yet family oriented

    • Run. He had 2 women at one time. He was able to manage both. (Lying and so forth) I’m guessing he hasn’t left this girl of 6 years. And I don’t know of how everything stopped for you two…but He sounds like a, for lack of better words, player. If you want a good relationship keep looking. Last thing you want is to be the girlfriend of 6 years and he’s found someone else to spend time with.
      Just remember that could be you someday. And no matter what he says (cause sweet talkers are usually liars) think about what you really want. What’s best for you. And imagine yourself years from now. Where do you want to be. Do whatever makes you happy. Cause you are the one who has to life your life. Trust your instincts, if it feels wrong then it probably is.

    • His a player . That’s what they do . They make you feel wonderful . Unfortunately I really feel for his girl of 6 yes cuz I am sure she loves him and if she finds out it will devast her .
      Woman code : Don’t be that home wreaker

    • please dont do this. I was in relation with one guy for last 9 years. he cheated me. I was not aware about her second GF. The day i came to know he told me to get lost. Now m alone not even getting guy to marry bcoz i have waisted my good time n age. I have no option now m just struggling….

  25. I’m not exactly sure where to begin. I needed advice and finally turned to the internet which I found pathetic, until now..
    I have always been the kind to leave one relationship and jump into another, I don’t know why but that’s just how it usually was. The one I was with would do me wrong and then i would jump into another relationship. Maybe to feel wanted, needed, i never really gave myself time to think or grieve in between them. In the past i never did a guy wrong, i would rarely text other guys flirt on occasion but nothing terrible, I never physically cheated, until now.
    I have been with John for 1 year and 3 months. I started dating him right after i broke up with a guy who had cheated on me. Our relationship isn’t exactly perfect but we try to do the best we can for each other. At first it was absolutely amazing, perfect, passionate, I didn’t know him for that long, a few weeks, until i slept with him. We were in the moment and the tension was insane, but it was amazing and i do not regret it. I’ll also just go ahead and add that sex is something that i love. On paper John is the perfect man, handsome, has a great job, sweet, caring, doing what he can to make me happy and i doing the same for him. We went through a lot together. I was with him for about 9 months i think when i cheated on him the first time, it was just a few kisses. I told him about it before anyone else could say anything to him, but i didn’t tell him the truth, i told him that the guy was drunk and didn’t mean to and apologized for it the next day, that was the story i made up and i stuck with it, i am very good at telling lies and making them believe every word of it, he always believes everything i say. the second time i cheated it was with an older man about 28, at first i was jus going to his apartment and we would watch movies and cuddle, then it turned into kisses, then it turned into sex, mind bowling sex. I kept that going for about a little over a month then i told the older man that i couldn’t do it anymore, i can’t keep cheating on John for the rest of my life. During that month and a half i took a one week break with John that i was hoping would turn into a breakup because i kept telling myself, If i love John so much and I’m happy with him why do i feel the need to cheat and get attention from other men? So after the older man faded out some how John got rumors of me sleeping with this older man, true rumors, but i told him a story of how when we broke up for that week that we just had lunch a time or two because i needed someone to talk to and that he was helping me at the gym. Well of course John believed everything i was saying, I’m not proud of it at all i hate it and i hate myself. Then recently At the gym i met a guy named Josh, a stand up guy who’s into fitness as much as i am great personality, hilarious, great body, and he does off shore drilling, so he has money. It started off harmless but i knew it was going to end badly. I got his number he meets me at the gym we train, we flirt, we talk, its great. I talked to Josh about my relationship and why I felt the need to get attention from other people and when i meet someone why i feel the need to rethink my relationship and rethink why I’m with john, i didn’t tell josh that I’ve slept with another man while being with John .Josh would tell me that its not healthy and i need to end it because it will only get worse. Im unsure if he’s being truthful or if he’s saying that because he’s into me. So i think things through and call John and not necessarily tell him i want to break up but i tell him we have problems and that I’m just not happy anymore, and he’s wanting to do everything he can to keep me, buy me anything, give me anything, do anything for me to stay, saying When he thinks of us he sees a house, a family, a future. I told him i was flirting with other men at the gym and giving out my number if a guy asked, he asked if i ever cheated of course i told him no.
    Im still very unsure of what to do i want to leave but i want to stay i know if i stay i will most likely just go back to cheating.
    A part of me wants to leave but a part of me wants to stay, if i keep cheating then John maybe isn’t giving me everything i need to be happy.
    Another thing stopping me is that I HATE doing breakups, there is so much emotion, and so much crying and they always want a reason why.
    When John knew i was thinking about leaving, he told me that if i left he can’t guarantee that there will be a chance of us getting back together. That scares me, what if i leave and its completely wrong and i can’t come back to John? That’s one of the things keeping me from leaving.
    -I know i need help with this. please give me some insight on what i maybe should do or consider doing. i can’t keep doing this forever…

    • Just break up with him. Your not satisfied with him if you are cheating, tell him the truth about cheating and go your separate ways.

    • I think you need to grow up and break it off for him this man is going to end up finding out everything and won’t ever trust you if he really loves you he will end up staying with you and tryingg to work it out or dump you. You need to end it before he’s hurt by someone he cares for, let him fall out of love so that when he finds out he was cheated on multiple times maybe he won’t be so depressed.

    • Break up with him and tell him the truth of why. It will get the guilt off your chest and give him a chance to be happy. Its being selfish to do this to him. If theres no trust or communication, theres no relationship.

    • You’re only hurting this man. If you care about him u dont want to hurt him and lying is just laughing at his face when he trust you. End the relationship and let him grieve and let him find a girl who won’t take his trust and love for granted.

      • Quite agree there

    • Heyy, I love this story. If you really like him, don’t hurt/lie to him. What you did isn’t right but at the same time everybody messes up, right? To be straight up, tell him. If he really loves you he’ll forgive you. If not to heck with it, its not meant to be & wish each other the best.

    • Take responsibility for yourself. You cheated period. You should come clean and break up with John. You don’t love John. You only think you do. If you really did then you wouldn’t have cheated on him. You’re just using him to boost your ego. Truth is you’re bored of him because he’s too nice. He’s too accommodating. You wanted some excitement in your life, so you decided to sneak around and cheat because it gives you a rush. Go find someone you actually want to be with.

    • You thought you were ready but you weren’t were you? The truth is it sucks all around. Maybe John and you both deserve better. Hee deserves to be loved right just as much as you do. The thing that hurts is that your actions and lack of actions have consequences that Will ultimately harm both of you and ant others involved. Cheating is cheating. Emotional or physical…its cheating. If we can’t be honest with ourselves who the help can we be honest with then? This is not to judge…but I know a pretty similar story to yours. Bottom line …stop protecting yourself honey and do what’s right. That means putting another first before your desires. That means being honest when it hurts and acknowledging that you messed up. But also know you can find forgiveness of yourself in the long run. You see, its not even about extra attention. Because you Will become bored with everyone. When we love people the excitement dies down, the butterflies aren’t always there. We become accommodating because we Danny to make others happy. There’s nothing wrong with you wanting to be happy…but happiness isn’t found only in the thrills. Its found beyond that. Until you figure that out, everyone after Will always morf into a “John”. Sad thing is…when you’re finally ready to settle down…I mean really, you’re going to want a “John” but may not realize what you want you had. Grass isn’t always greener. Just my thoughts. Doesn’t make them true for you and your story necessarily.
      Wishing you the best “Rebecca” and I hope a true wisdom and clarity Will guide you past only fleshy desires.

    • if you really cared about john, you wouldn’t hurt him like this. just because he doesn’t know the truth DOESN’T MEAN IT DIDN’T HAPPEN. it happened- YOU MADE IT HAPPEN- you cheated, therefore YOU HURT HIM.
      stop hurting him. you clearly are aware you have issues in relationships. you should break up with john and figure out what your issues are and work towards fix them so your future relationships won’t suffer.
      on another note, you may be cheating because you were cheated on in your last relationship. you want to know what it feels like to ‘be bad.’ john doesn’t deserve this. you need to cut it off so he can go find someone that wouldn’t do this to him.

      • Solid answer. Best reply I’ve seen so far. :3

        • I agree Rebecca needs to end things with John & then revaluate her life..

      • Work on loving yourself Rebecca take at least a year break from relationships & men altogether to work on yourself & all your hurt, pains & frustrations from all your relationships. Learn who you really are inner self confidence. Figure out what makes you happy. If you don’t have the confidence or will power to break up when your not wanting to be with someone then your not ready for a relationship. Only be in a relationship for yourself & no one else. If you truly care about someone you’ll never want to hurt them. Hurting someone is hurting not only them but yourself. After every relationship you need to take time to get to know yourself again. It takes half the time of a relationship you were in to get over someone. Always take the time to work on yourself first every time before getting back in a relationship. Remember how hurt You were any time you think to cheat & never do that to anyone again. Be Vulnerable when your ready.

    • Personally I am not a cheater but I am on the other end of it, hence why I am reading this article. I think you do need to break up with him because he does not deserve this.. He sounds like a good guy and you don’t want to tear someone apart. The damage is perminant sometimes. Trust me. And I think you need to stay away from all men and work on your self esteem so that you don’t feel the need to get attention from other guys. I also badly need to work on my self esteem. Not really sure how to go about it but if you could at least get in touch with your self worth and be honest with yourself about how you feel/think about yourself. Cheating can lower yourself esteem and the number of guys you hook up with can affect it too.

    • Just tell John the truth be a lady. The truth will set you free. He will be crushed but get over and move on just like you.

    • I think your problem is you don’t love yourself. You hate yourself, you said it a few times in your post. When you’ll love yourself, you’ll be able to love a man and you will never think of any other. Once you fall (litterally fallin his arms) in love, the world will stop turning and you’ll see nothing else. It’s a beautiful, powerful feeling and you will never cheat on him. Work on yourself before going to another lover and breaking the hearts of nice men all over the place.

    • While first of all if you tell him it’s going to hurt him in if u don’t tell him it’s going to hurt him so u still going to hurt him

      • Hurting him was cheating on him, now he deserves the truth.
        I think it’s lame when someone who has cheated says they’re keeping it a secret bc they’re afraid to hurt their partner. Weren’t too afraid to hurt your partner to cheat though… all that is, is not wanting to listen to their partner’s pain they caused.

    • You actually have problems with relationships. If you like to betray and lie you should not be dating. Option 1. Go be single and have sex with whoever and remain single.
      Option 2. Learn to be a person that can be trusted and honest. And only date when you actually want a relationship.

      • Agree about the issue being her.

    • You are never going to be satisfied. It is who you are in the here and now. The great thing is you have admitted that you have a problem. You truly need professional help only a trained professional can help you with. It is best to leave everyone alone and find yourself and the root of your problem. People are human, emotions are real. Someone may find you out and return the favor of cheating or worse hurt you physically. PLEASE. Get out and let them find the commitment they deserve elsewhere.

    • Wow!!!Sounds like you just NEED ALOT OF GROWING UP TO DO,YOUR BODY WASNT INTENDED TO BOUNCE AROUND FROM MEN TO MEN,YOU HAVE LOW SELF ESTEEM AND NEED TO WORK ON THAT!!!!VALUE YOURSELF WHILE YOUR STILL YOUNG,ITS NEVER TO LATE!!!!

    • Put yourself in John’s shoes. How would you feel? Imagine that if you stayed with John, and you fell preg to another man; how do you plan to lie about that? What happens if he asks for blood tests, if he thinks the kid isn’t his; then what? Most people think, this will never happen to them, but the truth is…it does. If he’s had doubts you were going to leave; then sorry hon, he prob already expects the cheating. Just too hurt to say. Think of the future consequences, if you continue. Not just for John, but for yourself. Please seek counseling as for there might be some mental issues.

    • You will repeat the pattern. I am older, I have been you. The problem is you are looking to these relationships to fill a gap in you. Many times it can be from not getting enough attention in childhood. I jumped from man to man until I was 30. They were all great guys. I found excuses to abandon them all. I finally stopped the madness, went through 3 therapists to find the right one and took 3 years to work on me. Only then was I emotionally healthy enough to have what it took to truly love and be loved. Cheating is a huge red flag that you need to work on yourself. A cheater puts their fulfillment ahead of their partner and the level of selfishness we have to be able to cheat in the first place makes us incapable of loving and being loved. Once we know our worth, we no longer need to be selfish. We can be content. We don’t need the excitement of cheating when we feel whole. If you want a beautiful life and relationship, spend time working on you. You may not believe this, its’ not about the sex as much as you think.

  26. I really needed advice and the truth was staring me right in the face. He told me all these sweet stuff and I held out. After we had sex he began to change. I figured he was cheating but I didn’t want to believe it until I saw a picture he posted on Instagram while on a 2 week vacation hugged up on another girl. I can’t believe this. I put up with so much. When he gets back I’m telling him it’s OVER.

  27. My boyfriend of 10 months has cheated on me through the internet multiple times. He lies about it when I’m suspicious and when I found out he said he was lonely. If he doesn’t want to be faithful why does he want to be with me?

    • Because your his security blanket if nothing works out he has you to fall back on.

      • Exactly!!

        • I totally agree my child’s father is a serial cheater I mean how much can a talk really leave him because you’ll end up really hateing I was that girl

    • This is kind of what I went through. Was told my man cheated on me with his ex the entire time of us being together. he denies everything of course He didn’t trust her at all going her phone, but he’d be with me. I am realizing I am his security blanket because he can trust me.

  28. K so this started in middle school for me … he was a good friend in elementary school but sooner or later we started developing feelings for eachother… OR SO I THINK!!! .. :'( …yea I know guys are immature at this age and stuff but he was very sweet and wasn’t a bad boy he gave me hugs and kissed me on the cheek .. we would play together oh yah especially in class xD etc …… So I’m bummed because I have NO classes with him … I only see him when school starts and he walks by or lunch or the end of the day Or when switching classes but looking at eachother dosent last very long so :T…..K after 2 weeks or so I heard the school started gossiping about my bf dating this girl who I had no clue who she was… So at the end of class where cariders leave me and my friend/s would sneak in the gym where my bf was. THATS when I met his gf yah talk bout awkward. . Especially after i’ve been huging my bf infront of her having no clue he really was dating anyone …Till his friend one day came up to me saying I’m a stalker .. and said I hugged him infront of his GF .. I waslike wtf are you talking about?!?!?! Gf?!?! Yep he was with someone else who Was an awful gf like no love to him… so he still glances at me or says sup at lockers.. AND WHATS SAD IS I STILL LIKE HIM… I BLUSH OR DONT LOOK OR TALK WHEN HES THERE I JUST HIDE LOOK a WAY or walk off … I just want to have a chance to talk with him… WHATS WORSE IS MY FRIEND ADMITTED SHE LIKED MY BF ALL ALONG!!!! :'( I think about him but ik he’s just controlling me SO GOODBYE USE TO BE BF …

  29. my bf left me because of a fight :'( I cant get over him. i love him alot. i text him all they day but he doesnot reply. :'( He thinks that we are totally different. and because in that fight i abused him because i was angry :'( Now i am apologizing from one month :'(

    • Hey everyone my name is Lisa and um 20yrs old me and my son father met in march been together for 2yrs relationship was good at first until we finally got to know each other for after two yrs once I had a falling out with my family once before at the time and I ask my bby ddy could I plz move in with him but he had to ask his mom permission to ask can I stay first but she told him yea that I can stay so u know as I move in start staying we was getting along goof until one day I saw that his character start to change and I knowed the reason y I woke up one morning something in my mind told me to go look through his phone but I was scared to but as when I go to get his phone up my stomach went to start hurting really bad all the sudden like I ate something horrible like it made my stomach hurt or something cause I bad did gut filling bout what of matter I cought him talking to other girls I didn’t expect or know bout so went through texts message in saw a texts I never expect for him to be doing behind my back texts other g flirting with them just telling them sweet stuff so once I saw that I took the phone and showed him and confront him about it and it seem like he got a fended boy it like madness so we both went to hard down agrueing about it and I told him I didn’t want to be with him no more what mean u ladies what u think?

  30. Mine’s the other way around. He has a girl. Well technically, when I met him online they already broke up. After more than a month of texting and flirting, I found out they were together again. It hurts so bad because we’re still texting and he’s still flirting with me, and I keep on pretending I don’t know about it. I really like him tho. And I can feel he likes me too. He lives in another country and it just hurts to know that in the morning till who knows what time and what they are doing, she gets to be with him and at night, he talks to me like idk, sweet talks and things and we’d be doing things. I don’t have to mention it tho. I told him, I thought you forgot about me, he said That’s impossible. I’ve been getting hints like he really wants to tell me they are together again, but he just wont say it. What should I do? Should I tell him that I already know? It would be so shameful cause he’d know I have been stalking him. Who won’t if you were in my shoes. He lives in the other part of the world and idk 🙁

    • Honestly stoptalking to him. Think about this he gets to be with another girl, mess around with her and drag you along. What would make you think that’s ok for you. Your better than that. And deserve a man of honesty and he deserves the same.

  31. Hello. I am a confident, 23 year old mother. I have been in a relationship with the same man for 3 years. He cheated on me and we have broken up countless times.
    I was a great girlfriend up until the cheating. I was everything you would want a girlfriend to be. I think it was because I not only loved him, but had complete trust in him. I would have done anything for him.
    He cheated on me 1 year and a half into our relationship. I was 5 months pregnant with his child. And we were committed to one another. Or so I thought.
    We worked at the same place for a long time. Then I got transferred to another shift due to my pregnancy. I worked days and he worked nights. He ended up moving to his mother’s house. It was closer to work and more convenient. He stopped caring, started picking fights with me, and pretended like nothing was wrong to friends and family. He stated talking about how he has cheated on all of his other girlfriends but not me. He was too tired to do anything with me ever, and he was grumpy and defensive.
    I ended up stealing his phone while he was at work, and called the number that was unfamiliar. She said he worked with her and they got close. He had taken her to hotels and they had been together for a month. I ambushed him. I picked up the girl he was lying to and we confronted him. She yelled and I stood there with a half smile. He stared at me for the longest time, didn’t explain himself cause he knew he couldn’t lie to me, and he ran away.
    A few days later he ends up on his knees begging me to be with him. Apologizing and crying angle turning to god for answers. After a while of that I forgave him and we got back together. He promised he’d never hurt me again. And that he would work on himself. He wanted to do whatever it would take to fix this and to be together forever.
    My problem is that I haven’t trusted him since. It’s been almost 2 years since then. But I can’t forget and I can’t shake it off. I can’t pretend it’s okay. We have broken up many times since then. I break up with him every chance I get. Usually when I’m scared of him. Or he’s being really mean again. Or he starts acting the way he used to. Every time we break up he has the phone number of a girl from work. And at the same time he is chasing me trying to get me back.
    He still works at the place where he found his cheating partner. And it’s a place that has hundreds of women and he is in a position where he had to talk to tons of them. I am scared of him. I have a horrible feeling like he will cheat again. And the phrase “once a cheater always a cheater” has been ringing through my head…..and it won’t stop. Do you think he will cheat again? And do you think I’m wrong to question him? Is it wrong to feel trapped and want to run away?

    • You’re confused Liz. u can’t just break up and get back together like a yoyo. What happens during the short periods ur broken up? are you both trying it on with different people? or if not, what is the point in ‘breaking up’ countless times… u are both still alive, living your lives (presumably ur quite close to each other) and u know each other. Your relationship with someone cannot be paused and played like that. its not natural and doesn’t make sense. no wonder you are both so confused.

    • Look up for narcissist personality disorder. He hás the hallmarks

    • Yes..because you except it when he comes crawling back

  32. There are loads of reasons why good guys cheat which is simply because women have high expectations of their BFs and for whatever reason women create complications e.g. if their not in the mood they usually selfishly fake illness and flake at the last min on date. It doesn’t matter if the guy booked an expensive night out; women can flake on a date at anytime leaving a good guy hurt and confused.
    Women nowadays are the pickest they have been in decades thanks to social networking sites; making life easier for them to pick and choose what kind of man they can have and use for attention.
    My final point is that when it comes to love and relationships in the early stages most women kick nice guys to the curb because they didn’t feel an instant sexual connection…….like in the movies. Had they given the nice man a chance they could have had better experiences in dating world.

    • I totally disagree with you. AND you saying that gives women a bad name with what you make seem, no true emotions. Have u ever thought that maybe it’s the women that you look for to confirm an insecurity within ur self. Bc I can tell u not all women are as u describe and I’m sorry.you think that. For you.to say that we pick and chose and kick men to the curb. Are you serious and look at society as a whole not what u have experienced for yourself not every women is what u describe and not every man is what you describe. I’m sorry this has happened for you. Sick it up grow up and remove labels, stereotypes and conditions. You might actually meet a nice girl that can have a chance with your judgemental mind and u could have a better time in the dating world

  33. something happened to me with a guy that I thought cared about me….he told me he was going to leave his gf for me but then the next day he told me that I was just some girl he wanted to

  34. he just wanted to do me everyonce in a while and then always go back to his gf..so that hurt then he just kept saying stuff that was rly messed up to try to get me back but that’s not going to happen I need some advice

  35. I slept with a guy while I was drunk. He has a girlfriend. He’s always had a crush on me and I recently became single. He implied that he wants to be with me but I don’t know if I could trust him since he cheated with me. I would love to sleep with him again but I refuse to because he has a girlfriend. I’m not sure what I should do since I’ve kind of started to get feelings for him.

  36. What does it mean when you catch your bf cheating after 4yrs and he will not even talk to you. He called back once to complain about money and messing him over then just hangs up. Is it a sign that he doesn’t even love me if he didn’t even try to talk to me. I left him some message about how i felt, it will be one week tomorrow that i haven’t talk to him.

    • He has either stopped caring altogether or wants you to believe that he has.

  37. well some guy just don’t know how to stand the responsibility even tho they ve a good girl they thing that it is best to cheat on that one girl. i kinda hate man but dat is something i will ve to live with all the day of my life.

  38. My boyfriend and i have been together for awhile. We both were doing great and moved in together. We are young, but we are each others first real relationship. At one point a couple month ago he started always hanging out with this girl, that people were asking me if we broke up cause they always saw them together. So i told him i did not like it and so he stopped talking her. But when i borrowed his phone to go on facebook i saw that he has messaged her, and what i saw was very concerning. He says he has never went over to her house, and that they have watched a movie but it was with a group of people. He said that she was getting very strange because she was getting very clingy and weird so that is why he had no problem stopping talking with her. But then when i see these messages by the looks of it she is upset, thats why they stopped talking. He swears up and down he did not cheat on me and that he wouldn’t but this is the second time i have thought he was cheating. I know i am not a very trusting person, but i trusted him until i seen the messages.

  39. Hey there!
    I need some advice!!
    Well my situation is a bit different. I went for few drinks with a friend of mine that has a girlfriend. I didn’t expect anything from him, though I always thought he was good looking. Then he told me that he broke up with his girlfriend and he started to flirt with me and all. Well I ended up all drunk, I know it’s not an excuse but well we had sex. And then in the morning he told me that he wanted to keep it to ourselves because he wasn’t properly seperate from his girlfriend… I was really pissed off when I heard that. And well he just said that he needed some time to think about the whole situation.. (he has been dating her for a year or so, but now they leave in different countries since september)
    I was stupid enough to believe him and I gave him space… I didn’t hear from him for a month and then suddenly he texted me.. He wanted to meet and said that he thought a lot about me. I was really surprised because I wasn’t thinking about him anymore. He tried to convince me to come to his place. Well then I explained to him that I didn’t want to feel like a shit about his girlfriend twice. And he told me that he understands. But then he asked me if I told anybody about us, and said sorry if he ever hurted me. I barely answered that I was fine. He just kept texting saying that he wanted to keep talking to meand that he didn’t want tobe bad between us.
    I just don’t understand him. Anyway I didn’t reply. All I wonder about is why did he contacted me again after such a long time? I mean there are plenty of other girls to sleep with.
    Sorry for the long text..

  40. I need help… It’s killing me.
    So this guy I’ve known him since I was little and we’ve always had a thing. Well him and his girlfriend have been off and on for about 3 years now we hooked up a couple times when they broke up. But also when they were together.. He says that he sees me and him getting together in the future and that he can’t deal with breakup that’s why he’s still with her? What does this mean I don’t know what to do… I’m so sick of sneaking around and being told this stuff. Like why does he keep messing around with me she gives him sex and everything why does he wanna mess around with me?! Like I like him a lot and I’ve talked about why? And he just says bc I like you and I always get talked into it. Help
    Please
    😭

    • I think he’s exercising his player muscle. He has a woman already… dodge!!

  41. i think you just got used to guys doing bad stuff to you and now you don”t know and appreciate when a good man is with you….you really need help

  42. I have been with this guy for 2 years. He cheated on me once and got caught. It has been 8 months now, and I don’t trust him one bit. He keeps on lying. Today, I caught him lying again. This time, he was talking to the cheating girlfriend’s sister. He had told me it was one of his mates from work. I found out and I went crazy. I was really serious about him. I would have done anything for him. But he kept on lying, and todAy I broke up with him. It hurts like hell. But I know, once a cheater, always a cheater. Who knows how many more lies he has told me.

  43. Okay so I need help. I’ve been dating this guy for 2 years now. And our relationship is hard to explain. But I’ll try to explain the best I can. He has never been with a girl that’s never cheated on him, or that was even remotely good looking at all. So I’m his first girlfriend that’s one, never cheated and two not bad looking. He’s 22 and I’m 19. Weve had MANY ups and downs. Where some end in us just throwin down on each other. Neither of us cheat. We are really loyal, that I’m aware of. But we constantly argue and fight over stupid crap. He also watches porn. And knew I didn’t like it and we’ve had constant fights over that, til I finally stopped caring about it. But we never have broken up. And we always for some reason stay together. Im with him every weekend. And like idk

  44. I got a phone call from my boyfriend today, or so I thought. When I answered, it was a woman. She told me she has been dating him for a month and they love each other. I have been with this guy for 5 months now.
    I have so many questions to ask him but I don’t know if I should or not. I’ve been cheated on before but none of them felt as bad as this one. I still want to be with him. I don’t know what I did to make him do this to me. I don’t know what to do. Please help me!

    • you didn’t do ANYTHING to ‘make him do this to you.’ he cheated- HE is the one that has problems with commitment and making false promises.
      the only other scenario is- you’ve made the relationship out to be better than it actually is. have you had the exclusivity talk with him? have you met his friends and family? in some cases, girls might think the guy is really serious about them when reality he is just ‘having fun’ and not serious about a future with you.
      you should DEFINITELY confront him. be prepared to stand your ground though. really press him with SPECIFIC questions so he can’t weasle out or answer vaguely. ‘did you kiss, did you have sex, how often do you talk to her…..’ at the end of it, if he was cheating on you- emotionally or otherwise, LEAVE HIM. if he did it once, he will do it again. it’s only been 5 months- you can find someone better that WON’T do this to you.
      AND he will learn his lesson and know that you are not the type of woman that would stand for his shit. if in the future he gets his shit together, he will remember you as the one woman that didn’t put up with his shit. he will respect you.
      right now, he has shown he does not respect you because he is willing to hurt you and the relationship by making another woman feel like she is in love with him. unless this other woman is mentally challenged, i severely DOUBT that he played no part in making her feel that way. he is at fault here. you need to make sure he knows it. the only way to do that is to leave.

  45. So I have a boyfriend he is 25 and I am 19 he has a kid with a girl that was just his booty call and lied to him about being on birth control and got pregnant thinking she was going to trap him. we have been together for two years he never really sees his is but at the end of the day it kills me to know that I’m always going to be second in his life .. Because he would rather choose his illegitimate child that he didn’t even want and had with a woman he didn’t love than the girl he claims to love and wants to start and build a family with 😭😭😭

    • Im sorry but that is selfish. it doesn’t matter that he didn’t want that child to being with it is his now and that child deserves a father who is going to put her first. i know it will be difficult but you should be encouraging him to spend more time with his daughter and this is coming from someone who has a father that never cared. if he does see you as someone who he will have a family with then you really have nothing to worry about wouldn’t it make you feel better to know that he loves his child and would do anything for her thus doing anything for any future you two may wish to have together. the fact that he doesn’t see her as much as he should seems like he is punishing the mother more than anyone else an that isn’t fair. im sorry but that just made me mad.

  46. Boys cheat because they feel they don’t have the attention they want from a girl and same thing with girls.📝📝✏✏💬💬✒✒📥📮📤💁💁💁

  47. Seriously I know

  48. I don’t know if it’s close to this subject but just need to let it out…
    Well…there is this guy i know him for more then 4 years now, and like we had a thing going on beofre he get a girlfriend. And we still do stuff and he doesn’t just seem like he just want the sex and fun with me. He acts like he we are more. But he always keep saying that he loves his girlfriend and that he will never let her go. I do like him, i just didn’t want to say anything because his girlfriend i know her. I guess you can say she’s my friend but i don’t really like her.
    But anyways, he does act like me and him is more then just sex and the fun. But that’s me.
    No one knows what me and him are doing besides him and i.
    I am a jealous person. And i do get jealous seeing them together. Even thought they get in trouble a lot, and so much things happen to them to break up. And i don’t want to be that one person to be like “oh yes. They broke up. Now i can get in and be with him all to myself.” i don’t want to be like that expectation that i do like him and i don’t like him being sad.
    So like yeah. I guess that’s all.

  49. They like another girl tha dont like u so they flirt wit them DEPRESS people

  50. I hope someone could answer me and give me some sort of idea of what to do or think. I have been with my fiance for 3 and half years. I do everything I can for him. I would assume that I am what most people would consider a great girlfriend. I take care of all the bills, chores, etc. Gosh I practically baby him. So for the past year he has just started to act different like he doesn’t care about us or me anymore. He can be so mean and hurtful and he admits to doing it on purpose. I found on his phone that he googled “How to tell your girlfriend you cheated” He said that nothing happened and I asked why he looked it up and he said he doesn’t know. What do I do? I don’t trust him now. What reason would a guy have to look this up if he didn’t do it? Please help me.

    • He did it. Just afraid to say it out loud to you.

  51. I’m in a relationship for 6 months now and I feel like I’m already in love. He claims he loves me as well but sometimes doesn’t show it. He always has an i don’t care type of attitude. .. I went through his phone one night and seen explicit photos of females. When I confronted him, he admit to it and apologized. Lately I’ve noticed that his phone is now practically glued to his pocket…..he cooks with it, bathes with it and even takes a crap with it. Me being the person that I am still some how found a way to get to that phone. When I went through it again he was still chatting with the same females sending sexual msgs. Once again he was confronted. He then admits and says that he was just chatting for the fun of it.
    I’m with this guy all the time plus he calls me from his job everyday and we last for hours talking on the phone . I don’t think he is physically cheating but I’m afraid eventually it will lead to that. Can anyone please share their thought and give me some advice. I don’t know of I should stay or leave his behind

  52. I have a wife that asks me me what time I finished work and then asks me what time I got back from work last nightand then asks me who I slepted with because I took 15 minutes extra to get home. The reason for the extra time was to give my supervisor a lift home which is 7 minutes out of my way to go home. Yes I did do the wrong thing previously and confessed to my wife and promised to stop but when I have not had sex in two months and my wife shows zero interest this level of questioning really hurts me when I have not cheated on her in over 19 months and I have had the opportunity offered to me on a plate and resisted. The fact that I would hurt my children and family constantly reminds me of what is at stake . However the lack of her interest and hurt full questioning is making me think about the long term outcome of me having enough suspicious hurtful questioning and calling it a day once the kids are older.
    I am getting to the point of refusing to answer these questions all together and saying I refuse to answer your questions as they are insulting to me.

  53. I dated a guy for two years and he actually treated me like a queen and i m so not kidding.we were school friends and knew each other really well..In the beginning he always used to compromise,was sweet to me even when i misbehaved,spent a lot of time with me,i knew where he was and what he was upto every minute so things were goingg greatt and gradually he started changing until one day i found him cheating at me and he accepted that and wasn’t willing to leave the other girl..I still cant believe what had happened and to this day even i havent been able to trust guyss..

  54. I’m confused about the “times” of cheating…1 time means he had have sex with another for 1 time? My ex had have sex with one woman for 5 times in the past 3 months while I was not around (we are LDR). And 3 weeks ago that woman sent me messages via my FB, until then i know he had being cheated on me. I’m his 2nd relationship and his previous one was 8 years and he never cheated before, so he insist he’s not a needy person who can’t resist temptation. They started since August after we had a big fight in July (at that time I wanted to leave him), he said its because he was extremely depressed and just hooked up with that woman for “causal sex”; so they had 4 times sex in the past 1.5 months until September, because we went for a vacation, after vacation, I fly to the city i work, and he returned. 1 week after he returned, they meet twice and had sex at the 2nd time meet, and that woman found my stuff in his place at the 3rd time they meet and then got angry, so she came to me to tell me all those ugly things my bf had done. Is he consider a serial cheater?

  55. How to define “1-time” cheater? or serial-cheater? My bf had have 5 times sex with one same woman while I was not around, and he never cheated before in his previous relationship (8+ years), does this 5 times sex consider him as cheated ONCE? or 5 times?

  56. How do you talk to your long term boyfriend about not talking to a certain girl? I know it’s rude and not fair to the guy sometimes, but my current issue is the girl is so desperately obvious that she wants to have sex with him. He responded by not saying anything and keeping the conversation going and then when she pathetically pursued he flat out said he wasn’t interested in sex. But when she brings up “oh you like my ___ don’t you?” he responds with a yes but continues the conversation. I don’t understand why he keeps talking to this girl if she won’t let up. She’s an old friend that’s always wanted to sleep with him but he’s always denied her. I just don’t understand. Currently an ex of mine (first boyfriend from five years ago) wants to sleep with me and he’s not as pathetic as this girl at least the ex flirts and tries to be nice instead of flat out saying it. But nevertheless I find this ex’s desperation annoying and unwanted so I just don’t talk to him.

  57. Hey so im 16 and my boyfriend and I been going out for a while. 5 months you might not think that’s a lot but he was my first. So we broke up in the beginning of October, and I was heart broken. He cheated on me with a girl that’s younger than me and that has the same name as me. But anyways he told me that he doesn’t want a relationship right now and he’s going through a lot. And then a few days later he has another girlfriend. When I found out I was crying so much and I was worse than before. I really cared about him, I was always there for him through the good times and bad times. I’ve never cheated on him. Because if I don’t want my boyfriend cheating on me why would I do it to me. I’m loyal and trust worthy. I was thinking why would he cheat on me? I was aways there for him when he needed someone to talk to. But anyways he told a lot of people it’s not what it looks like you and a lot of people think I’m dating someone I’m not. He’s full of it all. Then a couple of days later he told me that he still loves me and cares about me, and he will always be there for me. This got me so confused because if you love me, you wouldn’t done this in the first place and wouldn’t be with her. In school I couldn’t focused in class. All of my friends told me that he’s a jerk. And that he doesn’t deserve a girl like me that he lost more then I did. But I knew it will take time to move on. And with time I was moving on a lil but like a couple of weeks ago. I’ve been thinking about him and us and how it was like before. And I miss him so much. I want him back I want us to be together again. He’s been on my mind and I’ve been dreaming about him again and us. I don’t know what to do anymore. Need some advice.

  58. I’m tired of girls asking for faithful guys but always going for the bad boy, is better to be alone, yes I’m bitter.

  59. i seriously don’t know from where to start. I’m 18 and i love my bf to death, but he don’t care about me. he proposed to me everything was going well. 3 months ago he moved to another country. i’m missing him every moment of my day. he didn’t tell me that he’s going permanently. he just told me that he’s going for study and he will come back. his best friend told me about that all he also told me he wasn’t sincere to me. he just doing cheat on me. he rebuilt his relations with his ex gf and he’s not interested in me anymore.he ignores me and don’t talk to me for many weeks.i cried for him.now i don’t know what to do. how to get rid of all this stuff. i’m so depressed and i want relaxation by getting rid of all that’s happening to me.

  60. ive been dating someone gor almost 2 years. and that guy had also become a part of my circle of friends. while we were hanging out yesterday with my friends, i saw my someone looking at my bestfriends chest. (my friend really is a gifted one with her chest) i felt bad about it so bad. i told him about it and he had told me some sorry. what should i do. i dont know how to read what had happened and dont know what to do

  61. I have my bf and he has cheated on on my many times with girls on the internet i dnt think theres is an excuse when they cheat. At this point he has so much insecurities about me he thinks im cheating and honestly im not i have a baby and yes ibhave thought about it but i dnt want to ruin myfam i think hes the one cheating hes alway acussing me and its hetting to a point where im getting really mad ans just leave maybe i also velive he is trying ti make me mad and that way i just leave hin instead of him leaving that way i make hes work easier

  62. I met a guy once who was in his 30s he lied to me at first and told me he was 25 , i was really young then and didnt notice , he was my first boyfriend and through him i learned a lot . For the first five months he would spend a lot of time with me , until I decided one day to check his phone and found messages to other girls , I had no idea when he would see them because he spent so much time with me , anyway I decided to forgive him and stayed with him , he took advantage of the fact that i was so dumb and then just didnt hide that he was seeing other girls , i would ask him who the girls messaging him where and he would lie to my face it, he believed his own lies it was crazy , then he would ignore me for weeks and I was still trying to call him , Later i found out through some people he was married , he had another girlfriend , a baby mother and later i found out through a different girl he was having a baby with her , so i left him alone , until he saw me and talked to me and told me it was a lie , i believed him until i saw pics on his phone , then from other girls i found out he was dating a bunch of other girls , he was a serial player ,

  63. My bf cheat me 4 times in a4 year relationship and now I have no believe on him he text me n call me and ask me that plz forgive me n give me only one single chance I don’t do again that mistake next time. I love him a lot.But now I can’t trust on him.Give me suggestions what I can do now …

  64. My bf of 11 months, has made out with another girl and I caught him when I saw there texts in his phone now he is just tasking to so many girls on his phone… he prolly thinks I don’t know but have an idea. I love him, ND he says he loves me. But the way he texts these girls and they talk is just heart breaking.

  65. Don’t give him chance. You would surely find someone who will be loyal and will loved you the way you wanted to be loved. If you give him another chance, he’ll be doing the same over and over again. Spare some mercy for yourself. ^.^

  66. hi girl, at your age you’re still young and lovely. You’ll meet more and better man in the future. 🙂

  67. my bf was really nice he said i was beautiful and the sweetest girl he met his parents checked his phone and he was saying exactly the same thing to a girl he d never met b4 i still love him just so sad he cheated

  68. My boyfriend admitted to cheating for 2 weeks he said he cared and liked her we been dating for 4 years. He has 2 jobs and I also work and go too school. We see each other for 30 minutes for each day. And he says I don’t appreciate him enough. He said he couldn’t go on with this so he told. I’m an emotional wreck right now. He said they were also just texting and we work at the same job but different time.

    • He is not satisfied with your relationship, dump that jerk. You deserve someone better.

  69. It’s heartbreaking for you and he should know that. If he truly loved you he wouldn’t be doing this. Find someone who shows he cares, not just says it.

  70. You’ve answered your own question. A relationship cannot survive without trust. Time to move on. You don’t want to see it become 5 cheats in 5 years.

  71. If only all women would leave their cheating men, we might make some progress!

  72. I was engaged for almost a year with my boyfriend and at that time was an open book. We even knew our passwords on facebook, emails. Nothing to hide. We separated for about a two months around the holidays. We are now back together, but even though he added me back as a friend on FB, we live together, he has me blocked. Then I found emails of music that he had sent to me and sent it to two other women while we were still together and split up and while we were reconciling. This music was our music. I feel betrayed and even though I have voiced my feelings about facebook, I feel there is no trust. I am even helping raise his 7 year old and getting ready to go to parenting classes. My children are grown and I feel like he really is not committed even when he says he is.
    Something in my gut does’t sit well and without sounding like a young drama queen, I am just too old for games and not feeling secure in my relationship.

    • Express to him your feelings through a nice way. Observe if he deserve a chance and if he will change into better. If not, he doesn’t care about your feelings so move on. Focus in yourself. Be better without that guy,

  73. My boyfriend and I are in good condition at this time, but I always recall what he did to me year ago wherein he lied to me through hanging out with this one girl who’s an ex of his friend. From the start, I am suspicious with this girl and I tell bad words to her like she’s cheap and stay away. He lied about it and we fight a lot before about this girl over and over again, then I caught him hanging out with this girl through the picture I saw. The girl took selfie inside his car and inside his bed room, I ask that girl the she answers back inappropriately. I think that she hate me because I talk with her before rudely the reason why she make way to make me mad at my boyfriend, my boyfriend tell me that nothing happened to them every time I ask him, he answered that they are just friends and the reason why he lied is that I hate that girl. Months past by, we get back and officially okay then that girl stayed away. But my problem is this, I always remember how painful that thing he did to me and I can’t stop comparing myself to that girl and I am always worried. I suspiciously thinks my boyfriend had an affair even though right now after that long fight, he make lots of effort to win my trust back and I feel his sincerity and we already living together and I became happy.

  74. They forgot to cover what the mid life crisis is all about . Your with someone for 15 yrs and never had a reason not to trust him. Had always spent all your time together . Then he starts becoming more withdrawn and weird about his appearance and doesn’t spend time like he use to with you and ditches you cuz so and so wants a ride or so so wants to have drinks . Then you know there is some else but they lie and then a few months later comes clean and tells you I think I got her pregnant and I need your help . OMG . unbelievable

  75. So I’ve been single most of my life, well for the first 16 years. Now I’m in a relationship. I had my first kiss with my girlfriend who I had found out I wasn’t hers and at this point I found out a lot about her past. I could not handle it at all. I felt like why the he’ll did I keep my purity when I didn’t have to. So eventually I kept on thinking about it. At some point I couldn’t handle it and I wanted to kiss someone to feel what it was like to kiss another person..maybe it’s better I don’t know. So eventually I did but it was a spur of the moment thing. I had just met this older girl at my cousins 21st. She like through herself on me and we ended up kissing. What I want to know is will I cheat again. CHeating is the last thing I wanted to do. Help ???

  76. I am a 21yrs old. i had in a relationship for 4 years with same man.
    at first he is very faithful and devoted but starting of our 2years together he started to cheat and cheat and chet. he always deny what he did even if i already knew it all. he good in acting and reasoning. he always says that he love me and dont want me to go away he needed me in his life. but i never understand why he cheat.
    im a good girlfriend i make surprises for him, sometimes i finish his laundry when he is busy at work. and most of the time i bring him food at work. i make friends with his friends. what should i do? im tired of this kind of relationship. but he says that he dont want me to be gone. Is cheating an addiction? what am i going to do to stop him from lying & cheating, Do i have to be perfect? He dont want me to be hurt thats why sometimes he’s lying.
    He’s crying in front of me when i try to get away from him. i dont know what to do?

  77. My bf and I have 1year and half and recently I discovered that he was cheating on me.I suspected him(a lot of female friends on fb,not showing me his phone and probably many other things) but didn’t want to belive for real that he could do this to me.In all this time I was there for him everyday(not nights-we don’t live together).The other girl is his colleague(my age)..and have some health problems(infertility) and some dad problems(is sick too).My bf’s dad passed away 1year ago and because of that he told me that she(because of her problems) did understand him better than me and for that they became friends(april-last year).They didn’t talk until summer-is when they kissed first time.They didn’t talekd again from summer until november-december-when they met at her’s house like 3 times and his house same(3 times)(his in january).He told me that they didn’t have intercourse just sleeping side by side(and kissing)(which is still hard to believe)(The problem is that she knew about me(and that he is in a relation all the time),she is engaged and was ready to leave her future husband for my bf.He apologize and told me he will never do that again etc.I made him call her and break up with her. The problem is that I lovehim but still can’t belive him and I want to talk (on fb) with that girl and ask her the truth about them.I don’t know what to do..

  78. Yes, there is a such a thing as sexual addiction. Please call or chat with one of our HopeCoaches to learn more. We are here for you 24/7/ Call TheHopeLine: 1-800-394-4673 (HOPE)

  79. What should I do if I had sex with a guy who has a girlfriend, who I’ve heard he’s moving in with, but who tells me I’m beautiful and all that junk? I found out afterwards by one of my friends he has been in a long term relationship, which he totally lied about, and I was heartbroken. However, He’s really sweet, he still talks to me, and tries to hang around me still; and I feel we both have of caught feelings since we slept together. I could be wrong but he has definitely been more interested in my life since we had sex. But, I know now that cheaters will be cheaters, so how do I go about this, should I comfront him and friend zone him? Any advice?

    • he just want sex from you, you deserve someone else who will not lie to you.

  80. So I started seeing this guy and he told me he just broke up with his gf
    so after a couple weeks I check to see if him and the ex changed there pictures and dating status which they don’t.
    And just now the ex changed all he stuff and puts how sad she is on Facebook so clearly they only broke up now right??
    Now should I be happy that he broke up with her for me or should I be upset that while he was with me, kissing and cuddling and sleeping with me that in fact he was actually lying to me and kinda cheating on me ??????????????
    Help

  81. Yh he just wanna fall back on u….

  82. I lost my bf of 4 years last Friday.He died of a drowning accident. a day later I was cleaning his room found a bra. Someone knocked at the door to see what happened to him, turned out I met one of his girlfriends.I found out through his friend he was thinking of dumping me for awhile. I was devastated. I feel so much anger and betrayal. I can’t cry. At first I was crying over his death, now after all the cheating stuff I’m so sick. I stayed loyal to him

  83. my dear friend please leave him now….the same happpen to me i was with a guy for last 9 years. Like u i was knowing about his other affairs even then i cont with him. i thought he will marry me only bcoz he always use to cry in front of me. but at last after 9 yrs he askes me to get lost he not even bouthered to call me n chk what m i doing without him. i waisted my 9 yrs cooking for him, sab kiya khidmat bhi ki, laundry bhi clean kiya aur usne mujhe hi clean ker diya….. now my life is like a dog dont know what to do…now m in 30’s n not getting guy of my community for marry….so please dont waste ur time…men can get women to marry at any age but ek baar tumhari good age nikal gayi the u can do nothing….. so please stop

    • I wish i can talk to u privately. Ur story is same as mine and i need someone to talk to who can relate

  84. My boyfriend of 7 years abs 3 kids cheated on me. When I found out, I feel, he was ashamed. He kept saying that his mind wasn’t in it and all he kept saying was what are you doin to himself.. . I was pregnant with my daughter, we had just had a big bow out, he was upset that he was away at this training school and not with his family. how do I deal with it

  85. Caught my boyfriend with another gal in his room, ,have bin hearing that my boyfriend has another gal aside from me buh never believed,,went to his house one morning caught him with d gal even putting on his cloth,i asked him to introduce d gal to me,,he introduced d gal as his galfrd and intro me as his frd,,and he started dating us at d same tym according to his galfrd,,after introducing d gal as he’s galfrd he started pushing me out from his house, ever since then he has not called me or text me,,he has bin with the ever since that incident happened like 3wks now,,im just confused,,and I still love him,,wah should I do??

    • u need to move on,he is not for,don’t worry about it u will find the right person,his just a pig

  86. I just recently ran into a man I had an affair with back In 1998 we lost contact an now 2015 suprise…the connection is still there be is no longer with his wife but is in a relationship with someone else..go figure…he claims he loves me doesn’t want to loose me again an I want to believe him but I don’t know what to think???any suggestions….

  87. I broke up with my fiancé just yesterday, he always says I love u an all that kind of crap an says he means it but goes on pof an put up that he is looking for a relationship with an independent women an said he was undecided if he wanted children even tho we have 8 month old twin boys.. An adds a bunch of hoes on Facebook with nude an slutty pictures on there profiles an says he doesn’t know how they got added meanwhile I caught him looking at there pics an he memorized their name when he goes to “delete” them like he was suppose to over a year an a half ago an says he is getting help but checks out his councillor an all the girls he see anywhere that where tight pants, takes his phone to have a shower, treats me like I’m stupid.. Yelled at him for over an hour to get him to be honest an he thought just getting rid of his pof account was gunna get me to stay, I told him that there plenty of ppl that would treat me better an that I’d show him strong an independent I packed up everything my kids needed an have been at my parents, an he still texts me saying sorry an idc cause he is never gunna change he has acussed all his exs of cheating including me an I never have, an keeps harassing me when I tell him to stop texting or to leave me alone an doesn’t get that I’m not coming back, an he is such an angry person I have issuses sleeping at night cause I’m affraid he is gunna show up an start yelling an being an asshole

  88. Your young and you deserve someone else who will give 100% of his loyalty. If your always in pain, it means that.. your relationship is not healthy. A relationship should be mixed of love and happiness not pain and lies,.

  89. Boys will always be boys. stop believing him, don’t risk to trust him again. He will repeat.

  90. you already answered your question, yes.. you must be upset.

  91. I don’t agree with Megan up there. When a guy cheats, the other girl sometimes doesn’t know about the first one.
    I’ve just discovered the guy I went on two dates with and talked for three weeks may have a serious girlfriend for almost three years. He never wanted me to know basic stuff about him, add him on Facebook, and was always joking to change the conversation when I asked him about him trying to make me a secret.
    And believe me if it’s true, I will feel even worse than I feel right now, because she seems to be a great girl and also because I really liked him.
    So, if the other girl doesn’t know, it’s the guy who’s a cheater. Maybe he’s not getting what he wants from the relationship (and that doesn’t always mean sex), or he just loves the thrill. Either way, his fault all the way. Because it doesn’t matter if there’s a girl jumping on him – if he loves you, he will say no and walk away.

  92. My boyfriend of 4 yrs has cheated on me with 3 different girls he says he wants me to forgive him but idk

  93. I haven’t cheated on my girl friend but I’m thinking about it. Only reason is.. she’s cheated on me multiple times and it feels like we’re losing our spark.

  94. I just broke up with my boyfriend and he didn’t even seem to care.
    he told me that he loved me and that he wanted me to move in with him, and I believed him, he told me over 8 months ago that he deleted his dating profile. I found out a year later that he still had a dating profile on the same dating site, it said he was looking for a serious relationship, and it said he replied frequently, also he was talking to some other girl for a week and a half, and he never once told her he was seeing someone. He told me that he only go’s on there when he’s bored. That is not a good enough excuse for having a dating profile, when you know if your girlfriend found out she would be devastated. After I told him that, he said that he couldn’t talk because he was at work. So I waited thinking he would at the very least call me, at 7 I checked okCupid useing the fake account I created and he was on there. If your girlfriend just broke up with you for having that, why would you not delete it, but apparently having a dating profile is more important to him than me. Why would he claim to love me when he does that?

  95. Me and my boyfriend of two years were a good couple. We never cheated on one another and had good communication My boyfriend of two years broke my heart. I supported him through everything and loved him. It was likewise for him .hes even told me he would be dumb to lose me i was to special. Well i went to a party he didnt know i would be at caught him with a female in front of him. They walked out the party together i followed and went off on him. We didnt talk the while weekend after. He said he wanted to break up with me. I already considered us over by then. I tried to fight for our relationship still..he just wasnt budging. He said he wasnt happy and he needed some space. He didnt think we could ever truly be how we once were before. I nagged him and my attitude and became kind of controlling because i didnt like females being around him .the one time i let up and allow a female around him to make him think im not trying to nagg him it blew up in my face.so two days later he in public with the same female from the party which made me believe he caught feelings for her while with me which is why we were drifting. It was so disrespectful. This female was a downgrade and even considered to be a somewhat cousin to him .The breakup was rough and hard for me to cope with. Id text and call hed always answer me but he never did called or texted me first .I just wanted a friendship because i truly couldnt let go. He tries to act like im a stranger wants to ignore me but look at me when i turn my head. I think he knows ill always be there for him which isvwhy he doesnt realize what hes lost. He says he doesnt want another relationship this fast but his actions say otherwise when i see them around. My friends say hes trying to get freedom after being held down so long and hes using girls to get over me .Im trying my hardest to not cave in but i miss him but i just want him to come back. The grass is greener on the other side for now but i feel she will soon become how i once was. What should i do?

  96. my boyfriend never cheated before but now he is cheating on me and i wonder “hmm maybe he is not satified in our relationship ” I NEED ANSWERS!!!

  97. myexboyfriend and I thought we would be together again for ever is he ever going to change his ways and we have a son together that 13.00 he has a new girl friend and doesn’t want to talk to me anymore what should I do

  98. I’m 49 yrs old and I’m a cheater.
    After the failure of my 2nd marriage I started dating days after we seperated. And kept it up for over a year. I dated for sex and a way of dealing with emotional pain. I could not be alone for very long else I would feel lonely. Eventually I met someone I fell for but she only wanted a casual relationship. If I was dating someone else and she called I would drop them like a hot potato and jump to her side. This went on for over a year. Yet she did not want a relationship. That’s how I became a cheater. I longed for her dated others for emotional security and came running to her whenever I could either dumping or lying to whom ever I was with about my situation. I didnot see the pattern. One of my new male friends a total playboy encouraged me to serial date and have sex and try to keep up with him. My record was 3 women in one day.
    One amazing woman I spent a lot of time with fell madly in love with me we acted like a couple but still my feelings were with my casual girl. So I really did not even see her the way she saw me. Eventually I developed feelings but by that time I had cheated on her several times. One day I realized I wanted this relationship and came clean on everything. Coming clean seemed a total mistake as I hurt this lady to the core. While I felt clean she felt she could no longer trust me yet we stayed together. Now I was on 24 hr lock down and became her doormat. I submitted myself to her retribution as my penalty for cheating and lying. It got so bad I eventually cheated again as I was looking to end the relationship and run away. This pattern went on for over a year. It became the most gut wrenching toxic love relationship you could imagine. Eventually she left me as I could not do it.
    Now I am heart broken if you can believe it. What’s my point? Don’t cheat, don’t cheat don’t cheat. Don’t use women as emotional security blankets. Wait suck it up get your head on straight before you start dating again. It does not work trust me. Think twice about coming clean about cheating with your partner. Best situation don’t cheat in the first place. You could end up hurting that person and effect them forever. Fix what you have. Stop cheating love your girlfriend or wife. Else beak up and move on.
    I messed up the perfect relationship with the love of my life because I did not have me feelings in check. Please learn from me. You will end up alone and emotionally broke.

    • My ex-boyfriend of 6.5 years is a serial cheater, liar, and sex addict. I did everything for him: car loan, nice vacations, got him out to the West Coast so he could be with his dad when his dad died. He admitted to cheating after I called him out on his behavior which had changed — he emotionally withdrew. I threw him out of the house and changed the locks the next day. He was emotionally needy but so am I. I thought we would be together forever. He has come back begging and crying. I could not go back to that. I can never trust him again. He moved on to another relationship within weeks of our breakup and announced on facebook he is in a relationship with this girl that he’s known as a “friend” for awhile. I am devastated. I feel betrayed, hurt, lost, and very lonely. Sad. I don’t know if I can ever trust another human.

      • Don’t feel so bad. You deserve better you have to know that. I say that to you from experience. I was with a guy for 8 years. In the beginning of our relationship I was the sole provider and I did everything. I was around 23 (straight out of college) when we first got together and he is 13 years older than me and he cheated on me continuosly throughout our entire relationship. I became so fed up with it but did not know how to get him out of my life since we lived together and he had nothing and no one (see he had relocated to the state we lived in because of Hurricane Katrina). I felt bad and sorry for him at the same time. Well time went on and my job relocated me to another state and I did not want him to come with me but he wasn’t going to leave me so we packed up and we left. While headed to South Carolina he was really irritating did not want to drive and various other things so I pulled over at convienient store and ask him did he have to use the restroom, when he went in I drove off and left him in Alabama (yes I did and I do regret doing him like this) I couldn’t take it anymore (so I thought) .. Well fast forward now I’m in SC working getting adapted to new area and I am still in touch with him he still would not let me go and would call and call and beg and beg to come be with me. He would say that he learned his lesson. I told him he could come visit he did but once gone he wanted to come back and stay and I didn’t want him anymore but I was kinda lonely and didn’t know anyone in SC so I let him come back and he started work for a moving company which is his passion but the cheating never stopped we were together another 2 1/2 years but around last April I got completely fed up and said no more. You see I was in this relationship all the wrong way I was being faithful and having dinner ready after work all the stuff that a good wife does to someone who was not my husband ( and yes he ask before but I couldn’t say yes because I didn’t even trust him). I would debate with myself as to how bad it was I would rationalize and say besides the cheating he works and we get along most of the time. The last time I left him was after my mom and aunt had moved to sc from Arkansas. One day I had saw his text from a girl talking about sex the night before so I ask my mom to follow me and I went and picked up my truck from his job and left. When he got off of course he called mad. I had went and gathered my things out my house and told him he had a certain amount of time to get his stuff out. He did not want to leave I let him stay until my lease was up but I didn’t stay I moved in with my mom. Once the lease was up he moved with one of the multiple girls he had been communicating with (he is the type that cannot be without a girl) that relationship didn’t work and so he moved in with one of the other girls he was cheating on me with and that didn’t work either. When we broke it off I found myself still loving and having feelings for him do I had to stay off of his FB page because it would only make me so mad. So I would suggest the same for you avoid snooping on social media it does not help you heal. Well back to this dude, yea the second relationship did not work either so he went back to the first girl ( how do I know all this you ask? Well he does keep and touch with me and that’s another issue within itself (I believe it’s a ploy). Well this is how it had turned out the relationship didn’t work again he said because he is not the type that gets home from work and eats grilled cheese sandwiches. He would tell these women that they could never be me ( I told him he will never get a relationship comparing them to me and actually telling them that on my worst day I’m better than them. My feeling is obviously I’m not cause I won’t let your ass go. Well it’s been over a year and now he is trying to come back but he still had the same ways he ask my mom could he stay with me for a while till he found a place. Which I know he is wanting me to get a place and I have a good job so I can live by myself but I refuse to move back in with him. I’m really just praying he find him somewhere to go because I am tired of him and his hoe-ish ways. I mean he is 43 years old and hasn’t learned yet and all these women he plays feels like he is the one I am so over it I just want him to be gone. The only reason I even deal with him is because I sold him my truck and he is paying me monthly. Now since my mom has a heart she wants me to make an extended part of the house an apartment for us but I do not want to do this because for instance last night he went over someone house and didn’t even make it back but I bet he be here for the good Sunday meal that I will cook today. So I know this was a long rant but be thankful that it is over and go find you someone that deserves you because I am trying and it is getting hard. Because I know that my mom wants grandkids so bad. I even considered with him but it is not even worth it. He is wasting my time I feel and I have no one to talk to because I am a private person so I can’t talk to my mom or friends about it. I have to vent on the Internet. It’s crazy how life goes but everything happens for a reason and every test is just there to make you stronger.

      • I’m sorry you had to go thru that,I’ve had two serious boyfriends cheat on me and both times it was devastating,I feel the same as you like I really don’t trust any men,best thing to do is focus on you and learn to make yourself happy,I do believe loyal men exist and remind myself not all people are the same,there is loyal and unloyal,unfortunately we had unloyal but doesn’t mean you can’t find a good one some day,best of luck to you

    • Cheating just creates a huge mess and it ruins trust forever,my boyfriend cheated and I took him back but I will never trust him again,it’s been 3 yrs but I still can’t trust ready to leave and move on hopefully will one day meet a loyal man

    • Goodness what you said about ” Best situation don’t cheat in the first place. You could end up hurting that person and effect them forever. Fix what you have” rings so true.I’ve been on both sides of this fence. My relationship was crap and I cheated on my ex, who no matter what, did love me and I loved him and I will never, for the rest of my life, forget the look on his face as he was crying, asking me “Why” – never again will I do that to someone I love and vice versa. It was a huge learning lesson for me. Those few thrills I had were not worth the relationship/pain I caused and I know I probably changed my ex forever – because it does cause lifelong pain/suspicion in subsequent relationships. I did get my karma though and was later cheated on. It hurts horribly. I spent a lot of time in therapy dealing with my guilt over cheating and vowed never to do it again in a precious relationship.

  99. My boyfriend cheated on me three times and I forgave him but my trust for him is ruined and I’m don’t know what to do anymore I really like him and all but he always makes stupid decisions O

    • A cheater can change but honestly it’s extremely hard to trust someone after they cheated,I took back my bf after cheating but I should of ended it then because it’s been three years and I still don’t trust him

  100. Jeezuz lawd ,I am at an all point low..the internet makes sense than my reality,all the things mentioned here was spot on.Especially the parents aspect..its a lost cause .

  101. I’ve cheated twice with my soul mate. The women of my dreams. I can tell you now I regret every second of it. And the first time I let it slip but the second time I ate the guilt so badly. I lost weight, cried like a baby, prayed to God for forgiveness. Considered suicide. Beat myself literally. And I can tell you right now id never cheat EVER EVER EVER again. The cheaters always cheat is not always true. It depends on the persons soul and capacity to change. I def changed and if the same women won’t take me back I’ll treat the next one with complete loyalty and respect. Like a queen. Being the offender who cheated is literally hell. I’d choose death over a relationship without loyalty.

    • I see your struggle. If you really mean it, prove it to the next lady.

    • If once a cheater always a cheater. Then that means you cant change. You will chest on the next lady

    • Ok so my an cheated on my the entire time of us being together, I mean, according to his ex. SHe didn’t know until I told our mutual friend about things. Thing is, he’s denied everything. If he did in fact cheat on me throughout the entire time ( we live together) will he not cheat again?

  102. But I agree, it’s not right for guys to get into relationships if there is a propensity to cheat. A good and satisfying relationship is based on trust and respect. However, it’s still hardwork and it’s important for both partners to be on the same page.

  103. I caught him, he admitted it and said he wanted to tell me but couldn’t. She’s pregnant but doesn’t know if it’s his or her ex boyfriends. We stopped talking for a month and then he called one day with an apology that lasted 5 hours. He said he knew what I wanted “a relationship” but had other issues to deal with and after he delt with them we could work on us. I found his old phn while looking for something I had at his place and yes I was digging for dirt and thats exactly what I found again I’m hurt but dnt want him to know about it. I feel used, unloved and disgusted with him and myself. My mom suffered a lot with my dad I believe her faith is what got her through the worst in her marriage. If I dont give up on him if I pray harder and humble myself am I dumb or wrong to do that?

  104. Me and my husband meet and fell in love instantly we were inseparable we married after dating 5 months we had a good marriage after we had been married 5 years I found out he cheated on me with my sister. They had made plans to be together an start a life he was planning on leaving me for her. I was devastated but had two small kids 3 and 4 and took him back I didn’t talk or see my sister for several years but then finally let her back in my life and then when we had been married 10 years my sister called me and told me my husband had stopes at her house when he was at work and had kissed her and tried to sleep with her but she refuses and called me. I was devastated by now I had 4 children 10, 9, 3 and 3 months so I took him back and forgave my sister. We stayed married another 4 years and then divorced we were divorced for 2 months then started sleeping together again and he started staying at my house almost very night. Then 7 months after our divorce I found out he was in a relationship with my sister again they had been sleeping together for a month and a half when I found out. I took him back and cut my sister out of my life again. He swears it was just sex but they texted each other a hundred times a day almost everyday called each other he even texted her when he was with me an the kids he would text her first thing in the morning and every night before he went to sleep. They would spend time together at my dads house when I work midnight and he wouldn’t even come home to see me before I left for work. She would go see him everyday on his lunch break to have sex and he would go to her house sometimes before work. This time to make things worse our children know he was with her.

  105. I have found my boyfriend of 5 years texting other women ans looking a websites. to him that is not cheating as he “says” he has never done anything, is that cheating?

    • Yes it’s cheating if your bf is texting females that make you feel it is threatening your relationship. Within reason. It also depends of the “rules” of your relationship, monogony, he should have eyes for only you, that means surfing for women on the internet is disrespectfully breeching the agreement you 2 made when you agreed to be a couple. If monogony was talked about. Expectations of a real relationship. And partners should probably agree on how to define cheating before agreeing not to cheat!

  106. My boyfriend works out of town a lot and he claims he hasn’t physically (he says he only TRIED) cheated on me but I have evidence that says otherwise. He says it was All because of an argument he says we had. Over a stupid argument?? Is he for real? I guess he did it in November of 2014, but I did not find out until last week when I snooped on his ipad and his phone. I found emails and texts he THOUGHT he erased. Nice job, Einstein! Anyway, I broke up with him and he started crying and begging me to forgive him. When I said no, he got mad and flipped his shit. My question is: If he only TRIED to cheat, should I take him back? I mean, he swears up and down he never physically cheated on me. He also does not think it’s as bad as actual cheating if he never went through with it. I think that is pretty shitty of him. Now every time he goes out of town for work, I will just keep thinking he is messing around behind my back. I don’t know if I can trust him. To me, TRYING to cheat really is just as bad as physical cheating. If you can’t be faithful to someone, then don’t be with them!! Don’t two-time the person you supposedly want to spend the rest of your life with. GROW UP.

    • I don’t blame you for not trusting him,once someone cheats it’s very hard to trust again

    • Haven’t even read your whole post yet but if a guy is telling you he tried to cheat on you, then he did cheat on you, in his mind if nowhere else!

    • I really appreciate the second half of your post and fully agree. Get out if you haven’t already!

  107. hi my name is jovanie i tell my girlfriend it not working out between us so i dont want her to get in trouble of the bus drive but i still love her

  108. if even i still love her even if it hurt me a lot of time i would do anything for her

  109. Ive been a bit jelous in the past and un trusting but with my current boyfriend ive been fine. Ive been with him for over two years and never really thought about him cheating. This morning his phone was ringing and it was one of his guy mates so i went to text his friend to tell him that my fella was asleep and i would get him to call back when i noticed a text from a night out saying that the barmaid from a club had just come in as they were leaving. I dont know if im over reacting but it seemed really dodgey like he had been flirting. When i asked him about it he told me that his mates had just been flirting with her but i dont know if i believe him or not. Its all just left a bad taste in my mouth.

  110. I am sad and do not know what to say.

  111. I am really trying to figure this whole thing out. My boyfriend and I have been officially dating around 2 years. We have a 8 month old son together and live together, and on his suggestion had started making plans to get married, and build a life together. I really do not doubt he loves me but at this point because of the infidelity, I question whether it’s out of obligation, or whether he truly loves me. I guess I need to explain the entire situation so though I am 5 years older (33) our first time was his first time, and yes you can definitely get pregnant on the first time. Well prior to me he has only been in one other relationship with his ex on and off for 5 years. Though they had broken it off over a year before me and him even began talking, when she saw he was actually dating me she felt threatened and began with the drama. She has shown up on dates. At his job in lingerie, stalked both of us online, came to his house, and left 10 page letters describing what she would do to him, and how she’s depressed that they are not together and wants him back. She even blamed him for loosing her virginity because she was desperate to find out why he cared about me, and thought it had to be all physical. The first time he cheated with her was when her mom died and showed up at his house crying. It was also right after we found out I was pregnant. Though it was all oral and not intercourse I still felt betrayed. He called crying and saying how sorry he was, and that it was a mistake and he felt bad for her, and was so used to past stuff and all that. Now because we needed to decide what to do about me being pregnant we had to talk etc plus I had some important dr appointments. Either way he said if I’ll forgive him he loves me and wanted to build a family with me and spend the rest of his life with me. Though we had discussed that way before I got pregnant. So I forgave him and we decided to keep the baby and moved in together and we’re doing well, though she was always in the shadows attempting to cause drama, then about the time I was having the baby she showed up at his place with a letter begging him to leave me and build a life with her and nude pics. He still left her alone. Well 3 months after having the baby he changed his phone number and began talking to her again. They even we’re going out and hanging out and he would stay out all day, and treat me like crap when he came home which he had never done, not abusive, but basically all the sudden telling me stuff like, “I’m only a girlfriend I have no right to know where he is etc” when he returned. Which is out of character for him. He usually stays home playing video games. When I found out it was her he was with I became upset. So I left with our lil one for a few days. He called me over 100 times, left 58 voicemails, sent 86 text messages, and many emails. Even started calling my family and friends apologizing and begging me to come back, and when I did we sat down and deeply discussed our issues, what needed to be done to stay together and what I would accept. Cutting all ties with his ex was the main thing. Well he did, and again we were doing well until I got hired at the same place she worked earlier this summer, which I wasn’t aware of had just received an email offering me an interview. Well she began showing up to his job. I actually wasn’t aware anything had happened until she sent me over 80 messages on fb through our business account a few days ago, telling me how she had been talking to my boyfriend for over 3 months and had been having sexual relations with him and while I was out of town with my gma who was dying they had intercourse. When I asked him about it he wouldn’t admit it, he would just call her cussing her out and upset talking about everything is ruined and now he’s lost me and his son etc. He then kept apologizing to me and admiting he was wrong claiming the reason he did it was because he was to weak to say no and that he had been turning her down for months and whatever but still felt like he owed her for being there for him all those years. At this point our life is so connected I don’t know what to do, and even though he keeps saying he won’t do it again and giving me reasons why. I don’t trust he won’t. What is good?
    Sincerly
    Living in half the house, seeking an honest opinion

  112. I’ve always been the same way loyal gf cook and clean like a wife,you deserve so much better,best of luck to you hope you find someone loyal and trust worthy,I think a lot of us women need to work on building up our self esteem and realize we deserve a good loyal man!!!

  113. I would leave and never look back most cheaters do cheat again

  114. I would get rid of him,in ten years you will look back and be glad you left him,loyal people deserve loyal people

  115. I’ve read everyone’s stories here and I’m seeing a pattern,a lot of us that are cheated on have a low self esteem,we need to learn how to be alone and make ourselves happy,after that we can seek a relationship and hopefully attract a loyal partner,cheaters are scum,and look at it like this when they cheat and the relationship ends what did you lose? Nothing of value you lost a cheater!!!! I also noticed a lot of cheaters will call loyal people crazy jealous and clingy,if you had loyal honest person you wouldn’t be feeling jealous and clingy because a loyal honest person would make you feel secure,the cheaters are the one that are crazy because they are heartless and like to play games

    • Read them all too and your right! Be alone and learn how to live happily is it. You have some great points!

  116. I am so glad i found this site!!!
    I really need good advices now, cause i think my chest is cracking open.
    Literally dying alive.
    So my boyfriend and i have 3 years of relationship. I always thought that we were different from others.
    I was really special one for him, well at least now i think he made me think that way. But everything
    seemed so true, like there were no thoughts of this relationship ending. He showered me in i love you and cute nicknames.
    We used to be like on and off but everyone including us knew that actually we are never separating,
    and it was just permanent. (Max week or so)
    Saying words we never meant to, fighting, me crying, being drama queen, causing a scene
    he doing his silent treatments as usual (i kind of think he is commitment phobe) but still somehow we talk, we get back together. But most of the times i was impatient one. I would call him, text him first and didn’t really had problem doing that,.
    The thing is that last August we fighted over a silly thing.smehow our not talking to each other thing lasted till mid of this month.But from weeks ago my friends were telling me that they saw him with another girl few times. I asked him he said she is just a friend. After that I checked his Fb Insta, nothing suspicious. I believed. And then again i was hearing more gossip about them. I don’t like to believe in gossips but he wasn’t the type of guy to hang out with girl. It was not really like him. That day he came over. He was like nothing happened, told me that she was just a girl they accidentally bumped to each other and he had reasons to meet few times again ( she lended him money). The real thing pissed me off is that he was hiding her name for so long. I got out of control insisted to tell her name, he said it and he left. But then soon after i found that girl’s instagram and it was horror!!!! There was like more than 2,3 photos of them together ( no touching).
    And after that i got lost. Couldn’t handle my emotions. I never had doubts before, I was 100% sure that he’ll never be capable of doing such thing to me. Then we met few times, mostly me calling him to come over and talk, and they didn’t end well. I had temper problems. I might’ve annoyed him. He started to “ignore or avoid” me for a bit. I know because i was acting needy, clingy and stupid.
    I thought these pics and rumors were a little problem, but I didn’t really knew there was more to this story. So yesterday I was planning to meet him like usual for last time(without depressing him) to star No contact phase. We met, things were going really pretty, he was comforting me with his warn energy like he used to, hugged a little, kissed on my hand and cried. We were at some point happy back together. but then not really clear photo of him hugging and maybe kissing? that girl was sent to my phone. She was sitting on his lap. I can’t describe all that horrible feeling flushed through my mind. He was seating next to me. For 2 hours i acted strange to him and finally showed the photo. He didn’t say anything, cried a bit and was silent. Maybe the way i reacted was wrong, weird, weak, not on point but i wanted an apology, explanation, something from him to ease my pain. I really didn’t know how to react, talk to him, instead i was just crying. I called taxi for him letting know that I don’t want him here and he went home. After that no calls no texts. After that intimate photo of them i felt like i was keeping him near me when he was unwilling. I felt so many cold scary things.
    Now i am calm enough to realise things. Something inside of me hopes that she is just a rebound, a little runaway from my needs demands and pushings. Or maybe lately in our fights I disrespected his pride and that may be the cause of cheating? Or maybe i wasn’t giving him space, but he never seemed to need any…
    I couldn’t eat or sleep before but now it is just impossible. And worst thing is that I really believed him and have shown my weakness toward him.
    So confused so lost. Would really appreciate any answers and advices

  117. Men should be single if they want to play the field. It’s a cruel and selfish act. There are no excuses.

  118. I am still in disbelief and shock.I met this Muslim guy 8months ago ,I am a xtian tho!. He was rily all ova me,he is co-worker.I turned him down but he kept coming back .Finally I agreed but I told him I want the relationship on a lowkey,you know how office romance can tarnish someone’s image if not managed properly. We started hooking up,he told me he have a girl but he has broken up with her because she is handsful and difficult,nags&e does not av feelings for her,I told him to mend the relationship with her but he said nope,so we started dating ,I told him I won’t be able to marry him cos e s Muslim,he said his family don’t mind him marrying someone who shares diff tribe&religion. The guy was the best ,he respected me,cares about me,worships me,never let me do the dishes or wash his bedspread after sex(due to cum or body fluids lol)I had to forcefully wash his dishes after we take a meal.we talk on phone 24/7,chat,he initiates communication mostly ,I am not the clingy type .I always give him that mindset I won’t let him take me for a ride or I won’t accept less than I deserve. We have had fight on several occasions like couples do ,he always come begging even if it was his fault fully or partly. I started having strong intuition that he has another woman. I saw red flags,I broke up several times with him,I hate relationship stress,I told him to go,hurl words at him.He swore I was the only woman in his life.The last time we reconciled he said he will take me to his family house. Two days after we reunited,I called him up,he didn’t pick or respond to his chat asap unlike him. My instinct told me he has a woman in his crib. I took the next cab to his crib only to see a woman there ,I was totally shocked,but I didn’t catch feeling.Me and the woman talked,my guy was stuttering ,he didn’t deny me or try to throw me out like some dumb dudes would. I told the lady I never knew he has a chick,she said she knew about me and him,that she has seen us together somewhere and his neighbours called her on phone to snoop on us. She said they have been dating since years that she has been enduring shits from him because she feels if she leaves the relationship,she does not know the character of the next guy ,she is a Muslim like him,she said she prays for him to change. She said he does not love her that no wonder he always complain he is tired,not knowing it’s because he is shagging anoda woman.she said he pays less attention to her when they are together,all he does is pay attention to his fone and chat while she is in d bed. She said she cooks for him,washes his bedspread .she said She is the fiancee,I replied wow,when is the wedding,she told me she does not know, that the guy is unserious. I guess the girl is desperate and maybe the guy is patching up with her due to the familiarity of the two families because the guy dont treat me d way he treats her from wat r gurl said.I was encouraging her to take hart that I didn’t know about her. The guy was begging the two of us to forgive him,we slapped him on diff occasions. I told him to stay clear of me ,I threatened to hit him if he says hello to me at work.I blocked him off social apps on ma way home. He has not contacted since the past 9days now. I guess he is shamefaced to see me or got no nerves to call my fone bcos he knos I av zero tolerance for crap. I won’t take him bk anyway?. Does he rily love me or did he use me?

  119. I HAVE PROBLEM . 🙁 I DON’T LIKE WHAT’S HAPPENING IN MY LIFE NOW . WHY HE DENY HIS GIRLFRIEND TO ME. THAT’S CHEATING AND HE’S TELLING ME THAT THEY’D BROKE UP ALREADY HE SLEPT WITH ME . I DON’T KNOW WHAT TO DO . I FELL IN LOVE WITH THE GUY BUT I DON’T WANT TO BE THE REASON OF THEIR BREAKUP. </3 WHAT SHOULD I DO ?
    ADVISES PLEASE THANK YOU.

  120. My boyfriend cheated on me after 9 months he’s my first love and he cheated on me with 1 of my mates and 3 different dating websites I left him straight away but went back after 4 days because I missed him too much 😴 but every time I’m lay next to him in bed all I get is dreams of him choosing other girls over me and him cheating on me it’s ripping me apart but I don’t want to leave him!

  121. I’ve been talking to this marine guy for almost 9 months…He never gave me his Facebook, Instagram, or anything besides snapchat. So I knew something was up. I liked him so much and waited for him to come back. One day my friend decided to search his Facebook and found him. Because I liked him and was sure he was the one, I didn’t want to stalk him. So I left it as it is. Until recently my gut feelings was telling me he wasn’t the one for me. I decided to digg a little bit into his Facebook. It said he was single and he didn’t have any pictures with a girl. But I saw a girl liking his picture and her default had him in it. So I was looking at her Facebook page and it was true that they are in a long distance relationship for over 2-3 years. I would see pictures of them kissing, hugging, and just doing couple stuff. I no longer talk to him but my question is why is he trying to pursue me when he’s already in a serious relationship? And it’s crazy how he would talk about sex with me and being committed to only me. He would always say he’s excited to see me and be with me….
    Btw his gf seems very clingy and needy. She would always post pictures of them and how she misses him. She has no clue he’s doing this to her…smh

  122. I need some advice. My boyfriend and I have been together for a year and friends for 5 years. Recently I asked him has he had any temptation, and he said yes he had two situations where he seen two attractive women at work. He said he loves me so much and would never act on it, he knows he would lose me and his family. Btw im 4 months pregnant and I have a daughter already. I was kind of taken back because I don’t have temptation when it comes to any other man at all. So of course my mind started to wander. I want to know due to him having temptation and attraction to other women, does that mean he isn’t genuinely happy and in love with me? I know I’m hormonal and nuts right now, but its been on my mind constantly. I mean I love this man so much and has never felt this way about anyone. I do not desire anyone else but him, is that weird? I also asked him would he like a pass to be able to act on his temptation and he said hell no. I’m no fool honey that was a test…lol but I’m serious someone help me.

    • There are attractive people everywhere and temptations try to present themselves everyday. I think it’s good and normal and weird for you to only have eyes for your partner. I have the type of partner who tells me that anyone other than me is far, old, ugly, etc. To save my feelings. Truth is, it only insults my intelligence and makes me question other things like flirting with the opposite sex when I’m not around. More goes into that, but… anyway. You are not halfway through your pregnancy, try to take good care of yourself especially while your baby is growing, also being mindful that during the next four and a half months there will be days you will feel less pretty than you actually are- during these times, try to stay away from thoughts that question things like is he in love with you bc if you’re wrong and just over thinking it, you may have the potential ruin a very special time for you as a couple. And if after the baby comes, you question more and more, then simply talk to him, or better yet, observe his attitude and demeanor with you personally as well as in public and around family and friends. The truth will come out and when it does, you will know what to do next.

  123. Look I didn’t mean to I blacked out then it just happened imhabe no explanation as to why I loved the girl I was with I wanted her forever I messed up then I lied and then I fessed up sort of we were together for a long time and I didn’t cheat on her again then she did it I forgave her immediately then it happened again and again and again then we stopped talking then we started again then we stopped Christmas day. I love her. I saw this all happen on drugs once I was dying in the same spot I ended up cheating on her in, I was screaming at myself not to I knew what it caused, I don’t think I’ll ever get her back but if I could, if I could I’d prove to her I’m not like that. Never really was.

  124. i have a boyfriend and i think im a second choice he likes with my best friend alot he asked me if it was ok if they exchanged nudes i really dont know im in love with this boy i cant decide if it would be considered cheating i dont want to leave him but i dont want to get hurt either. what do i do???

    • RUN fast

  125. I have been in a relationship for five years going on six. My boyfriend tells everyone that is I am his wife, but he has cheated on me many of times and I seen him on
    backpage looking for ts. I love him but I don’t think we will last. What should I do?

  126. So I need some help my boyfriend and I have been together for about 3 years now and I saw that our 2 tear old daughter was on he’s phone so I had her give it t me so she didn’t tear it up. and I happen to see that she was on his messages and there was a pic and when I opened it up there was a naked woman….. I had woke him up and asked him who the woman was but he says he don’t know.. and then I asked him tolet me see his facebook and he said ok what ever…. and I looked back and found a woman he was and I think is still talking to…. but heres the messed up part I know her and its nasty because she slept with her half brother and now he’s sending nasty pics to her and she is too…. and in some of there text they talk about having sex… and now I just wanna scream at him so much but he denies it all the way.

  127. Life is to short if you need to cheat on your partner your probably with the wrong person so leave him and find the right one..Dont hurt them by being unfaithful!

  128. If he is a cheater now he will always be. You never know if he will meet somebody who he want to leave you for. My advice is to move on and find somebody who you can trust.

  129. I don’t know what to do. I have been seeing this guy at work who has been in a 3 year relationship. I have been getting intimate with him for the last 2 years on and off. In the last year I have developed strong feelings for him. All I think about is him. I tried to end it as my conscious is telling me to. But he doesn’t want to at the same time he ignores me when he wants. Everything is on his terms when I should text and not. I don’t know what to do. I really have fallen for him.

    • Which is why you don’t ever start anything up with a guy who is taken, you develop strong feelings and then what….

  130. It’s hard to for to talk about it… But here it goes. I was in a relanshionship with a guy for 8 years and he was the most amazing guy in the world. It took about 6 months for me to start loving him and everything was great for 4-5 years. Then we started to leave in the middle of the night going with his friends in other cities and discovering he has cheating on me. I always told myself it’s not true and he will come around but he never did and after some time I used to travel for 4 months at a time and the last time he cheated on me with my best friends sister. She also had a boyfriend at the time and after I broke up with him he had a child with her and eventually married her. I was possessive and jealous of course after all that happened and he accused me that my insecurities pushed him away when he tried so hard to make us work and nothing could make me happy anymore. After all of that I moved overseas and he was calling me telling me I need to come back and that he left her. I found out he didn’t and he didn’t wanted to be alone and wait for me to change my mind. Then the texts started to come less and less until he finally decided she was his better option. It took me 2 years so recover and turn down every guy out there. No sex for 2 years thinking every guy is a bastard, just dates and found some really nice guys but I just couldn’t see them being on my life and eventually I gave up on dating until my sister created me a dating profile and start dating again. Again, some guys were really nice but I choose to go with the funniest of all and we were so happy togheter and melting in each other’s eyes. Then he jokes were not that funny anymore, starting to be insulting to other people and I realized something was wrong but I said at least he is nice with me and I hate almost every guy out there anyways and oh we have such an awesome time every single day. He told me I should move in with him because I used to live with my ex and I told him my parents didn’t know about it for many years because they were overseas and they will not let me do it with him only if I get married. I noticed he had a really serious problem with alcohol that he was trying to hide. After he dropped me home he went by himself to drink and when I finally found out he told me I know he’s an alcoholic and it’s no reason why he should admit such an embarrassing thing. He finally proposed and asked my parents if I can move in with him, they said no. It was hard for him, but went along with it. Seeing his behavior getting so bad and saying he’s a car salesman and they always lie I started to have doubts about the marriage and I told him we are not right for each other. He didn’t took no for an answer. He never did. He said he pushed me to be with him because he never gives up and I never loved him. Which I started to think it was true. Then he bought a house asking me if its big enough for me if I see myself in it and I said yes. He started to change and didn’t pay so much attention to me, being distracted and then I started to find hairs on the brushes and he told me it’s mine. I know I wasn’t. An extra toothbrush(he said he was using both) one for the shower one for the sink. And told me he loves me and never cheated on me and I should stop being insecure. Well, I couldn’t disregard all of it. And after we had a fight( before Christmas) he asked me for the ring back and didn’t want to get back together in any way. He finally did and he started to behave very bad with me and insulting me and then come back to normal and break up with me again fighting thru texts for a week and then getting back together. Until then he never wanted to be a day alone even when we were fighting so I accused him of some more cheating. And get together for another week and he camed from nowhere wanting to break up and asking me for a prenup being afraid I’m going to leave him and take all his money. Then have up on that idea and asked me to move in. We finally agreed on weekends together. I looked on his laptop and I found him on dating sites but luckily was just for a day
    And then he didn’t go back on it and looking for prostitutes on Craigslist and giving them his number and picture and a lot of porn with pregnant women that he had watched. Told me he didn’t think ill come back when he knew we can be together all that week all he had to do is give up on the moving thing. After that I found pictures he took in a dirty hotel with the room and his legs in the deleted folder on his phone. He didn’t wanted to admitted but he finally did. He cheated on me when we were fighting about the moving and texted me while he was with her and telling me we cannot see each other until I move and that he cheated on me before Christmas with her( an escort which was always pregnant with her boyfriend) that he knew since 2010. He said if you called me a cheater all the time I got mad and I did it. It’s no winning with you and you wouldn’t believe me anyway and he asked me to leave and that he knows he can’t talk his way out of it. Then changes his fb status to single changes his profile picture and went on dating sites. I agreed to see hijacker his dad convinced me it was my fault too because he felt rejected and the wedding was on and off all the time and took the ring back and gave it to him back all the time so we talked about it and told me he had cancelled the venue( the wedding was supposed to be in 3 months) kissed me fast and told me you know you don’t kiss hookers, right? The next day he spoke with his dad which was very convincing and told me he wants another chance and if we are together or not because he can’t handle arguing anymore and not knowing where we stand. I asked him to call me and he said he had a rough day, doesn’t know what he wants anymore and that makes him mad and needs time to think. I tracked his phone and found out he was at the hotel with her and called him. He called me back after half an hour and told me he was drinking and I send him his location and finally admitted it and said he didn’t wanted to see her it’s just stres relief. The next day he asked me to see him for lunch and didn’t reply so he texted me he left me a gift underneath the car( pots with strawberry and blueberries). I know it’s my fault with my insecurities too and he is very confident in himself but when he told me his bipolar and self medicates with alcohol because he had bad reactions to medications I said I didn’t believed him and told him doctors always find something wrong with everyone. I never met a bipolar person and I always thought his energy and depression it’s normal and some impulsive decisions. I love this energy and the things we do together and the way I feel when I’m with him. I know what I have to do- not see him again but it’s so darn hard.

  131. Okay so I’m in a long term relationship and we’ve even been away together. Last year he came on holiday with me and my family but his year I’m not going away. However, he’s going away twice. Once to Cyprus and the other to Spain. I didn’t even get an invite. Seems as though he’s happy leaving me behind. He’s been loyal throughout and there for me but I’m so worried that when he’s in Spain there’ll be a huge temptation that he won’t be able to refuse and my world will fall apart. He’s going with his older brother , mother and her new boyfriend. Just worried that him and his brother will be left to their own devices, booze, meet some girls, sunshine, clubs? Am I over-thinking? Being paranoid?

    • I don’t think you’re over thinking at all. You’re visiting the reality of his trip(s). I think it says a lot about the state of your relationship if he is doing this, and have you mentioned any of this to him, even subtly?

  132. My name is Dusty and im deeply in love with my ex girlfriend. I admitted too her that i cheated u should also mention that i struggle with drug addiction and the one and only night i cheated i was under the influence. I love my ex very much and cant believe i was capable of cheating im a good and loyal man and id give anything to take it back and i wonder why i even told her it just hurt her. I should also mention she also is a drug addict who struggles with the same problem and although she promised she never cheated my intuition told me different not to mention the evidence spoke differently, lots of male friends i never met, text messeges that didnt seem fair to me ( yes i checked her phone ) as she did to me however at that time i wasnt doing anything offside she was relapsing and hanging out in areas of high drug use populations. Were both sick but i believe were good for one another if we do the work on ouselves which im doing now dont know whats shes doing but i dont think shes ready to heal. I wana be with her despite our age gap im 35 shes 21. Is there hope am i an pig i dont think i am can i be forgiven and trusted by her again

  133. My boyfriend of almost 5yrs has been cheating through the internet, online”hookup sites” and such, he gets a thrill just talking to these people, supposedly has never followed through with meeting with anyone, just talking.. to me that’s cheating, however he hasn’t slept with anyone, so in my stupid mind that’s somehow better??? Idk what to do, I’ve never had a relationship like ours, we get along very well, and other than this one issue we have/had a great relationship. But I don’t know if I can get passed this

    • Only difference between real life/online hookup sites is one click.

  134. I was on holiday for 2 weeks with a friend, her boyfriend & her boyfriends 2 friends. From day 2 for some reason I started really liking one of the friends. He really made me smile, laugh & I really enjoyed his company. He teased me a lot like poking me, tickling me throughout the holiday. On the second week, we got closer. One night my friend and her boyfriend went for a meal, so I was left alone with the 2 guys. I didn’t mind cause they invited me to come watch a movie with them. The other guy that was there went to get a shower so I was left with the guy I liked. We were on the bed and he was tease me but this time he got really really close, so close that we kissed, a lot. I played it off as a one off, but the next night I wasn’t feeling to good. He came to check up on me and we ended kissing, again. The last day really felt like we were a couple. He would steal kisses when our friends weren’t looking, he stole me away from our friend just so we could spend time together. Then on the night he came and slept in my bed. I wish how I could describe that night because it was the most special night I’ve ever shared with somebody. We cuddled, we kissed, we laughed, we shared stories the whole night up until 4am. At one stage things got heated and I wanted nothing more to sleep with him that way. It wasn’t my first time having sex, but this felt special. What made it even more special was the fact that it hurt and he stopped it. Even though (I know this might be tmi) very aroused and it is what we both wanted, he stopped it cause he didn’t want to hurt me. This really touched me and only made me like him more. The next day we had to leave to go home which upset me because I wouldn’t be able to see him like I had been. This story may sound easy but the big thing is that whole time, he was in a relationship. He has a girlfriend 🙁
    I’ve never wanted to get into this situation, I truly never. But I just fell for him, hard. It sucks to know that no guy has ever made me feel like this and all I want to do is be with him.
    From what I’ve heard the girl his with isn’t the greatest, which doesn’t give us reason to cheat, I know that. his friends tell me its sort of a toxic relationship. She’s quite controlling in a way and has kind of got a hold on him. They’ve been together for about 6 months and already shes living with him. She claims her mom kicked her out when that wasn’t the case. As a matter of fact her mom still continues to buy her cars, the insurance and other things. She currently doesn’t have a job and doesn’t even offer rent, all she lives off is an insurance pay out that was her fault.
    I want him to tell her. She deserves to know, I just don’t want to live like this cause honestly its killing me knowing his with her right now. This isn’t just some holiday romance, I want it to be so much more.
    Does anybody have any advice?

  135. i was in a relationship with jamie for nearly 2 years and in the last 6 months of our relationship i got introduced to his high school buddy Ron… and myself and ron got along really well.. and we became best buddies.. and he started to hang around with jamie and me whenever we would meet… then there came a point where i started to like my friendship with ron than my relationship with jamie… and suddenly one day ron calls me to say that he has feelings for me and that i am the first girl he has had feelings for… and i was open about this to jamie.. we still hung around together.. i slowly began to love ron.. and when jamie asked me.. i accepted it that i did develop feelings for him.. but i told him i would get over it if he gave me some time..suddnly i get to know that jamie had cheated on me with one of my friend… initially thought it was just a rumour that was spread by ron.. but it turned out to be true… i was shattered.. though i had built feelings for ron, i still wanted to stick to jamie… ron and my best friend slowly got me out of that mental turmoil…
    Ron proposed to me.. but even though i loved him i wasnt ready for a relationship.. i was scared where i would again be cheated upon .. i was ron’s first love.. and i knew very well he is a great guy.. and would never cheat on me cause he knows how it was for me when things ended with jamie… Ron worked really really really hard to get me.. my best friend helped him a lot with it.. he was totally against infidelity .. i was certain about that so i finally agreed .. and we were in a happy relationship for 4 months… we three[Ron, my best friend and myself] would always hangout together.. i was in a happy space… he soon became the benchmark boyfriend for all my girl friends and sisters.. he would help all my sisters with their relationship problems… he was everyone’s favorite..
    after 4 months he said to me that he could not be in this relationship cause he has family responsibilities.. he needs to get back to business.. nd this time it was with my uncle .. and told me that if he would be with me then every decision he took would be by keeping me in the back of his brain which would not be right for the business he was gonna do with my uncle…it was a sacrifice both of us were making..i said to my best friend that i was ready to wait for him for as long as he comes back.. and i knew he would come back one day.. i knew he was in pain when he said those words to me.. i was just coming in terms with all this to find out from my best friend that he would occasionally flirt with her saying..my friends feel u are a better match for me.. we both are good together since we both have similar interests in drinking [ i dont drink ].. she says .. he would say such things only at night when he would be drunk and she feels it was in the influence of his bar mates.. everytime she thought she would come and tell me she would see how good he was to me and would avoid saying… moreover she was there with him when he worked soo hard to get me.. she saw how crazy he was for me.. everytime she asked him why he liked her .. he would say my friends feel u are better and you also love to drink like me… when i asked him he said he wants me to move on.. he admitted that he did flirt with her.. but right now he doesnt want her nor does he wanna be with me..
    now he is fully involved with his new restaurant business and thats why he doesnt want this relationship with me as his business partner would not accept it anywhichway..but i have noticed that it still bothers him when i talk to other guys .. he tears when i talk about my fake bf.. i know for a fact he will come back to me after his business stabilizes … but i feel soo bad and insecure about what he spoke to my best friend.. i can never trust him back.. and i will constantly fear that i will lose him if i get back… i dont know how he could do this to me.. he always said that i was a perfect gf.. not clingy.. understanding.. fun.. homely.. i dont know why he started liking my best friend .. for drinks?????
    at this moment whatever i ask him .. he will not give a genuine answer cause he doesnt want me to wait for him… all the questions i have asked he has even taken false blames for all that… i dont know what to do.. ive not been eating.. i feel like dead person.. i just cant take this… ive loved him with all my heart.. he was everything to me… i want true answers and idk whom to ask and what to do about it.. ive discussed about this to him.. and everytime i ask him something he lies to me about what he has not done.. he thinks if he will make himself seem more wrong i will move on… i have told him that i have moved on.. but reality is that i havent.. i want answers but i know i wont get them…
    i want some insight to what i should be doing next…

  136. Me and my boyfriend have been together for over a year. I found out through girls contacting me he had been cheating for a minimum of 7 months with girls he met on Tinder. He claims he only slept with one, they have been sleeping together for probably 6 months. And in between he has sexted and messaged many other girls. I found clues and knew in my heart something was wrong but ignored it and let him convince me I was crazy. During this time before i knew what he was doing, He found out I had a friend across the ocean I talked to alot and I hid because this guy liked me and we previously had a sexual online relationship before i met my current boyfriend. I never said any thing sexual and always tried to get him to respect my relationship cause I needed a friend who knew me and quite honestly i needed attention since my boyfriend seemed distant and wasn’t wanting sex or intimacy with me anymore. He found out about hI’m and made me feel like the scum of the earth for it and mad me pay dearly for it eventhough he was sleeping with sone one else. Anywas, even though I knew he was doing something I didn’t know it was this bad. He claims hes a sex addict and he can’t believe he chrated on the only girl he’s ever loved and wanted to be with forever. He watched me hurt myself and break down like I never have and he claims things will be different. Is it possible that he can change? With cheating for so long is it possible to just change and not do it anymore? I’m so lost. We’ve been tbrought alot in the last year, getting and losing jobs, death, suicide in the family, cancer in the family, was it all fake? Do you think sone one can actually recover themselves?

  137. So my boyfriend fiance of almost 17 years cheats on me…then he decides to move out.then he comes to pick up are kids 2 weeks later with his new 20 years younger girlfriend..then not even a month and a half later wants to hook up for sex..I still have feelings for this idiot..afterward he calls and says he feels bad but doesn’t. .then proceeds to ask me for a threesome and tells me he wants to get me drunk and take advantage of me…but I am not to say anything to anyone..grrr….I am beyond confused because he wants me to say something to my roommate…I will not put myself out that far..I tell him he has a girlfriend..have her do it for you

  138. Hey so i’m in college and i’m dating this guy named Alex and we don’t go to the same college and he doesn’t have a phone so we have no way to communicate. And so before school started back up I went to see him and he was like ow ya we r dating um I need to talk to u and so then he told me that he forgot we were dating and is now dating 2 other girls ones older and ones one of my friends from the past and so I was completely shocked by this because I’ve seen him cry and hes so sweet and nice and smart and funny and when he told me this he was like babbling a lot and I was just worried about him have a panic attack or something and so I was trying to calm him down and it seemed to work and he them apologized. But before i could ask him if he still likes me or likes my old friend Olivia or the older girl and tell him its OK because i started dating a fake guy named Gabe that tuned out to be my friend Alexis and a voice changer app on her phone, my friends like completely butted in and pulled me away before i could ask and now school has started and i’m being harassed by Olivia and her friends. And instead of asking how my summer was the first words i heard come out of her mouth was r u and Alex broken up yet and i was like um no we were dating before he started dating u so idk if he doesn’t want to date me any more or what but idk whats going on so u should go ask him if u want to know and then one of her friends called me desperate and a slut and ow my god I swear if i wasn’t in class i would of beat her ass. But now i’m going to talk to Alex tomorrow but idk what to say and i don’t want him to have a anxiety r panic attack.
    What should I say so I don’t freak him out or make him nervous or uncomfortable?
    How do i tell him my friend cat fished me and pretended to be a guy that was dating me?
    And how do I not get in trouble and at the same time get Olivia and her friends To shut up?

    • He sounds like an ass. How do you FORGET you’re dating someone? How did you guys keep in contact? How long were you not in contact? The fact that he isn’t trying to talk to you is enough of an answer for you. Let him go. Olivia should to.

  139. I dated my boyfriend for a year. In late may we had an argument because he thought I was cheating on him with my ex-boyfriend.. I was not. Fast forward to today, I find out he cheated on me during the time we argued with this pothead who lives near him from one of her friends. He then saw said pothead consecutively for days until today so he could get free weed from her to “escape his guilt” of cheating on me. He lives hours away, I never once believed he would do something like this but he shockingly did and I’m just broken. He drove to see me to explain and say he was sorry but all he gave me were excuses. “I thought you were cheating on me”, he said, “I was in a bad place” he said, “I was on drugs and alcohol” he said. None of them are true answers to me. I know he is sorry. He wouldn’t let go of me, he was a crying mess in front of me. He blatantly showed me that he hurt himself (manipulation for pity? – I have actually dealt with this before). But I don’t have any sympathy. I’m empty. I don’t know what to do anymore.

  140. I need help so my baby daddy and I have been on and off again for 6years we have a child together when we go our seperats ways it seems like we cant let go of us he’s cheated many of times on me hr broke my heart I don’t understand why he tells me to this day he loves me and he misses me ??because cheating and hurting a person u say u care about isn’t love!so why does he keep telling me that

  141. So my boyfriend and I have been going out for about a year now and things have been great, we’ve had out ups and downs but it’s typical stuff. I’m a non monogamous person but I decided to give monogamy a try because I really like this guy. But about three months in I found dating sites with his account. We talked about it and he agreed never to do that sorta thing again. Just recently however, I found a whole bunch of them again. His messages to random females asking if they wanted to hook up and such (actively looking). I sat down with him and he told me that it’s a kink of his. I don’t want to kink shame him for it but I also hate the idea that he can do that sort of thing but I can’t? What do I do?

  142. I Am 48,I Was in a dysfunctional Abusive Relationship 4 27 yrs.
    8 yrs ago. I Started seeing a guy 9 yrs younger, whom has 3 kids & coming out of an 11 yr RelationShit.. When we got together he told me he wasnt looking for a relationship, that his kids were Always going to be his priorty!
    I Willingly Excepted that, as thats how every father should be. Right from the start I Expressed My NEED for HONESTY, & Assured Him I can Handle Anything As Long as I Know the Truth. (No Matter how Much it Hurts) I Never Want to be that Insecure Jealous B**ch EVER AGAIN & By being HONEST Will let me Know, He Respect Me & My Need for TRUTH.
    I let him Know if He changes his Mind & wants to go back to TRY & Make it Work with Baby Mama Just be Straight with Me (Cuz in My Opinion He belongs with his kids) & I Would Step Aside if they can make it work.He Understood & Agreed to Always be honest & Respect Me.
    He Tried to Go back & Make it work,ONLY to be Slapped in the Face by her ONCE again.
    I Showed Him That I Am Loyal, Understanding, Excepting & Forgiving. After the 3rd Time I told him I was NO LONGER Willing to Be Understanding or Excepting of this cuz Shes just Playing Games NOW! It Didnt take Long for Me to get over it Forgive Learn to Trust Again. He Treated Me Very Well, for 6 years I didnt have 1 Complaint, We Had A Relationship Others Envy, We Have Been Told How Rare it is to see anyone with Such a Solid & Respectful BOND! His Friends Often Say they wish they could find a Relationship like Our & Tell their Parents they want a g/f like My B/f has.
    3 years ago I had a car accident, resulting in a Broken Neck, 13 screws, 2 cadaver bones & a Titum Bridge. I was in the hospital 36 days & Crossed Over Twice (FlatLined) He Really Stepped Up & became a SUPER HERO. I Believe The Patiance, Love, Support Respect & Strength I Felt from him is why I Was Able to Make a Complete Recovery So Quickly. I Had to Learn to Walk Again, Hold a Spoon Feed Myself, the First 2months After coming home he had to Help Dress me Shower me Do my Hair cook for me, Work Ect
    I NEVER EVER thought I Had to Worry bout him going back, I Truely Believed he was Finally Over Her!!!
    Well 2 moths Ago She Started Trying to Interfear with Our Trip to take my 2 boys to MEET their Gr-Grandmother My & Family I have ONLY Seen 2X in 30 yrs By Saying he Suddenly Has To Take his kids too… The Kids that live with her & Come whenever they want or she lets them!! (teenage girls) This STARTED A HUGE Fight & he Eneded Up Leaving to his moms! I For the 1st time in my life Followed Threw & TOOK My Kids Anyways wout him. Cuz He TOLD Me to Go be with My Kids & He’ll be with his. Basically He was Dumping me, ONLY 2 find out the NIGHT He Left, Baby Mama Picked him up & they went OUT!!! He Was Trying to be with Her (Sex) But Didnt ONLY Cuz She Wouldnt. I AM HAVING A REALLY HARD TIME MOVING PAST THIS TRUSTING OR BELIEVING. ANYMORE
    Im My Mind I NEED Him to figure OUT Why He Threw Me Aside like a Piece of Trash AGAIN & For What? What is it He wants from her & Why he KEEPS Doing this. ( his Reply (Cuz Hes An IDIOT) I Can NOT Except his Cop Out Excuse & NOT Sure We Will EVER Bounce back from this ONE.
    He thinks I should let go of the past (last month) Cuz They Didnt do nothing Anyways. BUT HE SURE DID Try & if She Would Have Where Would We Be NOW…
    ANY ADVICE???

  143. I’ve been dating my best friend for three years. He’s been my best friend for many years prior to us dating and I love him very much, he’s the only person I’ve ever trusted, that is what makes this situation so devastating. I found out he’s been going online looking for women to have phone sex with. He made profiles on sex apps and downloaded texting apps on his phone so I wouldn’t detect any of those messages. He’s been doing this for almost our whole relationship. The worst part of it is I caught him 3 times this year and everytime he tells me he’ll change and he loves me. When we’re together he shows me love and affection.. he seemed so perfect our whole relationship but this cheating thing , even tho it’s online, just broke my heart and it’s happened so many times. Everytime he tells me it would be different my heart wants to believe him because I do love him and want to trust him, but he keeps repeating his old ways. Should I stay with him? Will he ever stop or just get better at hiding it ?

  144. Well, I have a boyfriend and many people say that he has been flirting with a girl. But my boyfriend is in a different class with the girl so I don’t know what to do? I love him to much to break up with him….What should I do.

  145. So, I had sex with a guy I went to high school with and we recently reconnected. The big thing is I dated his brother in high school and I was always attracted to him but never worked up the courage to go after him, now 4 years later and some alcohol in the mix we ended up having sex. Which isn’t the problem, the problem is, is that he has a girlfriend who he’s been with for 7 months. I like him but hate that he cheat on her with me, yet I still want to be with him. What do I do??

  146. My BF hasn’t cheated but I caught him in contact with his ex, which would be fine, had he not been lying about it. I’m not concerned about things going far with them as she lives out of province, but the whole situation is just making me think. What else has he lied about? Can I trust him that he says he won’t do something like this again? Also thinking about the fact that he adds a lot of random girls on fb. He doesn’t message any of them (so far as I know, but I usually have access to his fb so I don’t think so). Just really not sure how to go about this and it’s making me so paranoid and insecure. I always said if I was cheated on I would walk away immediately, but seeing as how this is different, I’m confused.

  147. My boyfriend WILL NOT ADMIT IT but I know for a fact he is!!!!! I tell him I know he is and still says no. Stays with me as well.??????

  148. My story is almost the same, I know the conflict you feel. I caught mine doing this over a year ago and realized he had been doing online stuff for nearly 4 years but by the messages I read it was escalating to trying to meet these people. I trusted him totally and utterly so never even considered checking his emails or phone messages. I was a wonderful girlfriend and gave him sex nearly everyday as he is extremely affectionate with me and I loved the intimacy. I would have never believed he would do this to me. Now I realized how often he had lied straight to my face. He said he would never do this again as I am his soul mate and I haven’t caught him in the last year but it has changed me. I have turned into a stalking crazy person and have become obsessed with catching him again, I even fantasize about kicking his ass out when I do catch him as I am convinced he will do it again. I think maybe I have become unwell now, my entire belief system of fate and true love is gone, now I realize we are just higher monkeys controlled by hormones and nothing is real or true which diminished how I loved him.. It has been over a year now and my passion for him has never returned, I simply do not trust him and I feel I never will again. Why do I stay, I’m just waiting for next time so I can say good bye with a clear understanding. Its not about what he does, it is about my boundaries now and what I am willing to accept, there will not be a second chance, it will end once I catch him again. You have given your man too many chances, by the third time you should realize he will not change. Set yourself a line he should not cross, tell him. Find your strength in your boundary and if he does it again you need to leave, his behavior will only escalate if you keep letting him get away with it and one day he may bring you home a disease.

  149. I need some advice. My current boyfriend is nice and he always texts me “I love you” a lot, but we have only dated for 3 days! So I told him to not use the word love because it was a very strong word, and that we should slow down a bit. He said yes, but today he asked if he still wants to be together… of course I put “yes” but I don’t know if he still wants to be with me. Should I ask him if he wants to be with me still?

  150. I’m a guy i have done this before never meant to it’s kinda stupied i got back with the girl that i cheated on we have been together for 11 months you know if you love them stick with them but like really don’t cheat your stupied if you do because ik Ithestick with the one you love work it out don’t give up ik I’m only 18 idk if I’m right there are so many guys out there that only use girls for sex but I’m not that guy

  151. okay so i had an argument with my boyfriend and for years now ive just had a gut instinct he is not being truthful or loyal to me, after three years i have finally decided to follow my instincts and try catch him out so a friend of mine that he doesnt know let me sign into her instagram and talk to him via direct message!!!! i said hey and he replied bye but straight after replied with hey my gyal??? usually when a gurl messages him he will show me replying bye and now it has come to me that he puts bye then after retracts all the messages he puts after to then show me if i ask to see!!!!! SLY i know i need help on what to do next because i dont have proof of any other girls or if he meets them or what !!! HELP PLEASE

  152. I met this guy 6 years ago. At the first year we have been chatting and he always try to ask me out for a date or come over to his place and have dinner with his son or go out of town for a week but I refuse his invitation. I don’t know, i don’t think I like him like that, and I was always feel insecure about myself or intimidated by him. He is wealthy and successfull and I am just a simple girl. I always thought it will never work so I still see him but only for a hook up. You know? Til I got boyfriend and I didn’t have so much time to see him. But I did when I got a time away from my bf, til I notice he is not inviting me to his place anymore even I went single again. So I asked if he is dating or have a girlfriend already, and he tell me the truth and said that he had girlfriend a month after I had bf and I think he still good on how we are. Like see each other for a short hook up. I don’t know why he still see me twice a week or atleast once., honeslty he never ever enjoy having … You know what I mean? and secondly he seems so inlove with his girlfriend they are 4 years live in now. 2 years of they living together I thought they’re getting married, til it moved another year and til now 4 years they’re still not. I knew it from seeing his gf facebook acc. I was oftenly look at her account.
    If we are together he always try to tease me.. And he say.” I don’t kno w I even find a way even I don’t have time, just to see you ” I even remember once he’s kind of tipsy he said to me “there was a times that I am thinking you are the one beside me on my bed”
    I just need an advice I don’t want to ask him I’m shy. But I wanna know what is his feelings for me? Why he still see me?
    Excuse for my bad english. I’m filipina 🙁 but I wish you could understand my story and reply with an answer.. Thank you..

  153. I had a boyfriend we dated for 8 months but then this girl walks into my life wanting to fight me. He begged me to stay, I didn’t want to put up with the drama but then i just found out he cheated on me with the same girl. I don’t know but how I still love him is crazy! Help me!!!

  154. It sounds like what you have with him is sexual addiction. This type of addiction is the same as a chemical addiction because there is a high involved and there are risks and dangers. Please chat with one of our HopeCoaches about this. Click the Chat Now button or go to this page https://www.thehopeline.com/gethelp/ to start chatting. Also, he is cheating on both of you. We also have a free eBook about why people cheat – http://info.thehopeline.com/relationshipscheating-ebook
    You deserve to have someone who truly cares about you and desires to be with you all the time.

  155. I found out my bf cheated! He swears it was sex only with the other girl! Like that is supposed to make me feel better! Feel so betrayed, sad but mostly feel like a fool! The craziest part of this saga I really do miss our talking on the phone every day and being with him!

  156. Men (or anyone) who cheat don’t care about anyone but themselves. Do you know the feeling of being cheated on? It’s horrific. Can you imagine? Ladies, some advice: break up with him. Clearly he doesn’t want to be with you, has no self control, looking for a connection elsewhere, whatever the reason may be (the point is) he cheated. We are cognitive beings with the power of choice, everyday we make choices, and he chose to cheat. Would you want to be with someone with no self control? No.

  157. Okay so there’s this guys and before he dated this girl he was really clingy. He kissed and and everything then the next day he has a girlfriend but. He messages me telling me he loves me and sends me emoji hearts but I try to ignore him but really on the inside I want him back. He used to be mine and I miss him I made the mistake of breaking up with him a while ago. So he tells me I’m pretty and stuff and I don’t want him messing with my emotions! He tried to cheat on his girl with me and I said sorry I can’t do this, this isn’t right and as soon as I said that. He changes the conversation in a second he ignored the fact that I said that. I don’t know what to do and I don’t know what to say. Like I’m really attached but I can’t let go :(.

  158. When i was thirteen year old,i told my current boyfriend to wait for 4 years before i could agree to date him. he waited patiently for 4 years….but unknown to me he dated six girls during the period of that 4 years. Although,he was still asking me out and always begging for my love every blessed day.
    The 4 years completed last year and finally i agreed to date him. After some months, i found out that he was still dating another girl. i got mad at him and almost broke up with him, because its seem the both of them has been sexually attached.
    He begged me and threatened to kill himself if i should end our relationship. i felt weak hearing that. so i could help but forgive him,,,but the trust was broken already. He promised to break up with her which he did.
    Now am fighting hard to build back the trust but he’s ex is getting in my way. She is always calling him even when am around him. she sent a friend request on Facebook which i accepted. We became friend, we talk to each other as if we’ve been friends for ages. she even promised to forget about him(my boyfriend).
    I know it wasn’t gonna be easy for her but i believed her. she didn’t stop calling him to the extend that i started i started suspecting my boyfriend again.
    I sat him down and spoke with him. he said he wasn’t dating her again more. he said she kept disturbing him day and night. i didn’t confront her because she was already my close friend. he posted my picture and his on facebook and wrote some thing about his love for me and about my birthday. He’s ex saw it and got furious about it. i tried to calm her down but she wouldnt listen. i felt hurt emotionally because i know the kind of pain she is going through.
    i feel bad when ever she’s in pain because of me.
    Please i need your advise, should i break up with him so that she can have him back?. i know it wont be easy for me cus i love him so much and i cant even imagine life without him and i know he sincerely loves me too but i cant just see someone else hurting so bad. i feel guilty sometimes.

  159. boy friend cheats because he is unhappy and doesn’t know how to cope with everyday stressors =/ how can that be treated, we love each other and want our relationship to be successful but he likes to use social media to visually and verbally lust over and flirt with women and i believe that is very disrespectful to our relationship. I barely had guy friends in our relationship.

  160. I need some advice and help too…
    I am really starting to believe my man who I’ve been living with for 4 months and been with for 9months isn’t over his ex and may have been cheating on me with her throughout the entire time of us being together. There was major drama that went down on New Years , unexpected drama. One of my friends is friends with my mans ex. They talked and apparently my friend ( whos name is Mike) told me he had some things that he felt I needed to know. He told me he was still involved with his ex ( Sara). My bf told me that it was all lies and that he stopped seeing her in May2016..but we made things official in April of 2016. That’s all that he admitted to. So I told Mike that if she didn’t have concrete proof that I am going to stay with my man and continue on with our relationship because I thought it was solid. Well…. she contacts me on FB to let me know of the concrete proof… at that point, me and my man were kind of over. She told me these times where they were out together and hooked up over at her apartment. She said they’d go out on their lunch breaks to hook up or just have lunch. She said that he bought her a couch and a table My man denies it and says they’ve only been friendly and they’d just talk about things going on in their lives so of course she knows about events that went on in his life. He feels that shes just mad because he chose me over her. She told me that he took her to his friends/Coworkers birthday party. She also said that there were times he’d go through her phone. All of these things had me wondering if all this were true. I don’t know how I feel about things as he hardly ever talks about her. So I’m staying for reason I don’t want to get into. Hopefully things work out, if not I have A LOT of pieces to pick up. Does anyone feel like I should be worried? Is he still in love with his ex? Should I believe him? I told her in one of her messages to me that if he ever contacts her to let me know by screenshots because it’ll have his phone number date and time of contact. Was that smart of me to request that? I gave her my number to contact me. Do you all feel that he will try and reach out to her or will he leave her alone and respect our relationship? Again he’s denied everything.

  161. Not sure if anyone reads these things anymore but felt like getting someones option. Ive been with a guy for 5years now have 3 kids. Its not been easy but i love him and have tried making it work for our kids. However i now have answers to all the let downs. He has been carrying on a realationship that was before us. The women is 10 or so years older then him and im 8 years younger then him. Again we share 3 kids together and i feel so dumb. How could i have let myself down along with me kids. Why did he manipulate me from the beginning? Why did he prove to be the man he said he once was. Im just so hurt my the fact i believed him. So many questions but no right answers. I need feed back. Im trying not to do something on my own emotion. I must continue to remember we do share kids. i dont want to take them but i want to do what is best for them. So confused help if possible

  162. I have been with this man on and off for three years. Just crazy !! It would be great for a while we’d travel and have fun. Then all of a sudden something would happen that gut feeling something is up and boom we break up. Long story short. This last time we split I would not go back to him. I wouldn’t go out with him he’s text and call over and over. Persistently!! And finally I have in. It was so different this time. All he kept saying was he loved me. And looked for my replacement while we were apart and he couldn’t find it. WNted to spend the rest of his life with me. Over and over and then after weeks of this. Boom I caught him lying about him saying that he was going to work and wasn’t. I don’t know or get it.

  163. I have been in a on and off again relationship with a guy for 3 years. We were only together for 3 months the first time he cheated on me. I honestly think if my son had not died a week after I caught him, I may have been able to kick him to the curb. His cheating is what ended his marriage too. We would be good for a few months, then I would hear about something or someone he was with. He always denied and of course came up with a lie. Which was usually so absurd, I couldn’t believe he thought I would believe him. I have to say, I think he is a narcissist. There is of course lots more to the story. I was a hot mess, depressed, grieving and empty when my son died, so I just wanted anything that was stable in my mind. I lost all self esteem and became a door mat. So we have been broken up since July. We would still chat every now and then. But this week, he has invited me over to visit. And the fool I am, I went. Basically for one thing. UGH! So now I feel so used again. What can I do to get him out of my mind, thoughts and heart? I have not been dating since then. But of course he is and was before we were done again.

  164. I dated this guy for almost two years. Before it got to a year a friend of his told me he was cheating on me and gave me proof so I asked my bf then about it and if what his friend said was true. He admitted it but was like they stopped communicating but they didn’t breakup before then so dahs why he said they were still dating. I broke up with him but he apologized and I took him back. Almost two years that we were dating I got to find out that he was still dating the girl through his phone. He was chatting up with his friend about how the girl was coming to his house and his friend told him to have sex with her if she came. I have been to his house before and he has also been to mine and nothing ever happened. I confronted him about him still dating the girl after promising to officially break up with her. All he was concerned about was me checking his phone and I was just checking his phone to look for something to just tease him about.When I confronted him, he felt no remorse so I asked him to choose between myself and the girl. He was like he loves me so much and didn’t want to break up with me at all but he cant breakup with the other girl because he didn’t want to break her heart cause he didn’t want to ever break a girl’s heart. He also said the girl already knew about my relationship with him. I told him he didn’t know what he wanted and broke up with him. Please did I do the right thing and where did I go wrong in handling the issue

    • You did the right thing! You handled the situation very maturely. You confronted him and communicated really well. And you stood up for yourself by not continuing in a relationship where you are continually being cheated on. He is the one with a problem. You deserve to have someone who only wants you and no one else. I am really proud of you for being so brave and for valuing yourself. If you want to chat privately, we are here for you 24/7 – https://www.thehopeline.com/gethelp

  165. i have been seeing a man…we are mature adults for a year. i found out through emails depositing at night that he was sexting a woman. We were moving in together and he went out drinking with friends, sexted an ex and went to her house at 1.39 am. I saw the emails talking about their past hook ups and how they enjoyed each other at the beach. He says it was before we met but his texts were recent. he even said do we kiss and play and you dont need clothes. she sounded equally excited. he says nothing happened and he felt foolish. he lies to me 5 times with different stories about this over three months. says now the truth is he went to her place but nothing happened. i dont trust him now and can hardly look at him. salvageable? or not? doubt i!

  166. Hi my name Sharon I have a boyfriend that I keep catching talking to girls online only when I pick he’s phone up he then shouts at me has I’m in the wrong he’s already been caught asking my nice to show her nickers to him on instergram he’s joining on line chats all the time secret with he phone they’d girl are nearly naked what am I to think can he meet theses girls is it class has cheating

  167. My boyfriend and I have been together for about 3 years and for the past 2 years he’s been cheating on me with the same girl and everytime I tell him to stop talking to her he manages to still talk and see her. He says he wants a future with me and what not but how do I know she’s not going to be in the picture years to come? The other day I saw some shocking photos on my friends phone of him sending messages to 3 of my friends saying to wants hook up with them. I do give him action but I try not because I find it disgusting for him to be sleeping with other girls and then try sleep with me. I love him with all my heart and keep on giving one last chance but he always manages to lie to me. The worst part is for the past 6 months now weve basically moved in together. Please can someone help me.

    • You are right to not want to be intimate with him when he is engaging so many other partners. Every disease those partners have will be transferred to you. It is very dangerous for you. It sounds like he has a sex addiction and needs to get help. His behavior continues to escalate and become riskier for both of you. Do you have someplace you can go? Do you have good friends and people you can trust? You can chat with one of our HopeCoaches anytime about what to do. Just click the chat now button or go to this link – https://www.thehopeline.com/gethelp We care about you!
      Like with alcohol or drugs, sex addiction has the same signs:
      1) Compulsivity – the loss of control over a behavior. An addict continues in the behavior or relationship despite repeated attempts to stop.
      2) Continuation despite negative consequences.
      3) Preoccupation or obsession.
      4) Tolerance – more of the same behavior or an escalation of progressive behaviors is required to get the same “high.

  168. My boyfriend almost got tempted by some girl who agreed to be a third party. I was so hurt and I cried every night. When I’ve thought about it, I might not be enough for him or he really like someone else. So I said when the time comes that he was sure that he has no feelings for me anymore, he should tell me so we can talk about it and I’ll set him free. I won’t insist myself to him any longer.

  169. So I dated this guy in 9th grade. He was great. We didn’t have sex for the 5 months that I was with him. I ended up finding out, through his gmail, that he had been sexting some other girl. I broke up with him but got back together like 4 days later. I took him back instantly. Our relationship went on into the summer, and he traveled for a bit during that time. We still talked and he would send me pics of where he is, how its like, etc. I ended up breaking up with him when he got back from his trip and i don’t remember why i broke up with him now that i think about it. He stayed in touch with my sister and they became best friends. He was in my life for for my 10th and 11th grade years.
    In the summer entering my senior year, I began to develop feelings for him. My sister confessed to me that he has liked me all of these years. It took a while for me to agree to be his girlfriend because I considered 9th grade cheating. It wasn’t until September that I decided to give it a go. Everything was going great. He showed me that he really cared about me. Our relationship had been going strong until recently. Just like 9th grade, I found out through his email, using google photos, that he had been talking and sending pictures and receiving flirtatious pictures from another girl. She had her top off but covered her boobs, etc. But, that wasn’t all I found. I discovered through google photos that he had videos saved of us having sex without my knowledge. I broke up with him that same day, but after I deleted the videos and pictures of me/us that I wouldn’t want him showing (indecent pictures).
    I blocked him on snap chat (where we had our 202 streak) and on instagram that same day. The next day I unblocked him, and he tried to message me through snap chat. I blocked him again.
    I haven’t talked to him ever since the break up except for a short text message conversation 3 days after the break up where he said that he wanted to talk. I told him that I wasn’t ready to talk to him because I wanted to have my mind clear.
    That night, his best friends message me and told me that he came up with a plan to try to get me back, but it involved him lying to me. They said that they cared about me and that I shouldn’t take him back. That I should start fresh at college. The plan was that he would claim that the girl was messaging one of his friends and the friend would screenshot the pics and show them to the group chat where he would also screenshot and save the pics. Part of the plan involved the other girl backing up his story.
    I am a bit confused as to why he would attempt this. Is it because he doesn’t want to lose me? Is it because he doesn’t want to feel as guilty? Also, the day before I found out he was talking about how he wanted me to visit him at Brown University, where he would be attending, so that we could go to New York. Did he see a future with me? Also, what bothers me is that he could tell me this while knowing what he was doing behind my back.
    For clarification, I do consider him flirting with another girl behind my back as cheating. Especially since it had been going in for about 2.5 weeks.
    I’m not really sure what I’m asking. I don’t think I want to take him back, but part of me does. I just want to know your thoughts on this. Thank You!!

    • He does not sound like a trustworthy guy. Lying sounds second nature to him. Listen to your friends because it sounds like they really genuinely care about you. There are many more people to meet in college and you can go into the next relationship much wiser. Become who you want to be and focus on that instead. No one deserves this kind of cheating and lying and deceit and disrespect.

  170. I just found out my boyfriend of 3 years has cheated on me with his coworker for the past 7 months, also contacted his ex looking for nudes, and he has been sending pictures I gave him with his best friend. What I don’t understand is why he would feel the need to cheat when sexually I do anything and everything he ask of me. Also why continue having sex with me and her during the same time. He said the he has been unhappy for the last two years and that when the affair started he felt we were in a bad way. Then he begs me not to leave him. That he is willing to do anything to get back what we have. Yet when I asked to see the conversation between him and the girl he deleted everything. I know I need to leave him but it’s hard he is the only guy I’ve been with and it’s hard to think that everything I put in will just be thrown out like nothing.

  171. Hi I’ve been seeing this guy for about almost a year 3 months ago this girl showed up at my work and told me my boyfriend had been sleeping at her place for about 4 months now and having sex . I got so pissed and I call3d him and asked if this was was true and of course he said no she lying. So next time this happened it was in May she had called me and told me again that he had been coming to her place and she had been telling her to leave her alone . I honestly don’t know how she got my number or knows where I work. Very recent again in June which I think was last week she had snapchatted me on his account and sent pics of him and her kissing and him in her bed now I tried calling and calling but he didn’t pick up that very day he said you have to believe me I got hacked by her . So I’m stupid and I trust him. He said he blocked her but I don’t believe that. What should I do … I really love this guy but my heart can’t take this nor can it take loosing him … please help me ….

    • It sounds like he has been lying to you. A guy who can’t be honest and who cheats is not a great guy. You can do better with someone who truly cares about you and only you.

  172. My boyfriend has been cheating on me since 4 months.We have been dating since 4 yrs now and i really love him.Now that i found out he cheated on me he said sorry and promised to never do it again.Should i get back with him?plz suggest me

  173. If you are going to cheat, you better make sure that you want to burn it all down. There’s no going back.
    After nearly three years together my ex blurted out one night that he wasn’t happy, he hadn’t been for a long time, and he wanted out, and he broke up with me. After a few weeks he realized he wanted me back. I didn’t think he meant it, but after a few months he was still telling me how much he missed me and he loved me. We decided to get back together. We knew the mistakes we both made in the relationship, and the problems we had were definitely fixable. Then one night he admitted that he had casually been hooking up with a co-worker for months before he ended our relationship. I called the reconciliation off.
    We still love each other and we’re both miserable without each other, but I don’t trust him, and I can’t take him back. We would be together if he had broken up with me instead of sneaking around. A simple break from each other may have been all that we needed.

  174. Hello my boyfriend and I have been together for over year and 4 months . We’ve had sex countless times and all that and I literally do everything he wants . I quarreled with him sometime and he threatened me he was going to have sex with another girl. I begged him and spoke and apologized. Normally when we quarrel he ends up forgiving me like a week after but because he went to have the sex with another that very day he was cool with me. I mean this guy ended up having sex with the same girl for the second time when we hadn’t even quarreled or anything. He ended up hiding it from me cos he knew that once he has sex with anyone behind me he’s not sleeping with me again. That was it. I was with him one night and we met the girl and she asked him who I was. He pushed her away and spoke to her like I mean who does that? I was so unsecured that night so I found out this guy had slept with the girl as in he was cheating on me cos the girl was his girlfriend too. He apologized that day and said couple of things that should make me get back to him. I mean since we started going out he slept behind me 3 times and all I let it go . Just this I was finding it diffiicult cos I don’t see why you would do it and come telling me in that same bed that you love me . That’s not love. When I see this boy this things get back to me and when I end up crying he ends up saying I’m emotional. I spoke my mind to him and then that’s when it all begins by him beating me up. I’m literally the one apologizing to him now cos of my anger issues but I don’t think any girl will still be in this kind of thing cos I told couple of my friends about it and they are all surprised I’m with him but it’s because I love him .

  175. Honestly, i’ve been with my boyfriend for months and i don’t know if he’s cheating (we are long distance) he lives in michigan, i live in california. we’ve been together since february and things haven’t been going so well, we met on an online support group for suicidal thoughts and depression issues, he’s been there for me for a lot and he rarely ever talks to me anymore. i always have to get his attention whenever we don’t talk. it may sound really sad to you reading this but it feels like he doesn’t care anymore, it feels like he’s interested in some other girl. what should i do?

  176. So, I need some insight.
    My boyfriend and I have been together over a year, he was the most amazing, caring, supportive boyfriend who literally did ANYTHING for me, he was constantly tell me how in love with me he was and can’t wait for marriage with me, he loved me meeting all of his friends and introducing me to everyone. I honestly felt like a princess. And then right after my 21st and three months of mood swings and constantly being sick because of glandular fever( nine months in) I get a letter in my mail box from a friend of his tell me that he cheated on me with her. The story goes that she came into his work (he works at a nice restaurant), she got drunk and then asked him to drive her car home for her, she started feeling him up and with the high libido that he has, he gave in and they had sex. Apparently he tried to resist but unfortunately gave in. The girl knew about our entire relationship, so it kills me that she even tried it on with him in the first place.
    Do you think he’s worth forgiving or should I just leave him?

  177. I’m Ri
    I’ve been in a relationship with Sam. At first our relationship was so good everything,everytime with was just really very precious. In the beginning always he used to show me that he loves me, he asked me for court marriagese for many times but I said let us make the relationship more stronger we should not take this type of decision so early, oneday he asked me for getting intimate with him because he just wanted to make me his for forever. I said, ”I need time I can’t take this type of decision by getting emotional, our relationship has just started it’s just 1 and an half month is going. he said, ”oh! So u don’t trust me nd bla bla- he always used to blackmail me emotionally…. and by that time I became really very serious I started to love him unconditionally I don’t how easily I trusted him everything what he said….after somedays he again asked me for sex at first i denied but again emotional drama’a were started always the trusted issues came between us whenever i refused him for sex….. After so much of discussion I became bound to to give him what he wanted….I’m just 18years old i never thought of having sex with someone so early at this age….but My love for him is such that i never wanted to see him sad or upset my only motive was to see him happy always and I wanted the relationship to last for lifetime….then the day came I went to give myself to him…I never knew before that while having sex we girls have to go through lots of pain…he asked me ”why aren’t you bleeding? If it’s your first time you should have bleed” then i asked ”i don’t please tell me why do I need to bleed?”…”if a girl is having sex for the first time then she must have bleed…it is related to virginity if it bleeds then u’re virgin…nd if it does not then u aren’t…” he replied…..then he said leave this now i don’t want to spoil my mood…..but I kept on telling him that ”its my first time I never got the chance to meet my ex’s like i meet you that time i was not allowed to go out alone…nd now as i’m in 12th standard my parents allow me to go out because of my tutions…..my parents and other family members are really very strict”- he didn’t give any importance in knowing all these…then we went back to our homes….like this 3days went a bit good fresh it was i felt he he also love me the way i love him…..but i was wrong, i didn’t knew that the matter of virginity and bleeding would stuck in his mind….in the basis of not bleeding he assumed that i’ve lost my virginty with someone else before him…..i failed to prove him….because i don’t know anything about this all and have no idea about how to prove it to him….i just kept on taking swears and promises on my beloved ones….and kept on begging him to trust me….on the fourth day he broke up with saying that one of my close persons told him that I’m not good….mixing all these-m not+not bleeding= am not good i might have lost my virginity before….he broke up i kept on calling him texting him requesting him and begging him to stay with me not to leave me….like thus 20 to 25days gone then oneday he came back 10-13days gone well but whenever we talked to each other he used to sound very rude and arrogant, as if he don’t want to be with me….after that again he broke up….again I’ve requested same like before i told him whatever however whenever he asks me for i will give him i will never deny him for this….like this again 1month and 4days gone on the 5th day suddenly i don’t know what happened he told ne that he will give me a chance pand asked me not to tell anyone that we had a patchup….this time it should be secret…..and then he asked me to meet in the same room (where we had sex for the first time) at first i told him to meet in a restaurant i can’t go to that room then he said now what happened u said u will do anything i say now?….i had nothing to say accepted what he asked for….i was bound to go with him….i just needed him i love him so unconditionally so gave him whatever he wanted and i never thought about myself i couldn’t become the selfish one….but he never loved me,,,after 12days of patch up again he left me😭😭😭 without giving me any reason to leave and without telling me anything😢😢😢 he just blocked me everywhere call message everywhere…i can’t meet him because i don’t know when and where he goes because all his friends lie everytime…..also i can’t go to his work place because i’m carrying my family’s reputation with me….i’m unable to do anything i’m really very depressed all i see in front of my eyes is darkness only darkness i guess suice or death is the only solution for me….i need him back i really love him so much i don’t know why he did this with me but i need him😭😭😭😭

  178. Soooooo. My boyfriend and I have been together for almost five years. Our lives are pretty mundane simply because we both go to school and work full time, on top if which we raise a son (from a previous relationship) together. We get along well, however we haven’t had sex in probably 2-3 months, all his choice related to health issues. Well he went back to his hometown last weekend for a party and to see some family. I couldn’t go on Friday because I had to work Saturday, however I went there after work. There was a bunch of unrelated drama that occurred. Then this morning, I regrettably looked at his phone and he had been Facebook messaging a girl he met while at a bar that Friday night with friends. Talking about going back to her place to continue to party drink, do some illegal substances and he asks if he could spend the night. This was at 3am and the conversation went back and forth about how he would get there and he really wants to see her and get to know her and she’s so hot. Well she decided to call it a night, but they both expressed interest in trying to get together again. Now, I love my boyfriend, but I am heart broken. A similar situation like this happened with him two years ago….here we are again. I want to call him out and I have to say it, but maybe this is it. When is it enough? I shouldn’t have to wonder. I had let it go, but something about this weekend led me to look at his phone. I have another year in school, I can’t afford rent for my son and myself. Do I take the chance and boot him? Or try to work it out? Or agree to live together amicably until financial stability is possible?

  179. One last thing and I will shut up, what you are doing in cheating on him….every woman he ever loves from here out will pay for your cheating. The trust he placed in you, he can never get back, he can’t undo the damage you will cause.

  180. Most women are the worst of all since they’re very busy nowadays sleeping around with all different kinds of men every chance they get. And there are many of us men that were very faithful already before this happened to us. Most women unfortunately nowadays are just down right very horrible and very pathetic. Enough said.

  181. Most of the women nowadays are a head of the game with that one.

  182. I fell for this guy and he is really a good person when he wants to be and when hes not around his so called friends. We have been off and on for 1 1/2 yrs. We go off on each other a lot but always get back together. He is an complete lier he has another girl hes with and he denies it. He tell me he loves me and when we argue every thing is my fault and not his. Why cant he just come clean on his feelings or who he wants to be with. How can someone do this and hurt someone so bad. How can he live with himself. I need to see who it is b4 i comfront him. I have confronted him with everything but he turns it around on me and says im crazy or he says meaner things but I’ll go off also. People tell me he does really care for me and wants me in his life. I cant function anymore he keeps on hurting me and i keep on going back. How can i get over this guy. He’s what i want but i know he will never change and i will never be able to trust him. I’m so lost.

    • Tami I’m so sorry you’re going through this. I have a similar situation where I’ve seen my boyfriend texting his ex he still loves her and then texting other girls and saying they’re just his friends. He says he’s never cheated and we’re together all the time so I don’t know how he could even do it but it’s hard to trust. He says a relationship isn’t about sex but I find it weird that he barely wants to have sex with me😢. He says he loves me all the time but we fight a lot especially since I’ve seen him talking to his ex girlfriend when I’ve asked him no too. An I just had surgery and I need a lot of help but it feels like he doesn’t care and gets annoyed about helping with things. It’s sucks because you don’t want to be seen as needy and clingy. But all we can do is pray.

      • My boyfriend is the same. He leaves flirty comments that i find on accident to girls hes talked to before or also his ex and exes mom! And he says its just friends its ok he understands it hurts me but he keeps doing it. I also caught him on reddit looking for dirty pen pals abd looking at dirty snap chats. Im so sad a depressed about it

        • U. Nee a honest guy that cares about you.

        • Why are you still with him? Dump that idiot

  183. My ex boyfriend Bradley macintosh been cheating on me with this girl twice texting this girl twice kissing this girl twice touching this girl twice sleeping with this girl twice touching hugging this girl twice original sexy this girl twice top this girl twice really sex

  184. And the women today are the worst of all when it comes to cheating.

  185. I’m glad you said at the end “this is not all men”.

  186. Lotus, you need a guy who cares about you and only you. That’s the main issue.

  187. My ex bf, started dating another woman just as he broke up with me (btw, i just found this out). 7 months later he came back, lured me back and i thought he wanted to get back together. Turns out he wa s still w her and cheated w me for 7 months, when i found out, i confronted him, he denied it was serious so i contacted her and she thought she was in a serious relationship. I told her about it, to keep him, she stayed w him. I almost feel sorry for her.lol

  188. My ex-started dating a 19 yr old girl. He is 25 and an alcoholic. I imagine he is dating her (well he says is because he likes her) but I think it is because she lets him do whatever he wants. She lets him drink, be a rebel, gets messed up and she cannot go to the bars to watch him do his dumb crap (watch his drinking and tell him to stop), so he likes that. Well, we ended up crashing into each other at the bar. He said hi and started talking, he wouldn’t leave me alone. He ended up cheating on his new little chick with me (I am 24 so I can go to the bars). I could not get him off me. He would treat me like we were dating. As much as I would pull him away, tell him to stop, or walk somewhere else he was there. People saw, his friend saw, he just doesn’t give a crap. I feel so bad for this little girl. She deserves better, someone who won’t cheat or is an alcoholic. I remember being that age. She forgave him and still is with him. She thinks she found the one, her “love”, her first love but all that is going to happen in that he is going to bring her down and he will most likely continue to cheat on her. I really hope she opens her eyes and leaves and for him will I hope he gets a taste of his own medicine.

  189. Hi im 18 years old, same as for my bf we been going out not for long but then, he cheated on me, a gul called and she said shes also going out with him, he used his fone to call me, she said he couldn’t tell me because he doesn’t wanna hurt me, so i forced the new gf to tell me and she did. Later on he tx me saying sorry and he regret cheating on me and he still love me more then her, but he said its all my choice if i can still be with him, but i broke up with him bcos hes with another gul but i still love him.. So yes I was hurt and right now i don’t what to do can you help me.

  190. HI ,
    I LOVE A BOY HE IS MARRIED PERSON
    HE SEX WITH ME ,WHEN HE WAS GONE HIS HOME THAT TIME HE WAS NOT CALL ME ,
    HE HAS DONE DOMESTIC TOUCHER WITH ME
    THEN HE SAYING ME I LOVE YOU AND I WANT SEX WITH ME ,

  191. 2 weeks ago, when I saw he was acting with me differently for the 3months,I ask him what am I for him, he told me I was a very very good friend. The problem is that he never acted as though. So I told him I wanted to be more than that, he answered if I want but I need to know he self centered and all the rest and he knows I’m very sensitive and he will break my heart. I said let’s give a try and if I see that it’s more than me I will let go. He asked if I’m sure, where I said yes. But seeing his face I saw there was something wrong where I asked that what is really the problem, he told me that I’m too good for him and that he knows me and that I don’t know him. I really insisted before he told that presently he is officially in a relationship with 4 girls where one of them even refused to go to school if he doesnot accept him. After giving him several reasons to let them go and choose me where he refused, I told him OK since you talked of being friends let be friends then. But since then he does not speak with me
    What is his problem. I think I’ve passed over it since I’m somehow emotional unavailable

    • My boyfriend starts ignoring last 10 days ago..
      Our relationship is 2 and a half year last. He treat me like an angel before. But now, he ‘s chaning. Hanging out other girls, ignoring me, get easy temper on me. Then, we discussed and he said he won’t stop our relationship. It’s just my doubts.
      He didn’t come back to our sweet time before. What do you think and what should i do?.,

    • His problem is that he may care about you but he may not be in love with you. When a man tells you he is not good for you, believe him, he is telling you everything you need to know. Don’t force it! I know it hurts but you cannot change anybody, he has to do that. He admitted to talking to other women, even after him saying that you still tried to make it work, it is unattractive, it shows that you are insecure with yourself and that you are willing to put up with anything just to keep this man. He knows that and that may be a reason why he is not speaking to you. You should be happy in a sense, take this time, and work on yourself. It is okay to grieve, everybody is different so the healing process is different and we cannot say how long it’ll take for you to get better but work on your self esteem first. Men like him need to be alone, and in the end if you continue with him you are going to forget who you are just to please a man. My advice to you is self love, and moving on. Once you allow a man to hurt you and find ways to justify it, you will allow any other man that comes into your life to do the same, it only gets worse. Hope this help, peace and love.

  192. I have dating 4 years with my boyfriend but I found out that he cheating on me. I break up with him but after one week of break he call me and he ask me why did I stop to call him. What should I do?

    • Be honest with him and tell him you love and respect yourself more. point blank period. Obviously it’s going to hurt, but your dignity, self respect, self love come first above all!! If you continue with him you are going to loose yourself, your are going to have trust issue eventually creating problems in the relationship. You are going to suffer from low self esteem because you are going to feel like you are not good enough…and you are! It is very difficult to love and put yourself first but you should consider it for the sake of your sanity. Peace and love to you!

    • I was with my boyfriend for 6 years. He cheated on me with four different girls four different times. It happened about7 months ago. I had no idea he did until he told me about month ago

  193. Jan.1,2019 I caught my boyfriend for 4yrs cheating on me.He said he was travelling for work and coming to see me on my Bday,I caught him with another girl(no travelling).To make the story short..he lied to me and I feel stupid.That moment flash back everytime I close my eyes.

  194. i Caught my boyfriend sleeping with my bestfriend in my bed and he send pics of hes lower boday to her but i still forgive him for what he done we are now 3 years together but that memories still stays and i think he is cheating again what should i do ??

    • If your heart tells you something please believe it. I was with someone who abused me for 3 years. I worked hard to buy him what he wanted in life. And in the end he cheated on me for 2 years while I was going through a miscarriage. Please do this for your own happiness please love yourself because hes just a person please

    • Let him and your “best friend” go. They are toxic individuals. You have a choice, they both disrespected you, betrayed and hurt you. A man could cheat on you with any women in the world, and he choice to sleep with your “best friend.” Learn self respect and self love. Let him go love. He will do it again, and again. He doesn’t love you, do you really think that act is love? Yes we are humans and we all make mistake, but what they did to you was wrong. Love your self first, by you taking him back you basically showed them that what they did meant nothing to you. Do not settle, have higher standards, ask your self, would I have slept with another man? Would I have slept with his best friend? Would I have caused so much pain to this man? If the answer is no then why let someone else do that to you. By allowing these men and women to hurt us, we end up welcoming more of these types of people into our lives. Learn your lesson now and I humbly recommend you to let him go and try to figure out what is it about you that allowed you to stay with someone like him. Work on self esteem, self love and self respect, put yourself first above anything. Peace and love!

  195. Ladies you need to be wiser when it comes to that scenario always trust your instincts. Once you caught him you can forgive him but the second time you caught him he made a choice already. It only means that he doesn’t care or treasure the chance that you gave him so think if he doesnt treasure your forgiveness from the mistake that he did even he feels sorry then he doesnt treasure you. Cheating is always a choice its never an accident its just like temptation. Love makes us selfless that even it hurts so much already we keep on trying to fix it and we never lose hope because we love that person so much more than ourselves. The worst feeling that we cant bear thinking living without him or him being with another woman. Never beg for love because if that man really loves you he wont let you beg for his love. He’ll never do things that he knows can hurt you. He’ll be smart enough to know that some other women didnt care if he’s in relationship or not. So early as now he’ll try to resists temptation so he cant hurt you. He wont take advantage being a friend to a woman just to flirt with them “playing safe”. Some men lie to themselves, making themselves believe that they’re just making friends with that other girl even they know that its flirting already because he exactly knows the intention of that other woman but he keeps on entertaining her. So he also made a choice to ignore his thoughts and continue entertaining instead of resisting and ignoring the other woman. By all means, Men like that doesn’t deserve you at all so what you need to do is stand in front of a mirror smile and know your worth thats the key.

  196. Yah if a guy cheats and you find out you already know he’s gonna cheat it’s not okay to cheat to be honest don’t give him another chance cus you know you love him you just got to find a better person that loves you and cares about you

  197. Met a guy online started dating, serious very quickly and I became pregnant. We didn’t live with other but every night we spoke and most weekends we would stay at each other’s houses etc. Anyway long story short he was still active on line dating sights and he denied it. The occasional night he would not text or go quiet. He eventually confessed he’d been sleeping with two girls while he was with me up until I was 7 months pregnant. I found out once baby was born. I found out he’d been dating multiple girls in the first months we’d been together. Since he said it’s a habit, going online but has stopped. …… or has he?? That’s the problem
    I struggle to trust him. Cannot ever be rebuilt. He’s a lovely dad and boyfriend. But a lovely dad and boyfriend doesn’t go round lying and deceiving and getting me in a state while trying to nurse my baby? Don’t want to be a single mum again as I already have two with my ex . I hate being so insecure

  198. I got my love forever

  199. I feel broken. My boyfriend cheated on me with a 20 year old girl with a kid, and now he’s bonded and loves the baby. He loves both of them. He promised me it was over and we were going steadily for a few weeks after I forgave him. But I don’t know if it’s sitting with me well. I’ve been so down. I haven’t been eating, sleep is nonexistent. I’ve felt nothing at all. I dropped out of school. I’m a mess. But when I tried to break up with him, he tried to kill himself and was in the hospital for a few days. I’m too scared. I don’t know what to do anymore.

    • Is the woman his baby mama?

      • Hello can I ask, what is the reason why my boyfriend is always telling me that, maybe I have another boyfriend? I don’t really understand why he keep saying that to me. Were long distance relationship for almost 3 yrs now. And I wonder why he keeps telling me that. And I know to myself I never done something like that just to break our relationship. His from Denmark and I’m here in Philippines. I really don’t understand why.

    • That sounds like manipulation. Be strong and move on. Toxic . Peace and blessings and COURAGE💪🏾

    • I’m going to be blunt because I love you. Stop being in your head. The more you tell yourself things, the more you’ll believe it. You need to up your self worth and leave him dry. Honestly pulling the suicide card on you for leaving is so stupid. Your “boyfriend” is a toddler who’s greedy and only thinks of himself so its about time you start thinking of yourself sweetheart. The world has so much more to offer for you I promise.

    • i would sit him down and talk to him. i know its hard trust me but if you list some of the reasons you cant be with him he may give in. he knows he cant live without you but he is a cheater. try this, if it doesn’t work im here to help more if you need me to

    • Wow this really brought tears to my eyes. Idk why some guys have no respect for us women. I’m going through the same. Well i caught him once. Who knows if it was something before then but I’m not myself. It hurts bad I’m embarrassed to even talk to my close friends and sisters about it.

  200. So my bf of 8 years kept throwing in my face he is going to cheat on me then just last night told me he was going to spend the night at his friends who had his wifes cousins over and his phone was off the whole night so I already knew what was up then he came home after work today had two hickeys on his neck and told me everything that happened and the reason he did that is because its my fault i dont show him enough affection but mind you when i do he plays videos games all day what do I do im very hurt he has cheated on me before to ..but always uses me as an excuse to why he did it. But I make him dinner every night clean and everything but all he cares about is sex.

    • What you need to do is LEAVE HIM! Not worth it. He has no respect for you and can tell that he is unappreciative and manipulative. I promise you are better off without him. No matter how much it hurts.

  201. Been dating my girlfriend of two years and constantly cheating on her. Idk what to do because she really loves me and I love her. I tell myself I wont do it and went the whole 2019 without doing it until today. I feel like crap. I want to tell her.. I have a feeling she will still stay with me but it wont be the same… help any advice is cool

    • Can you truly love her if you cheat knowing it will just kill her inside

  202. My boyfriend and I have been together for almost 5 years. We were about to get married, get a house, and move in together. Last night he called me, and he was under the influence of LSD (his first time doing drugs) and confessed to me that he cheated on me twice with a girl back in high school… he said they had sex twice, and the places he took her to have sex, are the exact same places he also took me… He says this happened about 2-3 years ago. God give me strength because I don’t know what to do….

  203. Me and my boyfriend have been together for 5 years and are living together. We have a lot of dreams together, like getting engaged this year, travel, get married and have kids. We were so happy and i did not suspect anything. Until I caught him and he confessed that he had sex with couple of girls since our first year together. Now I’m depressed and my heart is literally broken to the point I tried killing myself. I don’t know what to do. It’s like i have no choice but to endure this pain. I want to die. You know the feeling that you love someone so much but you have no choice but to heal and build yourself alone… just startover..

    • I really know how this feels as I am experiencing it right now.

  204. Don’t tell her just stop cheating

  205. Was laying on my boyfriend’s chest and he pulled out his phone to look at something. I saw the Tinder app on his phone. I asked him about it and he said that his account is deleted, he still just has the app. Well, woman’s intuition kicked in. I didn’t believe him. So I made a fake profile, put the face of a pretty girl as the profile picture and swiped until I eventually found him. Then it “matched.” Mind you I just made this account today. So he was swiping today too while I wasn’t around. He hasn’t messaged this fake account yet but I’m afraid he will.
    Here’s a backstory: I just moved in with him. I was living in another state, (he used to live there also) until he eventually moved. I would still fly down to see him maybe once or twice a month and stay for a couple days. We’ve been dating for about two years. He asked me to move in and I waited for 6 months until finally I dropped everything and did it. I quit my job and moved in with him the other day. We haven’t had sex at all since I’ve been here. I’ve tried countless times. We’ve gone almost 2 months with no sex because we werent around each other. Now I’m living here and we haven’t had sex once. It’s a huge change from how things used to be. Now that I see him on tinder, I’m afraid that he has cheated or is planning to cheat and I don’t know what to do.

  206. Lol, I feel people cheat because one person validating that they are enough and are the best isn’t enough. They need more validations.. Also, all of these are made up reasons. No matter what happens, you shouldn’t cheat.. be upfront and dump the other person. Cheating or two timing is just wrong. Cheating under the influence of drugs and alcohol is also making excuses. If you cannot control yourself then don’t get to that point. Also, if your relationship is failing, stop it right there and leave the person, if it can’t be fixed. Because when you cheat, that person doesn’t question you, he/she questions love. And while you are wasting his / her time , lying and cheating with other people, they could have met someone with whom they would be happy. When things aren’t working in a relationship, the other isn’t blind. They know it too. So, everything I read here were stupid excuses.

    • Agree this sstupid excusess, but i am in a relaship right now and he been ingoring me like weeks too, My gut tell me that he been cheating on you, i said to myself but i know, i been w him since 1 year in the half w him, i still care about him,i always think about him,but we are in long relaship.

  207. is it the same reason for gay guys cause my boyfriend broke up with me but then I found out he was cheating on me with someone during our relationship and I just wanna know if the reasons are the same

    • Alexzander, We are sorry this happened to you and you can apply all of these reasons to your relationship as well. If you need to talk through this, a HopeCoach would be glad to chat online with you at https://www.thehopeline.com/gethelp/. Don’t ever forget you are valuable and worthy and what your boyfriend did to you was his bad choice.

  208. Women usually are the worst of all when it comes to cheating since they just love to sleep around with different men all the time, instead of committing themselves to only one. Been there.

  209. I just found out my bf has been cheating for months. I had a feeling all the while and would go thru his phone and confront him with what I found (Google timeline and matching up what he told me with texts) he denies, denies, denies. Tells me he doesn’t know why his phone says what it does and that it does things on its own. I want to believe him but my intuition is telling me I should know better. Do phones do things on their own or is he just trying to get away with cheating and me confronting him has shown him what to hide…?

    • he was cheating phones do that on their own

    • Go with your gut, mine lied to me said he met the woman for coffee and that’s all. Fast forward 5 years later, I was not accepting it was just coffee my gut told me to find out the truth I played reverse psychology on him and said I talked to her and she told me the truth so he broke and told me everything. This is after I married him by the way he said I lied cause I didn’t want to lose you. I’m currently in a numb state and still processing it.

  210. Infidelity is deeply painful, and understanding the reasons behind it doesn’t lessen the hurt. It’s crucial to prioritize self-healing and make choices that align with your well-being and values.

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